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Is waiting on him pointless?
OK. His name is Robert, but I call him Rabbit. We've known each other for a year and a half now. We've never met in person, but we've somehow fallin in love over all this time. He is my dream guy. Looks & Attitude. I adore him and he adores me too. We are always talking on the phone and being retarded together on txt messages. We've already promised each other we'll get married after high school, but during the time we can date other people. Our relationship is really complicated. I can't see myself with anyone else and yet everytime he says we're finally going to meet something comes up. I don't know what to do. He told me to move on and forget about him, but I love him so much and he's just everything i've ever wanted in a guy. We're both really jealous people and we talk about everything. Including other relationships. I just know that he'll do anything for me. I really wish me and him can be together forreal, but every single time we try to meet something comes up to where we can't meet. I've waited this long for him and I just don't know what to do. I've been through hell and back with him and all the other guys i've dated just don't seem to even get as close as he is to treating me right. I know he's worth the wait, but everytime I get with another guy they do something stupid to where all I can think about is being with him. What should I do? I don't want anybody else besides him, but at the same time i'm tired of waiting. Somebody please tell me what to do. :(
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almost 2 years ago I started talking to a girl who lived in Ohio. I live in North Carolina. she was cool. we developed feelings for each other and we did texts and phone calls just like you and him. about a year into it we started talking about possibly visiting each other and just like you, it never worked out. I am not sure how far apart you and your dude are but at your age it is hard to meet in person cause you cant just go on your own to see each other. I know I was there. my girl and I met in july like 3 months ago for the first time. we had the same "we can see other people" philosophy before then but now I don't want to be with anyone else. do you tell each other that you love each other? If you do then you shouldn't see other people. Before my girl and I met in July, there were a few cases where I had feelings for another girl (in my area) and i acted on those feelings. this was a mistake. If you truly love this guy tell him you love him and you don't care about anybody else and you aren't going to date anyone else. DO NOT tell him you think you guys should not see anyone else and wait for each other. as far as visiting him, before my girl and I met for the first time she was REALLY nervous. She told me she cried and was scared that I was going to think she was annoying or something. although he is a guy and probably isn't going to cry about it he might just be a little nervous about leaving the comfort zone of texts and phone calls. you cant know someone well without being with them. and to tell you the truth your love for each other can only go so far when all you got is text messages. I would confront him but not aggressively. tell him basically everything you said in your question above. If he has told you he loves you and is as in love with you as you are with him then he isn't going to just not want to meet you. I wouldn't go to his house. that might be a little risky. in my experience with my girl, you have to go VERY SLOW with relationships like this if you want them to last. Im sure things will work out with him.
another thing to remember is that you are going to have bumming times like this. maybe you should just wait a little while longer before you meet each other. that might be hard but you have to remember him and that your lives are going to go at different paces and maybe he just has a lot going on in his life right now and meeting in person would just add to stress and anxiety. try to wait and just enjoy what you got. look forward to him replying to your texts and your phone calls.
maybe write him a letter or two just saying hi or something. he might not reply cause he's a guy but If you make it a special letter then i guarantee it'll make him feel good to read it. I have a huge bider full of letters from my girl. also send things to him. my girl and I bought a johnny cupcakes t-shirt (in my size) and we mail it back and fourth every two months or so and put other things in it. grab hold of his heart. i feel like a queer telling you all of this but my girl took hold of my heart and i like cant help but being like this about similar things.
Gah sorry this is long and kinda off topic but bottom line is go slow, be patient (love is patient) me and my girl were patient and now like i cant explain how much I love her just putting my arm around her waist is absolutely amazing. we're waiting to get married 6 years from now and yeah thats long but we know we can do it and i know you can too. you just have to try to think about what his life is like at this point and what he may be going through. It very well may be the case that it just hasn't worked out and was out of his hands.
the best way to make it work is patience and truly understanding what love is and how you should treat someone you love. Idk if you are a religious person, and even if you aren't, I would read the bible verse 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. just google it, its like a sentence long. Im not trying to convert you or anything its just basically the manual to loving someone. regardless of religion
good luck!
things will work out I promise.
send me a message if you have any more questions. I could even ask my girl her opinion.
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I think it's time to put him to the test ask him for his address and you go to his house if he is sincere he won't give you the wrong house. If someone else says he's not home wait a while he's probably in his room. I think he's having you on the only way to find out is to confront him.Good luck
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It's hard, I know. I actually had the same problem a little while ago, except we didn't get our happy ever after. My parents didn't approve and he had a few complications as well.
But I'm sure you'll be able to do this!
Don't let him shut you out of his life, Tell him you WILL NOT forget about him, that you love him!
Remind him that he promised you, he gave you his word!
It'll get easier after the first time you guys see each other.
It's kinda the last piece of the puzzle.
Insist and insist on seeing him and don't stop until you do! don't let anything stopping you come in your way. This is important to you!
This guy is worth it in your eyes right??
So girl what r u waiting for??
Go and get your happily ever after!!!
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