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My Parents
My parents don't really like me because they think i am mean at times. Like what happened today was:
Mom accidentaly stepped on my foot
Me "why did you step on my foot?"
Mom "It was an accident do you even think i will do something like that? i never saw your foot, after bringing all your stuff near you, you ask me a question like this?"
me "I am sorry i just asked it came out of my mouth"
Mom "I can't take it anymore, there is too much fights going on at home, its so unpeaceful."
Me "Cry..and finds this website which will hopefully help me"
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You are both being bitchy.
One of you is going to have to stop being bitchy, or your relationship will suffer and each time you speak to eachother, both of you will think "Oh no! Her agian. I better be bitchy first 'cause she's sure to treat me that way!"
So, stop being bitchy. Just cause your the kid doesn't mean you can't be the one to show a bit of maturity.
When your mother upsets you, don't respond right away, take a deep breath. Don't ask accusatory questions, or make assumptions about why something was done or what it meant, instead, just say what you feel right at the moment. Make your sentences about YOU, not about HER.
You might also ask her if she's upset, and what you can do to help make things better. Some of her suggestions might be nonsense, but if you listen closely you might find out that something simple (like, emptying the dishwasher or some silly little chore) will really help to calm her nerves.
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Let me assure you your mother loves you very much it is alway the behaviour you don't like and that refers to your mum's behaviour too. When she trod on your foot she should of appollogied straight away it was an accident to say nothing was rude of her and disrespectful then she gets huffy because she had to called upon to justify that. you should remind her of her manners. this happened to me-One day my little boy 6 at the time was being impudent I asked him did you leave your manners at school? pretty soon he got me back when I was being unreasonable he asked me did I leave my manners at work? I had to smile. I had to realise it works both ways. Teenagers are finding themselves it's difficult time in your life finding yourself. ask your mum to be kinder & respecful to you you need her to teach you the ways of life lead by example. If she isn't teaching by example how are you going to learn to improve on her method ask her to be a team player Your not that far away from being an adult and you need her to help with the passage from child girl to a adult woman.good luck I hope this helps
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try and help your parents around the house a lot. they will really appreciate it. Offer to help with dinner taking out the trash etc. just be helpful and use polite manners like thank you sir and mam. things like that show them you can change so can they.
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well, since i dont know you're total living situation, all i can do is answer to the best of my knowledge. but maybe if you tried to put yourself in your mom's shoes it might help a litte. when a mother has a daughter, she has a new best friend that thinks the world of her, that is until the baby grows up...maybe she's as hurt as you are. she probably thinks that you dont like her, or that you think she's the dumbest person on earth. that sounds harsh, but i was a terrible daughter, and i am just now starting to have an awesome relationship with my mom. we both now realize, that it takes two people to destroy a relationship, and it takes two people to make a great one. just talk to her, and if thats too hard to do, start by writing her a letter. i cannnot count how many letters i sent to my mom and dad. i hope this helps. and remember, you dont want to lose your parents, cuz in a couple of years, you are going to need them(especially your mom), like you've never needed them before. :)
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I hate to say this first part, but been there, done that, got the scars to prove it... What you are dealing with is not easy, yet over time it gets better! Five things you need right now are a note pad, a diary, a cell phone, a pen, and faith. Leave notes for your parents saying 'I do love you, and I am sorry!' adding in any details you want.
Write all feelings/emotions in your diary, leaving it open on your bed. When you are feeling hurt by your parents don't imediately say any thing, yet go out of view an grab your phone. Call some one, even a church, or if desperate-an imaginary friend(don't scoff yet)... start the water works, and explain your feelings on the phone and loud enough for your parents to hear-preferably while in view at this point. I know it's hard, but I had to run away to save my own life, went through a few years of therapy, and hate when other kids are facing what I did. I wish you luck and will always be available to help out!
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