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Getting dumped by first love
I'm a 17 year old senior in high school. I have been with this girl for a year, about 4 months younger than me. First when I met her I wasn't really intersted but after talking to her a little I found out that she was the girl I had always dreamed about. Funny , charming, caring and pretty. I asked her out and everything went well until she broke up with me because of loosing her feeling for me. On her first break up attempt I couldn't control myself and ended up begging her to stay with me. That made us last one more week but I finally accepted it on her second attempt.
After that for a few days I started ignoring her, havin a terrible time getting over her. And that ended by her calling me and telling me how she regretted it and missed me. well we talked again for a little and got back together after a week or so. I was the happiest person ever until now, that I feel like we are inches away from separating. I feel like she likes this other guy and is just trying to get rid of me.
I would break up with any other girl, looking back to my other relationships when I trully did not have feelings for ex gfs, but I am awfully attached to this girl and even thinking of seprating from her makes me shake, sweat, and get naucuis. In fact I havnt been able to eat anything for the past week.
I really need help on the ways to deal with the stress I'm gonna facing and I'm going to be facing. I know I sound like a little girl, but i have really tried. she was my first love and I love her so much that if I was older I would marry her. please someone tell me what they would do in my shoes, if you weren't under such emotional distress.
Thank you for your concern.
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hey,
first i want to say im sorry for what your going threw but life likes to throw these type situations at,you have to deal with them the best you can.second i believe because this is your first love you are becoming to emotionally attached you think that your first love would be the one you spend the rest of your life with. well im sorry but some times it dosent happen that way i think you need to ask your family/friends about what your going threw and they can normally give good advice as well. but i think its time you did break up with this girl clearly she dosent like you anymore she is moving on and shes not being very nice about it. you need to break up but make sure you have some one that can be there and help you get threw this and help you heal. it will take time but you will learn that in the long run she wasnt right for you and you need to start over with girls but not on tell you no that you are over your past girl if your not over her it will hurt you to be witha nother girl and then you will make a mess out of the 2nd relationship which will hurt you and the 2nd girl. so you need to break up with this girl you need to heal and get over her. this may sound mean but it will do you good cause right now shes just toying with your emotions and its not good for you or her.
Good luck make the right decision now and it will be better in the long run :]
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Think about you and your future. I know you're attachted to her but for me it has no sense. She isn't sure of her feelings, although, she knows that she can treat you like that because you are always for her. And you will always be. I can imagine how hard it is for you, but in my opinion she should feel that she can lose you. And you should feel that she really care about you.
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Breakups are one of the hardest things to go through and i know it seems like she is the perfect girl for you. But you have to find happiness in knowing that if she is perfect for you then things will work out in their own time. I can relate to you with the loss of apetite and nausea :/ but hang in there because it does get easier.
If i were you i would accept that right now your gf is unsure. You are at a young age and shes probably figuring herself out just as much as you are. Step back and end things but let her know how you feel. If she knows that you love her and really care about her but you know shw needs some time to figure out what she needs in life, she will know that you dont hate her and it wont burn any bridges.
The hard part is sticking to all of this. When you say this you have to stick to it and not show her jealousy or any other feelings like anger because that will push her further away.
Everyone deserves someone who chooses them every single time. Believe me, i have not perfected getting thia in my head at all either. But the person you end up with needs to think the world of you. They need to be completely happy and not try to leave. At this age its scary cause it seems like we arent going to find that person who treats us the way we deserve. But they are out there and im not saying your gf isnt that one. But she definitely needs time. So if i were you id try to relax. Do things that better yourself. Start excercising. Hang with friends. And see what happens in the future without waiting around for her.
Hope this helps!! Itll get easier. Promise!
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