Hello! Umm...let's see. What would people want to know about me? I'm a Capricorn (lol). I love the word uber, dislike the word moist, and dancing silly in my room lip-synching the lines to the song 'Rock Lobster' into a hairbrush is a pretty cool pass-time in my eyes. :)
I like helping out giving advice. It distracts me from my owm problems ( Ha! Ha! jk)
Love hearing from you guys! Hope I help in some way or another!
E-mail: bee_pee_tee421@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: origionally from Missouri, but right now im living in Maryland
Occupation: i babysit occassionally. When it comes to taking care of kids, I put Mary Poppins to shame.
Age: 17
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17/f
Hello, I'm a little lost right now. See, my friends have relationships that last about 2-4 months and during that time they usually get thru all the 4 bases ( if you don't know, they are french, feel, finger, and i think you can guess the last one :p) So, anywho, I've been in relationships that lng and sometimes even longer. Yet I've only been comfortable doing that with one person. The funny thing is that he thinks that I only wanted to do it because I know that my friends are more likely to do it and he says he'd really like to do it too but he doesn't want to pressure me. I keep on trying to explain to him that I want it just as badly as he does but he says that I should take some time to think about it before rushing into the decision.
I think the real reason he tells me he wants me to rethink it is because he doesn't trust me. See, I had relationships before him and he's been there thru all of them since we've been friends for a long time. I have a problem staying in relationships for awhile. I get claustrophobic and he knows this. I also sorta started to really like him when I was in a previous relationship. He knew I had a boyfriend and he told me I needed to break up with him before anything could happen between us.I broke up with him.
I think that he wants me to know for sure that I want him and only him before we do anyhting else. And I guess I can understand that... I'm not too worried about the not-having-sex think. I'm more worried that he doesn't think I like him enough to stay with him...
What should I do to help him understand that I like him and I plan on liking him for a long time to come? Especially with my reputation... :(
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Nothing you will say will change what he thinks. You're just going to have to be patient and SHOW him by your actions that you want only him. Try not to worry about the sex part until he's is completely comfortable with the relationship part. You might want to remind him though that nothing will nappen to your friendship no matter what :)
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I need a llama costume fast for a party at a friends
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Sounds like it's gonna be a very fun party ^-^ erm...how much are you willing to spend on a costume??? Cuz, there's some for sale in this website:
http://www.google.com/products?hl=en&q=llama+costume&rlz=1R2TSHB_enUS365&um=1&ie=UTF-8&ei=_lBLTJ6SGoP_8Aaewuky&sa=X&oi=product_result_group&ct=title&resnum=7&ved=0CEIQrQQwBg
But they are kinda expensive. You could possibly try to make one :)
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how do i fix my realationship ive been in for two yrs we just arent seeing eye to eye anymore he thinks its fine for hin to have female friends but gets mad when i have male friends (link)
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Tell him that there is no room for double standards. More than likely he feels threatened by other guys being around you. Explain to him how much you care about him and that he has nothing to worry about. Also, a good way to make him feel more settled about the idea is to hang out with him AND your guy friends at the same time. Make it perfectly clear that you and your boyfriend are dating by holding onto him and maybe giving him a small kiss in front of them. That way he knows that your friends know that youre taken :)
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He cuts me down and treats me like a little kid. Nothing I do is right. He play fights with me in front of his friends but is super rough almost like he enjoys hurting me. When he does that and yell me if I cry he'll just call me a baby.I'm not super annoying either, I try to help him in school so he wont fail and all he does is want to copy my work and he talks about other girls around me. He started doing this when we got in the tenth grade. Idk what to think? (link)
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Your boyfriend is being very mean and inconsiderate of your feelings. I suggest that you listen to OhMyLucyDarling and move on. You sound like a fairly good person only trying to do the right thing. I know that you don't want him to fail, but he needs to learn that his actions have an equal and opposite reaction. While you grow up to have a successful life, he could possibly... have a different turn out.
I think it's best that you just break up with him.
