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i just had surgery and its going to leave a scar... the surgery was on my face.. but what sort of medication/creams should i use to make the scar less visbale?? thank you so much!! (link)
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Almost everyone I know has used almond oil. You have to wait til it isn't 'raw' anymore if you know what I mean, and then you gently massage it on about two times a day. Other than that have a look on the internet or go to a oharmacy as they might have some good ideas too. Hope this helps a little
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I am a 34 C cup size. Im really skinny though. I actually wear one of the smallest pant size like size 1. I dont know what do do about a bathing suit. Their all to small. (link)
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You can get these things called tankinis. They are like a swinsuit but cut in two like a top and pants. You can mix and match the sizes. I have this problem too and they are great! Hope this helps!
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My name is Kayla and I live in Houston, Texas. O.K, I have known this guy for about three years. He is a total gentleman. By the way, I'm 13 and so is he. We were born on the same day. He has some sort of autism that causes him to act younger. People at school don't respect him. He has crushed on me ever since fifth grade and now, we're in seventh and he still has this crush. He has asked me out several times and I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO NOT HURT HIS FEELINGS. He likes that "Pokemon" show on WB kids and he's obsessed with "Yugi-oh" and he's just... weird. He's really sweet though. His mom just passed away on Friday the thirteenth and he's really depressed. I called his mom Aunt Paula and he called my mom Aunt Leanne. I love him and all... but not the way he loves me. He's more like... my cousin/brother. Not a boyfriend. I told him I would LOVE to be his friend but I'm not ready for this kind of relationship. A long time ago, he told me he had a dream about me. I asked him what it was about. He got all shy and red in the face and he smiled, showing his braces. Then, I said "O.K, you tell my sister and my sister will tell me." my sister was only 9 at the time. He whispered it in her ear and ran away. My sister Brittany told me and he said his dream about me... naked... making out with him. So, I stopped talking to him for a while because he said he would make a move on me. I was really scared to be alone with him. A few months later, he told me he stopped having those dreams and he was sorry that it scared me so I forgave him and we were friends again. He asked me out again and I told him "No. I only like you as a friend." and he started CRYING!!! He's like a cousin to me but not like that. I really don't know what to say. I rate good answers and will email anybody who wants me to. Please help me!
~~~Luv, Kayla (link)
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I think you should email him or write him a letter. Writing him a letter could be good because it will give him something to read and take his mind off what's going on with him at the moment ie:his mum. You should let him know that you are there for him as a friend if he needs someone to talk to about his problems. Tell him you are so flattered that he likes you more than a friend but you are just not ready for a relationship now, not with him or anyone else. This will make him feel better as he'll think that it's not just because you don't want to go out with him. Hope this helps a little, let me know if I can help with anything else x
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ok this probally going to sound really gross or whatever but..when i shave my arm pits theres still like black dots...and my arm pits usally get really red...what should i do to get rid of the black dots and redness (link)
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You probably don't use enough soap or foam when you shave. And perhaps you need to change the razor blade as it might not be sharp enough
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Hey there! Im 13 and i kno i have a HUGE weight problem and i admit it!!! I live in such a small town with nothing to do!!! I skate to skool and bak (And becuz my house is out of my skool boundarie it is pretty far, i skate pretty far) but im still over weight and i try to watch what i eat and only drink diet soda and water but i sit on the computer alot and i need help!!!
Thanx in advance!!! (link)
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If you have a big weight problem then even by adjusting your diet slightly will have some quick results. First of all, cut out the soda - even if it's diet soda. It's sooo bad and will be one of the reasons you can't start losing weight. Drink 2 litres of water a day. Sometimes when you think you are hungry, your body is actually thirsty and doesn't know how to get the message across. The soda will also be dehydrating you so making you feel sluggish and not much energy - am I right? Try and cut down on carbs (white pasta, white bread, potatoes, white rice) Instead, if you don't think you can cope without those, go for wholemeal bread, wholemeal pasta, and brown rice. Try and eat your evening meal by 7.30 and not to have any carbs in that. So go for something lke chicken or fish with vegetables. If you eat and then go to bed soon after, your body will not have time to properly digest the food before shutting down into sleep mode. Therefore the food that hasn't digested will be stored as fat. Hope this helps a bit x
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For my Spanish class we have to write a 28 page book (with pictures of course) Kindergarten-6th grade, we have to choose. So, which age group do you think would be best for the project, and what do you think would be fun and interesting to read if you were a kid? Thanks.. (link)
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4-6 years. Try The Gruffalo-I'm not sure who the author is though. It has won loads of prizes for being one of the best childrens books and my sister is a teacher and when she reads a story they always choose that one - it has great pictures too. Hope this helps x
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If you cut all white foods from your diet (such as sugar and bread and all carbs) will you loose weight fast and still be healthy? How long would it take? (link)
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the best tip about losing weight is not just cutting things out, but changing what you eat. By all means cut out white bread, pasta and potatoes but instead, opt for wholemeal bread and wholemeal pasta and in smaller quantities. Try and eat 5 portions of fruit and veg a day and drink 2 litres of water. Also, when it comes to dinner time, try and eat by 7.30 pm and not to have carbs in that meal - so go for chicken or fish and loads of vegetables or something. Hope this helps a little
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well its difficult being on my feet for 6 1/2 hours at a time while im at work. i have to dress nicely...so i need shoes that look nice as well. what would be the best type of shoes to fit this discription? (link)
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Don't wear high heels!! Wear flat shoes that are leather and slightly pointed as then they will be smart and comfyat the same time. Scholl do 'Party Feet' which are squidgy insoles to help prevent your feet from aching so much - I have them and they're brilliant! Hope this helps!
