they say life is a gift.
they also say the world is cruel.
how is it a gift to be living in a cruel place?
Life is a gift because there is so much you cannot do when your dead. It never ceases to amaze me how amazing amputees are. They can defeat any diversity life throws at them. They are talented as athletes and Artist and generally all are glad to be alive. Helen Keller whom became ill as a baby & was left deaf & blind went on to become a scollar in litrature. she is quoted as saying "When one door closes another one opens" it really is up to each and everyone of us to path the life we were ment to live the life we dream of living, lead the life that makes you happy. Are you in a cruel place? and what can you do to make a difference? Use the gift of life to do something about it.
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I'm 17. I went to a church retreat last weekend and never had felt so close to god. I started reading the bible (starting with exodus) and I'm starting to find it contradictory. Maybe I'm looking at it the wrong way, that's why I need help answering a few questions.
God wipped out all he had created except Noah and his family because they lived in the way god wanted the world to. He killed everyone else with a flood because they turned corrupt. After, he made the covenent with Noah that he would never do it again; the rainbow symbolizing it.
Here are the questions
1. If god killed the corrupt then why don't we believe in the death penalty; those who take lives are corrupt and killing them would be considered gods work wouldn't it?
2. If god is perfection and all knowing then why did he make that covenent with Noah saying he would never do it again like if it was a mistake?
3. In matthew 4 the spirit leads Jesus to the desert to be tempted by the devil. If gods love is true, perfect, unconditional then why would he lead his son to be tested? Wouldn't that be the equivalent to having a good looking guy talk to my girlfriend to see if she would flirt with him? I wouldn't do that to my girlfriend if I truely loved her.
That's all, I really hope someone can answer my questions. My confirmation is coming up
1st. Death penelty; Laws are governed by man and each state & country have different laws but god's law is for everyone who believes in him. When Jesus was crusified he was so in the company of a thief & a murderer the murderer asks him to forgive him and take him to his kingdom the theif did not. Jesus saves souls not condem them. Who are we to condem a man for all eternity for his sins. That should be up to God to decide not man.
2nd. Noah was chosen because his family were up to the task of God's plans. Noah had a great love for his lord and all living things. God kept his promise about the floods no more.
3nd. God love; Jesus had a purpose in his life. and prior to the 3 yrs he was preaching the word of God it is said he went into the wilderness this is where God taught him what he had to do. In his moments of weakness starving & thirsty Satin tempted christ. Christ love for God was stonger than his desires. You don't have to be a chatholic to know these things they are for everyone who is willing to recieve him. I try to live my life following the 10 commandments I can live a good wholsome life that way a life God would be pleased with.
God Bless.
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Can anyone help me? I really want to start wearing my hair in an updo but I have never ever done it before. I need to know what is out there so I can try to find something to take to the stylist.
Can anyone help me?
Hi I go to YouTube and look up updoes you find heaps of styles some with a simple pony and the tail separated twisted then bobby pinned to the head looks fabulous very formal and elegant. be carefull using hot irons and curling wands because you are suppose to spray your dry hair with a special heat resistant product to prevent damage to your hair, you can buy at the hairdressers. They don't show you this in the videos but you should protect your hair from irons they burn your hair right off if they are too hot. Utube also have step by step instructiongs on how to do bangs which is a side sweeping fringe very cute. hope this helps
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I have an issue with alcohol, no im not an alcoholic but i truly HATE alcohol. My mom is a recovering alcoholic, and ive been through so much because of alcohol. So many bad things that have happend in my life, are because of alcohol to the point where i hate anything to do with alcohol. Ive had my fair share of alcohol, but i realize i cannot drink it because i get too carried away.
Well, my boyfriend is in college and when he goes out, i get really upset. And i know he is in college, and that is what he is going to do to spend time with his friends. I know it is ridiculous for me to care so much, but i do. I bring the issues i have with alcohol into my relationship, and its a problem.
Any advice on how to cope with this? Tips that i can use to get over it?
Thanks
I totally get where your coming from, a social drink gone wrong can turn ugly bringing pain and misery to the drinker and the people close to them. If one drinks to passout stage that's alcholism sorry but it's true this is why alchoholics are in so much denial they think it's o.k. or under control. if you experience black outs that's the result of brain damage. Having said all that
you can't change people you can only change yourself.
