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I am really outgoing. Lots of friends and alot of people that support me in everything I do. Im creative, funny, athletic, and artistic.. And i'm always here if you need advice.

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ok, what is the best way to reject a guy without giving the "lets not ruin our friendship" speech and not making them hate you? THANKS :)
annie
xoxoxo
(15, f)

I personally have always liked the "i'm not ready for a relationship and i've got too much going on" say you're busy, you have other things going on...You wouldn't have time for a steady boyfriend, and when you're with someone you want to be with them alot.. And hey, isn't that the truth? It's believable and it's true if your athletic or you have something that goes on in your life that keeps you occupied. I hope I helped!

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i have recently been going out wit this guy i am totally in love with. he has cheated on me b4 but that was after i broke up with him. The first time we started going out everything was perfect and he told me he loved me and you could really tell he meant it. But we got in a huge arguement and he called me a bitch so i dumped him. He begged and begged me 2 take him bak but i wouldnt. Latley weve been goin out on and off and he cheats on me sumtimes. Is he doing this just to get bak at me or is he just not into me?

I think this guy is scared of comintment.. But if you keep taking him back he might think that he can still be with you and cheat on you because he knows he can use you as a re-bound, and he can always come back and he knows you will take him back. He deserves to be broken up with, even if he does love you. Why would he cheat on you if he loves you? And why would he call you that when you haven't hurt him, and you've been faithful? Hun, move on and find that special guy, there's one out there for everbody, you'll find the right one that treats you with the respect you deserve! I hope I helped!

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Im really depressed right now..and i dunno why..its weird. How do i cope with it?

You are probably just having a down point in your day or in your week, or maybe month.. It happens sometimes when your alone or your feeling kind of left out.. You can't really "cope" with it.. It's just there, the only thing that can pretty much forfill that is happiness or a great day. Don't worry sunshine, the storms are movin away, you'll be much better.. Just keep your head up and live life. Spend alot of time with some friends, and make new ones! that's always awesome, keep yourself occupied so you don't even have to think or come across depression..But when it's there, fight it off, make plans!

Hope I helped

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my boyfriend wants to have sex but I don't know if I'm ready what should I do?

Explain to him that you're not ready, you would know if you are ready. And obviously you aren't. SO just talk to him about it, and if he can't accept that you aren't ready, then there's a problem with him, not you.

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Hi i have a gf and her 16th birthday is coming up soon and i have no clue what to get her.. I was thinking like a necklace with a heart on it... Do u have any suggestions?

I like the necklace idea that's really sweet of you, or a braclet, or if your not thinking about going all out, maybe a boquet of roses or something that's really sweet, get her a sweet card and tell her how you feel about her and how much she means to you. Or maybe a teddy bear or stuffed animal but that's kind of for the "puppy love" so do whatever you feel, good luck babe!

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my girlfriend is amazing. i am truely honestly blessed to be with her, she is so perfect. the problem is sometimes we get in arguements over really stupid stupid shit, and when we do i feel so extremely guilty and torn up because she is so nice and sweet, she never deserves to be hurt. i know all relationships have things that need to be overcome, but i just cant take it when i hurt this girl. she is so sweet and great to be with, and she would never hurt anyone. how do i make myself feel less guilty about it?

Well every couple argues once in awhile, even about the stupid stuff! So don't worry! But just appoligize if it was your fault. Maybe if you do something wrong show up at her house with a rose or something sweet, girls LOVE the romantic stuff. Or maybe just leave a rose on her porch if it's late and put her name on it. It will make you feel alot better to know that you did something for her, or maybe if you aren't fighting, do the romantic stuff anyways. We absolutely LOVE it! Just tell her how sweet she is and how much she means to you.. She'll appriciate it. And it also shows that you pay attention to her, but don't go over board with the sweet stuff you dont want to seem liek youre stalking her, just do it once in awhile, so you don't scare her off! I hope I helped you out, let me know what happens! Best wishes for you and your girlfriend!

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What is worse for you; throwing up or taking laxactives? I was just wondering which form of bulimia is worse on your body.

They are both awful! If you're doing this to yourself you need to get help. I used to do belemia and it's not worth it at all, it's like a sickness if your doing it! Get help as soon as you can!
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I am 15/f and I always end up liking younger guys. Usually guys that are 14. Is there anything wrong with that.. cause some of my friends think it's a lil weird.

No there's nothing really wrong with that I mean if they were 10 i'd ask you what you were doing. No but that's fine, alot of girls in my grade go out with younger guys, it's not a big deal. They usually like the older girls anyways! haha!
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Hi, I'm 14 years old and my mom doesn't allow me to wear thongs!!!! So she makes me buy the regular kind or boy briefs, whatever. I used to own a whole bunch but I think she threw them away so now I only have one. And my question is that if a guy finds out that I don't wear thongs then they will think I'm not good enough, or sexy. And I don't think they should base it on that. But I feel really insecure and not good enough because I don't wear a thong. What should I do? How do I get over this? Thanks for your help!

Well you don't really want to go behind your Moms back in the first place. I mean come on also, youre 14 you don't really need to think about being sexy or any of that, it's not like youre going to go out and have sex every day. You can wait to get them, their not a big deal, their just underwear. So just wait and maybe ask your mom why she won't let you wear them.

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Last yr my bf cheated on me 3 times so i broke up wit him. Yesterday he asked me bak out and i said yes because i have liked him all summer.But i am afraid of him cheating on me again or breaking up wit me way too soon like he used to. Please help me what should i do?

Don't give him anymore more chances, I know you care about him.. But obviously he doesn't care about you as much as you care for him if he's was cheating on you that many times. I'd say you should break up with him immediately, because he thinks he can keep getting you back so then when he has you, he'll just do this all over again repeadily. dump him, he's not worth it! You already gave him more than 3 chances, three strikes, he's out!

