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well im kind of a shy person..but like sometimes i wanna drink..ive never gotten drunk before..but kinda close.. i mean i havent drank since this last summer..but i kinda wanna sometime soon..just a little bit! its just fun for me..it makes me all crazy..i mean i know i shouldnt be doing it..but i dont know :( most of it is nasty! but some of it is good..

what do you think i should do?
i feel guilty drinking..but its not like
i do it every day or weekend

i dont know..

I go to parties, but I'm not the drinking kind of person.

But, just try going to parties and stuff, but don't make it a daily weekend thing, I used to do that, ohhh man. Never got sleep.

So, just see where the parties are at and go hit a party up and have fun, but, make sure you bring friends with you and don't drink too much, never drink and drive or get in a car with a person who has been drinking, be safe about it atleast.

I hope this helps and if you need help with anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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how can i get a guys attention?
ive seen this guy before but i know he doesnt know me..i know he doesnt know i exist! i wanna change that :) lets say i see him somewhere..what do i do? i want him to notice me ..i want him to think WOW that girls hott..i dont really wanna go up to him because i will be like 'hi i dont know you but my name is kristen' ha that will sound like stupid..

any suggestions?

haha, everyone's asking me how to get a guy's attention tonight haha.

Dress really cute, not slutty though, you don't want to turn him off, just put a cute little outfit together. When you see him, SMILE, that's like the most important thing, I mean come on you never know who's falling in love with your smile, so why would you frown??

Try walking past him and smiling at him. If that doesn't work, try giving him alittle nod like "What's up?" Or you could always just be like "Heyy"

But, try dressing cute and walking by him and smiling at him making eye contact and see where that gets you!

I hope this helps and good luck hun. Tell me how it goes, if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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as you know this week is BREAK :)
and i wanna go out and have some fun! what can i do tho? i cant have a party..i dont ever get invited to parties..uhm yeah and i dont have a car..and i live in somewhere where its like below 0 and snowing..hah! so i dont know what there is to do? also..if i DO find something to do..i wanna meet a boy :) i mean im KINDA good at flirting..but then like if i first meet a guy my face will get all red if he asks me questions and i hate it! then he will know im shy..and i dont wanna be!! and i wanna look cute haha but i recently got my haircut and i hate it!! there are so many layers that frame my face and it looks so stupid and its really short now..so im self-conscious about that and so what can i do to make myself look 'hot'

well thanks gorgeous!
♥

I'm sure your hair looks so cute.
Try straightening it, straightening it seriously makes it look better haha, I remember one time a lady cut my long hair off soooo short with all these layers, I wanted to cry, actually I think I did, haha. Anyways, short story, I just straightened it haha. Then, when you do that, try putting cute little things in it, like barrets, or flower pins, etc.

For a cute outfit, since it's cooooold. I lived in Chicago, sooo I know how it feels. I'm not sure if you wear like American Eagle or Express or anything like that. Try wearing jeans with UGG boots (doesn't have to be UGG, but along that way, you can get like $20 dollar ones at Charlotte Russe), roll your pants up so that way your UGG boots are showing. I hope you get what I'm saying with that haha. Then, wear like a cute little sweater and a long jacket with a scarf!! Soo cute.

&& then, get your friends together and go to the mall and do some boy scouting, trust me boys will go up to you ladies. When you see a cutie, smile at him!! =D

Maybe one of your friends can have some people over once you meet some new boyssss?

I hope this hels and if you need help with anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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16/f

well my best friend is my cOusin. we have fun together! but then my brother who is 18 is like OH MY GOSH your so stupid! your best friend is your cousin? haha thats pathetic. i mean sometimes i think it is because i spend all my time over there! i pratically live over there on the weekends. buttttt i wanna start hanging out with other people too i wanna GO OUT and do stuff meet new people :) my brother pratically knows everyone im not even kidding! and im here..sittin at my cousins house and we are on the computeR..i wanna like still hang out with my cousin but i kinda wanna get away from being over there like every weekend and go out and do other stuff you know..but i dont have my license..and my parents never wanna drive me anywhere..my brother is NEVER home..and i dont know anyone that knows how to drive..and rarely my other friends parents dont like giving rides either..what can i do? i wanna become more outgoing! and then what do i do if i meet someone..and we talk on the computer..and she comes over to my house for the first time. what do you think we should do. i dont want her to be bored! i want her to have fun you know..but then we cant go anywhere since we dont have any rides..

anything will help hun!
thanks ♥

Hey sweetie.