There is an organisation in Australia called
Al-anon which specificly targets the people who's lives are affected by the person with the problem of drink be it a few or too many. they teach people how to live your life around the alcholic or heavy drinker to gain greater meaning to their own life. If you cannot deal with the life of a drinker then look for a boyfriend who does not drink or has a small intake such as special occassions only. An athlete fits this catagory. the more you hassle your boyfriend about his consumption the more justified he feels to have another drink and another. He's living his life his way so you find a way to live your life your way. you really need a guy who can go without drinking to meet your standards. A drinker will never make you happy because you carry too much bagage from your mother's past drinking days. It won't be any different with him than it was with her believe me. I hope this is of some help Good luck
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hi i'm 16 female. i have this friend who this year became more involved in my life. the beginning of the school year was great we were getting along. starting around november she began acting differently. she's been giving me HUGE attitude and treating me like crap. i didn't do anything wrong that i know of and if i did do something wrong that i didn't realize i did it definitely wasn't anything terrible enough to be talked to like this. it's like that vibe you get when you know someone doesn't like you and has been talking about you behind your back. some days we talk nicely and civilly and then the next day she's really mean. i don't get it. she's not like this to everyone, just me and maybe a few others. she will tell secrets in front of me and if i ask what they're talking about she'll just say nothing and giggle. i swear she acts like she's in middle school. i'm a high school junior and never before in my high school career have i come across someone so immature. i haven't been reacting to it because i've been just blowing it off and acting civil and polite. so my question is, what can i do to end this treatment once and for all? i'm a human being and she is not superior to me and i need to be treated fairly and nicely. i will not put up with this any longer. by the way she is not confrontational at all she will do anything to avoid talking about it, like if i ask what's wrong she'll say nothing with an attitude but it's obvious there is. she will do anything to avoid confrontation. please help.
The next time she talks cheap & nasty look her square in the eye & ask her "what is your problem?" Why are you so nasty and offensive to me?" When she says her trade mark answer "NOTHING" TELL HER IN NO UNCERTAIN TERMS that's an out & out lie & I DON'T BELIEVE YOU I DON'T BELIEVE YOUR MY FRIEND I DON'T BELIEVE YOU CARE ABOUT MY FEELINGS. Be forthcoming and say if you don't come clean and ditch the bitchy persona your just going to have to find some other idiot to abuse because I am out of this friendship. You do not have to put up with this abuseive girl if she won't come clean you cannot go to the next level of a friendship if she serves no purpose to you she's holding you back so get rid of her and find NEW friends. Through out life friends come & go they are not always a life time thing but a learning stepping stone to the next level and new friends. REAL friends care, care so much they would never dream of hurting you. when it hurts let it go you will surrvive. and be better off she may get a lesson in how NOT to treat yopur friends. But you did give her the opportunity to come clean too many times. If she won't come clean then you discard what is no good for you. You sound like a nice girl you'll make nice friends easily enough she's not the only pebble on the beach. Ask your other friends how do they feel about her? If she does it to them if she dosn't she is discriminating against you. this is not a friend.Sometimes you have to face your monsters to make them go away. I hope this helps. Good luck sweetie.
