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My 3 year old is completely out of control and I need help!!!
I'm a 21 year-old mother of a three year-old and a one year-old. My 3 year old has a problem following orders and as much as we punish her and hit her, I'm ashamed to say, she still won't listen. She has no hearing problems she's just disobedient. I don't want her to feel left out cause of her brother and I defenately don want to continue hitting her but I will not allow her to have her way with everything. My husband and I fight about this so much and I need to know what can I do to solve this problem. Please help???!!!
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i absolutely agree with beepeetee however i also think that maybe a time-out or keeping them in during fun activities would be very effective
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I understand youre at wits end with your daughter. I am no mother, but I have 3 siblings and very strict parents. I was beaten plenty when I did the wrong thing. I can totally get how youre upset and frustrated.
Instead of looking down apon you like some snooty rude person (*cough, cough* OhMyLucyDarling), I will actually try to give you advice, which is what this website is about. Somebody seems to have forgotten that...
When your daughter starts acting up, begin with a stern warning. Let her know exactly what she's doing that's upsetting you.
If she continues, pull her aside away from others so that you have her full attention. At this point repeat the offense that she has done and now explain if she keeps on acting up there will be a punishment. You can give an example at this time (ex: taking away a special toy or a fun day that your family had planned.)
If your 3-yr old continues, punish her. Hitting, though, should be a last resort and shouldn't be abused. Using words can often be more powerful.
Thanks for listening and good luck! :)
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Beautiful, Another parent that hits their children...for christ sake
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normally i would tell you to spank them but you already have aparently try taking things away from her
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Have you ever heard of Oppositional Defiant Disorder? It is a learned behavior of "I'm not doing what you say because I don't have to". My mom has a brilliant way of punishing children. She uses reverse psychology. If your three year old throws a tantrum, for instance, tell her "You know what? I love you so much you are going to stand here until I'm satisfied that you throw the best tantrums in town." It may be difficult to use this trick on a child so young, but it works because when you give her permission to do something that she thinks will make you angry, the behavior is no longer fun to do, simply because you are not angry with her.
My mom was a foster parent for 10 years, and the social workers loved this tactic.
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