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Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 7 months now. He always shes he loves me, and how much he wants to be with me, but then he goes and hurts me. He always says hes doing one thing (Homework) and then his best friend texts me and says (Connors over with Amy right now!) Amy being someone I'm not on great terms with. She thinks Im no good for Connor.
He does other things too, he always says things that offend me, but I always tell him they offend me, and sometimes he just shrugs whatever it was off and doesn't try to fix it.
What do I do? I dont want to break up with him or anything.. But I guess if I have too.. Then I have too!
All names have been changed in this story.
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I think you should break up with him. If he lies to you and then goes and hamgs out with someone who you dont like..then i would walk away before you getbmore hurt. Break ups suck but it just means your one person closer to the right guy.
Let someone treat your right and how a person deserves to be treated
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Q: I don't know what's going on. I'm really depressed..really stressed I don't wanna live anymore
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What causes you to be so sad and depressed and maybe i can help you? And all kinds of pain eventually go away. I know you may not believe it now but things will get better! Inbox me anytime if you want any help
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Q: I'm a 17 year old senior in high school. I have been with this girl for a year, about 4 months younger than me. First when I met her I wasn't really intersted but after talking to her a little I found out that she was the girl I had always dreamed about. Funny , charming, caring and pretty. I asked her out and everything went well until she broke up with me because of loosing her feeling for me. On her first break up attempt I couldn't control myself and ended up begging her to stay with me. That made us last one more week but I finally accepted it on her second attempt.
After that for a few days I started ignoring her, havin a terrible time getting over her. And that ended by her calling me and telling me how she regretted it and missed me. well we talked again for a little and got back together after a week or so. I was the happiest person ever until now, that I feel like we are inches away from separating. I feel like she likes this other guy and is just trying to get rid of me.
I would break up with any other girl, looking back to my other relationships when I trully did not have feelings for ex gfs, but I am awfully attached to this girl and even thinking of seprating from her makes me shake, sweat, and get naucuis. In fact I havnt been able to eat anything for the past week.
I really need help on the ways to deal with the stress I'm gonna facing and I'm going to be facing. I know I sound like a little girl, but i have really tried. she was my first love and I love her so much that if I was older I would marry her. please someone tell me what they would do in my shoes, if you weren't under such emotional distress.
Thank you for your concern.
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Breakups are one of the hardest things to go through and i know it seems like she is the perfect girl for you. But you have to find happiness in knowing that if she is perfect for you then things will work out in their own time. I can relate to you with the loss of apetite and nausea :/ but hang in there because it does get easier.
If i were you i would accept that right now your gf is unsure. You are at a young age and shes probably figuring herself out just as much as you are. Step back and end things but let her know how you feel. If she knows that you love her and really care about her but you know shw needs some time to figure out what she needs in life, she will know that you dont hate her and it wont burn any bridges.
The hard part is sticking to all of this. When you say this you have to stick to it and not show her jealousy or any other feelings like anger because that will push her further away.
Everyone deserves someone who chooses them every single time. Believe me, i have not perfected getting thia in my head at all either. But the person you end up with needs to think the world of you. They need to be completely happy and not try to leave. At this age its scary cause it seems like we arent going to find that person who treats us the way we deserve. But they are out there and im not saying your gf isnt that one. But she definitely needs time. So if i were you id try to relax. Do things that better yourself. Start excercising. Hang with friends. And see what happens in the future without waiting around for her.
Hope this helps!! Itll get easier. Promise!
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Q: I really want to ask this guy if there is any chance of us getting back togther in the future if its a possability but i dont know how to say it?
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I've been here before and my best friend gave me the best advice I could have ever asked for for me so I hope it helps you.
Why ask if there is a possiblity of you guys getting back together in the future? If he loved you then he would come back. In fact, just acting nice and not overcrowding him would bring him back faster. Your giving him all the power when you ask these things because if he says yes. Then he's assuming your waiting around for him.
