I'm a twenty year old chick from Wisconsin. I could sit here and ramble on about my life, but I'm not going to. I'll spare you the boring details. God knows we've seen one too many profiles with "OMG, I HAVE A BOYFRIEND. AND A DOG. GOD I LOVE THEM BOTH, I CANT CHOOSE WHO I LOVE MORE. IM SO COOL. I LOVE MY FRIENDS. SHOUTOUTS LYKE THX!"
So lets cut to the chase, I'm only here becuase a friend reffered me and I have a knack of giving advice. I'm very blunt and in no way am I going to paint some pretty picture and tell you things that you want to hear.
Have fun kids.
Gender: Female
Age: 20
Member Since: September 21, 2005
Answers: 184
Last Update: December 20, 2005
Visitors: 8558
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Not that this needs to be figured out like, now, but I figured I'd ask you guys for your opinions. I'm 18/f, he's 20/m if it matters.
There's a dance coming up here, and I want to go, because I love dances - they're fun, and an excuse for me to get overdressed, lol.
The problem is my boyfriend really isn't much of a dancer. I don't really want to go alone. I hinted to him that there was a dance and my friend was trying to convince me to go, but he didn't really say anything on the subject.
So - I guess what I really wanna know is if I should ask him to come with me anyway, even though he doesn't really like dances, or if I should just go alone.
Please lay off the chatspeak. If I have to read your answer twice to understand it, you're not getting a five. (link)
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When you're dating compromising is one of the things that one or the other person has to do. I end up doing a few things that Im not too much into becuase my boyfriend likes doing them. But what makes it fun sometimes is that we're together and we have goodtimes.
You want to go out and have fun, just ask him if he wants to go out with you. He doesn't HAVE to dance, you can't force him. But tell him it would be nice and you'd like it alot if he'd at least join your company for the night so you don't have to go on your lonesome.
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My Best Friend Amber is moving in 2 weeks back to Michigan (I live in Ky) sso you can imagine how far that is away. We Chose to write each other. But MY problem is, is that I can't stop crying. What Can I do To Stop!? And Also. What Could Be a Good going Away gift or something?? Thanks 13/f
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The hard part of life sometimes it that you have to let the things you love go. I moved around about 9 times in my life and had to leave a lot of friends behind. And being as young as you are you don't have the option to just go out and see her whenever you want to. So I know that it's hard.
Just spend as much time with her as you can before she leaves. Make some new great memories, and cherish the ones you already have. I think the best going away present would be pictures of things that the two of you love, or she loves, or pictures of the two of you together. That ways she'll always be able to look at them and remember the things you did and loved and she'll be thinking of you.
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okay well, i was dating this guy for 8 years, (im 19) and just last year he asked me to marry him. well i got pregnant about 3 months before our wedding which was on october 8th, but about a month ago i had a misscarriage. well he started freaking out on me and telling me i killed our baby and im a cheating whore... and that he wants to divorce me. well i gave him the divorce papers but the problem is neither of us know what to do... what should i do? (link)
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Do you mean what to do as far as divorcing him? I'm not sure what you meant specifically so...
Did he treat you pretty well while you guys were together those 8 years or did you end up putting up with a lot of unesscary crap? Had it been me I'd be taking a lot into consideration before signing the papers. For starters 8 years seems like a lot to just give up, but if you think you could be happier and you could do better then spread your wings. Especially after his little outburst. That's not right, and I hope you know that nothing like that is your fault. Miscarriages sometimes happen and the way he handled it was absurd.
If you do still decide you want to be with him give it some time. Seperate yourselves from eachother for a while. See how that goes without him in your life for a bit. Time will only tell.
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I like this guy and he like me but he is not ready for a relationship.. and the gift i want from him is a kiss and it would be his first kiss but as i think about it i dont want to take that from him b/c i want it to be special for him... show I let him wait for the right girl? he wanted to kiss me intill i told him he should wait and now he is stressing out really badly... what should i do? what should i do?
Stressing! (link)
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It's good that you didn't force him into kissing you or tricking him or anything. But maybe he got the wrong signals from you and thinks that now you may not like him at all.
Did you explain why you thought he should wait?
If it's his first kiss it could be something he'll stress a lot over. Both guys and girls worry about how good they're going to be and worry about mistakes they might make in the process.
You can't really plan out a kiss, it would be generic. It just kind of has to happen in the moment. I'd talk to him about it and see if you can get him to calm down a little if he's stressed. Ask him what he thinks about kissing and stuff. He might not think it's something as special as you do.
