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i cheated. and i need to get my boyfriend back
Long story short.i was drinking at a party and some guy started kissing me and bit my neck. i pushed him off of me and went home. my boyfriend realized i had a small red mark on my neck from the guy and broke up with me.after him yelling at me and me crying he agreed that were not back together yet till he can trust me. he asked me to delete every guy on my facebook and cell phone. i did so. i've never felt so lost. i dont know how to gain his trust back, i've never been in this situation. help pleaseee!
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Well honestly, If he was done with you he wouldn't go through the trouble of making you do all that stuff.
You need to just be there and understand that it is your fault and he has the right to be mad, but don't dwell on it. I'd say your lucky to have him not just drop off the face of the earth.
Everything will be fine, just keep showing him that you are into him and not that guy.
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There is not enough information in your question to advise you about much. You made the story too short.
Did you kiss this person back? Did you ask him to kiss you? Did you push him off immediately? Did you leave after the incident?
If you ended this immediately, and left the situation, then you need to tell your boyfriend to that isn't cheating when someone takes advantage of you. It isn't cheating when you push them off and say "No." If you didn't choose to kiss this person back, it's not cheating. It's called assault and you were a victim.
If you didn't choose to make out with this person, then you didn't cheat. You were assaulted at a party. You might make better choices in the future about parties and drinking - but even if you don't, it wasn't your fault - and even if you, it is possible to be assaulted in this way while perfectly sober. I was walking with a friend once who was grabbed by a totally stranger and kissed on the hand - She didn't cheat on her boyfriend, she was assaulted. She could have pressed charges is that particular situation. It's not okay to go around kissing and biting people without their consent.
Unless you have a habit of getting too drunk to function, your boyfriend's request that you delete all men off your face book and phone is extreme and irrational.
If you choose to kiss him, admit it and apologize and make rational concessions to earn his trust back. If you didn't choose to kiss him, if you didn't have any choice in the matter, if you stopped him and removed yourself from the situation, then you didn't cheat, and you need to tell your boyfriend very clearly that cheating is a choice, and you didn't get a choice.
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