Instead of being sad and dreaming about the future, live in the present. When your older and married with children. You end up with the person you are supposed to be with. But only if you trust things happen for a reason. If you only concentrate on this guy...then you could be pushing the rest away. So just trust that your break up happened for a reason and if your ex is going to come back then he will. But you asking him won't hurry the process, it may even make it worse.
I'm sorry though :/ Things will begin to look up. I know breakups really REALLY suck and if you need anything else, feel free to ask!
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Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years now. He's never rushed me into things and we both want to have sex. I wanna make sure I know what I'm doing soo I don;t look stupid (by the way I don't know much. Can I get any advice soo I can kinda chill out?? Also, I want to know what I can do AFTER we have sex soo it won't be an awkward situation??? Anything would be great (:
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I'm not sure if your boyfriend is a virgin too? But if he is, neither of you will really know what your doing and he will be just as nervous as you.
You've been with this guy for 2 years though. You know him pretty well and he isn't going to judge you. Sex is pretty easy and it takes time to know what you like. Just relax and don't worry everyone gets nervous their first time.
As for after, cuddling is always the best. After I have sex, I love taking a nap with my boyfriend and just enjoy being in his arms. You'll be fine though! :]
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Q: 21/F
Recently my ex of 4 years and I started talking again, although we had a lot of problems (cheating (him not me), jealousy, fighting (verbally), trust issues on/off breaking up to date previous exes (again him not me)) in the past we both have discussed in order for us to try again we both have to accept the past and keep moving forward and take it one day at a time. sounds good right? Wrong. The day we started really talking through it I couldn't be happier, I never wanted that moment to end because I felt like he actually cared. We broke up a year ago and I've dated other people but I never felt as happy as I do when I'm with him, he's honest to god the love of my life. Well the day after (today) we discussed all that he text me and we were just having a normal conversation but I just felt completely and utterly sad and I have no idea why? I was so happy to have him back the day before but yet today talking to him doesn't make me smile it just makes me want to cry. The past year I've been so depressed not having him and now that I have him I still feel sad... I don't get it? Our conversation we so pure and refreshing that you would think I would be happy to start over but I'm not. Is it cause I still haven't gotten over what he's put me through or what? He even noticed my mood was different (I wear my heart on my sleeve) cause he asked if everything was okay and I just said yea and he hasn't texted back. I really just need to know so I can be happy with him and not let this ruin us... cause I know if I continue being this moody he's going to leave again.. What should I do?
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Im in a very similar situation as you are right now with different problems.
I think you are hurting because you look at everything around you and the extent other guys will go to to make their girl friends happy. And you realize that he really hurt you and didnt try very hard for a while. Its only normal to feel this way because the trust in you guys is gone. Saying that everything is behind you doesn't make it really behind you.
Unfortunatly, I can only throw off ideas that I have thought about since I obviously haven't figured out what to do in this situation either.
My "boyfriend" suggested that we be friends and build back the trust slowly. This may work for you. Just take it one day at a time and let him prove to you that he feels this way and isn't going to leave.
The other decision you have to make is even if you love him so much is it possible that maybe its just not the right time? What I'm realizing is I want a real healthy relationship and I just want simplicity. And honestly, I don't know if I can get that with the guy I'm with now. You don't want to have to walk on eggshells around someone and worry they will leave.
You deserve someone who loves to be with you and doesn't take you for granted ever. And I'm really not saying that you guys can't be together. Because who knows, you may be perfect for each other and he will realize how much you mean to him. But what I think about is if you guys are really "meant to be" then won't he feel the same way about you in maybe a year. Maybe if you just took some time to really make yourself happy and work soley on yourself during a year the relationship could work much better?
I know its one of the hardest things to go through and I hate this age because it is full of such uncertainty. Just know that you aren't alone and in the end what is supposed to happen always will. You aren't given desires for them to go unfilled.
Everything will work out how it is supposed to and I hope the saddness you feel goes away! Just try to do things that make YOU happy and if that means a bit of time apart from him. Then do it because a healthy relationship is much better than a broken one.
If you need anything else, feel free to ask!
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Q: Is it time for us to break up?
