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how to stop attitude from a "friend"
hi i'm 16 female. i have this friend who this year became more involved in my life. the beginning of the school year was great we were getting along. starting around november she began acting differently. she's been giving me HUGE attitude and treating me like crap. i didn't do anything wrong that i know of and if i did do something wrong that i didn't realize i did it definitely wasn't anything terrible enough to be talked to like this. it's like that vibe you get when you know someone doesn't like you and has been talking about you behind your back. some days we talk nicely and civilly and then the next day she's really mean. i don't get it. she's not like this to everyone, just me and maybe a few others. she will tell secrets in front of me and if i ask what they're talking about she'll just say nothing and giggle. i swear she acts like she's in middle school. i'm a high school junior and never before in my high school career have i come across someone so immature. i haven't been reacting to it because i've been just blowing it off and acting civil and polite. so my question is, what can i do to end this treatment once and for all? i'm a human being and she is not superior to me and i need to be treated fairly and nicely. i will not put up with this any longer. by the way she is not confrontational at all she will do anything to avoid talking about it, like if i ask what's wrong she'll say nothing with an attitude but it's obvious there is. she will do anything to avoid confrontation. please help.
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Maybe there people messing with her head. I once maybe little like that. I had a reallly good freind and we ewre close and sometimes other friends we had din't like our freindship and sometiems i think they try to temp me belive things that kinda got carry way in my mind or sometimes maybe just try someothing different. ask if she like to see a movie or something. try carry on converstion and talk to her litte more and ask her if she hase anything she like to say and promise her you will not get upset and that you want be her friend and help and that tell her if she hoding a grudge or holding something in her chest is not healthy. Just keeping being nice and tell her she need treat you like she wants to be treated. frist thing ask her hey let me ask you something. what if i was treating you way your treating me would you like that somone being mistreated. we sould treat people how we want be treatd. hope I help. don't blow up in her face or anything i know you say your try be polite. maybe she don't know how open up but if she odn't then tell her that friendship not work if we don't talk.
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The next time she talks cheap & nasty look her square in the eye & ask her "what is your problem?" Why are you so nasty and offensive to me?" When she says her trade mark answer "NOTHING" TELL HER IN NO UNCERTAIN TERMS that's an out & out lie & I DON'T BELIEVE YOU I DON'T BELIEVE YOUR MY FRIEND I DON'T BELIEVE YOU CARE ABOUT MY FEELINGS. Be forthcoming and say if you don't come clean and ditch the bitchy persona your just going to have to find some other idiot to abuse because I am out of this friendship. You do not have to put up with this abuseive girl if she won't come clean you cannot go to the next level of a friendship if she serves no purpose to you she's holding you back so get rid of her and find NEW friends. Through out life friends come & go they are not always a life time thing but a learning stepping stone to the next level and new friends. REAL friends care, care so much they would never dream of hurting you. when it hurts let it go you will surrvive. and be better off she may get a lesson in how NOT to treat yopur friends. But you did give her the opportunity to come clean too many times. If she won't come clean then you discard what is no good for you. You sound like a nice girl you'll make nice friends easily enough she's not the only pebble on the beach. Ask your other friends how do they feel about her? If she does it to them if she dosn't she is discriminating against you. this is not a friend.Sometimes you have to face your monsters to make them go away. I hope this helps. Good luck sweetie.
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ok im not an expert but this is what i would do...invite her out or to your house or somewhere and be firm and get staright to the point with her..if she wont come to your house (alone) or anywhere then just keep trying or wait for the right moment when shes alone make sure theirs no other friends around so she can just walk off from you and ignore what you want to say..speak to her and say look your my friend and i like you i just want you to answer me and ask you why do you treat me like crap..i dont deserve it and its really hurting and upsetting me...am i your friend or not?..if your my friend you wouldnt speak to me like this...just make sure she cant walk off anywhere thats why im saying at your house or somewhere..i know cutting her out of your life isnt an option but when you speak to her if she just replies "nothings wrong" just say ok go and i wouldnt speak to her to be honest because shes not a friend she sounds like a bit of a bully and a nasty piece of work..so yeah just get to the bottom of it and if she wont explain herself then i wouldnt be friends with her..try and make some new friends and just ignore her when shes around..eventually maybe she will realise what she has been like (i had a friend like this onece) good luck xx
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