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I'm an average girl who knows alot about life and has experienced a lot in life. I enjoy music alot. It is my passion. I love to sing, write, and give advice. If you need advice, i will be more than happy to write it.

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okaty firstly, sorry if this is long. but please read.
okay, me and my ex dated for 3 years. and i`m in 8th and hes in 7th.. and we broke up when i was in 7th and he was in 6th because he wsa in middle school and i was in highschool. and idk we just grew apart.. (We broke up september of lastyear) and we went out a few times after that when we were still in diff. schools.. but it didnt work.. and over tha summer.. we were gonna go out .. ut idk it never happened i guess.. and now we`re in the same school... (today was the first day) and now that im like around him, since we`rre in the same wing (hallway).. i really miss him.. we havent really talked but everytime he sees me he runs into me and such. i still have lots of feelings for him and i can tell he still likes me.. but i dont know what i should do =[ any advice?

14/f 13/m

Totally go for it! If you think that he still has feelings for you, and you're starting to feel things again, totally go for it. Scope him out and talk to him privatly and away from your friends. It sound to me like things will work out for the best :)

-DD

okay, well im 14 years old, turning 15 in a month. i've been with my boyfriend now for a little more than 11 months. and me and my friends were in my town the other night, and we saw these 3 really hot kids and we gave them our numbers. and they called us and we hung out that night. then the next day all my girl friends, and all the guys we met went to the movies. im going into 9th grade, and the guys we met are going into 11th. one of the guys likes me, and i think about him alot, and im scared im starting to like him too. he told me he likes me and he asked if he should like stick around. i mean idk what to do. its not fair to my boyfriend. so please please please help me!

If i were you, i wouldn't want to mess anything up with your boyfriend. If you're dating around, do it single. Aswell though, you're still young and at that age it's best to date around to find out what you like, ya know? , but this guy may just be using you, so stick with your boyfriend, but don't be totally tied down to one guy for all of high school, let loose and have fun. High School will be some of the greatest days of your life :)

-DD

I have $300 dollars to shop with and out of these stores, I need the best 5 for me and my budget. If it helps Im 13, black, 5'5, my chest is 36C, medium waistline, thick hips. Abercrombie & Fitch, Aéropostale,American Eagle Outfitters,Ann Taylor, Arden B., bebe, Express, Forever 21, Gap, GUESS, H&M, Limited, PacSun, Victoria's Secret,Hecht's/Macy's,JCPenney,Sears, and Xcape.

My top 5 would be:

1. abercrombie & Fitch
2. H&M
3. Forever 21
4. GUESS
5. Victoria's Secret

I also suggest that if you have a Jacob Connexion nearby, to try it. It is a great store.

Hope this helps

-DD

I'm 15 and in need of a job. The store I want to work at only hires people 16 and older. Should I add a year to my age? what's the worst thing that can happen & could they easily find out? I'm just wondering... thanks!

Well, if they did find out, they would probably fire you. If i were you, find a place that hires at 15, like a grocery store, and work there for a year and then apply for a job at the other place. What is one year, and it will go by fast enough. that way, you won't be jeopardizing your position at that place, and you can have money now. Win Win situation.

-DD

I have pimples on my forhead but you cant really see them but there little, And im afraid there gunna get bigger and im gunna get really bad acne because my older brother has bad acne but my older sister doesnt. and i washe my face everymorning and before bed with this olay stuff does anyone know any other ways to keep pimples away. and if im gunna start getting bad acne?

Try putting on Penaten cream at night. I know it's for like baby's rashes and stuff, but it also works on just general skin irritations. I tried it and my pimples were gone within 3 days.

I got this sunsilk shampoo and conditioner and this straighten up cream.

The brand is sunsilk. And i tihnk its new. Its in purple bottles.

I was wondering if anyone ever used it? did you like it? would you buy it again?Did it work? anything i should know?

Thanks

I love Sunsilk. I use the one in the pink bottle, for moisture, it is fantastick. I definetly reccommend it. I have had so many compliments on my hair too since i started using it.

I like going to school but i'm really really really SUPER extra nervous for high school. In our school we have ALOT of people who THINK theyre better than everyone else. They push others around in the hallway, look at you funny, always act retarded to get attention and teachers love 'em they get away with everyone. Theyre just annoying! I HATTTTTTTTE it. Is there anything i can do to stop it?

