Hiya! I am Dr.D, and I am here to give you the help you need! Got a question about relationships? Well your talking to Dr.Love here! Questions about your body? Got the title Doctor for a reason! I can answer any of your questions. I live to serve and help people. Because your lives matter the most. You all have questions about life, and I've been through some of the worst things life can throw. But I know how to pitch back. SO WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR!?!?!?! Go ahead, and message me, I'm here to help. The Doctors in, and ready to solve your questions. :-D
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For five days now I've had an extremely sore throat with mouth and tongue pain, redness and swelling of the tonsils and throat, and two tiny white spots on both sides of my tonsils. I went to a walk in clinic this morning where I got an ARNP (nurse practitioner) that flashed a light in my mouth for maybe all of 2 seconds, did a swab, and then sent me back to the waiting room.
Step test came back negative...but then he put me on a high dose antibiotic that he said would also treat Strep "in case" the test was wrong and he said Strep was going around.
I'm not sure why, but I just feel like he overlooked something. I've never had a sore throat this bad with pain also on the inside of my mouth and back of the tongue.
I saw those two white spots before AND after the doctor appointment today, but he said he didn't see them...
Should I just wait it out a few days and see what happens or should I call my primary care physician tomorrow?
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Sore throat can be irritating. But you think it could be more you say? hmm.... I can think of a few sicknesses and diseases. But you only show the signs of a regular sore throat. But, if you want to get rid of it, or at least take off some of the pain, I suggest you get a sore throat cough drop called Cepacol. You'll find these in like Walmart, or maybe CVS. They are extra strength sore throat relievers that can take the pain away for about two hours. Its also helping to kill off the sore throat, so I say. Go buy a pack of Cepacol, I suggest the flavor honey lemon(they don't taste that good, but this is probably the closest to good taste and strength).
I hope I helped! And trust me these do work. If they don't work or relieve any pain I suggest you talk to your doctor. Have a good day! And I hope you get better soon! :-]
-Dr.D
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Hello internet,
I come to you in a time of great indecision. My sister was recently diagnosed with aplastic anemia, which is basically bone marrow failure. There are a few treatments for this disease but only one potential cure : bone marrow transplant. As her sibling, I have a 25% chance of being a match and the hospital is going to call me to ask if I'd like to test if I'm a match. The problem, however, is that I have severe anxiety. Especially with doctors and medical procedures. The whole idea of having to have a huge needle stuck into my pelvic bone makes me nauseous. Besides all this, the odds are in the favor that I won't even be a match and my sister can try to find marrow in the registry of donors (with her being caucasian the chance of finding a donor lies somewhere between 85-90%). I'm thinking I'll tell the hospital that I don't want to test to find if I'm a match. I don't think I could live with myself if I found out that I was a match, only to back out of the procedure due to my overwhelming anxiety. Can anyone offer me any advice? (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Its okay. I have a very very very very very big fear of needles. And you'd think with my career I wouldn't be. But I have the fear. And now your asked to be tested. It can be very nerve racking, I know! But if you are a match, you could be saving your sisters life.
I can help, I know how you can be brave. Think about how your doing good for your sister. You love her right? this is the biggest test. To prove you do. Here is what you can do if your really really afraid. Put on a blindfold and put some headphones on. Your eliminating two sets of your senses while this happens. Your sight, and your hearing. You'll have yourself in your own thoughts. Try to avoid thinking about it. Just focus on the darkness, and the music.
I hope I helped. Good luck, and dont be afraid. You have a whole universe in your head that can distract you :-)
-Dr.D
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I am 13 Syrian girl. I was born in Syria Islam family. I move to America last year because war. I remember some Christians and Jews and others in Syria, but they forced out or killed. My family, they hate non Muslims. I still wear hijab, my parents make me fast this month. but I read Bible, I learn about Christianity and I dont beleive in Islam anymore. I talk to mom about Christians she says if I became one she would hate me until I come back. I dont care I like Christianity. I make Christians friends in America school, I pretend to go to library on Sunday I go to church in reality. I wish I could celebrate Christian holidays and take off hijab I pray to Jesus in secret. How do I get out of this family? how do I live as Christian? How do I convince family to let me take hijab off? Sorry for English. (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Your language is beautiful. And you speak perfectly.