My boyfriend and I have been dating a little over 2 years. I am 19, he is 20. We started dating in high school, and have known each other for about 4.5 years total. I love him. We have a lot of fun being together.
Recently, however, we have both been thinking more about getting married in the next couple years. I always wanted to get married young so it's been exciting to think about. Because we have been talking more about marriage, I feel like things have gotten more stressful. I used to feel really good about marrying him, but now I am not so sure.
1. We fight a bit. We tend to argue, and we are both pretty stubborn so it usually doesn't end too happily.
2. I feel like he isn't really putting in very much effort to...anything, really. His school work (we are sophomores in college) is average, he doesn't have a part time job, he sleeps through his alarm, and his parents still tell him what to do.
3. This sounds super mean, but I always feel like I am working harder. Like whether it's with our date-night plans, in school, in the relationship- I feel like I am the one who has to hold everything together. And I feel like I deserve someone who can be on my level with me, instead of someone I have to drag everywhere.
4. This is probably worst of all, but I recently met a new guy and he is really nice and cute and fun, and he acts like a grown up! He is a few years older. I do like him. I don't know how he feels about me, but I almost feel like that doesn't matter so much. It's more the idea that I am **willing** to look around. Seems like a problem!
I know this is really long, but I would appreciate some input. I have never dated anyone else before (and that is scary) but I want to do the right thing!!!
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This is all fresh in your head. Take some time to really think about what you want. The worst thing you can do is break up with him, realize its not what you want and get back together with him. It just cycles and then thats how the relationship is.
I may be wrong, but I think this stuff maybe started bugging you to the point of breaking up when the marriage talk started. In your head, he shifted to more than a boyfriend. Then you started looking at all his qualities that wouldn't be good as a husband.
With the whole working harder thing in the relationship, Girls tend to see more things wrong in the relationship and are always striving to make things better. While guys see nothing wrong with it and just enjoy hanging out with you instead of planning all these amazing dates. Dont get me wrong, there are boys out there that would do these things and the beginning of relationships are always like this. But generally speaking for me, this tends to fade out.
You say worst of all in your next part, but do not ever feel bad about having feelings for someone else while your this young. These feelings would be bad if you were married but your still young and its natural to get curious, especially since your boyfriend now is your only real relationship. THe fact is though, this means you are not ready to get married. And this is a good thing! Couples will see some of their friends getting married and want to rush into that life. The security and life are all things we are taught to want from an early age. But why rush it? 19 is still young and college is some of the time where you really figure out what your doing. Having secure jobs or atleast knowing what you want to do is the time to get married.
You sound like a really nice person and I know this seems like a huge decision. Just try to step back and think of what you want while keeping in mind that he is just in college and will grow up a little.
Hope this helps!
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Q: Hey!I’m a 16 year old girl from New Jersey and I AM SO LONELY. Like I’ve been in relationships before but for not more than a couple months. I really would not want anything more than to be in a relationship with a guy for like a year or longer! However I’ve talked to guys in my town and who go to my school before, and I do not like anyone of them, they all do not know how to treat girl’s right and respectively. And any guy who does is already taken. I’m seriously so sick of being single and really want to meet some nice cute guys. I’ve tried some online dating sites, and all I found were horny males. That is defiantly the opposite of what I’m looking for. I have tried to have my friends from out of town hook me up with some of their friends, didn’t work. I try to be outgoing and fun in public, doesn’t work. I’m really not that picky, and I am told I’m really pretty and nice, I’m not prude, I don’t know what else to do,I just can’t find anyone, and waiting is just making me feel lonely as ever. Do you have any ideas as to how or where I could meet someone I can actually be in a relationship with??
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This was the story of my life last year. I was in a on and off relationship for two years. But I desperatly wanted to find someone who would just stay with me and we'd be like best friends. But I was searching so hard that I never found someone and felt so lonely.
You need to keep in mind that you are only 16. Dating sites are not for you yet. And the people on those are going to see your young and try to take advantage of you.
