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In the last 6 months my hair has thinned out SO much compared to how it used to be. I dye my hair a natural blonde every 6/7 weeks. I get it trimmed every 6 weeks. I used to use straightners/curlers/hair dryer almost every day but when I started to notice my hair was getting damaged, I stopped. I straighten my hair probably once a week now but that's the only appliance I use. My hair is still getting thinner and doesn't grow as fast. What can I do? I keep getting it trimmed but I don't want to cut it anymore bcos I don't want it any shorter.

Hey I've had some girl pretty much wreck my hair & I got this great product called:

http://www.sallybeauty.com/leave-in-conditioner/SBS-777777,default,pd.html

It's great, smells good & it's a leave in conditioner, I could tell it was working from the first time I used it. You can read the reviews too, it's pretty recommended.

Hope that helps!

xoxo

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I am traveling to Chicago this weekend, and I'm meeting a friend from the internet that I met on Advicenators [irony?] three years ago.

I know, you're thinking, "DON'T MEET SOMEONE YOU'VE MET ONLINE!" I know. It's dangerous. I've thought of this for the past three years. But, we've talked on the phone, we've texted back and forth, we're friends on Facebook, Myspace, and Twitter, I've seen videos of her and her friends hanging out, and so has she for me. I'm like 99.9% sure she is not a 45-year old molester that's held a 17 year old girl hostage for three years, just to continue a lie.

So, my question is, is it normal to be nervous? What kinds of things should we talk about? What should we do?

What other advice do you have?

Thanks you. And, don't worry. She's bringing her friend with her, and I'm bringing my dad along, so if by some chance she is a creeper, I'm safe.

Oh thats exciting! I totally get what you mean, I have a lot of friends from online -- that I have on fb, myspace, etc. I've met a few. It's great! Yeah it's normal to be nervous, because you two haven't seen each other like in person -- obviously through pictures, but everyone always looks different in pictures. You could go out for lunch, or see a movie, go shopping, etc I'm not exactly sure. You'll figure something out. Just have fun! It's cool you're bringing your dad a long -- def safer. :) I hope you have fun!

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hey im 18/f and my hair is very dry and frizzy from dying it and straightening it. I was wondering if anybody knew any products that have worked for you or someone you know. I've tried the hot oil treatments and those really never worked for me. I can't afford anything too expensive and if u can buy it at say walmart, target, shopko, etc that would be even better. any suggestions are appreciated!

thanks again
-ashley

Hi, I suggest first getting a hair cut -- to remove split ends and help your hair to heal itself, so it can grow and become healthier.

I use Dove intense damage therapy shampoo and conditioner, it is amazing.
After one use I could tell it was working. You're supposed to leave the conditioner in for atleast 3 minutes and it really does help.

http://www.buzzillions.com/dz_99629_dove_intense_damage_therapy_shampoo_reviews

That is what it looks like, I got it cheaper at like target/walmart. It's really good I highly recommend it.

Also there is a leave in spray conditioner I use called Miracle 7, it's kind of expensive though. Around 12 dollars, but it smells great and it helps replenish dry and damaged hair.

http://www.sallybeauty.com/leave-in-conditioner/SBS-777777,default,pd.html

If you have any more questions feel free to ask! Hope everything turns out okay.

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I am looking to get good grades this year in school. Usually I am an A-B student but I'd like to try to make straight As this year in school. I was hoping that somebody has some tips for getting better grades, or maybe even a top 10 ways list to get straight As. Anything would help though, really.

Well, study habits play a big role into grades.

Make sure you start studying for tests in advance not the night before. Using note cards to write down information or make flash cards is quite helpful too.

Re-writing information over and over, helps to make what you're trying to learn stick into your brain. So you can remember it easier.

When taking notes, dont worry about trying to write things down, focus on listening. If a teacher mentions something more than once that is usually a good indicator for you to write it down, and that it will be part of a test in the future.

Make sure you're getting enough sleep, balance your time after school.