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Let me first start by giving you a little back ground information. My ex wife became pregnant when she was 20 and I was 19. Even though it was earlier than we both expected to become parents, we were thrilled and so excited to start our family together. We got married shortly after she gave birth to our son Matt. Soon after that, we had another son, and then a daughter. From my perspective, everything was great. That's why I was so blindsided when my wife came to me 9 months after our daughter was born claiming she wasn't ready to settle down and be a mother with divorce papers in her hand. Almost overnight, I became a 23 year old single father with a 4 year old, 2 year old, and a 9 month old. After the divorce was final, I rarely heard from my ex wife. She had begun living a life that I didn't necessarily approve of filled with drugs and alcohol and, while I wanted to keep my children as far away from that as possible, she was their mother and I didn’t feel like I could entirely keep them away from her. The last straw, however, came when I let my daughter, Alyssa, (who was 6 at the time) stay with her when I took my sons on a hunting trip. I was supposed to pick her up at noon the Sunday we got back. I spent the entire afternoon calling my ex wife’s apartment with no answer. At 5 that afternoon, I finally just went over to her house where I found her front door wide open and her passed out on the couch from mixing a few too many drugs with alcohol. Her neighbor came over to the apartment and told me that my ex wife had taken Alyssa out one night and come home completely plastered. Thank god her neighbor had woken up and decided to take Alyssa back to her apartment. And this is just one example of many. After that, I told my ex wide that I didn’t want her to see our kids anymore which devastated her so much she entered rehab. She got clean and for the past ten years has seen the kids a few times despite my hesitance. My kids and I have been living a great life together away from my ex wife. A few years ago I began dating another woman whom I am now engaged too. She gets along great with my kids and is an amazing person who I know will be a good influence on my kids’ lives. My oldest son Matt is now in college, but Colton (my middle son) and Alyssa still live with me. Since I have become engaged, my ex wife has become crazy about spending time with the two of them. She wants them at her house every weekend and doesn’t want my fiancé to parent them at all. She is trying to tell my daughter all kinds of lies about why she left, and how I am a horrible person for trying to keep them from seeing her. She tells her that the entire thing was my fault and all kinds of horrible rumors about my fiancé, who went to high school with my ex wife. She has asked both of my kids to move in with her. Colton told her absolutely not, but Alyssa is confused about the whole situation and doesn’t know what she should do. I have full custody of them so essentially it is my choice about whether or not she can see them. I don’t want to take them away from my ex wife, but I don’t want to lose them myself. I am still worried that she will resort back to her old ways and put my kids in danger like she has their whole lives. Am I right to not let my daughter move in with her mom?
Am I right to not let my daughter move in with her mom?
ABSOLUTELY.
To be a parant is the most unselfish act an adult can do. I commend you as a great dad.
Your wife has been extremely irresponsible in the past and has betrayed your trust and the trust of your children. She had it all long ago and wants it back. You have moved on and you should embrace your new life with your fiance I can imagine she is wonderful and is great with your children. Your ex wife is in denial to think your o.k. with her unstable lifestyle. She is being maniplative with your daughter because she can influence her, due to her own immaturity to see her mother for what's she had been like in the past. You are going to have to make the decission for your daughter she is too confused to make good judgement. when she matures a little more she should be able to make a decision. When you marry your fiance she will be empowered to be responsible for your children over your wife there is nothing your ex can do about it. Your ex is hanging by a desparate thread of old age and loneliness she's getting scared, it's her own fault really. Take charge and look towards your daughters' safety & happiness with you & her step mum. This is a very serious dilemma so trust your instincts and go with it. keep your daughter home maybe she can visit on holidays and see for herself when she is old enough. I hope this is helpful. I wish you the very best for your family. The truth always prevails, so don't be too concerned about the rumours always tell the truth she will love you more for being honest.
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OK. His name is Robert, but I call him Rabbit. We've known each other for a year and a half now. We've never met in person, but we've somehow fallin in love over all this time. He is my dream guy. Looks & Attitude. I adore him and he adores me too. We are always talking on the phone and being retarded together on txt messages. We've already promised each other we'll get married after high school, but during the time we can date other people. Our relationship is really complicated. I can't see myself with anyone else and yet everytime he says we're finally going to meet something comes up. I don't know what to do. He told me to move on and forget about him, but I love him so much and he's just everything i've ever wanted in a guy. We're both really jealous people and we talk about everything. Including other relationships. I just know that he'll do anything for me. I really wish me and him can be together forreal, but every single time we try to meet something comes up to where we can't meet. I've waited this long for him and I just don't know what to do. I've been through hell and back with him and all the other guys i've dated just don't seem to even get as close as he is to treating me right. I know he's worth the wait, but everytime I get with another guy they do something stupid to where all I can think about is being with him. What should I do? I don't want anybody else besides him, but at the same time i'm tired of waiting. Somebody please tell me what to do. :(
I think it's time to put him to the test ask him for his address and you go to his house if he is sincere he won't give you the wrong house. If someone else says he's not home wait a while he's probably in his room. I think he's having you on the only way to find out is to confront him.Good luck
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So October 12 is going to be the one month anniversary for me and my boyfriend :) I'm excited, but I was wondering if anyone could give me some ideas as to what I should give or make him to celebrate? Any ideas for how to spend the day together, like what to do?