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My BF and I have been going out for a month. And we kiss and W/E outside of school, but past couple of days we have been doing little kisses after 4th. we both feel kinda uncomfortable cause all my friends go AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW really loudly n obviously when we do and its really annoying! i've told them to stop but they dont! have can i make them?! i rate ^^ (link)
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They're just doing it becasue they know it will get a reaction from you. You need to show them it doesn't bother you and as soon as you just ignore that then they will stop. Also, perhaps kiss when they're not around? Hope that helps a little
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I have been feeling really weird lately. I've been exhausted and I feel really weak. I can't consentrate, eat, or sleep. I'll try to do something and I'll get out of breath really quickly which isn't like me. I usually run a mile everday and I don't get out of breath from walking in my house. It's really stange. I think that there might be something wrong with me but I don't know what. I'm usually never like this. My friend said that I probably have AIDS because I had sex for the first time last week but we used protection and I don't think that AIDS affects you right away. I really don't know anything about diseases or illnesses or anything like that so if anyone has any idea about what might be wrong with me or what might have caused it please help me.
I will rate high for anyone who at least tries (link)
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First of all, it is highly unlikely you will have AIDS. You are obviously going through a really stressful time at the moment due to all your hormones and feelings racing about because you have had sex for the first time. The fact that you have no energy and appetite etc makes me think you're not getting enough nutrients from food and therefore your body is suffering because it has no energy. If I were you I would start by taking some daily multivitamins and start eating some high protein (chicken, fish, cheese etc) and high carb (pasta, potatoes, rice) diet to get your body back the way it was. It's no wonder you have no energy if you're not eating properly! If you have trouble sleeping, burn some lavender oil or cadle in your room just before you go to bed. Make your room really warm and cosy and have a warm bath or shower. then get into bed with a good book or magazine and you will find you will sleep better. Hope all this helps a little
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so im a girl and im 14. and ive been sweating under my arm pits alot lately. and i mean ALOT of sweat. so ive been wear shirts under neath my other shirts. and its not working. and i have changed deo derants and all and it is still there! and my mom says it will go away. so i was them like 10 times a day. and its so nasty. what can i do to make it go away? right now im using guys deoderant bcuz girls doesnt work.
HELP!!!! (link)
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If you go to the pharmacy or look on the internet you can get deoderant that helps you stop sweating. Most deoderants are formed as a nice smell and stop you getting BO, not to actually stop you sweating. I think Dove do a good deoderant for excessive sweating but check it out. And don't worry, what you are going through is very common! Hope I have helped a little
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okay, could you tell me if this is true:
girls are only supposed to shave their legs, and boys their arms? i dont know... its just going around. thanks. (link)
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Girls shave their legs and underarms. Guys shave the stubble on their face and sometimes their underarms but not all guys do this. Girls wax too. Waxing your legs means it will take longer for the hair to grow back. Hope this helps a little
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I have stretch marks from my legs to my stomach. Im only 13 im pretty skinny and i dont know why i am getting all of these stretch marks can anyone tell me? (link)
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It's all part of the growing process - you have probably lost weight and the marks are showing. Because you are 13 they won't be permanent. A really good cream to use though is Palmers cocoa butter. Hope this helps a little
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My boyfriend and I went on a date yesterday, and when we got home we started making out. After that he sat me on his lap and I felt something poking my butt, so im pretty sure I gave him a boner. I'm wondering how you would tell if you gave a guy a boner and what you should do if u did and dont want to go any further, but i dont just wanna ignor it. My boyfriend and I are really close, if that changes anything. (link)
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Yes it sounds like you gave him one. If you don't want to do anything about it then don't and ignore it. If you are happy making out and he hasn't asked you to do anything else then don't. If you are really close then he will understand and you can take things really slowly.
