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Q: hey...ok well my b/f broke up w/ me a couple months ago b/c we live too far away. i totally kinda agree with it cause it was hard to keep a relationship going. plus his internet at his house doesn't work so he's hardly ever on to IM unless he's at a friend's house. well now i have a uh...HUGE problem! his best friend. well see his name's Kyle and he is like my bestest bestest love him to death guy friend, even if he is far away. (him and my ex live in the same 4 1/2 hour away place) well i talk to Kyle all the time, and we talk for a long time he's on to IM a lot, and so am i. we're going to also meet at a winter event for our youth groups for the weekend. well, to my problem: i like Kyle. and i mean i really like kyle. i have a feeling he likes me too, but he's smart and knows how his best friend and me's relationship worked out b/c of the distance. i wish we lived closer and so i could see him so much more, also...i wish he wasnt my ex b/f's best friend. 1. he wouldnt want to hurt his friend 2. i wouldnt want him to get in a fight w/ his friend.
HHHHHEEEEEEELLLLLLLPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!! pLz! thanx sry its long! xOxOx

Ok, not to be mean or anything, but I don't really think it's going to work. After all, you broke up with your boyfriend because of the distance, right? So how is this any different? You guys may talk on im, bye it's not the same as seeing eachother in person. And plus, think about your ex. He'll be so mad! So don't go out with him. You guys could just be really really close. Do what I do: you know you guys both like eachother, so just act like you're going out, but don't make it official. It works. So I hope I helped ya.

Q: Okay well, I really like this guy. He's everything I want. Funny, intellegent, cute, long hair, sweet, kind and he skates. There's nothing more that I want then for him to like me back. The bad thing is that my friend likes him to. No one knows that I like this kid and I've been hiding it for a really long time. I don't think he has a clue and we are good friends and I don't want to ruen it by telling him that I like him.

I need help and FAST.

I'll rate for the advice you give. Just help. :{

I really don't think you should make a move on him just yet because your friend will hate you. Remember, friends always come first. But that doesn't mean he can't make a move on YOU. If he one day admits he likes you, you should tell your friend and try to explain the situaton to her. See what she says. But if she doesn't want you to go out with him, you should respsect her decision and not do it. Hope I helped :)

Q: I'm a senior in highschool. I've never been very popular but always had some nice friends. Well anyways I just found out that a guy in my english class has been talking about me behind my back. I've never done anything to him so I was suprised to find out just how mean he has been. Well according to some reliable sources he has called me ugly, stupid, and made hand gestures about my stupidity. I'm in the top ten percent of my class so I really don't know why he thinks I"m stupid. My friends tell me that when the teacher calls on me and I answer a question no matter what my answer is he will make fun of me.
The meanest thing he has said was that I was gross and no guy would ever want me. He is friends with my crush and I'm embarrassed if anything got back to him.
I have gone home in tears somedays.
I'm thinking of reporting him to the principle. He also bullies other people.
Why do you think he's so mean to me?

hi. I think he bullies you to feel better about himself. Usually, bullies are insecure and they bother other people to make themselves feel good. But trust me, he's much lower then you. It makes him feel high and mighty to put others down. He's just covering up his own insecurities. If it's really a problem, you should go talk to someone, like a guidence councelor or teacher. You should also get together with those other kids he bullied to help back you up. I hope I helped. And good luck!

Q: I have a boyfriend that I've been datinf for four months. I most certainly am not getting tired of him in any way, shape, or form, but I am getting upset with him a lot easier.
(IE: He went over to this girl's house to watch a movie. I didn't like that at all because it was just her and him.
He wasn't able to do something today like he said he was able to. He kinda ditched me, again.)
So, yeah, I've been getting upset really easy with him and it's taking a lot longer to get over things. Is this just a phase? How will I get over this phase? He's wonderful and I don't want to lose him, but I know if I keep this up he'll realize how sucky he has it. I want to change this before he gives up on me.

Hi. Ok, well you might be going through a lot of stress, and since you've been getting upset with him, you might be taking it out more on him. Just apoligize if you know you went out of proportion. But, if he was the one doing you wrong (like going to that girls house) then you need to talk to him about his feelings for you. Try not to sound too mean or accusing, and just say it kind of hurts you when he does things like that, or like when he doesn't keep his word. If he says he'll try to make an inprovement, then you guys should be fine. But if he doesn't, or even tries to put the blame on you, then you're probably better then him. So don't stress over it too much. Hope I helped. good luck

Q: every year our school's 7th graders throw a formal dance for the 8th graders. i am totally against going because i hate dresses and can't dance. all of my friends that were totally against it are suddenly going and renting a limo and everything. they are even having a sleepover and a whole day to get ready for it. i don't want to go but they are pressuring me so much to go. what should i do??? the guy i really like will be there but i am 100% against stuff like this. should i give in? can you give me some tips on how to stay strong under pressure?? thanks...i'll rate high!