We live next door which means we get to see each other a fair amount of time, so we haven't exactly been on an official "date" because we just hang out at each other's houses. But I'd like to do something a little special. Thanks!
Why don't you set up a pick nick in the yard under a shady tree or make a shade cover out of sheets hang some soft fabric off it to delicatly show the breeze. make some gourmet sandwiches and cold softfrink in an ice bucket (make one out of a pot cover with a pillow slip). lots of cushions & pillows scattered around soft soft romantic music. not the raging music you usually listen to it's too distracting. give him a card if you feel you must but no actual gift it's too early in the relationship and you'll have to do this regularly if someone forgets the shit hits the fan and it'ts really not that important. Always give your time and effort to make a memory is the best gift of all. All the money in the world can't buy this gift of giving your time & effort to create a memory if they don't employ themselves. Catch a movie later on in the night. I hope this helps
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My parents don't really like me because they think i am mean at times. Like what happened today was:
Mom accidentaly stepped on my foot
Me "why did you step on my foot?"
Mom "It was an accident do you even think i will do something like that? i never saw your foot, after bringing all your stuff near you, you ask me a question like this?"
me "I am sorry i just asked it came out of my mouth"
Mom "I can't take it anymore, there is too much fights going on at home, its so unpeaceful."
Me "Cry..and finds this website which will hopefully help me"
Let me assure you your mother loves you very much it is alway the behaviour you don't like and that refers to your mum's behaviour too. When she trod on your foot she should of appollogied straight away it was an accident to say nothing was rude of her and disrespectful then she gets huffy because she had to called upon to justify that. you should remind her of her manners. this happened to me-One day my little boy 6 at the time was being impudent I asked him did you leave your manners at school? pretty soon he got me back when I was being unreasonable he asked me did I leave my manners at work? I had to smile. I had to realise it works both ways. Teenagers are finding themselves it's difficult time in your life finding yourself. ask your mum to be kinder & respecful to you you need her to teach you the ways of life lead by example. If she isn't teaching by example how are you going to learn to improve on her method ask her to be a team player Your not that far away from being an adult and you need her to help with the passage from child girl to a adult woman.good luck I hope this helps
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how can i get my boyfriend to dirty text me? like i hint that he should and like try making things dirty and he says that he feels bad and i tried explaining to him that he shouldnt feel bad cause its just for fun lol and he was like okay. but he still doesn't do it...soo how can i get him to lol
If you want to win his heart bake him some cookies. wear vanilla perfume wear high heals but flirty gar gar talk is not a good start to a relationship it has very little substance.
Here are some pointers to aspire to forget the flirty stuff that's cheap talk but look how Coco Chanel sees things You will be inspired.
A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.
Coco Chanel
A women who doesn't wear perfume has no future.
Coco Chanel
As long as you know men are like children, you know everything!
Coco Chanel
Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door.
Coco Chanel
Elegance does not consist in putting on a new dress.
Coco Chanel
Elegance is not the prerogative of those who have just escaped from adolescence, but of those who have already taken possession of their future.
Coco Chanel
Elegance is refusal.
Coco Chanel
Fashion fades, only style remains the same.
Coco Chanel
Fashion is architecture: it is a matter of proportions.
Coco Chanel
Fashion is made to become unfashionable.
Coco Chanel
Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. Fashion is in the sky, in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening.
Coco Chanel
Great loves too must be endured.
Coco Chanel
Guilt is perhaps the most painful companion of death.
Coco Chanel
How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone.
Coco Chanel
I don't know why women want any of the things men have when one the things that women have is men.
Coco Chanel
I invented my life by taking for granted that everything I did not like would have an opposite, which I would like.
Coco Chanel
I never wanted to weigh more heavily on a man than a bird.
Coco Chanel
In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different.