If you are trying to change from Islam to Christian. Then all you must do is make commitment. Tell your parents that you want to convert to Christianity. But the thing is. In America, parents get to choose your life choices till you are 18 years of age. It is really up to them if you can convert or not. But I say. Tell them the truth. That you are interested. Tell them this. And maybe they will understand. Islam is a great religion. And if you are feeling the need to convert just because there have been some "issues" with Islam in America. Don't convert. Pray to what you believe in. But if you want to become Christian because you truly wish to embrace it. Then tell your family the truth. And maybe they will understand.
الله يتبع لك. بغض النظر عن كيفية الصلاة. حظا طيبا وفقك الله.
-Dr.D
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Hello. I'm 26 years old/female. I have a master's degree in education and working towards my second masters degree in school counseling. I am a full time elementary school teacher with experience in special education and ESL training. I have a second job teaching english to children in China online. I live on my own, have my own apartment and even help my mom. I receive no financial help from anyone. No one paid my way through school. Everything I have done has been on my own and I've had to work very hard to get to where I am today.
I'm 5 feet tall and have a petite stature. I have a young face simply because I have good genes. It also helps that I don't really drink or smoke. Due to my held religious beliefs, I don't really participate in the nightlife scene, like many people my age. I don't date around. I'm not trying to say anything bad about people who do all these things. I'm just saying that stressful relationships, alcohol, smoking, and drugs ages people much more quickly. So, given that I haven't been exposed to such, it has probably contributed to a youthful appearance.
Usually, most people would be happy about this. But, it's really starting to bother me. It seems like people treat me as though I was a teenager. I don't care if it's done and then I correct it and the person then changes their ways. But, I find that I can tell people: I'm 26 and they'll still say:
- you're too young to get married
- you're too young to have a baby
- you're too young to have a full time job
- you're too young to own a property
- you should be "having fun"
It's very upsetting to me. I am having a hard time right now because I am not married, but I really want to have a baby. I have a career, live on my own, provide for myself, etc. I'm almost 30 years old. I am not "too young" to do anything. I am an adult. I had a situation where I was interviewing for a job and right in front of my face they were discussing whether or not they should hire me because parents may complain about me being too young. Nobody treats my other co-workers like this. Nobody treats my friends like this. They just congratulate them on getting married, having kids, buying a house, etc. But, I'm the eternal child just because I look young.
I don't want to hear: "you'll be happy when you're 40." I am not going to wait until I'm 40 to demand respect. Can anyone please give me some advice on this? (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
I'd give anything to have a young face like yours. I am a man. But I'm not old. But when I got a grey hair after a few months out of school. I, Flipped, Out.
Sorry, onto the main topic. I know what its like. I have worked far and hard to get where I am today. But because of your looks your saying that people don't give you respect. I honestly am having problems of forming words in my mouth for this. Well, here goes.
I suggest you present yourself formal. Show that you are a independent women, and are a good symbol of what hard work gets you. You should show your successes, and progress. And show that you are the perfect person for the job.
Now yes, some people say that you should be living your life a bit more before your older. But you should remind them that you are in control of your life, and may do what you want. I personally think that you are perfect. Don't let everyone else get to you.
I wish you good luck, and I hope I help.