It seems like the worst kind of advice someone can give...but honestly it has worked for me several times. Once you stop looking for someone, they will find you. I'm not talking like immediatly. But give it a little time and you will. My first real boyfriend when I was 16 broke up with me after a year and a half. I was so devastated I compared everyone to him. I went on small little dates and they just made me feel more lonely. Finally, I just stopped. I stopped trying to replace him. Within the next month, the boyfriend I mentioned above found me. And it was like an automatic click.
The long story about myself proves that once you just relax, be happy with yourself, and stop searching so much, the right guy will come into your life and the relationship will last for longer. :]
If you need anything else. Dont hesitate to ask!
I promise you won't be lonely for long.
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I got accepted into college and Im leaving in July.I live with my mom and we are extremely close. I chose a college that is far enough away, but close enough, maybe about 6 hours away.
Im nervous about people might not liking me or I might mess up doing something. I don't know anyone in the city that Im going to and I don't know how i'll get around, maybe the bus
Im actually extremely nervous. Im not used to sharing anything or having roommates, I don't know if they might like me. I know I'm going to be homesick. Im really quiet around people I first meet and it takes a while to come out of my shell.I'm nervous that maybe my roommates won't like me or they think I'm too quiet
but how can I hold my own in college, and prove to my mom Im going to be ok?
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Insecurities what kills you. Im the same way but about different things. I am finishing up my second year of college which is also 6 hours away from home. The great thing about college is that there is SOOO many different kinds of people. Its not like high school with different groups and stuff. You get a new perspective with each person you meet and people arent as scared to be themselves.
I really think you'll be fine. Being too quiet is not gonna be a problem with your roommates. They will get to know your personality and love you. I think the best thing for you to do in college is don't turn down a lot of invitations because youre scared. This is the best way to meet new people and find your knick.
College is fun and yes you will get homesick every once in a while but avoid going home every weekend to fix this. Spending time in your college town will make it more of your home.
I promise this is something you will enjoy! Just dont be too insecure that you hide yourself from people. Individuality is one of the best things about yourself!
Hope that helped :]
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Q: Me and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up, reasons dont matter but i have a question
i blocked him off my sisters facebooks, and i deactivated mine because i didnt want to look childish and delete him or block him, im moving on with my life and im feeling happier, i still love him but im trying to get over that because i dont think its ever gonna workout, my question is.. now hes adding all these girls on facebook and slightly flirting, and i feel like the only way i will ever get over him if it hurts to see stuff on facebook, what do you guys think? maybe im wrong because im curious to wanna go on his stuff.. will it just hurt me more? the curiousty is killing me.. so what should i do? thanks.
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Im in a very similar situation to you right now..If you want your facebook back you can simply block him from your news feed because next time he comments something click on the x in the right hand side and click hide all posts from ...
I also think its really childish to delete your ex and its not a bad thing if you do...cause it does make it easier but in a way it shows that you arent ok. Seems like your ex is being a huge tool by flirting on facebook and everything. I honestly dont look at my ex's facebook anymore because i figure that theres nothing there that will benefit me. You need to move on by not going on his facebook because that seems to be his way of dealing with his pain..
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Q: It's been 7 months since my ex broke up with me...I loved him with all of my heart. No matter how much avoidance I do, no matter how much I try not to think of him...I am still so very much in love with him. When he broke up with me, he told me it that it wasn't my fault, but that it was because he was having a hard time being in a relationship and wanted to concentrate on raising his daughter...I found out a few weeks ago that he is dating another girl now...I am angry with him, but I haven't confronted him about it...we work in the same building, so I just started ignoring him all together...I couldn't even look at him, I was just so disgusted. Finally, I cracked, still unable to fully let him go, and spoke with him briefly, being friendly and even joking around a little...and now, he's ignoring ME. Now I'm even more pissed off and angry...and what's more, I find myself so jealous of his new gf that it makes me sick to my stomach. I just don't know what to do...I know I need to move on. I haven't been stalking him or anything like that, but I still can't stop thinking of him. I still feel like we were destined, and that he is the perfect guy for me...I just don't understand why I couldn't have him. I want to ask what I can do to get him off my mind, but it's not as simple as avoiding him or doing things to distract me from thinking of him...that's how deep my pain runs...I can't afford counseling or anything like that either...I just don't know what to do...