:)

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I got in a car accident when I was really young and I always get very nervous when I'm in a vehicle. Well, I'm getting older now and I know I need to learn how to drive so I can go places and find a job. I was thinking about taking driver's ed this year in school but I am afraid I will get too nervous and fail or do something stupid. The thought of being behind the wheel is REALLY scary for me. Are there any ways to relax while driving or anything? Suggestions, at least? Thanks.

Aw I understand that its nerve wrecking for you to think of driving since you've been in a car accident. Driving is a serious thing, there is reason there are laws, I don't know why so many people have to intentionally break them. Anyways I would def consider taking the class -- if its too much you can always opt out. But, facing your fear is a good idea. You wont be able to get past it if you dont try. I understand the fear, a friend of mine died in a car accident before I got my license, I know its hard but you can do this.

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I have a friend who I really like, and I'm ready to ask her out but don't know how to do it. Should I keep it short and sweet, just coming out and saying "I like you?" Should I profess my feelings? Should I just ask her if she likes me? Please be specific, like put it down in a specific conversation, because I'm lost here. Thanks!

Honestly, it depends on each person. Some people really like blunt and honest, but some people aren't too fond of people being so open with their feelings. I would weigh how she feels on it, and then move on from there. I think that if someone liked me I would want them to tell me. I guess not bluntly, but in some sweet kind of way. You could be like, "I was just wondering how you feel about me? because I really like you" You always run the risk of being rejected, but you got to take chances :) Good luck!

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I'm trying to drink more water and I heard that some brands of water are much better than others. I know water is REALLY important to my body and I do want to take care of myself so I don't end up with nasty skin when I'm older. I know there is Dasani and Aquafina at WalMart. There was even something called a SmartWater that came in a really long bottle. The Fiji water (in a rectangular bottle) looks expensive but if it's the best then let me know and I will try it. That's really about all the brands I know about and I haven't really drank any of them either. What is the best tasting water available?

Smartwater is good, I really like Evian. :)

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okay so when I was younger I was overweight. Now, I'm thin. The only problem is..I got stretch marks due to being overweight when I was younger.
my quesitons are:

do guys care if you have stretch marks? like a boyfriend or something?

and

will they ever go away! ive been using bio oil on them for 2 days so far hoping it works eventually.

thanks in advance to anyone woh answers

I've used bio oil, it does work! lol but by the time its tarted to work i ran out, but yes it works.

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Okay so my promblem is I am torn
between two guys. My boyfriend and I have
dated before this twice, and we broke
up because we sort of just "died off"
and got annoyed with eachother. He's
really sweet and I can tell he generally
cares for me. But this other guy that we
will call "Ivan" feels like he is the one.
He is so honest and innocent and has my
best intrest in mind. And I fall for him
more and more eachtime we talk. My boyfriend
is out of town & keeps thinking I am
going to cheat on him and that's something
I would never do :|

Well it sounds like you like Ivan more, and since you've dated the first guy and you died off, why not try dating this Ivan person? Break up with your current boyfriend first though. It's not fair for you to be feeling things about this new person while still dating someone else. Its unfair to your current boyfriend.

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So I'm doing golf camp throughout the summer and there is this boy there. I like him alot and hes really cute but I dont know if he likes me. He always wants to be on my team when we have games and compititions. One time I was sitting on the ground with my knees bent and he hit a ball through my legs. One day me and my friend were talking about how we were going to go to the movies after camp that day. After the movie was over we stood up and saw him sitting right behind us, we think he followed us. He always seems to be listening to me and my friends talk at lunch. I dont know if he likes me or not, could anyone give me a hint?