Coco Chanel
Jump out the window if you are the object of passion. Flee it if you feel it. Passion goes, boredom remains.
Coco Chanel
Look for the woman in the dress. If there is no woman, there is no dress.
Coco Chanel
Luxury must be comfortable, otherwise it is not luxury.
Coco Chanel
My friends, there are no friends.
Coco Chanel
Nature gives you the face you have at twenty; it is up to you to merit the face you have at fifty.
Coco Chanel
Since everything is in our heads, we had better not lose them.
Coco Chanel
Some people think luxury is the opposite of poverty. It is not. It is the opposite of vulgarity.
Coco Chanel
Success is often achieved by those who don't know that failure is inevitable.
Coco Chanel
There have been several Duchesses of Westminster but there is only one Chanel!
Coco Chanel
I love this woman mind I guess what I am saying is when you have something special to offer there is not need to speak especially inappropriate talk. Always have something loving to say otherwise don't say anything. I hope this helps.
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for people who get really wet when they're turned on does sex for the first time hurt?
On a scale of 1-10 pain of penertration is about a 1 if your dry about 9 Everyone is different but I personally couldn't wear tampons they wouldn't go in. But that dosen't mean your not virginal.If you haven't had sex your a virgin. Hymens can be broken by riding bareback horses etc. I hope this is helpful.
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so i'm turning 18 soon, and my mom is paying for my tattoo that i've been wanting.
but the problem is, is i cant decide what i want.
I kinda thought maybe something religious, but, my religion can change here in a few years.
i was thinking a peace sign and a heart and some music notes maybe? cause i really like those.
i had this idea to get a barcode, and put my parents birth digits on there, like i'm an item of my parents, but i still dont know.
any help?
I personally do not like tattoos on woman, because my mum encouraged me to be lady like. in my youth tattoos on woman were worn by the likes of Mouri's bikie moll's and prostitute's. Now days it's rare to see someone like myself with out tattoos. I thought about the rebelious thing but I grew out of it I don't regret it but that's me. When I see a woman largely covered with pictures' all I think about is what is she going to look like when she is 70 or 80yrs scary isn't it. so,if you really must have one try going to the tattoo palour and search for the one you like that represents your aim ,belief,destination birthsign,chinese wisdom something meaningfull to your being. because what you mentionaed dosen't do it for me it seems corn ball to me. Yikes remember it's permanent.
I'll tell you the ones I know of, I know my niece got her 1st born son date of birth in large writting across her shoulders she has since then had 3 more daughters OMG. my neighbour has her 3 kids names delicately written on her tummy under her hip bone quite pretty too.my girlfriend had a midlife crisis and got a Ullysses butterfly her most favourite thing in the whole world on her ankle he mum bought her a diamond butterfly belly button ring too which she had inserted and got cought on a washing basket youch. & I see a lot of very young girls with tatoos across the bottom of their back just visable at the top of their jean anyway you should have a chat with the parlour some inks are shit too they loose there definition & clarity quickly this looks crap should take decades for the definition to disperse so choose your parlour wisely. Putting it in an inconspicuous place might be the go. I hear it hurts so if you stay small it will be over faster Good luck & happy Birthday.
PS You know what I got when I turned 18 NOTHING. I sipped a glass of sparkling wine with mum & dad that's it.
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i'm 17, please don't ramble on about if you think i'm too young for sex...i've been with my guy for over a year and i have that amazing connection with him. i feel like i'm ready to have sex with him but i always get doubts...i think i'm always going to get doubts though until i actually do it and get the "first time/painful" thing out of the way. the doubts have absolutely nothing to do with him or not trusting him...it takes me a lonngg time for me to even be close to trusting someone but he has my life in his hands and i know hes loyal. so are these doubts about like it hurting and pregnancy normal? i'm just scared i guess...i get ridiculously wet though so i should be okay right?