Well, don't listen to your brother, he's just being a typical sibling and picking on you, my sisters and I do that ALL the time to each other haha, it's kinda funny though.

It's okay that you're best friends with your cousin! It's normal, my friend, one of his best friends is his brother (they're like 2 years apart). So, don't even sweat it that you're best friends with a cousin. A lot of people are actually.

If you still want to hang out with her and meet other people with her, bring her along. You could always walk somewhere and get there or invite people over. Try going to the mall and meeting people, or just hanging out with friends from school, going to a party or what not. Or see if you can hang out with your brother, just tell him you'll bring "cute" friends for him haha.

When someone new comes over to your house, just watch a movie, talk, swim/tan, walk somewhere, get something to eat, make something to eat, call some boys, etc.

I hope this helps and if you need help with anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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ok when i have my period i wear pads..its just my preference..ive tried tampons..but mine are really heavy and yeah! i know you really like tampons ..because ive read previous advice but im not gonna start wearing them again! well guess what?! i have my period for break..fun fun hah not ..

but like im going to be seeing a lot of people and i wanna wear my new clothes i got for x-mas and they are all shorteR like t-shirts..or shorter long-sleeved..sweatshirts..and like when i wear them my underwear lines kinda show thru my jeans...its kind embarassing..makes me wanna stay in the whole break..but i dont wanna make it ruin my whole break :( is there anything to reduce the pantyline?! i usually wear thongs..i just wear regular ones when i have my period..

maybe tomorrow i MIGHT try to to the tampon again..the problem is i had trouble the first time ..i couldnt get it iN! and that made me really scared..and i couldnt find the hole to put it in..my mom even tried..yeah i know weird..but i had to i was on vacation! but i still couldnt get it in. and if i do end up gettin it in for some reason..my periods are REALLY heavy and im scared it will leak..so any suggestions if i cant get the tampon in??

well thanks..

and hope you had a good christmas

Hey sweetheart.

AHH, I hate being on periods, ruins my week =( haha.

But, if you're going to wear a pad, try buying some booty shorts, god's miracle haha. I wear them more than I wear thongs. You can buy them at Charlotte Russe, Victoria Secret, Target, anywhere!! Just get the lacey kind, so it's thinner and it doesn't show underwear line.

If you don't want to get that, it might take a couple times to get the tampon in you since you're not used to wearing tampons. Since you're heavy, try getting the tampon that's needed for heavy periods.

I hope this helps and if you need help with anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

Thank you, I hope you had a good Christmas too!

♥ Kourtney

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okay..

first off MERRY CHRISTMAS :)

lOl..
soo yeah im really trying to grow my hair out!!!! my stupid hair dresser cut it soo much..i specifically told her i would like to try and grow it out like all the layers to one length..and what happens?
i SERIOUSLY have more layers and its soo much shorter! ugh i hate it..

so im tryin to keep it healthy even though i have to straighten my hair everyday..since curling or crunching it doesnt work..but i put this stuff called CHI on before..but i already see split endS? ugh BUMMER!
so anyways..is it healthier to like wash your hair and then go to bed..or like keep your hair straight and not wash it. which do you think will help it grow fasteR? i know it will take time :( but anything will HELP!!!
thanks hun

Merry Christmas to you too =)

It's healthy to wash your hair and just let it dry on it's on, rather than wash it, blow dry it, then straighten it, damages it and makes split ends come faster!

I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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ok well im about 5'7 and i have not currently weighed myself but i think i weigh about 120-125? and like to me i dont think i look fat..unless i sit down and when i have jeans on..i have like a big bulge that goes over..i mean its not huge but its enough to bother me!! but then other people tell me im too skinny? because im so tall!! i usually do anywhere from 30-100 situps each night..im not sure if thats helping. but im not sure what to do..because i mean i look fine when im standing and stuff..people even think i look too skinny..but it just bugs me when i sit down. i try to eat healthier but lately it seems like im ALWAYS hungry..and i cant hold myself back. i always eat and eat..and eat..ugH! what do you think i should do? do you think im too skinny..but what do i do about my stomache bulge?!

thanks babes

NO! You're not fat at all! You're tall and skinny, pshhhh super model =)

Anyways, everyone has that when they sit down. Bothers everyone .. ugh!! Don't you hate it.