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I rrecentl just went through a break up and my mind hasn't been right. I keep forgetting to take my birth control and have to double up. I took it monday but forgot tuesday. So I doubled wednsday. But I forgot thursday so I doubled today. Is this going to affect me in a bad way. Like physically because of the hormones? (link)
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There are some small side effect from doubling up, it's not something you should be doing. If you are sexually active missing a day could do some damage, because there is a higher risk that you could get pregnant. Especially if you don't use any other form of protection. I think it would be best if you took MAK's advice and looked into different birth control options.
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I bought this bottle of foundation from Walmart like 2 years ago. I only used it a couple of times and then I thought I had lost it. I found it today and it's still got a lot in it. Can I use it or has it expired? And how do you know if foundation has expired any ways? It don't smell bad and it looks the right shade. (link)
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From what I've known liquid foundation should not be used after 6 months. This is because bacteria begins to grow in it. If the foundation is a powder, it lasts up to a year before it could do harm to your skin.
Also, I believe that mascara shouldn't be used after 3 months and skin care items last from 6 motnths to a year.
It might be a good idea to throw the make up out ^-^ Thanks for your question!
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I am a 14/m and I have been talking to this really hot girl this summer I met at a pool party of my friend's. We talk on the phone a lot. She even texts me. Last night she said she was really horny and we were talking and I got horny too. We thought to maybe have phone sex or something but then she said something I got confused about. She said, "You're making me so wet," and I didn't know what that meant so I asked her and she said her panties. What does that mean though? What comes out of a girl when she gets wet or whatever you call it? It must not be the same stuff that comes out of guys because I KNOW they don't have sperm and cum or whatever. Is it like egg something? What is it? (link)
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Its kinda like a natural lubricant. During intercourse, it helps the guy's penis slide in more easily. It just happens when girls get turned on as preperation for sex just like guys get an errection. So there ya go :)
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18/male
Lately I've been thinking alot about just killing myself. Also i have always been a very emotionally detached perosn and Im not depressed or anything. furthermore, I have asked some very trusted people who assured me I dont act or sound depressed. Even so, I keep getting that feeling of just saying fuck it and killing myself. lately I have been partying alot more than I used to and my life probably has never been better, but I just keep feeling like i should just end it. any reason after 18 and half years of little or no emotion, i might be feeling like this now? (link)
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I know that you say that you're not deppressed and that youve asked some people and they say you don't act like it. But I think that it would be a good idea to look at this link just to make sure:
http://helpguide.org/mental/depression_signs_types_diagnosis_treatment.htm
Now, about the suicidal thoughts, You may just be having some problems in your life that seem to have no end. The only thing you can figure out to stop the pain is to kill yourself. But killing yourself is something permanent, that you can NOT undo and, believe it or not, the problems you may be having are only temporary. I promise:)
And just remember that your thoughts do not have to become anything more. You do not need to act upon what is in your head.
I had an ex boyfriend who is a very quiet person who doesn't really share much of anything. A few months ago he started to, in his own words, "just not care anymore" It hurt to hear him say things like that. He also believed that life would either not change or actually get better for his family and friends if he killed himself. The only way we got through to him was showing him that we cared ( and making an ametuer video about how life would totally be suckier w/o him there :p lol, there was alot of laughing and crying.). He's fine now and has been going to college for a year now.
So, all I'm trying to say is that there is someone who would care if you die and it would hurt them. Think about that next time youre feeling that way and reach out to them. They will listen, I'm sure.
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how do u know if a girl want to kiss u (link)
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Well, if she laughs around you and teases you that's a pretty good sign. Also, if when youre talking and she looks into your eyes, then at your lips, then into your eyes, etc, whe more than likely wants to kiss you.
A good way of figuring her out is using this little trick:
Find a chance to sit with her, maybe a movie or something. Start off fairly close to her at the beginning. Once its been awhile, edge away from her a teensy bit. If nothing happens, scoot away a little more. Now, if she leans in closer to you to fill the gap you just made, there's a good chance that she is ready to kiss you.