You'll be pleased to know the first time is not all that painful. it's a sort of pain & pleasure It's more of an emotional connection you only have with a lover that makes lovemaking a beutiful experience, on a scale of 1-10 it's about a 1 for pain 11 for pleasure even if you don't climax you will be happy you were intimate with the guy your inlove with. My husband dosen't make me climax but I don't care about that it's not my priority I wouldn't like anyone else, he's my man I love him no matter what. Our life together is much more profound than a few minutes pleasure I can't do myself. Get prepared for protection against unwanted pregnacies too soon. etc. Check into a resort for a weekend where you really feel special and are undisturbed. you know when your ready so get yourself prepared. Tell him to take his time you want the foreplay to last as long as possible so the journey is worth the destination.
Enjoy the mood. Good luck
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ok me and my cusin and her friend and her friends little sister where about tew get jumped and you wouldnt want your little sister to get jumped so i ended up geting jumped for no reason but the good thing is i didnt have nothin wrong im just a little sore but then the girl with the little sister ran because she was tryna protect her little sister but my cusin ran and left me to get jumped and this is my second time bein with her and geting jumped so should i still be friends with her or ignore her please give me and answer and thank you those who do answer
If I am reading this right I am utterly horrified
You were not put on this earth to be the sex object in some ferral dogs life. He is a dog to jump you how discusting for you. I want to choke him. I would kiss his bony ass if I turned up to save you.
When you say getting Jumped do mean raped? you sound too young to be making love consentually. I would tell your parents or someone you trust go to the police & have the little terd charged. He will do it to someone else he is a rapist. These friends & cousins are witnesses. They should have run for help not run away and hid. I am appaulled they didn't get help for you. Call a rape crisis centre they will help you. If your a minor The law says it's rape. If he's a minor He will go to juvenile detention where he belongs. Please report this you'll suffer for yrs to come if you let him get away with it & some day he may grow worst and someone may be raped & murdered because rapist have no conscience they don't like woman the see woman as lower than life itself you are far better than that. Your letter is very serious, a crime has happened to you you must act on it. Surving this will make you strong ignoring it will make you wither. I sincerly hope you take action and put a stop to his behaviour he's a criminal and he will only get worst. god bless.
PRESS CHARGES today
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Hi. 14/f long im sorry, please read though ;(
Ok, I made a lot of mistakes. I lost a respect from a best friend,(cierra) i told something she told me in confidence to my other best friend(shaila). I shouldn't have and i regret it so much, we are trying to start over again, it's so hard though because both cierra and shaila hate each other. They are fighting, and shaila she is my best friend now because she helped me threw a lot. Threw the fighting with cierra and with a guy who really hurt me(i will get to him soon) I really regret telling Shaila but i could trust shaila, but cierra can't. She never gave shaila a chance though, she's really a good person. I hate her criticizing her, she's also mad that she's my best friend now, but i can't help that. She treated me horrible, i didn't treat her right either though. Now, on to the boy. You see he was the guy i really thought "loved" me. He made me feel good, he told me i was pretty, hot sexy and all of that. He said i love and i want to hold you and stuff.We met last summer and i liked him and he liked me to, i found out that he liked this other girl to. I didn't like the idea of that. He used me, because the other girl lives all the way in Florida. We talked like dirty to each other and all that, he actually got me to do that.I decided to forget about him than he came back, i was stupid enough to take him as my boyfriend. I really thought we would last. Than the thing that i regret the MOST is, i sent him a pic of me nude. Not fully only one breast.He convinced me, by sending me a picture of his.. you know. So, i thought we were the real deal? That we were really together and he really cared about me, but the next day he broke up with me, telling me that i was CHEATING on him?!!! So, we were over. I moved on off of him, i have someone else, but i feel so horrible and i really need some help. I feel sick all the time, i vomit every morning on my way to school because im so stressed because of all of this. I don't eat as much as i use to. I'm so depressed. Please someone help me, how do i forget what i did move on? I know what i did was wrong, i asked god to forgive me of my sins, but i still feel like a horrible person. Shaila tells me that i'm not, im the best thing that ever happend to her, im the only friend who gives her repsect, and she doesnt want to lose me. Please don't criticize me more please, just help alright?
Thanks for listening sorry it's so long.
Forgiveness is the bridge to brocken trust.
Quote: If we really want to love
we must learn how to forgive
- Mother Teresa
Quote: Since everything is in our heads, we had better not lose them.