-Dr.D
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So im not sure if i have avoidant personality disorder or social anxiety disorder but i do know my anxiety and mental health is starting to control my life and i want it to stop. My symptoms are.. not being able to take criticism or negative feedback, i always end up crying, any change of actions or change in peoples tones of voices make me feel uneasy as if the person is mad at me and again makes me cry. I dont like being the centre of attention, if something embarrassing happens to me in front of people i start panicking and my heart starts racing faster, i cant take rejection especially when its in front of people again it will make me cry, i cant deal with confrontation all it does is make me run away,and also to this day the confrontations ive had are still haunting me in my dreams im over them consciously but i guess not subconsciously. I was always the quiet kid in class at first it was shyness but then in highschool whenever i would talk people would say "why do you talk like that?" or why do you have no emotion in your face? (Apparently i have a monotone voice and my face has no emotion at all) so now i fear people are judging me whenever i talk so i dont and when i do talk in public my voice is automatically soft-spoken now so that people dont detect my monotone voice and i cant control being soft-spoken sometimes my voice is so low that it sounds like im mumbling. Also i dont know why i do this but whenever i talk to people,even if theyre the same age as me i always treat them like theyre superior even though theyre not. My anxiety got really bad in grade 12 when i did a group presentation and i was the centre of attention i was prepared for it but as soon as it was my turn i was shaking, my face turned hot and my eyes were blacking out and i could just feel one of my group members annoyed with how i was presenting, if i talked any longer i wouldve fainted. My first year of university i had one class where the teacher forced us to talk in front of everyone and my anxiety made me avoid going to that class.i finally got a job and the job requires me to interact with customers and so far it has been so hard,i dont know why im afraid of people. I can talk to people if they talk to me first but i wont talk to them first. My sister at her work made tons of friends and shes only been working 3 days meanwhile ive been working for 3 weeks now and ive just now made 2 friends at my work. I also avoid entering rooms by myself that are already filled with a lot of people because i hate being looked at, and if theres a crowd of boys thats when my anxiety kicks in the most. I dont want to compare myself to my sister shes 2 years younger than me but shes already been in almost relationships with guys at least 3 times and at her workplace her new friends all complimented how she looked. Meanwhile i dont get any compliments or male attention, my dad said its cause i always have an angry expression on my face (resting b face) but i use that as a defense mechanism. Any tips on how to overcome this? I know none of you are doctors but i just want some advice thanks im 18 turning 19 year old female. (link)
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Hiya!... ahem. *cough cough*. DR.D
just highlighting that first bit. *cough* DR.
just joking around.
I'm Dr.D. And its nice to meet you! :-D
You may not be experiencing any disorder, though I could name a few. I am actually very very understanding of this stuff, because my older sister has autism. Its not bad. Its natural. But it can effect her. It makes her shy, and nervous, and she has hard times talking with people she is unfamiliar with. For you, I doubt you have any kind of disease. So don't be scared! :-)
To me, it sounds like all you have is a case of shyness. For suggestions of how to overcome this. I suggest you practice on your customers. For Example. When you see a customer, introduce yourself. Say your name and then ask how may I help you. If your job is to interact with people then practice on them. Start talking with them while you work. Ask them questions like hows your day. Or about the weather. Just simple topics that you'd bring up with a customer. And remember. Depending on what you do as a job, you'll probably never see that one person ever again. So be calm. And try your best :)
Then when you feel comfortable talking to customers. Try to interact with your coworkers. Find out what some of their interests are, and try to bond with them that way. The more you talk to one another, the more you'll get closer.
By the way, I dont know what you look like. But I can tell from what I've read from you. You have a beautiful personality. And you are perfect the way you are. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise.
I wish you good luck! and you have a good day :-)
-Dr.D
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I had a dream I came in my room and my boyfriend was going through my phone crying. What could this me ? It was weird my manager was in it as well. (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Dreams are often the brain sending us hidden messages about how we feel and problems in everyday life that our brain thinks we should fix. Now if your boyfriend is crying while looking at your phone. I'm guessing that your brain is saying your hiding something in your phone that could potentially hurt your boyfriend. This could be a secret, or anything that would make your boyfriend upset.
Thats what I think it is, guessing from the information given. But if your hiding a secret, your brain wants you to confess and tell the truth to end this.
Good luck!
-Dr.D
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So a couple months ago I moved to a new state. Me and a few of my old friends still keep in touch. Lately I've felt pretty jealous of my friends. When I call my best friend, all she talks about is what her and my other friends have been doing. I miss my old life so much. We don't talk as much anymore and it honestly really hurts, some don't even talk to me anymore. I don't blame them in any way, I know how hard long distance friendships can be. I really don't wanna talk to them about it, I've never been very good with that kind of stuff. Is there any way I can make these jealous feelings go away? (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Jealousy. It can make us do some stuff we are not proud of, or make us feel emotions that we can't tolerate. I bet you loved your friends. And you miss them so much. But the key to moving on is going forward. You should try to focus less on your friends before, and try to focus on making new friends now. Be in the moment, dont let the past get to you. And I have a friend, me and her are no where near each other. But we make it work. We lose contact now and then but she is still one of my greatest friends. Trust me. Your friends wont forget about you, and you shouldnt forget about them. But I suggest you do things now like your hobbies, focus on your new school and making new friends there. And since you've moved I bet you got a cool new room. They say when you have a house, you have a hobby. Think about all the ways you can decorate it!!!! It will take sometime, but thinking of other things will help distract you from what you miss.