Anyways, here are some exercises you can try doing:

http://www.mindspring.com/~ronstein/Articles2/Flatten%20Your%20Tummy.htm

I hope this helps and good luck hun!! If you need anymore help, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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SO..
im 15/f

me and my cousin always hang out together! she's awesome lOl. but anyways she used to like this one guy and i thought he was cute. well she didnt exactly like him anymore she moved on..but she still thought the kid was hott! and my littler cousin (her brother) is like 13? and he talks to this kid. the kid is in 9th grade and my cuzin is also but im in 10th grade. well i was like OH MY GOSH that kid is really hott! i said that to my cousins. and then my 13 yr old cousin was talking to him on the computer and was like yeah my cousin likes you. and i was like NOO how can i like him? i dont even know him! and then he is like just kidding she just thinks your hott. and he is like who is she? and my cousin told him..but of course he doesnt know me since we go to different schools.. and the kid is like dont know her..never seen her..never heard of her. well this made me feel GREAT. even tho i knew he didnt know who i was. but then anyways this kid is like well next time that she sees me tell her to come up to me and tell her who she is. SO next time i see him what am i suppose to say? hi im the girl that thinks your hott. it will be soo embarassing! and im pretty shy.so that doesnt help. and then later that night my 13 year old cousin was still talking to him and was like yeah my sister (his sister my cousin)thinks your really hott and he is like man whats up with your family..first your cousin and now your sister? whats next your grandpa??! so then i felT SOOOO unblievebly stupid!! now i for sure dont wanna go up to him next time i see him..i will feel so stupid! but then again maybe he will think im cute or something? I DONT KNOW!! i mean i wanna hang out with him or something..or at least try and talk to him..let him know i exist!! but then i only see him at their schools hockey games..and there isnt any going on over break! and my cousin that goes to school with him is really shy too and wont ask to hang out with him..because she doesnt really talk to him either..and i dont wanna talk to him on AIM because im not good with talking on the computer..so please dont suggest that..but yeah so i cant throw a party or anything! ugh this is soo horrible and confusing :( you dont even know..this kid is the funniest..the cutest! and he doesnt even know i exist..all the girls are over him and i guess he is goin to this party that a girl is throwin from his schoool. what do you think i should do!?

SORRY SO LONG!! i really am!
but thanks for answering sweetie
i really appreciate it!

Hey hun.

Well, try to get that 13 year old cousin who is friends with him to come over and hang out while you're there and then have him introduce you guys and then just hang out and stuff, get to know him and what not.

I hope this helps and if you need any more suggestions or whatever, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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Brown Gauchos & Brown cowboy boots.

^yes or no?

What color is your shirt?

Try to match it to the shirt, not the gauchos.

Just explain the outfit better && I'll help you more.

I hope this helps and if you need anymore help, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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Hahaha my heading thing is so freakin awesome! Lol no but anyways, oh my god are you serious? You know if you need to talk you can always IM me when im online(if i'm ever online..haha) or even leave me a message in my inbox just saying watever! I'm here for ya gorgeous =) .

Hmm my shoes probably cost around 120 dollars. Man, but they are so cute. They look like.."vintagy" lmao. You should get some! I was going to get the all black ones but then i was like nahh they look like my chucks so i was like eh no thanks. I would've bought them if i wouldn't have had my chucks. Lol. But yea. =) Well luv ya !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

♥

I love the heading.. psh of course!!

Yeah, she had a really bad seizure, she looked really bad.. but thank you!! Yeah, on AIM I'm always away haha. You know you can IM me whenever too, I'm usually at the computer doing soemthing, most likely looking at clothes. haha.

AHH, I have to buy some now, sounds adorable. I love coach and stuff like that.