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ok, ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 or 9 months now and he is REALLY special to me. and he wont give me any ideas what to get him and i cant think of anything good enough to get him! he's 14 years old. i want to get him something special! PLEASE HELP ME! ill rate 5s promise. (link)
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Things from the heart are always really special. Not material items. Try and find a card that would best describe your feelings for him and invite him for dinner. Try to have it planned to where it's just you two, or you have your privacy.. watch a movie.. give him your card and tell him how much he means to you.
This will definatly let him know how much you care about him, and it's probably better than any other posession you can go out and buy at a store.
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ok. i say labels should be between a soup can and its wrapper. im NOT A GOTH and im NOT PUNK! i hate labels. and i wish theyd stop. how do i get people to see im not a goth or anything,but keep my style of clothing and stuff. please dont say dont worry abt what people think. even my own friends call me emo
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For starters what you wear, and how your style is, is always going to influence the opinions of others before even talking to you. You're automatically always going to be sterotyped.
It's nothing you can really stop, that's just how people think and act and such =/
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is it true that if you work out with layers of clothing on like sweatpants and sweatshirt that you'll lose more weight?
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No, you'll just get B.O and people won't come around you.
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I bought my boyfriend of two months, an Ecko tshirt, an earring, & a 10 dollar gift card @ Barnes and Nobles. I didn't want to go overboard since we've literally only known each other 2 months, but do you think that seems like enough?
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Seems like more than enough to me.
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does anybody have any tips for how to be patient with others?! i get so irritated really easily and i tend to take it out on others especially when I'm tired and I just have no energy...x (link)
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Sometimes people count either forwards or backwards in their head. Or sometimes one develops a strong wall for ignoring someone. I'm really impatient myself, when I got sort of angry with anyone I'd take a breath, count.. and then feel myself calm almost immediatly. Now Im to the point where I don't have to do that anymore.
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i've been trying to lose weight by eating better and running in place for a long time. (it's too cold to go outside and they streets are full of ice). it seems like i'm losing the weight in my butt and thighs, but it's just travling up and making my love handles and stomach chubbier. what can i do about this? (link)
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Try working out your stomach too. Do some crunches or sit ups.
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my parents are gay and my friends are not my friends any more because of it what do i do? (link)
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If your friends abandon you for that reason I'd forget about them. Someone who is that closed minded doesn't deserve to be in your life or deserve your friendship.
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I tried using tampons yesterday but i messed up on the first one, the second one i got in but it hurt really bad and i dont know what to do I wanna wear one but it hurts like when I sit down and stuff any tips on how to make it not hurt? thank you! (link)
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I think tampons come in sizes. Im on the shot so it's been a while since I've had to use a tampon or a pad.
Sometimes it's good to get the one where you put it in yourself without the applicator. If it hurts when you're sitting down it might not be up in there far enough.
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This isn't exactly pets, but it's the closest one.
In my neighborhood, a stray dog keeps wandering around. It's eating grass and the fur around the joints is gone. I feel really bad for the dog, but my mom won't let me take him in. Everytime I go inside to get a number for an animal shelter, he runs away. I need an idea on what to do. (link)
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Do you have an animal control? If so, they'll come and scope out your neighborhood for the dog and try to catch it and then they'll take it for the shelter for you.
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and a month, on Decemeber 15. We are always together, and I think that I love him. I know it's like, oh your a child you don't know what love is, but I really do believe that I am in love. We were laying on my bed on each other and I was thinking about how I love him, and I was about to tell him.. I asked him what he was thinking about, and he said, "I love you." It was like so strange though because I was just about to say the exact same thing, but anyways.. Wow, totally off topic. I'm 13, and whenever we are making out.. We get a little too into it, I suppose. Where it gets to the point when it's "dry sex", or having sex with your clothes on.. Yes, I know it's weird.. But, I feel the erge to want to have sex with him, and go farther, sexually. I am only in 7th grade, so of course I don't want to go that far.. All I have done with any guy is "feel up", because I refuse to go farther.. He was trying to finger me and I wouldn't let him. Basically, I am trying to ask..
Would it be wrong if I had sex with him?
I don't think I am ready, at all.
I could be wrong? Maybe, I am.
But - I am scared that next time we hook up that it will go a little too far.
And it's not like a 10 second hook up, it's more like 10 minutes.