I hope I helped. Take care, and good luck!
-Dr.D
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A while back, I was friends with my coworkers and very close to them, until a new female employee started working and excluded me from my group of work friends. She is now dating one of the other coworkers. It is very obvious and others have been asking me if they're dating to which I answer yes. I was unaware that this was a secret. Our boss now knows. Also, the female employee texted my best friend saying that I am selfish and a bad person because I gossiped about them, rather than confronting me. P.S We are adults in a post graduate career. However, I honestly feel terrible, should I feel bad? Should I apologize? I just feel very uncomfortable at work and now get anxious about even going into work. I'm just not sure what to do about this situation. Although it does not seem to be a big deal it clearly is to my female coworker. What do I do? (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
sounds like no one here is at fault. you were award of them dating and had no clue it was a secret and so told the truth. Which that is normal! But sometimes we have to apologize even though it was miscommunication.
I suggest going to her, and apologizing. Tell her the truth. You had no clue that it was meant to be a secret and that a friend ask so you told him/her. Always tell the truth. its my policy. :-)
And for your friends/coworkers. They are still your friend. You ever watch toy story? well the beginning goes Woody is jealous of Buzz because he takes his glory and his friends. But at the end the resolution is made when woody and buzz become friends. So by friending this female coworker. You can all be friends. Have a new friend. And this fight will be over.
I wish you good luck! :D
-Dr.D
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First off. Im 26 female. Full-time job. I have not had a significant other in 4 going on 5 years. My last guy left me very heartbroken. And kept reappearing in my life . which allowed him to fully move on but not me. Last august i started therapy for depression, loneyness, panic attacks and anxiety. On a good day, things are good and hopeful. On a bad day.. Im very unconfident. I feel like my friend's dont put any effort in to invite me to things, And i feel like i will always be alone.I am on 3 dating websites and it seems like no one wants me. Most of my friends are hooked up so they do not want to go out past 9pm or they dont want to go to events that i might meet people at.
I try to be strong. To be hopeful. But my some days my love keep being just that.. Somday. I know im missing that part of happiness. I just dont know how to be happy with being alone and not having friends or someone to share my life and different events with. Im almos to the point of love will never happen to me again. I had my chance and it failed. I also keep hearinf my brain say somepeople just dont get their happy endings. But i hate saying itbbecause it makes me realize just how sad i am. And theres nothing i can do about it. Does anyone have advice or things i can read to beleive. It hurts being alone. Its so quiet. :(:'( (link)
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Hey! Dr.D here!
Don't be sad. Its okay. Let me tell you something.
A few years back, something like 4-5. I had a girlfriend. She was the light of my day. She was beautiful, funny, smart, always happy! One time she caught me crying before we had been dating because I lost my grandfather. And as I sat in this dark room, she held me tight and pet my head and kept telling me all these happy things, and when I felt better. she stared making jokes and made me forget! She made me so so so so so so so very happy... Till she died.
After that, I went into a deep deep depression. I had to go to therapy, I had to take pills. I even checked myself in asylum. I was a harm to myself. I brought clouds everywhere I went.
To this day. I remain single. I try my best to keep up a smile, and make jokes and be the light that she was to me. I will always remember her, and I will keep what she gave.
Now your probably thinking: Why is this dude telling me this depressing story of how his life fell apart? Because I know where you are. Your sad, your alone. You want a friend. Someone to love. I dont even know what to say. But, I can be your friend. I can help you, if you have questions, or if your feeling lonely or sad. I know the pain. So let me help you. If you want, feel free to message me privately and I will help you.
Life is hard. And we make it harder. But we also make it, a little better. Trust in me. And let me help you. If you ever need to talk. Go ahead and message me. And I'll help you, almost like a friend. :-)
-Braden Dwinell
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I wrote about my problems with my LONG distance relationship and I received advice that really helped... I realised that i was the one worrying about it and everything is fine now... long distance relationship is really work and patience is required... how do I gain or achieve this patience until I see my bf (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
ahh... a quote from Yoda:
"PATIENCE YOU MUST HAVE, my young padawan!"
hahaha. Dont sweat it! Waiting for something big brings us to slowly drive us INSANE!!!!