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I'm a 21 year-old mother of a three year-old and a one year-old. My 3 year old has a problem following orders and as much as we punish her and hit her, I'm ashamed to say, she still won't listen. She has no hearing problems she's just disobedient. I don't want her to feel left out cause of her brother and I defenately don want to continue hitting her but I will not allow her to have her way with everything. My husband and I fight about this so much and I need to know what can I do to solve this problem. Please help???!!! (link)
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I understand youre at wits end with your daughter. I am no mother, but I have 3 siblings and very strict parents. I was beaten plenty when I did the wrong thing. I can totally get how youre upset and frustrated.
Instead of looking down apon you like some snooty rude person (*cough, cough* OhMyLucyDarling), I will actually try to give you advice, which is what this website is about. Somebody seems to have forgotten that...
When your daughter starts acting up, begin with a stern warning. Let her know exactly what she's doing that's upsetting you.
If she continues, pull her aside away from others so that you have her full attention. At this point repeat the offense that she has done and now explain if she keeps on acting up there will be a punishment. You can give an example at this time (ex: taking away a special toy or a fun day that your family had planned.)
If your 3-yr old continues, punish her. Hitting, though, should be a last resort and shouldn't be abused. Using words can often be more powerful.
Thanks for listening and good luck! :)
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So at school there is this girl that I really like. There are no other girls like her. Toward the end of the year, I talked to her more but did not get to ask her out to somewhere. It is summer and I cannot stop thinking about her and I cannot wait until I see her. So for one month I am at a class prep program. This girl that I do not know starts talking to me and being nice, I kind of like her but she's not really my type. It is pretty obvious that she likes me. I am scared that If I really start liking her then I might forget about the girl at my school. I like both but the girl at my school I REALLY like. What should I do? As you can see my name TheLonelySoul, I don't get any attention from girls so I am not used to a girl coming to me and stuff. I am usually the one sitting alone listening to music and not talking. I am, M/15 (link)
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Follow your heart ^-^ It sounds like you really like the 1st girl from school, but it doesn't seem like you know if she likes you back. Even so, if I were you, I'd wait for the one I really like.
But I'm not you. You are! Do what you want to do, cuz no matter what thing will work out one way or another. Good luck! :)
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what does flat to volume means? i just bought this shampoo and in the front it said "flat to volume" its pantene i love using pantene but i wanted to try a different kind. can some one explain to me what this means. thanks :) (link)
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It means that if you have hair that lays super flat on your head, you can can that shampoo to make it a little more poofy, ya know?
Good luck with your adventure with a new Pantene product! :)
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I know this girl at school and she's kind of weird and different. She always greets me by saying, "Ahoy!" or, "Hoy-hoy!" and I'm not really sure what to make of it. I assume it's just, "Hi!" but I don't want to make that assumption and come to find out it means something else or is a different language for something. She is particularly interested in the Japanese culture if that has ANYTHING to do with anything. "Ahoy" makes me think of pirates saying, "Ahoy matey!" but she never says the matey part so I'm thinking it's probably not the same thing.
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lol, it's just another way of saying hi. And when you say she's saying "hoy-hoy", i think she might be saying "a hoy hoy" which is just an old school way of saying hello :) My friends have weird ways of saying hi and goodbye too. Like one always says whenever he leaves " I'm off like a prom dress."
If you have any other questions, here's my email:
bee_pee_tee421@yahoo.com
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how do you tell if someone likes you. Is their a hint or something. I just dont know. And if they do. How do u ask them out. Ive been rejected once and im afraid cuz i was rejected pretty hard. Humiliated and embarrassed infront of a lot of people. I NEED HELP askin someone out (link)
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I'm not too good at asking people out. I get a little shy...(:p)but when it comes to knowing whether or not some one likes you I can help. If they find excuses to be around you or reasons to touch you, then they more than likely have some feelings for you. If they hug you more than the time needed or more times than needed, that's another sign that they could like you.
