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How to give my male friend a random gift?
So I bought a gift for a male friend of mine. Its kind of very expensive. I don't want him to think much of it or think that I want something in return because I don't. How do I give it to him? His birthday isn't even close!
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Just say hey i was thinking of you and got you a gift.
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Hiya! Dr.D here.
Mighty kind of you to do that for your friend there. But I dont think you need to worry about its worth. He will except it, and from this gift he will see how close a friend you are to him. Dont think hard about. Just give it to him. Kindness is the greatest gift you can get back from you get back every time you give a little.
-Dr.D
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If you are wealthy and the purchase is just a drop in the hat for you, that would be the only way I can think of that someone would not read more into it.
All I know is the more I care about a person, a very close bosom buddy or a mate or a child, if I see something that I know would be not just a nice gift but much more, I will get it. A gift I am talking about is the kind that the other couldn't afford, couldn't find or always wanted or something to add to a collection of theirs, the amount of thoughtfulness of such a gift will tug on the heart strings and make a person feel emotions attached to the receiving of it. If its from a family member, I would just give an exuberant hug but If I received such a gift from a male who I was not the wife, fiancee or even ooficial girlfriend of, it would cause questions for me internally whether I might voice them or not. I certainly would find such a gift more extravagant than an ordinary gift. Most people, no matter how much they like me, can not afford to get me an extravagant gift as it might jeopardize their ability to pay all their own bills. I suppose I only know poor people and the disappearing middle class. Thats just me. I do guess most people would question receiving an expensive gift, even the supreme thoughtful gift. But money wins out over all since it is a precious resource few of us have tons of. Instead we'd worry about using some of our allotted grocery budget to buy such a gift. Depending on the thoughtfulness, perfectness of a gift and its cost, yes, a person could get the wrong idea. Most of us you see, would not spend lots of money even on a friend, but someone more significant in our life, like a bf/husband. As I said, if you don't have that much in bills and have a saving account where most of us don't, and earn good money, or have an extravagant allowance if parents are really wealthy, then giving such a gift just because you can is the only explanation you need followed with, I am doing this as just a friend, not because I have any deeper feelings for you. And it would be plausible. believeable.
You might have to do a lot more convincing of him that you got him the gift just because you knew he'd like it and you didn't care what it costed. If he knows it was a sacrifice because you had to take it out of a tight budget, I am sure he might have questions so be prepared to answer them. Or he might thank you but ask you to return it cus he knows how much it will mess up your budget.
Another thing that comes to mind for me is Love languages. There are 5 distinct ways we show that we love a person and ways we recognize love.
To discover another person's love language, one must observe the way they express love to others, people tend to naturally give love in the way that they prefer to receive love.
This is the list of 5 love languages:
gift giving,
quality time,
words of affirmation,
acts of service (devotion),
Since you are giving a gift, if he also prefers reciving gift as a sign of love, he most surely will jump to conclusions and assume you love him. If he instead equates love with acts of service or quality time with you, then he may not see the gift as having any meaning.
Its up to you what you decide to do Just decide ahead what you will say to explain yourself away.
and physical touch.[
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