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Im in a very similar situation to you.
Break ups are never easy and it does take time. I know you feel like you are destined to be together but in order for that to be true..he needs to feel the same way. You need to focus on the good things in life and try to keep yourself happy. Dont pay attention to his actions and who hes dating.
Something that always helps me is thinking that if it is meant to be then it will. He will come back and sweep you off your feet like a man who does truley care. But if you waste your time waiting for him and he never comes than you will just get more and more lonely.
Let him go. Believe me, I know how hard it is and I know how connected you feel to him. You deserve someone to try hard in a relationship and really appreciate everything you have to offer. Im sure once you move on, guys will start popping up in your life and if you let one in...maybe he will prove to be a lot better than your ex. And who knows maybe your ex will come back and you guys can make it work. But please dont wait.
I really hope things work out for you and if you ever need someone to talk to about this feel free to ask me anything.
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Q: So here's what I need help about... There's this girl at my faculty that I've been meaning to ask out for like 6 months. By the way, it would be my first time asking someone out... (lame, I know)! I think I've finally worked up the nerve to do it, but lately I've been reading about the so called "pity date" thing. We're not particularly close as friends and I have no idea if she knows I like her (I think she doesn't). She is VERY nice and kind to everyone without exception and I think it's a virtue... But that's also what worries me. How do I know she won't just go out with me because she's NICE? Maybe I'll take her for a drink (I'm talking apple juice) and she'll just be friendly like she always is... and then I do it a few more times and she just keeps going out with me because she doesn't wanna hurt my feelings...
I mean I don’t want to go out with somebody and be distracted the whole time thinking about why thery’re there!
Oh yes, and we’re both 20, for what it’s worth.
Any advice appreciated.
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Girls who are nice won't do many pity dates..I mean I consider myself a nice girl and when a guy that I dont necessairly have those feelings for ask me out I accept but make it more of a friends kind of thing.
Its always being risky when you put yourself out there but if you sit there and don't do anything then you will never know.
Just take the chance. Honestly, shes not gonna just keep dating you cause she feels bad for you.
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Q: So I have an ex who I've known for 2+ years and we dated for...almost 11 months. During one of our breaks I met someone else and we were together for 4 months. My problem is, I want to be with both, but I know I can't. When I'm with either one of them, I'm so happy, but when I break up with one, I miss them and just want to go back to them. Basically, I'm stuck between two great guys and I can't say I love either of them more. I don't know what to do. :/
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Step back. You and your ex broke up for a reason...are you sure that wont happen again? because you will lose this other guy if you go back with your ex. I would say just take a step back and appreciate whichever one you are with because if you stay confused and lose them both you wont feel good at all :/ good luck!!
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Q: I'm 15f and so there was this guy p about last year 2010 summer I fell for him he was the closest I've ever gotten to a guy. But randomly he stopped texting and calling me and when school started it was awkward then like in febuary I asked him to this dance a week later he gave me this note explaining he couldn't go bc he's switching schools.which then I took this guy from a different school and I hated it. After that I didn't see him everyday in my one class that I use to have with him. I have allways had him on my mind I tired everything to get him back to like me I've shedded so many tears for him.all I do now is cry alone bc if I talk to my friends about it at this point in time they'll think I'm weird and obsessed..today I saw him for the first time since febuary my heart dropped as he gave me a hug and we had the most casual short conversation in a way I sorta frozed but I think it made me worse bc I can never stop thinking about him and please don't tell me to give it time I have I've tried getting over him I don't know what to do I cry so much I just want 2010 back I've never had a boyfriend or my first kiss and I just want it to get it over with I want to stop crying so much:(
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I know that this is hard.
I recently stopped talking to my ex boyfriend of two years and I still think about him every day. We dated for about 2 years and I still really love him.
