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first time.
i'm 17, please don't ramble on about if you think i'm too young for sex...i've been with my guy for over a year and i have that amazing connection with him. i feel like i'm ready to have sex with him but i always get doubts...i think i'm always going to get doubts though until i actually do it and get the "first time/painful" thing out of the way. the doubts have absolutely nothing to do with him or not trusting him...it takes me a lonngg time for me to even be close to trusting someone but he has my life in his hands and i know hes loyal. so are these doubts about like it hurting and pregnancy normal? i'm just scared i guess...i get ridiculously wet though so i should be okay right?
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To put it bluntly my first time did hurt really bad. BUT, I would not have changed it for the world because it was with someone I truly trust and love and the emotional connection and act of giving that piece of me to him way overpowered the pain. I guess you just have to make sure that he is the right person.
Advice: Use a condom and even if you do get really wet I would still slather him with lube, I mean, why not? lol
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You'll be pleased to know the first time is not all that painful. it's a sort of pain & pleasure It's more of an emotional connection you only have with a lover that makes lovemaking a beutiful experience, on a scale of 1-10 it's about a 1 for pain 11 for pleasure even if you don't climax you will be happy you were intimate with the guy your inlove with. My husband dosen't make me climax but I don't care about that it's not my priority I wouldn't like anyone else, he's my man I love him no matter what. Our life together is much more profound than a few minutes pleasure I can't do myself. Get prepared for protection against unwanted pregnacies too soon. etc. Check into a resort for a weekend where you really feel special and are undisturbed. you know when your ready so get yourself prepared. Tell him to take his time you want the foreplay to last as long as possible so the journey is worth the destination.
Enjoy the mood. Good luck
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I find that I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
Are you too young to be having sex? You are now at the age where only you know the answer to that question. Having sex for the first time is something that is going to be right at different time for every person. I agree with the other advisor to find a place that will be comfortable and can relax. For you the first time comes with enough concerns, you do not need the additional concerns of a parent or sibling walking in on you. If possible try to get a motel room.
Concerns about pregnancy are normal for any single woman. If you are planning on becoming sexually active you should talk to your doctor about birth control. Condom usage is a must; not just birth control but for disease prevention. Yes, you stated you trust your boyfriend and you have been going out with him for over a year. Still you do not know who his past partners where. Unfortunately in today’s world every time you have sex with someone you are also having sex with all their past partners. So condom usage is important. If you have never used one before practice putting one on with a Banana or Cucumber. I know it sounds silly; but practice makes perfect and in this case protects you which is most important.
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I don't think you are too young for sex and it's really refreshing to hear that you have waited over a year and have made sure your boyfriend is the one before you go any further.
It's completely normal to have those fears about it hurting and getting pregnant,i think most girls have those fears, i know i did when i lost my virginity at 16.
First time sex does hurt for the majority of girls but that doesnt mean it will for you, and if it does hurt then just know that it is absolutely natural to do so. It may even bleed a little, but again, that is perfectly normal.
Just make sure you are careful, your boyfriend uses a condom, he is very gentle, and you do it in a safe and comfortable enviroment (i.e one of your homes, where you won't be disturbed.)
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