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Q: So I have a guy friend that I've been close with for pretty much all of high school and had an on/off crush for him. Well, I recently broke up with my boyfriend, partially because of this guy, but he doesn't know it. I just feel really close with him and can tell him everything. We just have this chemistry where we feel comfortable whenever we're together.
Just a few weeks ago, another girl told him that she likes him, but he doesn't really want a long term thing with her. I talked to him about it and he said he might hook up with her though because he figured there was no one else interested. I wanted to tell him that I like him but I just feel like it's too soon for him to have another girl friend say she likes him. We're graduating soon and I'd figured I'd tell him then but he's already taking this other girl to prom and I feel like I'll lose my chance if I don't let him know.
The other thing is that a lot of people in our grade have been asking if we're going out lately and it just makes it harder for me because by reinforcing to other people we're not going out, I keep saying to his face "No, I don't like you...we're just friends" when that's not really what I feel.

Could someone just help me figure out if he likes me or not and if I should let it go or tell him?

I think that the chances are that he will feel the same way about you as you do with him. The same thing happened to me and now i am currently dating this guy, theres nothing to loose, if it spoils your friendship then it obviously wasn't that special.
Just go for it, you will be so much happier knowing where you stand with him
good luck hun
XxXx

Q: 17/m
well, theres this one chick. and shes hot. but thats besides the point. i like her and i THINK she likes me, but she doesn't want to date. she told me some crap about how shes bad with relationships and she wanted to be fwb. I was all like...um, idk. so now were just sort of like...more than friends but less than other stuff...that whole thing. and the other day she told me that she was going to be all protective of me and stuff. and to me, thats like...WHAT THE HELL!? cause its like, you dont want to date me, but you dont want me dating anyone else. so idk what to do, because I really want a relationship. i tried telling her this but she just told me that she's bad with relationships.

She seems to be messing you around to be honest. If i was you i would go with the flow, it sounds to me like you are in a relationship but its just hard for her to handle. She may want to be in a relationship but doesn't want the responsibility of it, just act natural around her and build upon your relationship for a few weeks before bringing up the subject... If she still doesn't want a relationship you need to tell her that it's important to you and that you want to find someone who cares about you enough to be in a relationship, if she then still doesn't want to be in a relationship then she obviously isn't the one for you.
Good Luck Hun
XxXx

Q:
Ok,I just found out that this girl has been putting birth control pills in my food at lunch,I need too know if anything bad is going to happen to me because of this. I'm really worried because I'm a guy,should I go to the Doctors??? Or is there a website I can go to and check if anything bad is going to happen to me because of this.

Yeh thats pretty nasty like. I think you should go to the doctors just to check it cant have any effect on you. You should also do something about it with the police, its surely illegal to do something like that?
hope everythings goes well
good luck XxXx

Q: ok i just started going out with this guy yesterday and today at school he was seriously CLINGY and he said he loved me at the end o the day i was so freaked out how should i act around him what to i say cuz im not even sure if i like him anymore PLEASE HELP SOON 5's for anyone who helps at all

Tell him your not ready for such a serious relationship yet. If he doesn't understand break up with him, its the experience game when ur at school, ull know you don't want to be with him in the future and you dont need someone clinging on to you when your just wanting a bit of fun. Good Luck hun.

Q: hey im a guy...and no im not planning on getting an abortion. i was just wondering something: why is it that girls/women abort children instead of adopt them? i know there are plenty of reasons why, but is there one (or more) that would overshadow the case of giving birth then putting the baby up for adoption. looking for a girls point of view on this, because even if the girl didn't want the baby, would there be something wrong in giving it away instead of killing it? thanks, will rate.

ok so you try havin a big baby come out of your arse hole, then not consider having an abortion. Apparently the GUY equivalent of having a baby is having a bowling ball passed through your penis... so would you rather do that or just get rid of it? you tell me?

Q: im lesbian,but i dont know how to tell all my family.

Introduce them to your lesbian friend, that should break it in easy enough.
Or, introduce them to your girlfriend until they get to know her and then say that in actual fact you are dating because you have deeper feelings for your friend and she feels the same. Then it seems like a natural progression to them.
Good luck

Q: This isent really a question, its more of a statement..Im from Canada, and over here we dont use AOL, which would explain why i dident know what aim was.
Back to my question..it doesnt matter to me, but I was just wondering why some people in here laugh at people when giving answers, I thought this was an advice colum.
So whats the deal with that, i personally dont care, however some people might take offence to it.

no one laughs at anyone else unless they give advice to be cruel to others. Other than that its not like the people who give advice are employed to do so, the people who are seeking advice cannot expect a professional opinion because the advice givers are simply not professional.

Q: does anyone know where i could find straight-leg jeans? for cheap? i rate.

matalan

Q: me and my best guy friend have been friends for a long long time. he let me know that he has cared about me for a while. i like him too and told him that. we are going out now. but i dont want anyone to know right now. only because i broke up with my ex a lil while ago because i was apparently all over my new bf. so it would be bad to have this get out right now. my question is... is this a bad sign already if i dont want to know about my blossoming love.