Some things that help me get over break ups and moving on is to put into perspective that if it really was meant to be then it would be. Everything happens for a reason and I know that this guy seems like perfect and youre totally hung up on him...but it will only work out if he wants it as much as you do. Just try not to think about it, if it happens and you two end up together than great. But if your sitting here thinking about him all the time and crying, and he never comes back...then you wasted a lot of your time being sad and moping when you could meet a great guy that will appreciate you correctly.
I know its hard, I really really do. But just let things fall into place naturally because when things are meant to be, its beautiful and you dont have to try so hard to make it work.
You're still so young and there will be guys that affect you a lot like this. But allow yourself to move on and live and have fun. Im sure your a wonderful girl and guys will be lining up at the door soon :] Dont worry, everything will be fine.
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Q: i am frm india,mumbai
i only hav issues with my family where it seems my mom hates me.....i dont wish to live but am afraid of pain........how to commit suicide easily n painlessly???
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There is no way and not only will you be hurting yourself but you will hurt everyone that knows you. Life is so full of ups and downs and right now your on a down. Things will get better and if you end your life early, you wont be able to experience these things.
I know your depressed but hang in there and I promise things will get better
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Q: So i have dated this boy for 3 months, until he went to Florida, and texted me breaking up with me. When he got back he got another girlfriend right away. He started texting me "i love you, i miss you" and songs, and quotes, anything sweet. But i didnt want any of that, i was trying to get over him. But then one day he texted me telling me to f off, and to stop texting him, when i never did. I showed his new girlfriend the texts, and she started crying. This has been a pattern with him, he's done this to basically all of his girlfriends. I feel cheated, and unloved. And i honestly have no idea what to do with myself, im in desperate need of help :(
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This boy is an ass. You can find someone who will treat you so much better. There are SOOO many guys out there who would treat you like you deserve to. Just keep ignoring him, don't even respond to his texts. Obviously he is getting pissed that you aren't but eventually he will leave you alone. Hope this helps!
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Q: so there's this guy from college and we like each other but we aren't an item.we are planning on going for a movie and probably hitting first and second base.he says he wants to think about sex but i say its too early for it.also he says its the first time he's talking to a gurl about this things.what should i do?
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Well if you just met this guy, I would stay away. Being in one of the craziest college towns in Florida has taught me that college boys often have one thing on their mind, which is sex. If you don't want just random sex, I would make him wait and actually put time and effort into you.
Everyone deserves to be waited on and babied while they are in a relationship. Plus you feel a lot better after if it actually means something.
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Q: My boyfriend and i have been dating for 1 1/2 years he's 25 and im 19 we have been living together practically as long as we have been dating we started renting a house no more then 2 weeks after meeting each other it was like an instant connection type of thing, well everything has been more then perfect except for the last 2 months my boyfriend told me he needed space and wanted to be single, he wasn't kicking me out but he wants to be single he said that he was in relationships one after another and he wants to go out and have "fun" before he commits meaning sex so i know he's already hooked up with his ex several times but purley because he knows he can he dosent want any relathionship just sex.. and i know he's trying to hook up with other girls witch i cant say anything because i hooked up with my ex after we broke up, were still living together and sleeping in the same bed and once in awhile we will end up having sex.. i broke things off with the kid i hooked up with as soon as we did it because i know i was only doing it because my boyfriend( now ex) was doing it i thought about him the whole time and it was just bad, i made a mistake well everyone is telling me i need to get out of the house im in, my ex- boyfriend will go out and hang out with these girls during the day and then come back to me and everyone thinks its wrong.. witch in the back of my mind i know it is but i have never been this in love with anyone in my life i feel like i couldn't even breath without him and i keep thinking if he just gets this out of his system he'll come back to me, but everyones saying it wont work like that i dont know how to get myself out of this siutuation i litterally have no where to go staying with family is not an option for me, nobody has room i have asked friends to but, they can't anywhere i go im bringing my dog, we have 3 he's keeping 2 and im keeping 1 i dont know what to do, its a 1bd room house so were still sleeping in the same bed.. what would you do i guess is what im asking??