Coco Chanel
I hope you don't get offended by my reply I am really trying to help you. The best way to move on is to remember them fondly learn from your mistakes.
I draw my strength by reading inspirational quotes from very admirable leaders. Look up inspirational quotes in your web browser and read all you can. Your not expexted to be perfect everyone makes mistakes the strong ones learn from thier mistakes the foolish ones don't. You are a strong one I can see that by what you wrote, you will be O.K. Ask Cierra to forgive you she may need time to think about it but assure her you'll never betray anyone again there's too much to loose. On the other side of the coin Cierra had too higher expectations to put her trust in someone so young and inexperienced maybe she should discuss her secrets with a priest in future then you are in no position to misuse her trust. She did put a lot of responsibility on your shoulders. Now I don't know whether you mocked her problem or were sincerly concerned and sort your own guidance from Shaila however, My Dad once said to me "If you want to keep a secret DON"T TELL ANYONE, as soon as you tell someone it is no longer a secret."
That makes a lot of sence to me. Now about this guy, OMG, Never Ever send naked or semi naked pictures to ANY Guy on the internet or mobile phone. He betrayed you As soon as he got it what a shit. So now you completely understand how Cierra feels about betrayal and this is painfull. Never give males the TOOLS to betray you, it always comes around and bite you with teeth right on the ass. I have been with my man 26 yrs there is NO photos of me or him looking less than presentable. These sorts of images are tools for blackmail and bad intentions never for personal use That's a lie. Just never do this again for your own confidance. You don't want your kids finding this stuff. NO you don't so please promise yourself. There is enough smut out there to keep there hands in thier shorts.
Now, Building that bridge with forgiveness. Are you prepared to invite the 2 girls together over coffee to resolve thier differences so you can be a happy group of 3 good friends. You can't please everyone but Ciera's critisim of Shaila comes from her own lack of self worth so she needs to work on that to improve her relationship with her.
Friends come & go through out your whole life. You are a whole person with or with out them it's just nice to share your time with them when this turns sour time out should settle the dust. You'll never know unless you try if you don't try you'll never know. You've got everything to gain & nothing to loose. You have apologiged to Jesus He has forgiven you. Gather your strength from a quote site you will be strong enough to face this all those people are behind you 100%.
Good luck I hope this helps. I wish you well sweetie
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I have 3 best friends that I spend all of my time with. However, I'm the only one that has a job, and they don't respect that. They're always asking me to pay for them, to drive b/c "I have gas money", they always ask me to call in sick to work to hang out with them instead, and they get mad if I don't want to stay out late b/c I have work early in the morning.
I'm not trying to be a party pooper, I just don't want to screw up my job. What should I do? They don't seem to get it when I talk to them about it.
I commend you for your dedication to your employment responsibilities Your totally responsible for your self you will go a long way in life and get the things you need and want. There comes a time in everyones lives when you have to look at the crap on your plate and get rid of it if it's garbage... clean it up so to speak. Are these 3 friends your children? No are these 3 friends your family? No are these 3 friends giving you something in return NO. then it's time to let them go so they can learn to fly like you have. They are not friends if your wallet puts the gleam in their eye. If this is too hard do, Then do what I do with my kids I use a plastic savings card I only carry a small amount of cash IF I need it (otherwise my purse is always empty) for take-away food for myself & my kids if they are with me to eat a pie & drink. Other wise you can eat when we get home. Now I had a so called friend named Karen, I offered her $10.00 petrol to take me to the next town once. She gladly did this a few more times then she started popping into my house (I believed she was a genuinly there to see me) she would invite me to drive somewhere and asked me for petrol money. I was immediately responsive to this This dosen't seem right You invited me why am I paying But I somehow felt obliged She totally lacked social ettiquette. I bet she dosen't do this with any one else I thought. She didn't see me she saw $$$ Then she started coming to my shop with her kids sometimes they would control my computer drink my soft drink for free and I would be left talking to Karen out the back she clearly was working me I see that now because she couldn't look me in the eye for long & constantly interupted me with matters around her and even tried to serve one of my customers which I promptly put a stop to I work here not you these people are MY customers. Talk about taking over. She came to my shop 2,3 times a week for about 6 weeks towards the end screaming she was going to loose her house she needed $800. to pay her mobile bill so she went on and on about it emotionally draining me... to shut her up I gave it to her. I helped her clean a 4 bedroom home for the owners arrival for free she got paid $500. I was clearly her friend sadly she wasn't mine. Karen suddenly stopped coming around for good. I heard later but I cannot prove it she had a speed habit. OMG #*@! OFF. I felt used for my money. I am better off with out her in my life & your 3 friends there not the only people in the world. You just got to do what is right for yourself or people will swallow you up and spit you out. You work for your money you spend it your way you have bills rent food toiletries travel expenses it only goes so far it's not a bottomless pit.