Really, how far is "too far"?
I believe feel up is far enough for 7th grade.
But I'd love your views. (link)
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I don't think age has much to do with love. It's what your heart feels, and your heart has no comprehension of love. Though, sometimes when you're younger it does cause more problems and you can't really take your love to the next step.
If you really don't feel ready DONT. Just wait until you feel entirely okay with your choice. Giving yourself to someone can be viewed as a big deal, sometimes not. Honestly when I lost my virginity I didn't care, but then again I was 16. But there are some times that I really regretted having sex with a few people. Once you do it you can't go back and change it and you can't forget about it.
Not only that but kids are really cruel in school. Are you sure this guy won't go around gloating about how he had sex with you? And if you guys broke up would he say horrible things about you and talk bad about your 'sex life?' those are the kinds of things you have to watch out for. It can really damage your reputation.
Just do what you think is right. When he's with you next time you need to flat out tell him what you don't want him to do.. and what you don't mind him doing. If he's a genuine guy he WILL respect your descision.
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so lately i have been thinking that im fat and when i eat i feel real bad. i havent really ate anything in the past 2 days and i want to go anorexic. i know theirs a better way to lose weight then that. what should i eat and what exercises should i do and for how long?
right now i do 25 sit ups in the morning, then after i eat dinner, usually from 6-7 i ride the gazelle for 30 minutes and then i get on the bike and go 8 miles. after that i do 25 situps. then right before i go to bed i do 30 sit ups. is this enough? (link)
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Not eating will only make you get bigger. Try eating 5-6 small meals a day. The exercise you're doing now is more than enough, maybe too much. You don't want to over work your body.
I watched what I ate. I cut out soda, and most fried foods, fast food and I ran almost every night for about 30 minutes on a treadmill. Every other night I'd do about 100 situps. I lost about 7lbs in two weeks, which probably doesn't seem like a lot of progress but... it worked.
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Wrong Catergory didnt know which one...
Ohk tomorrow after the party with my work we are going bowling. I have not benn bowling since the summer and i seriously suck at it no lie. im going with people that are oler then me and i seem to embarass myself more then the average person idk what to do.. im not sitting out and watching because i love bowling but suck at it.
Should i just embarrass myself or what?
Please dont give me any website links on how to bowl because changes are i wont get it.
thx.. and tonight and tomorrow before 4:30pm would be great (link)
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Im a horrible bowler, but I also enjoy doing it. I wouldn't go to the extent of trying to purposely embarass yourself, some people might find it annoying.. but just have fun and be yourself.
Laugh at yourself if you suck, make some jokes. Don't be embarssed, there's nothing wrong with not doing something well. If anything it can prove to be some good bonding time between you and a few other people there - they could always help you and give you pointers.
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Today I went to a salon to get my hair dyed and they dyed it brown (exactly what i wanted!!) i was just wondering what i need to do to keep it this color. how long do i need to wait until i shower next, how to i keep the blonde highlights (from before) from showing up through the brown, what shampoo should i use, etc... thanks so much! (link)
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Sometimes the color will only last through so many washes. Normally if you go to a salon I'd give the color a good 2-3 months before it fades completely.
I'd wait a full 24 hours before showering so the color can set in.
The blonde highlights might fade before they even show up back through your color and you should use any kind of color treated shampoo you can find on the shelves. Garnier has a good one for color treated hair, I've used it before.
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Where can i download FREE LEGAl music??? i tried limewire but it makes my computer slow! so please any suggestions? I'll rate 5's!
ThanKZ
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Unfortunatly I think that any free music isn't legal. But you can always try bearshare, or WinMx. I highly recommend if you use any of those programs to disable sharing your files and prevent people from downloading the music you have. I guess this is supposed to decrease the risk in you being caught .. or something.
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How do you overcome jealousy?
The guy i like (along with previous guys) look at pictures of girls and comment on how good/hott they look and it makes me extremly jealous and i always end up creating drama... how can i get over this??? PLEASE HELP!! (link)
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When you find out let me know. Haha. Im also a very jealous person. This is what I've been told.
Just have a big ego. Tell yourself that you look better than them, and that you don't need to be threatened by their looks and how hot a guy thinks that they are. You're better.
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I keep breaking out around my face is there something that will work? I have tried almost everything. (link)
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I've heard a lot of good things about Proactive. That and I use Clearsil Ultra stuff. It's the gaurunteed three day thing... It's kind of costly but it works for me.
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