♥ Kourtney

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im 15..going on 16 and i havent had a boyfriend yet. everytime someone brings up the subject about having a boyfriend i get so like nervous and self-conscious because im afraid they'll ask like oh who was your last boyfriend? how many boyfriends have you had before? and my old friend was talkin bout boys and my other friend goes yahhh but she hasnt had a boyfriend yet. and the girls like OMG WHAT? you havent had one yet? seriously?! like she was shocked. because apparently alotta people think im prettY? i dont see it but whatever. im not that good with guys i mean yah i talk to them and all ..but as friends. im way too shy to like hang out with them or something. maybe they just dont see me as girlfriend material? my best friend says maybe i may look like a bitch or something..or guys are just afraid to come out and tell me because they are scared of rejection. but actually im not kinda scared to get my first boyfriend (if that ever comes :( because i really wont know how to act since ive never had one before. ahhh please give me suggestions anything will help..seriously!

It's okay if you haven't had a boyfriend yet, a lot of people your age haven't. When you're friends question you about it, just be like "Yeah, I haven't had a boyfriend yet.. I'm just waiting for the right guy to come along.. taht's all."

Don't just go and find one just to say you've had one before, really look for a guy you really want to be with.

A lot of people are shy when it comes to talking to flirting with a guy or even talking to him. When you find someone you think is cute or want to get to know, just pretend like you're going to be talking to a friend. Just smile and giggle and stuff.

When you flirt with a guy and a guy see's it, he'll flirt back with you. If you want a guy to have your number just be like "Call me sometime" then they'll have to ask for your number!!

I hope this helps and if you need anymore help, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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is the only sexual thing you can do is making out without having the possibilty of getting a disease like STDS or AIDS ..ne thing like that?

or what is something like sexual or cuteeee or just like flirting around kinda things you could do with a boy..i know making out is one thing but i dont really know anything else?!

thanks
&hearts

If the person has an STD and you do any sexual stuff with him, you can get it too.

It just depends on what you want to do with the guy.

You can just flirt with him.
Dance with him. (grinding, lap dance, etc)
Sit on his lap.
Play with his hair.

Things like that. I hope this helps and if you need anymore help, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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f/14

I am really pretty, really nice and really outgoing.This past summer i lost about 10 pounds and i look so much better. After i lost the weight i expected that i would get alot more attention from boys and maybe even a boyfriend.Last year, i knew someguys liked me but they never came out and said it...This year i am in alot more classes with my friends and i am really loud. I love to laugh and just be myself.I look great now.. but so far i havent gotton a guy falling for me or even really alot of flirting... i am totally not a shallow person, just wanting a boyfriend, but i just want to know whats going on?!?

Congrats on losing weight =)

You should try talking to the boys too, don't just let them always come up to you to talk.

So, just get out there and flirt with them. You just have to give it time, like you said you're really outgoing and loud now, so people will notice you.

Just flirt and talk to boys.. that's all you can do. Have fun ;)

Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message on myspace.

♥ Kourtney

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Is chocolate bad for you face? like will it give you alot of pimples!? is there anything that you can eat that would help like your skin be healthier and more clearer!?
thanks babes

Try going to these websites:

http://www.gatewaytobeauty.com/potpourri/ask_readers_answers2.htm

&&

http://www.healthboards.com/acne/22905.html

Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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HI! :) im someone that asked you about my best friend likin two guys and how i thought one of them was hott but i didnt know what to do.but i found somethin out and wanted to kno what i should do noW!

Well last night my best friend called me and we talked for a bit...and i was like soo who do you liKe noW? and shes like i actually dont think i like anyone..and i was thinkin *YESSS* then i can like flirt with that one kid if i ever meet him..but the problem is how do i get her to ask him to hang out with us?! she is super shy! or just to be like yeah i want you to meet my friend..or my friend wants to meet you. because ive tried bringin up the subject like oh yeah you needa hang out with him (hoping id be there too) and then she just changed the subject tho or she just goes yeaa..so i dont know how i could get to meetin hiM! because we go to different schools so i couldnt try and meet him myself..and then like my friend has his s/n but then i dont wanna talk to him on there..so i was thinkin maybe one time i was over at my friends house she could talk to him on there for me or something? but what would she say! how do i bring up the subject with her about askin him to hang out. ahhhh! ANY SuGGESTIONS GORGEOUS?!

Hey♥

Well, that's good that she doesn't like anyone right now!!

You should try to go over to her house and talk to him on her AIM and be like "Hey this is ____" and talk to him that way! Or you could always go to her school after school one day and try to see him and get them two to talk and try to get you all to hang out.