Tell them to get a JOB. BOTTOM LINE
You don't owe your friends a living.
Hope this helps.
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15/f (the guy is 16)... first off, I'd like to say that I think that "loving someone" and "being in love" are different things... anyways so I've been going out with this guy for 3 weeks and one day and I think it's just going GREAT :) which is just amazing because I am terrible at relationships... I've had a lot of really really short term relationships... There were only 2 guys that I was really serious about (before this one) but now i'm over them. Now, about my new boyfriend :) this guy is just...wow he's perfect... I don't think I've ever met a guy that I've had such a connection with :) we just have so much in common and I can always just be myself around him... I'm his first girlfriend and I was his first kiss so I guess I'm pretty special to him... I've kissed guys before him, but it never felt as special as it is now :) I really honestly think I love this guy...not like "in love" but I can see myself falling in love with him someday...the thing is, I can get majorly paranoid about him. Like I'm always afraid I'm going to lose him and I would seriously be crushed if he broke up with me... It's like everytime I sense something is a little off in his voice or if we're texting and he doesn't reply for a while, I will be freaking out thinking he's going to break up with me :( and I HATE that feeling because I just want to feel like he's mine and I won't ever lose him but I just can't let myself do that because I'm scared I'll get hurt really bad... is there anyway to get rid of this paranoid feeling? I feel like it's holding me back from being closer to him and I hate it :(
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
“It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more 'manhood' to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex.
Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind.
”Strength is born in the deep silence of long-suffering hearts; not amid joy.”
Pull yourself together train your thoughts to be positive you don't want negative thoughts enjoy every minute live in the moment.
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hi im havin a prob with this gurl in 8th grade well i like her but she dont know and my friend does and she likes him and she wants him to ask her out or else shes gunna end up goin out with this other kid in my grade thats also my friend and she dont know that i like her and i want to ask her out but i know she will say no and i dont want her to go out with my friend but its like i have no choice but to deal with it so wat should i do???????
Quote: Be not afraid of going slowly, be afraid only of standing still.
If you really like her make your move before your friend moves on her if he was your good friend he wouldn't move on her because you asked not to. Your going to have to woo her with your eyes the mirror of your soul she'll notice believe me. Tell her she's beautiful and you would love to date her. Make your move Good luck
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There is this thing about my face I 've been getting lately that is been bothering because I swear it somehow makes me look unattractive.
Like I've never noticed I am yellow, like not Dark, tanned, red white, or pale , I am yellow is it healthy to be yellow? I mean is it normal?
and i have black spots next to my mouth, I use clean n clear but it doesn't help mmuch.
It's bothering me soo much,, any help ..
See your Dr it may be a liver issue. Ask about the spots whilst your there. It dosen't sound normal to me sorry.
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i am considering buying it but im not quite sure if its all its hyped up to be..can i really lose 10 pounds in two weeks? has anyone tried it and have success or non success stories? please help!
any info appreicated!
Hi, I bought my son (16yrs)an Ab King Pro he reckons it has to be used preceicly as directed or it doesn't work meaning the muscles are not defined accuratly but on the other hand if does tone and shape no harm in trying it you can always sell it if you don't think it's working. I tried using it I am 5'2 and I can just reach the handle with my finger tips which is a lot of pressure on my hands, it's a bummer being short. I hope this helps
You asked is it the same? if your sit/lying in a press up style chair with a csemi circular bar in front you have to press it down then yes.
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