Try to ignore it if it happens. It doesn't happen in my high school, so i got lucky, but if it does happen in yours, just learn who the people are who are the bullys, and don't talk to them. Chances are, your high school is pretty big, and if you never talk to them, then they will probably leave you alone. also, stick with your group of friends in the hallways

i was at this thing w/ my friend and there were 2 guys there. she flirted with one the first 2 days and the other the second 2 and it got on my nerves b/c i dont want to flirt w/ anyone my friend likes b/c shes been my best friend since we were 2. she says she only likes one of them but it still frustrates me b/c shes got a boyfriend, 2 of her friends like her, and now this guy does too. i just think she needs to get her priorities straight. i want to tell her but i dont know how to in a "nice" way. is it wrong for me to express my concern? one of the guys she likes and likes her is one of my friends and i dont want to see him get hurt. the other guy and i are getting really close and it bugs me so much that she flirts w/ him. what should i do? thanks!

Sit her down and tell her all of that. If she's your friend, she'll understand that you are concerned about her.

-DD

How many centimeters is 4 millimeters?

0.4 cm = 4 millimetres

From June 6 through the 27 I traveled to the UK. During the middle of my trip my BF emailed me and said he was leaving to go to Iowa to visit his Grandma. He was taking his best friend Felix. When I got home from the UK, I emailed my BF because I assumed he was home. He didn't reply. So I waited and waited (I also kept emailing him). This went on for about 1 month. Finally I emailed Felix and asked if the were home yet. He replied the next day and said they'd been home for weeks. I was FUMING!!! He was at home all this time. Why won't he email me. I never said anything mean or bad to hurt him, and I feel so sad. Does anybody know why he'd do this?

*** I can't call him because his dad has a very demanding job and needs the line open all the time.

That is a good sign of Cheating!
If i were you, i would make a couple of surprise visits over to see him and find out what's really going on. Maybe actually does have an excuse. Doubt it though, but still drop by and see him!

Okay, so, im 15, and im going into my first year at high school. Its summer and there is this soar program (summer school basically) the introduces me into algebra. The thing is, I am like majorly terrified! what will high school be like once the year starts? will the people be nice? the school is like a maze, im gonna get lost for sure, I am so scatter brained! What should do? Does any one have advice for starting the school year or surviving the treacherous mayhem of algebra and puzzling world I am now cursed with?

You have absolutely NOTHING to worry about. a lot of people worry when they go to high school. Most likely you are going to be going to the same one as most of your friends anyways. Teachers are so nice, and it's not as hard as your grade school teachers say it is. You also adapt to the changes really fast, before you know it, you'll be giving this advice to someone else. It's a FUN TIME. You'll love it!!!

okay well I baby sit my neighbors and I love there kids and they are 8 and 7 but ehy pay me like 30 dollars i think it is like way too much but i dont want to say because i like just started baby sitting and they are my only clients being 13 and all i know i started a little late but what ever please help me with the pay problem do you thikn 30 dollars is too much should i set a number of dollars an hour? help me

30 dollars is not that much. I once babysat and the people gave me 10 dollars PER HOUR. They just moved here to Canada from the United states and said the excange rate was different so they should be paying more. It makes no sense but i made like 50 bucks that night, so 30 dollars is not that much.

What can you put on your skin to make it softer?

I find any Nivea product is great. It makes my skin feel exceptionally soft.

I've had a crush on a boy since I was in third grade. Now I am going into sixth when school starts again. I asked him out in fourth grade and he said "Yes I will go out with you." Everyone found out thou. A month later he came up to me and said "You know we are just friends." Then I would say "Ya, I know."
I love him not like him. He is a christain (And I am supposed to marry a christain). And I was going to go up to him and say," Why did you say we were just friends when we were going out and if it is because everyone knew then we can go back out starting now and no one has to know.
But I don't know if I should.

You should say something. For sure. think of the 2 sides. if you did, he could say yes. and you'll be happy and all, or he could say no, and then you'll know. Side 2 is that you say nothing and ponder it for a very long time wondering if something would have happened if you had sais something. You choose which you would prefer.

My only warning to you is to be careful. Being the age you are(which can't be 13, but anyhow), children at that age can be very hurtful. Peers are very pressuring, and you could have things go in a totally wrong way if you don't watch what you say. Think about what you are going to say, plan it out, and rehearse it. Look fab, and go for it!

If you ever have any other questions, I would be happy to answer. Just drop one off in my box :)
-DD

is there anyway u can increase your cup size?
thanx

Ya, there really isn't any way but to just wait, unless you want to get implants which in my opinion is a bad idea. Who cares what cup size you have anyways. If it's to fit in or to impress guys, then that is totally shallow of yourself and of the other people. People should like you for your personality.
-DD

