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How do I prove it to him?
17/f
Hello, I'm a little lost right now. See, my friends have relationships that last about 2-4 months and during that time they usually get thru all the 4 bases ( if you don't know, they are french, feel, finger, and i think you can guess the last one :p) So, anywho, I've been in relationships that lng and sometimes even longer. Yet I've only been comfortable doing that with one person. The funny thing is that he thinks that I only wanted to do it because I know that my friends are more likely to do it and he says he'd really like to do it too but he doesn't want to pressure me. I keep on trying to explain to him that I want it just as badly as he does but he says that I should take some time to think about it before rushing into the decision.
I think the real reason he tells me he wants me to rethink it is because he doesn't trust me. See, I had relationships before him and he's been there thru all of them since we've been friends for a long time. I have a problem staying in relationships for awhile. I get claustrophobic and he knows this. I also sorta started to really like him when I was in a previous relationship. He knew I had a boyfriend and he told me I needed to break up with him before anything could happen between us.I broke up with him.
I think that he wants me to know for sure that I want him and only him before we do anyhting else. And I guess I can understand that... I'm not too worried about the not-having-sex think. I'm more worried that he doesn't think I like him enough to stay with him...
What should I do to help him understand that I like him and I plan on liking him for a long time to come? Especially with my reputation... :(
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Nothing you will say will change what he thinks. You're just going to have to be patient and SHOW him by your actions that you want only him. Try not to worry about the sex part until he's is completely comfortable with the relationship part. You might want to remind him though that nothing will nappen to your friendship no matter what :)
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Dont talk about it with him or anything. It may take time but sooner or later it will work out. A relationship should not be all about the physical stuff first. If you start off physical in a relationship, you may not end up having a good relationship. Since you have been friends for so long, he is probably also just worried about losing a friendship in the end. Just give him his space and let things take their own course. It will work out to what its supposed to be in the end.
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