If you want to learn how to have the patience, just keep talking with your boy by text, phone, and what else you use. If thats not good enough. Distract yourself with one of your hobbies.
Good luck!
-Dr.D
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So, I'm in a long distance relationship. Me and my boyfriend love playing games, but it's a little difficult to find games to play. We can play anything, whether it's online or needs to be downloaded. Any suggestions? (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
hmm... Multi play games. let me think....
mine craft
call of duty
league of legends
roblox?
counter strike
Mario kart?
star wars battlefront
rocket league
destiny
Wizard101
Those are just a few games I've played. Be careful Wizard101 is addicting! I've put fortunes into that game! Even though it is free to play! XD
-Dr.D
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First off. Im 26 female. Full-time job. I have not had a significant other in 4 going on 5 years. My last guy left me very heartbroken. And kept reappearing in my life . which allowed him to fully move on but not me. Last august i started therapy for depression, loneyness, panic attacks and anxiety. On a good day, things are good and hopeful. On a bad day.. Im very unconfident. I feel like my friend's dont put any effort in to invite me to things, And i feel like i will always be alone.I am on 3 dating websites and it seems like no one wants me. Most of my friends are hooked up so they do not want to go out past 9pm or they dont want to go to events that i might meet people at.
I try to be strong. To be hopeful. But my some days my love keep being just that.. Somday. I know im missing that part of happiness. I just dont know how to be happy with being alone and not having friends or someone to share my life and different events with. Im almos to the point of love will never happen to me again. I had my chance and it failed. I also keep hearinf my brain say somepeople just dont get their happy endings. But i hate saying itbbecause it makes me realize just how sad i am. And theres nothing i can do about it. Does anyone have advice or things i can read to beleive. It hurts being alone. Its so quiet. :(:'( (link)
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Hey! Dr.D here!
Don't be sad. Its okay. Let me tell you something.
A few years back, something like 4-5. I had a girlfriend. She was the light of my day. She was beautiful, funny, smart, always happy! One time she caught me crying before we had been dating because I lost my grandfather. And as I sat in this dark room, she held me tight and pet my head and kept telling me all these happy things, and when I felt better. she stared making jokes and made me forget! She made me so so so so so so so very happy... Till she died.
After that, I went into a deep deep depression. I had to go to therapy, I had to take pills. I even checked myself in asylum. I was a harm to myself. I brought clouds everywhere I went.
To this day. I remain single. I try my best to keep up a smile, and make jokes and be the light that she was to me. I will always remember her, and I will keep what she gave.
Now your probably thinking: Why is this dude telling me this depressing story of how his life fell apart? Because I know where you are. Your sad, your alone. You want a friend. Someone to love. I dont even know what to say. But, I can be your friend. I can help you, if you have questions, or if your feeling lonely or sad. I know the pain. So let me help you. If you want, feel free to message me privately and I will help you.
Life is hard. And we make it harder. But we also make it, a little better. Trust in me. And let me help you. If you ever need to talk. Go ahead and message me. And I'll help you, almost like a friend. :-)
-Braden Dwinell
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I have recently found out that I have failed 5/6 of my high school fitness tests meaning I have to take a 3rd year of p.e. due to a new law next year. My counseler said I am to sign a waiver when I turn 16 next year and I won't have to take it. Now I have come to realize that I am not flexible enough to touch my own toes without having your knees bent and can't even do a push up or sit up due to my lack of upper body stength. I have decided that since I am not going to take p.e. anymore I have to take matters of losing fat and gaining muscle into my own hands. Since I don't know how to drive and have no money the Gyms out. So I decided to workout at home with youtube videos that go through the the workouts. Now I have the workout part down as I am slowly working my way by adding more and more workouts as I proceed. But due to my lack of money and no job I have no way of buying things for making healthier food at home for myself. My question is this: how can you eat healthier with the lack of money and food? (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
And ooo good question! I can answer your question. And more! But first, story time!...
So my mother is a little... horizontally tall. And she was desperate to lose weight and get back to being a stick like she was when she was 30. So her doctor gave her a crazy crazy diet!