Hi. Ok, I think you should just listen to your heart, instead of what they want you to do. If you really don't want to go, tell them you don't. Try to explain it to them. If they're good friends, they'll understand. If you have the slightest doubt in your mind that you really shouldn't go, then don't. But on the other hand, taking chances makes life interesting. Who knows what might happen. Something good might happen with you and your crush, and you'll be glad you went. To stay strong, my best advice is to just be yourself, completetly. No matter what. You can never go wrong with being yourself, no matter how weird or normal you are. People would respect you more. Also, don't take it so seriously. Just focus on having a good time. Don't think about your flaws or your mistakes. The only person that'll be spending so much time thinking about it is you. Everyone else is there for the same reason: to have fun. So just be yourself, and you'll be ok. :)

Q: i really like this guy a lot. He's in one of my classes. I can't tell him that i like him because i know for a fact that he does not like or even notice me (he's really popular and i'm not). So if i told him that i liked him then it would be weird in class with him for the rest of the year. I need a way for him to notice me and talk to me first. Any suggestions?

Hi. I have a suggestion. I think you should first try to get him to notice you. Try to sit next to him one day in class, that way it would be hard NOT for him to talk to you. Especially in a class that he doesn't do well in (he'll ask you for help). Try to develope a friendship with him first. It'll help him see you as a good friend, not just somebody who wants to go out with him just like that. See what happens from there. Good luck!

Q: okay so im best friends with this girl. we always get into really stupid fights and stuff and she ALWAYS talks about me behind my back, or even when im looking straight at her. tons of people in the school hate her and always ask me why im best friends with her. she also treats me like crap, uses me, and walks all over me...everybody tells me that. except for some reason i keep making plans with her. ive never really said anything bad about her, except when we got in this huge fight last week. i was talking with her on the phone with her boy-toy (this guy who shes obsessed with whos just usuing her) and then i say brb and i set down the phone and when i come back i hear her saying to him "omg shes so annoying she acts like 2 different people like when shes with me shes like omg i love you bff and then when shes around the popular people shes like eww i hate you" (and ive never done that...and its not like theyre the popular people we're really good friends) and then i confronted her about it the next day and she denied it, then i told one of my good friends (who hates her) the whole story, so she bitched her out for me...then she comes like storming into our class and tries to bitch ME out...and we made this huge scene so then we didnt talk for 2 days and everyones like to me good job she treated u like shit dont make up with her (even tho when we get in fights like we make up the next day) so then she called me like the night after our fight (it lasted a few days) and she was sobbing and like asking for forgiveness so im like ill think about it...then she was talking shit about me more the next day and i was just watching her and she knew i was watching so it pissed me off..so we kinda made up but we dont talk anymore..should i just forget her completely or start hanging with her again?

Forget her! She really doesn't seem like a good friend. What kind of person acts like your best friend, and then talks about you behind your back?! Maybe she's taking advantage of your friendship because she thinks you'll always be there. Well you can't keep giving her second chances. You don't need a person like that in your life, because she's only going to mess you up. Just forget about her, and maybe she'll move on. She doens't seem like a good friend to me at all. Hope I helped.

Q: a lot of guys who haev asked me out say i play hard to get reeeaaalllllyyyy bad. i cant help it. i dont want to come off as easy , i want to give them a challenge to see how long the stick around before they give up. i still want to be hard to get but im scared that it will drive soem of thebest guys away. what should i do 15/F/MA

There's nothing wrong with being hard to get. Infact, some boys like the challenge. But if you really like a boy, go for it! You don't want to come off as a cold person, do you? Just try not to be too hard to get. If you think they had enough, and if you like them back, give them a chance. But also, if you don't like a boy, you don't have to go out with them. The worse thing is pretending that you like them when you really don't.I hope I helped!:)

Q: i told my friend i fancy this boy and now she flirts with him all the time. but only scince i told her i did fancy him. shes having a party and is inviting him and me and says she going to set her best friend up with him and then says whats wrong like she doesn't know. i really hate her when she is like this please help me...