As for the whole asking-someone-out thing, all I can say is good luck :)
Here's my email if you have something else to say:
bee_pee_tee421@yahoo.com
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this is more of a poll than a question, but: WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF I KISSED YOU? if i was just some guy in your class that you didn't really talk to, but you knew my name. and i just randomly kissed you, out of nowhere. i have a pic on my profile, so u can look at that if it helps. (hint hint) (link)
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lol, interesting question...um, haven't looked at your pic but I think you might have a better success rate if you talk to the girl first. Unless youre a really bad conversation-maker and a really good kisser :p
Oh, and let's just say I'm this girl: if I don't talk to you, do I still know you enough to think youre cool? Or do I just know your name and that's all? cuz that makes a big difference.
If you have more questions, you can email me:
bee_pee_tee421@yahoo.com
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Im 13. I love guys, and couldnt date a girl (i need masculinity) but i have imagined being with girls, and i wouldn't mind kissing a girl (my bf thinks it'd be hot). I think some girls are hot and i think im slightly attracted to them. and les p*rn turns me on. I don't know if im bi, or if its normal for a straight female to feel this way. (link)
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You just might be bi and there's nothing wrong with that. You say that you need masculinity and there are some girls who are more manly. Still, it just might be the age that youre at. Ya know, a phase that you'll sooner or later grow out of. No matter what its cools!!! Just be happy being yourself!
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I've recently got in touch through msn with a guy friend whom I knew like 6yrs ago in a club. We only met once.
We've been exchanging msn messages for about a month now, almost everyday. We share about everything from our boring daily lives stuff to issues that we can debate on. Slowly and I think I'm kinda interested in him and want to know him further but it seems like it's pretty hard to meet him up. He sounds keen but yet he said he's pretty tied down with stuff.
I feel like we're just pen pals and yet there's something special. Do you think we are going anywhere or am I thinking too much?
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Anything's possible. If you feel like there is something there, then he might too. Have you actually told how you feel or even just hinted it? You might want to, that way you'll know where he's coming from on all this. He could maybe not be interested in you like that.
I just want you to know that when it comes to over-thinking I cant be beat :) I dont think that youre thinking too much at all. I believe what youre thinking and the extent to which youre think is completely normal.
Hey, just think: if this works out to be something, it would be a great story to tell considering how youre keeping in touch and how long ago it had been since you last saw each other in person.
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This is kinda long but I want you to fully get where I'm coming from.. and I greatly appreciate all answers because I have nobody else to ask for help about this.
My family moved to a new town in Texas, all the way from New Jersey. Even though I've been here since March I still feel like the new girl. I'm 16 btw. So far its summer vacation and I've only hung out with a girl from school once. The rest of my summer I've pretty much spent at home on the computer, at volleyball practice, or visiting relatives. I don't want my entire summer to be a waste.. how do I make friends with people? Should I always be the one inviting them for things?
One of my regrets for the summer is I tried inviting a group of people to a concert and I said my mom could pay for it so they should give me the money, and she would only buy tickets once she got the money from everyone. But they gave me the money too late and the show sold out. I hope they still aren't mad for me for that.. but it wasn't my fault cause I kept reminding them about it. Next time everyone's gonna have to buy their own tickets themselves. But I dont know if because of that those girls don't want to hang out with me anymore, cause they really did want to go to the concert but I gave them over a week to give the money and they gave me the night before the show.
I dont know what to do now.. I cant just keep inviting them for concerts and thats the only time I see them. But those people I invited were nice and I hung out with them during school.. you think they are still holding the concert thing against me? And.. I guess Im pretty socially inept.. I was pretty bad with this sort of thing in my old town too. I live in a big neighborhood and I know a couple girls from school who live here. Should I just ring their doorbell and be like "hey, wanna hang out?" but what do we do.. just walk around the neighborhood? Its sad but in my life I have little "friend experience" like that.. I don't know why cause I think Im a cool person I guess but people didn't really invite me for things so I didnt have the confidence to invite them either.. I feel like I dont know what to do.
I cant invite people to my house cause there's nothing to do but watch tv or go on the computer.. we still need to buy a lot of stuff for our new house cause its bigger than my old one. So should I just randomly invite people I think are nice to movies and the mall and etc? Ive never even been to the mall with friends before. Do you just walk around and just look at clothes? Sorry if this sounds pathetic.. ugh. Im a very social person so I dont even know how Im in this situation.