Now note here. If you are serious about this. Then do it. But other wise do not.
What she did was pretty much starve herself. Her doctor told her to pretty much stop eating. She was allowed to eat healthy bar. once each day. And to not eat anything else. Except later in the evening when she eats supper. But her supper can have absolutely no salt or any spices of sort, and she has to have vegetables with every dinner.
Believe it or not. She did it for a long long time and did not do any excising and lost about 25 pounds in two months. Thats pretty good for an old lady who doesn't exercise!
But you can do better. If your serious about weight loss. Do what she did. And add exercise into this and you'll be ripped in no time! follow these instructions:
Type of bar: I suggest cliff bars. they come in boxes with a little picture of a man climbing a mountain, a single small box is only $6 at Walmart. They are filled with organic oats, they are healthy, will give you energy, and should keep you from starving for most of the day. I eat one for breakfast every morning. They are pretty tasty.
Drink: Dont drink anything besides water. Humans are suppose to drink 8 cups of water a day. By only drinking water, you will also be healthier, and it will help you when your starving.
Supper: Should contain something from all five categories of the food pyramid(dairy,meat, vegetables, fruit, and whole grains). Now you can get all that in one simple supper. A salad. Salads are healthy and contain a little of everything. But what you want to lack in your case avoid to much meat and to much whole grains.
excising: you need to set up a daily work out. start when you wake up. I suggest curls, some push ups, and simple things you can do on the floor. Later in the day push yourself a little more with jumping jacks, planks, and running and place. Then at days end, do an activity like riding a bike, running, or swimming. But before you do any of those three, do some stretching.
Follow this diet, and you'll be well and healthy. You'll never have to do another gym class. And you'll have a perfect body. I wish you the best of luck. Train hard.
-Dr.D
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Let's say its 7:45 can't I say its 45 minutes past 7 or when its 7:55 its 55 minutes past 7?? Instead of It's quarter to eight or It's 5 to 8.
People say its wrong when I say that so I was just wondering...
Sorry is this is a dumbass question but I need to clear the air! (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
you are completely right. You can state the minutes before the hour. The only dumbass is the ones who said you were a dumbass.
-Dr.D
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I don't know what's wrong with me tbh. My friends use to tease me A LOT in hurtful ways but that was like a year ago. I don't know what happened this year but they are much more nicer to me and it freaks me out!
I know I am suppose to be happy but It just feels so alien to me. When they are being nice I don't know how to respond or act, I get shy and nervous.
We fight sometimes and that's like the time I get to be myself.
I avoid hanging out with them because of this, I now usually hang out with another friend who teases and insults me a lot, I also insult back and feel a sense of PEACE and FREEDOM.
Oh and you must think I am some kind of bitch but I am not, I like giving and making people happy and I don't do it to get something in return.
Am I just weird? (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
And yes, you are weird... Just kidding!
I see that those friends find you closer then before. People tease, and say things in playful manners. But I think they Just see you as closer. I knew this one guy, and he was just an absolute jerk. Couldn't stand the guy. then next year came. And he was being nice. We talked, laughed, and got closer. He eventually left again but we actually became friends, even though he was a terrible person to begin with. People change. And its not weird. I say if you think they are your friends. Then dont let this opportunity stop you. Take it, and keep it close.
Good luck!
-Dr.D
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So I bought a gift for a male friend of mine. Its kind of very expensive. I don't want him to think much of it or think that I want something in return because I don't. How do I give it to him? His birthday isn't even close! (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here.
Mighty kind of you to do that for your friend there. But I dont think you need to worry about its worth. He will except it, and from this gift he will see how close a friend you are to him. Dont think hard about. Just give it to him. Kindness is the greatest gift you can get back from you get back every time you give a little.
-Dr.D
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Hi,
Do boys try to find a way to touch a girl or look for an excuse to touch when they fancy her? Like per say, slight poke on shoulder, touching knee, rubbing or patting on shoulder but not in a pervert way however always finding a way to touch I've noticed even though we've been friends for ages therefore it's hard to recognise either he's into me or just an another innocent boy mate?? I fancy him and wondering if he does because we joke a lot so it's painfully hard to tell. When I say to him you're flirting again eh, he replies with a pure smile no, we're just messing around and joking. I'm like. 'really'? He does say he likes me. So what is this? He gives me all sorts of hints that he likes me. Making an eye and laughing hard. Any thoughts guys? Thanks (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here.
