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Friends don't respect my job
I have 3 best friends that I spend all of my time with. However, I'm the only one that has a job, and they don't respect that. They're always asking me to pay for them, to drive b/c "I have gas money", they always ask me to call in sick to work to hang out with them instead, and they get mad if I don't want to stay out late b/c I have work early in the morning.
I'm not trying to be a party pooper, I just don't want to screw up my job. What should I do? They don't seem to get it when I talk to them about it.
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They're not your friends, they're assholes. If they really cared about you, they wouldn't make you drive them everywhere, nor would they make you buy them everything or ask you to take off of work. I can understand once in a while, but if this is a consistent thing & they always get mad when you say no, they're not your friends.
They're jealous, & they're using you. Ditch them, plain & simple.
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this is funny, cuz i was in the same exact situation. but nothing i said, could get them to stop disrespecting me, and it was simply because they had no idea what hard work was. there's no easy solution that i can think of, what happened with us, is that they grew up eventually and got jobs and now they know what i was talking about.
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I commend you for your dedication to your employment responsibilities Your totally responsible for your self you will go a long way in life and get the things you need and want. There comes a time in everyones lives when you have to look at the crap on your plate and get rid of it if it's garbage... clean it up so to speak. Are these 3 friends your children? No are these 3 friends your family? No are these 3 friends giving you something in return NO. then it's time to let them go so they can learn to fly like you have. They are not friends if your wallet puts the gleam in their eye. If this is too hard do, Then do what I do with my kids I use a plastic savings card I only carry a small amount of cash IF I need it (otherwise my purse is always empty) for take-away food for myself & my kids if they are with me to eat a pie & drink. Other wise you can eat when we get home. Now I had a so called friend named Karen, I offered her $10.00 petrol to take me to the next town once. She gladly did this a few more times then she started popping into my house (I believed she was a genuinly there to see me) she would invite me to drive somewhere and asked me for petrol money. I was immediately responsive to this This dosen't seem right You invited me why am I paying But I somehow felt obliged She totally lacked social ettiquette. I bet she dosen't do this with any one else I thought. She didn't see me she saw $$$ Then she started coming to my shop with her kids sometimes they would control my computer drink my soft drink for free and I would be left talking to Karen out the back she clearly was working me I see that now because she couldn't look me in the eye for long & constantly interupted me with matters around her and even tried to serve one of my customers which I promptly put a stop to I work here not you these people are MY customers. Talk about taking over. She came to my shop 2,3 times a week for about 6 weeks towards the end screaming she was going to loose her house she needed $800. to pay her mobile bill so she went on and on about it emotionally draining me... to shut her up I gave it to her. I helped her clean a 4 bedroom home for the owners arrival for free she got paid $500. I was clearly her friend sadly she wasn't mine. Karen suddenly stopped coming around for good. I heard later but I cannot prove it she had a speed habit. OMG #*@! OFF. I felt used for my money. I am better off with out her in my life & your 3 friends there not the only people in the world. You just got to do what is right for yourself or people will swallow you up and spit you out. You work for your money you spend it your way you have bills rent food toiletries travel expenses it only goes so far it's not a bottomless pit.
Tell them to get a JOB. BOTTOM LINE
You don't owe your friends a living.
Hope this helps.
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You're going somewhere in life, they're not.
You really need to put your foot down.
You're mature and responsible, obviously they're not.
Tell them no, if they don't have money, they should would.
Stop paying for things, you're not their mother.
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Sounds like they are freeloading and using you for rides and cash. Doesn't really sound like best friend behavior to me. You're already really busy, you don't need this bs on top of it all. Honestly, I think you should either get new friends or distance yourself from them a bit until later. I mean, if you already have tried to explain your situation and they still do not care to understand, then they can be on their own.
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what it souns like thier useing you your the one going to work so mabee you can save your money this means you have a life.yes its ok to go out some times. but if people cant respect you that you have to go to work what kind of friend are they any ways. mabe thier upset they dont get to see you but don't let them control you.you got a job yuor being mature thats what life is go to work so you can have things learning life as you go along. saving money for college a new coat or what ever you work hard for your money. tel lthem to go get a job your not thier atm. what wil lyou have left if you give to them. the more you give the more they know they can get out of you.you need to put yuor foot down.but really it looks like your growing up and thier failing to resect you cause if a women was staying home and the man went to work it woudl be the same way the women cant get mad if he workin gotta pay bills some how. tell your friend your bizzy you got bills to pay yes like i said if your realy to go out you got free time that ok but if i were you find some new friends that can deal with you not ones that or e going to use its up to you but if you keep letting it go thier going to keep doing it to you hope the best for you.
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