Im going to be on the school's volleyball team too and over the summer we have practices but I feel awkward around them because they all know each other cause its a small school, and I just moved from a big school so Im not really used to that. Like they have their conversations and I dont want to intrude, also cause I don't really know what they're talking about. And then I hope they don't think Im shy cause I dont talk alot cause of it. Their parents are really nice and in my old school the volleyball parents were just to themselves.. I guess its just the Southern hospitality thing? But it makes me awkward that the parents are so nice and welcoming like that.
Ugh what can I do to make friends in this place? How do I set up hanging out with people? Like do I just text them and say "hey wanna hang out?" then what next? I want this summer to actually be fun cause most summers I've just been in my house but NOT THIS ONE. I still have a little more than a month. Help me please!! (link)
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Dude, I was totally in the same situation. See, my dad's in the military, so we moved around alot. When my family went to El Paso, TX, I had no friends. Zip, nada. And I had idea how to make them. It's not as easy once you get older. You can't just be like " Hey, you wanna color this picture of a butterfly with me?" like you could in elementary.
But Ive realized ( through tried-and-true methods) a few things that I find to be important in the friend business:
1) you can hang out ANYWHERE. It doesnt matter, as long as you are an interesting person. You just have to have an excuse. Let me explain what I mean. It's fine to just walk around with somebody, just tell them that you were craving some fresh air or something and wanted to know if they'd like to come.
2) humor goes a loooong way. It lightens the mood and makes people more comfortable around you.
3)when youre talking to some one, they like to know youre interested or that you have an opinion on the matter. Don't think that you always have to agree with who ever youre with. Be honest ( not brutally honest though) and voice what you think.
4)Remember what your parents told you when you were itty bitty and BE NICE. Nobody likes a complete jerk.
well, good luck!!! Here's my email if you need anything else:
bee_pee_tee421@yahoo.com
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I have been seeing my boyfriend for almost 6 months now and we started having sex more than a month ago. Things have been going great but now I'm in this situation where I don't know what to do.
He asked me if I was on birth control pills and I had told him yes because I REALLY wanted to have sex with him right away when we started discussing it. I'm not on birth control pills though. I know it isn't good to lie but at the time I didn't think it was going to matter a lot.
We were still using condoms every single time but last night he said he wanted to do it without a condom. I convinced him to wear one anyways but afterwards he was talking about not going to use one next time since I'm already on the pill.
What do I do? I am not on the pill and I can't just tell him I lied to him about it. I don't know how to convince him to keep wearing the condoms when he obviously doesn't want to. I can't afford to get on birth control pills right now. What do I do now? (link)
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Okay, so there's 2 very simple options.
1) you come clean and tell him that youre not on birth control.
But you don't seem to want to do that, which I completely understand. You dont want him getting upset with you.
2) GET ON THE STINKIN' PILL! If youre scared about asking your parents or something, you don't exactly have to tell them it's because youre having sex, although it might be best if you do. If you tell them that you have irregular periods and not knowing when they are coming frustrates you ( birth control helps regulate when you start and finish bleeding. Added bonus! lol) they might consider getting it for you.
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My boyfriend and I have been having sex for the past week. I let him cum inside me every time because of something he told me before. I mentioned this to my friend and she told me that he lied.
If you pee right after you have sex can you still get pregnant? My boyfriend told me that a girl who pees directly after intercourse can NOT get pregnant no matter what because everything is released into the toilet then and is like washed away. It sounded very convincing when he said it but when I was telling my friend it kind of sounded like he was just using me and that I'm stupid. What's the truth? (link)
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I'm sorry but that isnt the truth. It's sad chick, but he lied... See, you pee and have sex with 2 completely different holes in your vagina. I'm being completely serious. So peeing or anything else having to do with your bladder in no way prevents pregnancy. Next time you may want to do some research before listening to things that sound like it just might be a lie.
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