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does anybody know any good love songs?
thx.
erin

+I love the song by brandy called
"Have you ever"
+Mary J. Blige
"Love at first sight"
+Kci and jojo
"All my life"
+Ginuwine
"Differences"

Theres a couple..let me know if you want some more.
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Hey what is the best make-up for back to school?like what is the best
cover up/foundation/powder
eyeshadow
lip gloss
eyeliner
mascara??????????help!!!plz!!i rate:-]

You're just going back to school you don't really need that much makeup, you just want to show up and look fresh and clean, don't over do the coverup at all, maybe you don't even need it! Just put a little bit of blush and powder on with some mascara, the than will definately look good with the makeup, it will all blend it, so all you really need is maybe a little bit of light blush, little powder, and some mascara..but if you want to match a cute outfit that you have put that color of eye shadow on to finish the look! Hope I helped!

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Hey, umm I just broke up with this guy...and after spending a day with his brother...I realize...he's the perfect guy. I don't know if I should tell him I like him or not...another problem is that one of my best friends likes him a lot...Do I tell him i like him, just so he knows? Or do I keep it to myself?

Please help!


**Confused!

I think you should tell him that you like him, don't keep your feelings all up inside you, and worse case senerio he'll just say "i dont feel the same" and you will still be friends.. But hey, I told one of my good friends I had feelings for him, and it made the realtionship stronger and closer.

Alright about your friend, you both like the same guy, it wouldn't be good to split best friends up, and it might not happen.. Just tell the guy how you feel and if he feels the same, that's awesome. If he doesn't like your best friend, that's not your fault. But if he feels the same about you go for him, you can't help who you have feelings for. But he could have feelings for your best friend, and not you, but no matter what im sure you and him will always be friends. I would tell him for sure.
Hope I helped

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Hi I am 16 f and i was raped and the guy who did it told me not to tell anyone.so i havent said a word to anyone until now but the thing is my bf wants me to have sex with him but im not ready cuz it was just recently that i was raped. should i tell someone what happend or just not say a thing and try having sex with my bf? I rate.

Okay hun, this is really a bad situation, you should go to the police, rape is a crime, also go to the doctors, make sure you didn't get an STD or if your pregnant or not. But if you are pregnant, don't get an abortion, please. Tell your boyfriend about what happened, you dont really need sex right now, you're probably scared to even do anything sexual right now. This is a really delicate situation, get help!

Hope I helped, Best wishes!

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hey my mom said whenever i want to become sexually active she would give be birth control pills does that mean she cares or not?

Good question. I'm religious, and so is my family. I think it's wrong that you're having sex if your not married, but hey if your ready and you think you've found the one then yeah.. She wants you to be safe, but pills or condoms don't fight STD's...

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i'm 12 and i started my 1st period june 15. i heard u were supposed to get it every 28 days and i'm about a week late if that's the case! could i be pregnant, i mean i havn't had sex, but could i be? plz help!

No you're not pregnant you can't get pregnant unless you have sex. Sometimes periods do come late, sometimes they come early. You have nothing to worry about, it's completely normal. Hope I helped!

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SORRY IT'S SO LONG, I JUST NEED TO EXPLAIN THE SITUATION
this is for a friend, i promise, not for me

well my friend is 16 years old, and she has DD breast size, she wants a reduction, and her parents full back her, but everwhere she goes, they say she has to be an adult

well lately she's been having back problems, and none of the medication is working, she really wants them reduced, she said that she cries herself to sleep a lot, and she's depressed because the guys only like her for her boobs, and not for her, and she's on medication for that, she had a boyfriend, but he ended up just bein a pervert, and wanting sex

I was wondering, is there anything she can do to make her boobs shrink just a lil bit¿?¿?
she actually wants C's but doesn't know how to get them

Well for right now, since she can't get a reduction, she can go on the atkins diet for a little while, this happened to one of my friends, she went on it for awhile and lost one cup size, so it might help her out a little. Make sure your friend stays off of her feet as much as possible, my cousin had this problem. All you can do otherwise is stand by her side and be there. she needs support now more than ever.

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what r the symptons of being pregnant?

You may experiance morning sickness, and you won't get your period, feeling "blah" alot..maybe noticing some buldge in your stomache area. You might lose your temper quickly also. Hope I helped

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I've been really depressed since i graduated middle school back in june, but its not really obvious to my friends and family. Well, maybe it is, but they don't really ask me about stuff, and let me know that they can tell i'm depressed. I dunno if i'm ever going to feel better, and I just wanted to know if anyone had tips of moving on from a broken heart.
Thank you.

I went through the same thing. It's hard to move on, especially if he's a really good friend and you have feelings for them. I had alot of help and I went through ALOT of depression, I started to go belemic.. But then I quit. Things will get better, and life will go on. There will always be that missing link in your heart. But maybe you will find someone to fill it. Just always remember, no guy or girl is worth that much pain and when you find the one that is, they won't put you through that.

Hope I helped, best wishes

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Im having this party for my birthday but im not sure if i should invite one of my friends because im kinda worried that she might end up trying to hook up with my bf. Shes had a crush on him before i went out with and it seems like she still does. Ive talked to my bf about it and i know that he wont try anything with her but like i said... its her hooking up with him that im worried about. She knows that i MIGHT be having a party but that im not sure. We are friends but i barely talk to her since she goes to another school. Should i invite her?

Well why are you even friends with this girl if you can't even trust her? No I wouldn't invite her you don't want to risk anything, but maybe you do need to test your boyfriend and your friend

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