And lucky you! I am a guy! Also, I know what he is up to. ;)
Get ready, as a scientist myself. I'm about to blow you away with some science!
When trying to get someone to like you, it takes time, attention and affections. Now we do these things unintentionally but it hints to when we like someone. And why we like certain people to!Now it is within our ancient code and our animal/wild part of our brain to reproduce, but not just with anyone. The person we are attracted to. So when we bond with people(intimacy), our body will release hormones, different levels cause different reactions. Now when it comes to love, I can easily think of three of the hormones that make us love. Which are Dopamine(liking(sometimes addiction)), norepinephrine(excitement(adrenaline)), and serotonin(makes you feel like your going insane!). All those will go into the blood stream and this makes love
I am so sorry, I just saw the chance of a science question... And I never get those so I couldn't help it! This boy clearly sounds like he likes you. And you like him. Your already showing the signs of norepinephrine..... Sorry, sorry. He likes you. scientifically, and in a relationship.
I wish you good luck with this boy! :-)
-Dr.D
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My dad was always absent in my life and I was basically raised by a single mom. For the first time, he is showing interest in getting to know me. I'm 25 and he is 60. Do I have a moral obligation to tell him about my life? I would prefer not to. (link)
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hiya! Dr.D here!
Your father was absent for a large chunk of your life. I know your pain. I dont see my father often. I haven't seen him for a week or two.
Your father is old, just like my father. The American life expectancy is 70-80 years. Your father isn't far from getting there. I never looked up to my Dad. I actually want to be the man he isn't. But I always looked up at my mother father. He was kind, helpful, always smiled, and could do anything... He died of cancer. And now I wish that I could of spent more time with him.
And when my father dies. I'm going to feel the same. Because he is my father, the reason I am here now giving you advice. Dont make a mistake. If your father is there to tie up the loose end. Then let him. He wants to be close to you. He wants to be there. He only now understands how little time he has left. In the future, do you want to tell your children about their grandfather who was a heartless monster? Or the man with a heart.
Do what you feel is right. But remember. His clock will eventually stop ticking.
-Dr.D
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Hi I've been using trigestrel pills for a week now its is possible to be pregnant if I skip the pill (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
And yes! there are reports of women who say that after a week of stop taking the pill, they become pregnant. your best chances is to take them daily three to for days after having sex. I suggest you find a pill more stronger though. Because trigestrel is not know for its quality.
do note that it can cause: headaches, blood-clots,cardio-vascular disease and stroke.
Be careful. I hope the best for you.
-Dr.D
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My boyfriend and I just got back together after a year breakup... at first, everything was smooth until one month down the line... His school is 4hours drive from mine and since I really dnt lyk traveling, We dnt visit until we get home.. lately, all we do is fight and argue..He also told me that if I get lonely at SCH, I shld get a bf here and tell him so we can break up..Now, we argued over a lil thing and I called him.. we were just silent over the phone deep in our diff thoughts..My questions is that how sure am I that he is nt cheating on me, and I feel like I am the only one trying to make things work here as we are 5months into this relationship and 4months have been quarrels and argument galore. I need advise cs am abt losing my mind here (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here, dont worry, everything is going to be fine. :-)
Distant relationships are hard. You dont get to see your love for a while, you dont get much contact and etc. But what I also see is that you are worried if your boyfriend is not cheating. Truth is, no one knows. He could be checking out a girl at his school, day dreaming and other things.
A few years ago I had a girlfriend, and I loved her. So, so, so much. But the thing is, we weren't in the same school. In fact, she was home schooled. we only saw each other at the days end. But we didnt care. We loved each other. And we werent gonna let this divide us. She had her complete faith in me, that I would never abandon her for another. And she was right. I never did. Because I loved her.
Do you think that you and him have that close of a relationship? it might be hard. And I wont tell you what to do, but I will give you a thought.
You can break up with this guy, and mingle with others, and finally end the strife. Or, you wait, and show you really want his love. And you want to be together. But in my opinion(and this is just a opinion) if he doesnt show commitment like you do. Leave him. Because there are better boys out there for you.
You do you. I wish you good luck
-Dr.D
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