No. It might be a good sign, that you care about this relationship so much you don't want anything to upset it already. A secret relationship can be very exciting and make you all the more eager to be together which is cool

Q: Ok i got this girl a purse and wrote her a poem
should i put the poem in the purse and then give it to her or give her the poem then the purse.

Put the poem in the purse. It'l be a nice supprise for her.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He always compliments me and is very good to me. My problem is that I feel funny undressing in front of him and I can't wear sexy nighties in front of him. I have a very low self-esteem. When I look in the mirror, I see fat. I want to be able to wear sexy things for my boyfriend and feel good about myself. What can I do??

I think that you should buy sexy underwear or a sexy nightie and look at yourself in it. I mean really look at yourself, be truthful! Your obviously not fat and if you are then your boyfriend totaly digs it so just go for it. Sexy underwear is designed to make you feel and look sexy, and it works. Don't worry about your weight though, you just need to find a way to be confident with yourself. Get your boyfriend to help you by sexy underwear shopping! Its a great thing and you never know, it could make your self-esteem much higher!
Good Luck hun... your gorgeous so make the most of it!

Q: If I'm on my period, and I have a tampon in, what should I do if, while making out, my boyfriend starts to put his hand down my pants? Should I assume he is going to finger me, and immediately warn him that I have a tampon in? If so, what/how should I say it? OR should I let him do whatever he is going to do, and then IF he DOES begin to finger me, should I THEN tell him to stop? Thanks for your help.

I recon when u have a tampon inside you you probably wont be as horny, plus the fact ull be on your period so it wont be as plesant for him, just tell him. Other wise don't let him put his hands down your pants until your period is over.
All my love
Aunt Annie

Q: 13/f. i have hair thats to my shoulders. it sits right on them. its dark dark brown, almost black. and everyday i either wear it in a pony tail or straightened down [i have a chi straightener]. could someone please, please, give me more hair styles so i wont be so plain. thanks!

Pig tails are cute and in my opinion make you look more attractive. How about a half ponytail where you leave hair out at the back. There are lots of simple styles you can try out, just take some time to experiment with bobbles and clips until you find a new style that suits you best.

Q: Im religious. I believe in God and everything, but lately Ive been thinking about the devil and excorcisms. I dont know why but its taking over my life. Im constantly thinking about it! I havent even seen the Excorcism of Emily rose or anything, but I HAVE seen the Excorcist. Im just really scared it would happen to me. In that movie and the excorcist, why DID it happen to THOSE people?! Please help give me more info about what it is

No websites please! I kind of just want an answer! I give 5s!

It would never happen to you. Deamons are figures of problems concerned with your life and unless you have a really bad deamon you aren't about to be possesed by one. Its a fiction film over exaggerated so try not to worry about it.

Q: Today, I was practicing for my audition, and my voice went wacko. I had to strain to sing the higher notes, and usually I can sing high notes very well. It sounded all squeaky and bad. What should I do?! Everyone says "drink tea." What does tea do? Is it just that my voice is tired, or what? I'm a little freaked out right now

Thanks

Cheyenne

Singing exercizes! They work really well for keeping your voice healthy, you need to take care of your voice you could be straining it. Tea just clears your vocal chords, it sounds to me like you just need to warm up more before singing.

Q: whats a good site for guitar tab? (im a beginner)

www.guitartabs.cc i find them quite easy

Q: how do you get a guy to like you? does it take friendlyness outgoingness or just being a slut? please help i rate!!!!

Just be yourself. The right guy will like you for YOU if he does. Don't put a face on to impress guys, its fake and they don't like that. Don't worry about it, theres no rush, plenty of boy time left.

Q: i have this boyfriend, and he's my first, but sometimes it feels like i see him as just a friend. i like him but i dont think i like him enough to be in a committed relationship with him. i really dont know what to do because i'm not happy about this but i also dont want to hurt his feelings

The best thing to do is to tell him that your relationship feels more like a friendship. Life is too short and you don't want to waste time with someone who you aren't all that in to. He could feel the same way? You wont know until you say something about it.

Q: i like my stepbrother A LOT 13/f he is 14 but what do i do"???

Well, its perfectly normal to have these kind of feelings for your step-brother, its not incest if your mam or dad had nothing to do with the making of him. He could be a little wierded out though so if i were you i would leave the idea of you too together in you head, if you do anything about your feelings it could make your life really difficult. Just try and be friends with him, you never know... he could like you too!
good luck hunny

Q: 13/f i like this guy lets call him coby who never talks to me at school because he is really popular but at hebrew school we flirt and talk and laugh. He is the "speedy type" who is only 13 but has had a blow job and i really want to be speedy to. Should i ask him out and does he like me??? what should i do because i dont want to make a fool out of myself? i rate high!

Hes not worth the bother hunny. Your only 13, im 16 and i wouldn't do anything of the sort for a boy who doesn't bother talking to me! I think you need to find someone else and tell him where to get off when he flirts with you. I don't believe that people have had a willing sex life with him, its just one of those boys who will lie to get more popular with his friends and you will just be another notch on his "speedy" bed post.