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My friend was raped by a bunch of guys. Now she's pregnant and she also has AIDS because of them. She's anemic which means she's already really tired all the time and gets short of breathe really easily. Well lately she's been really tired, like more than usual and it's really scaring me. Her parents don't know about what happened to her, they really don't care about her she's basically living with me. My parents take care of her and we give her a place to stay. She has a job but lately she's been skipping it and she just seems really tired. It's like she's a completely different person. She'll usually try to do things and not let the fact that she's anemic stop her but she hasn't been doing anything lately and she seems really sick. She says that it's just her anemia but I'm not really sure. My question is could she just be like this because of the anemia or could it be something else? I don't know that much about AIDS so could she be dying from it and that's why she seems so exhausted and sick all the time?
Please help me I'm really worried about her.
Sarah (link)
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You need to tell her to go to the doctor. Her body is going through so so much right now - being raped, pregnant, AIDS and anaemia. She needs to have tests to find out exactly what is wrong as it won't just go away on it's own.
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My mom has a yeast infection, a very severe one ((yeah,,ew)), and we cant afford medicine, and since my dad got laid off we dont have insurance and theres no way we can afford anything over like 20 dollars..believe it or not, so please dont tell me to buy anything more than that amount. I feel really bad because shes crying it hurts her so much, and i am kinda uncomfotable with this weird situation. She developed a tolerance to any kind of pill (advil tylenol whatever) becasue of a drug addiction, and thats not really my ?. My question is, where can i find some specific sites with home remedys to cure this painful infection or at least make her feel better, shes my mom and i lover her and the last thing i want her to be in is pain. Thanks.. (if youre going to be mean please don't asnwer) (link)
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I know two remedies that help as friends have done this and it helped them. First is cranberry juice - try and drink loads of this. Secondly live natural yoghurt. This may sound weird but it's off a website too - either put some on an st on your pants or put some on a tampon. The live bacteria in the yoghurt soothes the itchiness and pain and will help the infection clear up more quickly. Hope I have helped a little
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Okay so I met this guy (we are both 16) and we hit it off. spent like 10 hours together he was totally flirting holding hands cuddling and he would just stare at me and would always sit next to me and he tried to kiss me and such.. (it was a church retreat. We were helpers lol for the little kids) so at the end of the night when its time to leave and we are right next to each other in the seat but my friend is between us and he got up and kept looking back at me and then he just left no good bye and didn’t ask for a number or anything! what does that mean? What happened? (link)
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He really fancies you! But because it was your friend sitting in between you he probably felt a bit harsh asking them to leave you alone for a bit. I think he was looking back in the hope that you would go over to him to say goodbye. Perhaps because you didn't he doesn't think you feel as strongly as he does. Will you see him again? Is there any way you can get his number? If you can get his number than send a text just saying it was good to see him the other day and sorry you didn't get a chance to say goodbye properly. Suggest you two meet up again and hit it off from there. He definitely likes you but I think the ball is in your court to make the next move and let him know you feel the same way.Good luck! Let me know how it goes!! And hope i have been of some help
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Ookay.. I can't really sleep well at night.. like i always wake up in the morning and can't fall asleep until like 30 minutes after..Does anyone know how i can fall asleep and stay asleep better?
Note: I sleep with a t.v. on .. but can't fall asleep with out it.And i didnt know what category to pick so i picked a random one (link)
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Don't eat too late. Get your room really tidy and cosy, draw the curtains, switch the light on by your bed and burning a lavender candle is also good. It's a homeopathic remedy which promotes good sleep. Have a really nice warm bath before you get into bed and don't do anything too stressful. Sleep with your window slightly open too as you won't get a good night's sleep if you are too warm. Read or write in bed as that will make you tired.
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Ok i know im kidna old but I had a babysitter kind of coem ovr after school till my dad comes home. Shews was 21 and really cool, im 13. Last week she left and i was really sad i cried, i know this is wierd but do you guys think im over reacting. She came everyday for 2 years. (link)
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It's not weird at all so don't worry. She has obviously been a sister-type person for you to hang around with and you obviously enjoyed spending time with her. Therefore it's not unusual to feel this way. Just because she has left doesn't mean you have to totally lose touch - you could go over to hers maybe or chat on email?
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hey all how i could i convince my parents to let me get a cell phone they said when i start working i could maybe get a cell phone and it's not because so many people have cellphones i just want one i don't know what to do but now they won't pay for it now they said i don't need one i don't know what to do tips ideas etc.... thanks (link)
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My parents bought me a cell phone because if I go out and they need to contact me the they can. If you are ever in trouble eg: it's late at night and you end up on your own somewhere then you need to call home. For safety reasons above anything else it is good to have a cell phone. They don't have to pay those monthly bills you can just get a pay as you go phone when you top it up yourself.
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