Hi, everyone. I'm a 15 year old male, and so is this girl I like. I honestly don't know why I am attracted to her. She is overweight, and that's just a turn off for me, like most other guys. But beside the few extra pounds (actually about 30), she's gorgeous. (or so I think) She had chestnut colored brown hair, and paleish skin in contrast. Her blue eyes are amazing. We sat next to eachother in biology all of last year, as the teacher never changed the seating arrangement. We talked a lot, and I'm very shy, so it was a change for me. She talked to me first, and from then on we became very good friends. She bought me a cake on my birthday & gave it to me in class. She laughs at everything, so I don't know if she thinks I'm funny, or not. But I love it. I love talking to her, I love her laugh, I love how random she is, how different, how uncaring of what people think. (dont get me wrong, shes not a geek or anything, shes in with all the right kids, shes just overweight). I couldn't tell if she liked me, but there's something about her that makes me want to be with her all the time. As I said, this would be awkward for me, because she is overweight, and my friends would definitely have fun teasing me/her over that. I don't know what to do, I asked her for her number & aim screename, so I have those now. Whenever I see her get online, I IM her. I told her when I was doing driving school so she could maybe sign up. I think I'm just confused on what to do. Why is it I'm so attracted to her? Should I tell her how I feel? What about my friends?

- You shouldn't care what your friends think. If they are really your friends, they'll accept you for whom ever you like. Why must everybody be so shallow anyways? So what if the girl you like is a little over weigt. You said you think she's gorgeous, and so may other guys think this too, you never know, eh?....

ANYHOW

- I can't tell you why you're attracted to her. People can't really tell you that. You should just know it but it sounds like you like her because of how she makes you feel when you are with her...

- I think you should totally tell her how you feel. Don't worry about your friends. Like i said, if they are really your true friends, they'll accept the fact that you like this girl, all though they sound like jerks, but if you don't tell her how you feel, you will probably never know if she feels the same way about you. It would suck to look back and wonder too, that if you had said something, whether something would have happened!

Hope i helped. Any other questions, feel free to ask me , Ta Ta - DD

Is it more apropriate to tell a guy your home phnoe nummber or your cell phone number?

I would say definetly your cell. That way he knows it's you that will pick up, so there's greater chance of him calling....BUT....If you get into a relationship with the guy, i advise you to have each other's home numbers. First of all, it's more personal, and second of all, i was in a situaton where i only had the guy's cell # and it turned out he was living with another girl. So At first i would definetly say cell though. Then later, your home#.!!

ok
im 13/f and im gonna be going into 8th grade.
with not ever having a boyfriend, no first kiss no nothing!
and it sucks.
my love life better get better before i get to highschool
any ways i could maybe get a boyfriend or have boys get to like me more?!

You are still so so young for that. Some people may feel that they need to be in on all that type of stuff and have a boyfriend at that age, just to show off. Myself, i never had a real boyfriend till i was 16 years old, like i had one of those guys when i was 15 that it's like o ya i'm his girlfriend but we never did anything or went out literally anyways. Same with all my friends. So what i'm getting at is that 13 is really young right now. you'll probably see a difference once you get into high school! There's also no way to make a guy fall for you. It will come naturally. Guys will like you for just being you!

15/f
allright so here's the deal. one of my best friends is my cousin. im over there like everyday and i feel like such a loser because i mean ..its my cousin? and people are like gosh your always over there...shes your best friend? and im like yeahh one of them. i mean sometimes i will do other things with my friends but my cousin doesnt have many friends so she always asks me to come over. for some reason we dont do mcuh but i still have fun :D but i feel retarded because there is this cute kid that lives by them and he always sees me over there and i talk to him sometimes and he probably thinks i have no life or friends since im always over at my cousins. do you think there is something wrong with this situation? i mean i love doing things with my other friends but its always so hard to go through with plans with them because they're always working or busy! but i was just checkin to see what you guys thought. thanks

No i think this is totally fine. Family is the most important thing, and it's great that she's you best friend. I think it's totally OKAY!!!!

Okay, i dont usually do this, but i cant trust my friends with this one. I have a boyfriend who ive been dating for 13 months. in the last four months, ive started to fall for a guy i work with and have been working with for two years, we are jokingly refered to as the work couple. lately my boyfriend and i have been fighting a lot, and i spend more time at work (im working full time this summer) i dont think that i will be truly happy with either relationship, but the situation im in right now isnt appealing either. i feel like im losing interest in my boyfriend, yet i love him just as much.

what do i do?

I had the same problem. I ended up having to dump my boyfriend because he was living with his real girlfriend, but anyhow, you need to choose one or the other. Going with 2 guys is always a bad idea. You could always in the ends wind up with neithor of them. If you feel like you don't like eithor of them then i would try to move on from both of them and find someone who will make you feel like you are in a relationship you should be in. It sounds to me like you are beginning to have stronger feelings for the guy at work... You should talk to your current boyfriend about the fighting you are doing. Try to patch things up. If not, then maybe you shouldn't be in that relationship since you are fighting so much. Give the work guy a try. Explore new options. You may find yourself happier with him.
Hope i helped a bit. and i hope things work out with you. It's all up to you and how you feel... Think About It!

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