Hey -- honestly it seems like he might. IF he's always around you and what not, maybe he has a crush? But the ONLY way to be certain is to ask him or have a friend ask him. I know thats scary and no one likes putting their feelings on the line, but you'll never get anywhere if you dont. And with you it sounds like he does like you, so talk to him :) The worst is that he doesnt and he just wants to be friends but you'll never know if you dont ask.
xoxo

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This has been a problem for 4 years, and i still havent gotten over it becasuse my bestfriend is still dating him. it gets worse. shes been my best friend for 6 years now. she doesnt act like herself and all they do is fight. they claim theyre in love but shes never had a serious boyfriend other than him so i dotn think she knows what love is because its definately not that. she tells me everything and all they do is fight. im not here to ask you for what i hsould do to make them break up because what ever she wants to do, she can do it. im asking who she thinks is more important me or him. she wont answer my texts even when theyre important and when i call her because i need her she wont answer. but oh if her boyfriend texts/calls her shes on it in a second. its not like its a new little puppy love, theyve been dating on and off for 4 years. this entire day shes been acting weird and so short with me. and i ask her what she was doing and she said she was with him all day even when we had plans. i told her i had to tell her somethings that happened with me like good stories and she doesnt frikin care anymore. i dont know what to do and she doesnt treat me like a friend. its her boyfriend taht changes her like this, because when theyre not dating, she actually tries to make our friendship work. like how i am litterally holding it together right now. i dont know what to do and im wondering, who does she care about more.

Well hun I think you know who she thinks is more important. Clearly in HER eyes her boyfriend is more important than you. You said she blows you off off for him and that she doesnt treat you like a friend. I think that makes it obvious that she cares more for him than you. Which is sad because -- boyfriends should never break up best friends. It sounds to me like shes treating you like a fall back friend. I know what you mean because I have a best friend like that too. She ALWAYS has to be with her boyfriend and she's never the same when she's around him but when she's not with him.. her and I get along okay- but its not hte same.
But unfortunately it seems she cares more about him, so I guess you just need to decide if its worth still being friends with her.

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Do you miss anything, or anyone from your past and regret things happening?

I miss people.
Honestly, I miss my ex-boyfriend but he's a jerk and there is a reason things turn out the way they do. I don't feel like I have regrets, because when bad situations happen it always sucks, but there is always a light that comes, after time passes a bit - you start to feel a little better, and you can look back on things and realize that without that happening you'd never be who you are without it. I guess its all on how you look at it. You can either choose to try and make the best of what you have, or dwell on what could have been.

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hello i am 16yrs old and me and my boyfriend have been dating your about 2yrs and he said i should go on the pill just in case it happens and i told him that i wanted to wait until marriage to have sex but he like always carries a condom and i am scared he mit prssure me into doing it and i even sat him down and talked to him about it and he bought me a loundry outfit from victorias secret for my bday and i am getting kinda scared please anyone help me thank you!

Okay, first of all -- it is YOUR body. Don't forget that. Just because he suggests you to go on the pill, doesnt mean you need to do it. If you've already expressed to him your desire to wait until marriage, than he should respect your wishes and not pressure you. Always remember that you can say NO, and he cannot make you do anything you do not want to do. If he does, that's a whole different can of worms. In your relationship -- there needs to be respect and if he cannot respect your wishes than he's not worth it.

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Im a 19 year old female and have not had sex yet. I had a boyfriend for a couple months but he we never tried to have sex. I really want to experience it before i turn 20. Is it worth it? And is it ok for it to be someone i really dont want to be with? I dont know what to do!!!

I think a lot of people don't realize the emotional baggage that comes along with sex. If you're truly in love with your boyfriend and you feel ready -- than do what you feel is best. I don't suggest you having sex with someone you dont really want to be with. If you have to question it this much, I highly suggest that you don't. Just doing it for the sake of doing it, is never a good idea. Hope this put it into perspective for you. If you have any questions or need anything feel free to message me.
xoxo

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Okay, this upcoming week I am going to get a rib tattoo of 3 chinese symbols, going down verically, about 4.5-5 inches long. I know i won't regret this tattoo and it's something i've wanted for quite awhile and i am of legal age. I would just like some personal experiences with rib tattoos and how you dealt with the pain during since i hear it is the most painful. Also, the symbols will be filled in black, will that be more painful? input is so important so thank youu!