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This is a really hard situation because obviously you are still really in love with him
But as far as that goes, you do need to leave. If he is "getting this out of his system" he should do it without you being here. Right now he has no reason to change. He hasn't really lost you and people are always gonna take advantage of you if you let them. Honestly you teach people how to treat you.
If you have a job, I would consider trying to find a cheap one bedroom or maybe even do a random roommate. It will be hard but I think it will honestly be worth it.
I know its really hard to get over someone because my boyfriend and I just broke up and we were also together for a year and a half. Its hard to actually accept these things and know that you deserve better. But you really do. You deserve someone who wants to see you all the time and doesnt care about any other girls. This guy is 25...it should be out of his system. You should be the one experiencing the fun. But he's put you in a position where your the victim. I really hope you know you deserve better and that he could get it out of his system but its gonna take a bit and hes gonna need you out of his life to realize that you were better than some random slutty girl.
I hope this helps! and your not the only one going through heartache and it will pass!
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Q: Long story short.i was drinking at a party and some guy started kissing me and bit my neck. i pushed him off of me and went home. my boyfriend realized i had a small red mark on my neck from the guy and broke up with me.after him yelling at me and me crying he agreed that were not back together yet till he can trust me. he asked me to delete every guy on my facebook and cell phone. i did so. i've never felt so lost. i dont know how to gain his trust back, i've never been in this situation. help pleaseee!
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Well honestly, If he was done with you he wouldn't go through the trouble of making you do all that stuff.
You need to just be there and understand that it is your fault and he has the right to be mad, but don't dwell on it. I'd say your lucky to have him not just drop off the face of the earth.
Everything will be fine, just keep showing him that you are into him and not that guy.
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Q: im 18/f hes 19/m
Last night i went out to a club to see one of my favourite bands, i had organised to meet up with a guy thats my best friend, that i also have very very strong feelings for. He says he likes someone but i'm too afraid to ask who...so anyways as i was catching the train on the way there he texted me saying his phones about to die, and to text me where ill be at all times through the night so he could try and see me. I texted him the details, then he said he probably wont be able to get into the club due to the amount of people attending to see the band playing, and that the tickets would run out by the time he got there. He then turned his phone off saying he'll only use it for emergency incase something happens. I then told myself, that if there was such thing as fate, that somehow we'd see each other tonight.
anyways i went to the club with my other friends, enjoying the night. I thought i would text him so next time he turned on his phone he'd know how much i was wishing he was there. just as i was about to press the send button he calls me. He tells me he's outside so of course i race out to go see him, he hugged me, held onto me and ran his fingers back and forth across the skin on my shoulder. He was drunk, and soon enough his friends came over (after finding out he ran ahead of them to get to the club sooner). He introduced me to them, then told me that judging by the line he doubts they will be able to get in... the band i originally went to see, was playing the time i talked to this guy, and as my fave song by them i came all that way to hear, began to play, i gave him one more cuddle before going back in. as i pulled away he said "i owe you this" and kissed me.
that was our first kiss, we've talked about wanting to kiss each other before, but not wanting to mess everything up. I was excited when he used the last of his phone battery to text me to say he managed to get in. so i went and found him, he immediately cuddled me, and everywhere we walked he held my hand. We even just spent ten minutes holding each other, his head resting on top of mine, my head on his chest, and our arms around each other. We looked like a couple, and it felt so natural and perfect. Then he introduced me to his other friends, and we started dancing. I started to get jealous when this one girl was constantly dancing with him. I could tell she was into him as well and i didn't want to compete, thinking it wasn't possible that i would possibly have things work out for me.
Its just he has another best friend thats a girl that i met last night, and they were dancing together, and i got pretty jealous. He saw her again tonight and now im confused as to whether or not he likes me :S
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It sounds like he likes you but you'll never know unless you talk to him. If he's just being a manwhore then you need to know so you don't invest anymore into him. I would ask him to hang out more and more and try to develop a gf bf relationship. Hope this helps
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Gender: Female Location: Florida Age: 20 Member Since: January 4, 2006 Answers: 70 Last Update: October 11, 2014 Visitors: 5671
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