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Dance
Not that this needs to be figured out like, now, but I figured I'd ask you guys for your opinions. I'm 18/f, he's 20/m if it matters.
There's a dance coming up here, and I want to go, because I love dances - they're fun, and an excuse for me to get overdressed, lol.
The problem is my boyfriend really isn't much of a dancer. I don't really want to go alone. I hinted to him that there was a dance and my friend was trying to convince me to go, but he didn't really say anything on the subject.
So - I guess what I really wanna know is if I should ask him to come with me anyway, even though he doesn't really like dances, or if I should just go alone.
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I think either would be fun.
Your boyfriend should like you enough to go anywhere with you and have fun. And if he doesn't like dances, show him a good time and that they're fun. Maybe he's had bad experiences.
it's really cool if you have your boyfriend for the dance, especially if he's not the jealous type and hogs you. it's great because you always have someone for the slow dances :).
On the other hand, going by yourself would be a good option. You'd be able to spend time with your friends and not feel obligated to be with your boyfriend for the whole time. dances can be a lot more fun if you're not tied down.
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!~*becca*~!
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ask him.
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When you're dating compromising is one of the things that one or the other person has to do. I end up doing a few things that Im not too much into becuase my boyfriend likes doing them. But what makes it fun sometimes is that we're together and we have goodtimes.
You want to go out and have fun, just ask him if he wants to go out with you. He doesn't HAVE to dance, you can't force him. But tell him it would be nice and you'd like it alot if he'd at least join your company for the night so you don't have to go on your lonesome.
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simple, just ask him if he wants to go and mention that he doesnt really have to dance, that you just to be with him, if he says no, then go alone and have fun with your friends.
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I suggest that you ask him anyway. If he says no then you have two options. You could go alone or go on a date with him instead of going to the dance. Worth a shot!^^
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Well alluding to it clearly isn't working and when hints don't work you need to dig through your closet and pull out the old Baseball Bat of Obviousness.
Just flat out tell him what you want to go and you'd like him to go with you.
This is a great discussion for you two to have! There will need to be compromise and explanations. You’ll come away from it with a better understanding of each other and you have a chance to help build good problem solving habits between you. So take advantage of this and speak up.
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Alright,
Your bf doesn't like dancing maybe becuz he doesn't know how to just invite him to the dance and have him dance only to the slow dances those are the easiest all you do is the 1 step 2 step anyone can do it. And when the fast music comes back on then you and your bf just chill and talk and look like your havin fun drink some punch and just hang you know.
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I think you should ask him since he your boyfriend and if he comes and he doesn't want to dance let him hang out with his friends and you can hang with yours.If he isn't having a good time leave a little early.
chocolate_baby
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I think that (overgeneralization ahead) women seem to expect men to know. The key word here was "hinted." I personally do things like this all the time, and we just expect them to know what is going on. Truth is, they probably just don't, so I think we should start telling them straight up.
Tell him you don't want to go alone, even though you know he doesn't like dances, maybe he could come for your sake. I'm sure he's willing to make sacrifices to make you happy.
If he still says no, even after you've blatantly asked him to come, go alone and have a great time with friends. He'll be sad he missed the fun and quality time with you.
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