If that doesn't work, deffinatly try talking to her about it and telling her that you think he is a cutie and want to hang out with him to get to know him.

If you need anymore help, just leave a message in my inbox. Good luck hun. Tell me how it goes.

♥ Kourtney

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this kid in my class talks to me sometimes..or well here is the story.. lets say my names kristen

this hottie in my class like wont actually have a full conversation with me..but like one day outta nowhere i will be talkin to my friend and he'll be like KRISTEN SIT DOWN! and i'll be like no and i dont know if he is ever kidding or not..then the next day he might do something like You little BITCH or Cunt or something like taht..he always says stupid shit like that..i mean i dont know if this is because he doesnt like me or what? but then somedays i feel like he is looking at me..or it could be another PRETTIER girl like next to me..i just dont know!? and its hard to flirt with him because everytime he says somethin like swearing or something and i never know what to say back. AHH what do you think!?

He sounds like a jerk to me. He's probably full of himself. Most guys that act like that, are trying to show off and "look cool" but they're really not looking cool at all haha.

Just stick up for yourself when he says stuff like that or you could always try smiling at him and see what he does. But, if I was you, I would stick up for myself.

I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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ok. i dont know how to make out. and i need help. dont try to pull off that, use your hand/or go with the flow crap. becuase i need to know what the flow is first. give me the full out instruction of this. i rate HIGH.

--lover939

Making out seems so hard. But, it's really not. I'm sure you heard "It comes naturally." Great advice huh? But, it really does come naturally. PSH, I was so scared when I first made out, because the guy was so experienced and I wasn't! But, once the person leans in for a kiss, lean in as well and once you touch the face open your mouth alittle bit and start out with little kisses. Then, you guys will start making out. If they put your tongue in your mouth, do the same, don't be sloppy about it though, just massage your tongue, with theres. Basically, just follow their lead!

&& remember, practice makes perfect ;)

I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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Hi, my name is Aaron and I'm from Irvington. I'm a religious person. Can someone tell me how to get a Christian girlfriend and make it last a long time?

Hi Aaron!

Well, you could always try going to like church camp or go to church and just get to know some of the girls there. Once you see a girl you think you're going like, get there number. But, there's no guarantee your relationship will last long, unless that is, you're older. But, don't rush yourself, give it time. Just put yourself out there and be outgoing and get to know some people.

I hope this helps and good luck finding a girl ;)

If you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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this kid i like has gotten a blowjob from a girl. i know that all boys only think about is SEX and alla that. obviously haha! but yeah i dont know what to do? because i feel like i have to do something sexual just for him to like me. and i know "yeah then blow him off" just because he would want something from me..but its not that easy! i mean i wouldnt mind makin out with him ;) i wouldnt feel very comfortable doing anything else tho..
what if he asked me? what do you think i should say if i wasnt ready..

If you're not ready, then he can't push you into doing that. I mean, the first step to anything, is kissing and then making out! And if he does ask you while you're making out, just say "Well, I'm not comfortable doing that since we're not dating or anything..." Just say something like that, don't let him pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. And if he doesn't like that answer, then you seriously need to blow that kid off. I know you like him, I know how that goes, but you don't deserve that!!

I hope this helps and if you need help with anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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my face has been really dry lately! and ive actually been puttin on alot of lotion (thats probly bad for it) but i dont know what else to put on it! and also i have a lot of pimples on like my forehead..i dont know there actually not pimples kind of like blackeads but when you get close you can see the little bumps.. *[embarassing]* and i use this stuff called noxema for your face. and i dont wanna get that pro-active stuff my mom wont let me and she also wont let me go to a dermatologist..already asked her lol. any other suggestions?

thanks love.

I had the same problem, my sister works at a dermatoligist and she said Pro-Active isn't good for you at all.

It would be helpful if you could go to a dermatoligist, because they can give you this cream.

But, you're doing the right thing by putting lotion on your face. But, make sure it's lotion you can put on your face! Just apply that every time you wash your face. And wash your face about 3 times a day. Especially after school because that's when it mostly has oil. Then put lotion on your face.

Try getting that Clean&Clear. I don't remember what its called, but it's like this blue strip, and it cleans all the oils off of your face. Try getting that!

I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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