I just got a tattoo on my back.. kind of my side ribs, I'm not going to lie, it DID hurt. But not horribl, have you ever had any tattoos before? I had one on my ankle, and my ankle tattoo hurt worse. Also -- having the symbols filled in shouldn't be that bad, the shading part of tattoos dont really hurt at all, the outlines are what kills (atleast for me)
I hope it turns out great!
xoxo

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Hi i am 23 years old /female and doing masters in UK. Me and my friend both are from India. This boy in my class is very handsome,sensible,respectful who don't even like to smoke or drink but uncomfortable with girls,as he don't feel like hugging them or greeting them.he stayed with boys all the time when he was in India, though he got good girl friends.it's been 5 months we are friends and it is always me who start the conversation, text message or calls him. i like him and somehow he knows. he got no other close girl friends except me. He always stays with boys and enjoys to the fullest. He never picks me up for enjoyment. He stays in my Halls and as he respect me he comes to my flat occasionally. he knows that i will never say No to him for anything as helping in studies, food or any related information.
we both respect each other and know our moral values.
as i respect him for his sensibility i gifted him shirt on his birthday and he refused to take it, by saying that it is just months that we are friends and i can't take this.
but i didn't show him off that it literally hurts me but was nice to him for weeks.
however,from couple of weeks from now i was backoff from him.
as i stopped calling/texting/ or even looking or meeting to him. we only meet in class and have conversation that's it .
He complains to me that i have changed and the excuse i give it to him was that i am busy.
but i do reply to him if he texts me or calls me.
i made him clear to my friendship and i seriuoslly looked positive sign in him.
i don't want to end up this friendship as he is soo cool. i am preety sure i don't want to be in relationship with him as after studies he got different plans and i got different so it will never work it out.
i am confused as he do make a comment but i don't know if he is even interested in me or not.
the only problem with him is he hardly gives feedback to me and recalls me when he needs only help in studies? what should i do? give me some advice.
Thanks alot for giving time.



Well.. at first it made it seem that you liked him, and then when he offended you by not taking your gift, you were hurt, (I would be too) and then you distanced yourself from him. That distance clearly ..upset him? The reason he said you changed, is because he noticed that you stopped starting the conversation and what not, I think instead of acting like you weren't mad about the shirt thing, I would tell him. Communication is key, TELL him how you feel about him. Some guys are really oblivious and don't realize that you like them, no matter how obvious you make it.
If he only talks to you when he needs something, I would say he doesn't really have any interest in you.

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i like a guy but how do i know he likes me the way i like him

Guys are so confusing........ goodness, that's one thing I know for sure.

It's hard to tell, I would suggest hinting that you like him, or maybe ask him a question hypothetically that is implying you like him.

If you're bold, you could also just be out front and tell him you like him - but, no one really does that, I don't do that, makes me way too nervous.

If you have a hunch that he does, why don't you try asking him though, or asking a friend to ask him. :)

xo

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ok so ive had this BEST FRIEND since like the 6th grade (i am now going into the 9th). we were inseperable forever. until i had to move to germany. but i came back and everything and we would always talk on the phone and/or make plans. but she always had something to do and shed tell me the day before we were supposed to go wherever we go. or she just tells me straight up that she cant go because her mom has a new boyfriend and theyre trying to bond (the bf thing is true, im not so sure about the bonding thing). i always tell her to call me when she can do something and she says she will. but she hasnt called me since i came back which was in may. its not like i stalk her or anything, i just call her occassionally-maybe twice or three times a week. and lately she hasnt been answering my phone calls and it takes her forever just to call me back. im so sorry this was so long =[
please help me !!!!!! =/

Hey babe :)
The only reason I could come up with is.. that your friend is just moving on, and changing a bit. When you grow up, your relationships with people tend to either grow closer or apart.

In your case I think she may just be pulling away.
I know its hard, but since she's not returning your phone calls, maybe just stop calling her. If she was really your best friend, she would get back to you ASAP.

But before you stop talking to her.. maybe try talking to her about how you feel, and how she doesn't seem the same. Maybe she feels that way too and you guys can work it out.

Another thing I forgot to mention is..
while you were in germany, she was thus forced to make new friends, and maybe she made new friends? Which doesn't mean she can't be best friends with you, but you know? Maybe you two just grew apart.

But I hope everything works out for you hun.

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heyy peoples... sorry this is long, im kindov and asshole soo its probably not worth your time and its probably super boring soo ya...watever



soo i met this girl about a week before school ended, we met completely by accident, after school because i had missed the bus home and she was there because of something bad happening (dont want to go into that)



we both sat there, in the hall, alone, and talked. she had some emotional problems and i talked her through it. about an hour later, she had to leave so i walked her to her car and we exchanged numbers.



that night i met her at the local "hang out" town square (its like an outdoor mall) and we saw a movie together and really took a liking to eachother.



about every night since then, we talked on the phone for hours about how things were going, etc. i felt like we really had a connection and that i could tell her anything and she could tell me anything.



the next week we hung out every day i guess. it was great. one of the times, we went to a movie and i was rubbing the back of her neck with my fingertips and she started to do it back to me and i felt her kiss my neck (WOAA!!) she then wispered into my ear, meet me over there(while pointing to the stairs)



the next thing i knew, i was making out with the girl of my dreams, she is beautiful, smart, nice, loving,....just AMAZING. i honestly couldnt think of any negative things about her



since then, things were going great, they only got better and better. we were getting closer and closer...being with her was the only thing i wanted to do.



thats kinda what started it all...things were at the point where they really couldnt get better. then she was talking about going on a trip to spain, it was ten days and when she got back, i would be gone for the summer.(my parents are divorced so i have to spend the summer at my dads)



so we went out on our last day together (until summer is over). it was perfect and it ended with about 10 minutes of making out. it was amazing how she wanted it, just as much as i did. it was like i was finally in my place, nothing could make me sad(except for losing her of course) i felt invincible.





to make an even longer story short(er), she leaves to spain, 10 days later she gets back and nothing, she dosent wright, she dosent call...watever.



so here i am texting her, and she is just giving me dead end answers. i would say -heyy!! how was spain and she says -good, thats all. so i asked -is everything ok? do you not want to talk or something? and she says-im hanging out with a friend. thats the end of that



a few days later i texted her again and say, -hiiya, she said,- sorry i couldnt text last time, i was busy, and i said- its cool and she replys -ttyl im watching a movie







now im thinking, what the hell is going on....woww i cant believe she just did that. but me being as patient as i am, i just tryed to ignore it and move on. i didnt want to seem desprate or like a stalker so i kinda left it alone.



since then, she dosent really talk to me, i said hi on myspace and she just ignored it i guess. she never calls anymore....that makes me...sad?



what has happened to this relationship that i thought would last forever? i have no idea what went wrong, she has been back for weeks now, i never talk to her, she never talks to me. its like she is dead.



opinions? god, i miss her soo much.

Well from what you've mentioned above. It doesn't sound like.. you guys even dated that long? Maybe her vacation to Spain away from you - made her realize that she didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. But she can't find it in herself to tell you. And when girls get short with words. It usually means that they are annoyed, and in her case probably.. uninterested. I would just leave her alone, because IF you guys do get back together its not going to help if you keep badgering her. I guess you have to remember she has friends too, try hanging out with yours, and forget about her for a while, keep your mind on other things. If its meant to be.. things will work out, and if not you've already got your answer.

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I am a 20 year old female who has been dating her b.f for a little over a year now. My parents(dad) (being European) however are a little overprotective. My question is how long do you have to be going out for it to be considered acceptable to go on a mini vacation somewhere(in a decent family perspective) . basically spend the night with your b.f? Thanks in advance

You're twenty years old. You can go wherever you please now :) Whenever you are comfortable its up to you to decide, if you feel you trust your boyfriend enough.

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