Oh my god! That sounds just like what's happening to my friend! Anyway, it's obvious that she's a man-stealer, so you need to confront her about it. Tell her how you really feel, and don't hold back. And say, "Why is it that when I happened to start liking him, all of a sudden you flirt with him?" Tell her you're not saying you want her to stop, but if she were a good friend, she would because it's not right what she's doing to you. You had him first. Also, tell her it's not fair that she's setting up her best friend with him. What kind of friend is that? You should be the one getting with him. So express all your feelings to her, and hopefully, she'll change her mind. :)

Q: okay.. im the girl who asked bout tha guy.. hoo kissed me.. and had a grl.. okay.. the person who told me.. is his ex.. but.. she told me only because she was crying.. but.. okay.. like.. a few weeks ago.. she told me how jelous of me she is.. so.. i have no clue to believe her or not.. and his best friend also told me he has a grl.. but.. his best friend likes me like.. ALOT.. so.. idn what to do.. anddd i dont want to ask him.. hellppp

I don't know if you should believe her, since she did say she's jealous. But then again, she seems like an honest person, since she admitted that. It sounds like she was telling the truth. But then you have his best friend. He's most likely just saying the boy has a girlfriend so he could get with you. It makes sense. But it's all about who you trust. Do you really think the boy you like is telling the truth? And think about what he's known for. Do people say he lies alot? But personally, I thought about it, and I think you should just go out with him. Life's too short. But try to trap him, like give him hugs and stuff in public, and see if he's nervous. He should be, if his girlfriends around somewhere. And if his girlfriend confronts you, tell her he said he didn't have a girlfriend, so he'll be the one in trouble. Hope I helped.:)

Q: okay.. this guy who i have been "talking" to for a while.. came over to my house.. like he does everydayy.. and this time.. he asked me for a kiss.. and we made out for a long time.. but then...i went bak inside.. and got on the computer and (i didnt tell anyone!!) everyone was telling me that he got a girlfriend that morning.. and then.. i was on the phone with him earlier and i was like.. " do you know what i hate? i hate it when guys have girlfriends.. but hook up with other girls.. " and he started acting all defensive.. so. PLEASE help me.. i need ur help sooo bad!! i have no clue what to do?

I understand how you feel. This guy must really like you since he could cheat on his girlfriend like that. But you should find out for sure if he does. Because if it's true, you shouldn't go out with him. How do you find out, you ask? Well, it depends on who told you in the first place.Was it one of your good friends, or someone who might be jealous of you? It could be a lie, but you have to choose who to believe. After all, if he was your boyfriend, you wouldn't want him cheating on you. Hope I helped.:)

Q: I've been talking to this one guy named Andy for a few weeks. And he really likes me and I just don't really want a boyfriend right now and he knows that. I mean I really like him and all. But then lastnight I went with my friend to a party at her church and I met this guy named Justin...and we like clicked. I mean we started talking at like 2 and didn't stop until like 5. I really like him now...like when I was with him I was getting those little butterfly feelings and I just felt all happy and stuff. And I realized...I don't feel that way around Andy. I mean I'm not going to go out with Justin right now b/c I don't know him very well....but what do I do about Andy? thanks...

- Zero

it's best to just be straight up. Tell andy that you're sorry, but you just don't like him. You should tell him from the start so that he won't get his hopes up. But to make him feel good tell him you still want to be friends, and that he's been a really good friend to you. Lay it on him easy. Who knows, you might start to like him one day. About Justin, it seems like you really do like him. Like you said, get to know him frist. Then decide if you still want to go out with him. Hope everything works out!:)

Q: i have a friend who has liked this guy for 4 months...she obsesses over him...he is friends with my group of friends and recently i have started talking to him...he is really nice and really hott...i dont want to admit it, but i like him...he told all his friends that he thinks im hot and that he wants to go out with me...i feel bad because this is making my friend pretty mad...i want to go out with him really bad, but i dont want my friend to end up getting hurt... what should i do...

I don't think you should go out with him right now. It'll betray your friend. I know it's hard, since you and him really like eachother, but put yourself in your friend's position. You and him could still be really good friends, since it's not her place to tell you who to be friends with. But just don't go out with him. I think you should try to find out if he likes her. There's no point in obsessing over a boy that doesn't like you back. If not, try to get her to move on. Or you can try to explain the situation to her. Tell her it's really hard for you because you really like this boy, and you think he likes you too. But tell her that if she's not cool with it, then you won't go out. Hope i helped!:)

Q: okay hurr it goes i went out with this guy over the summer for like a month and a half and i truley believed i loved him then he cheated on meh and broke up with me for my best friend. Well they are broken up now but i still love this guy but he hates me now n i really dnt know why but i kant get him out of my mind i love him sooo muchh and i want to be back in his arms sooo bad wut should i do?

I know u wanna get bak wit him, and its alrite. But u cant take that crap frum him. He shud have neva cheated on u in the first place. I dont see why he hates u, it shud be the otha way around. My advice is that u jus temperarily let him go. Forget about him for a while, and he'll start thinking about u. He'll soon start considering wat would've happened if he neva did that. This may be hard, but dont cum to him. Let him cum to u. And if he doesnt, he's not worth it.

Q: Well I have two "friends" and i known them my whole life, we even went to church togather but now it seems like there not my best friends any more because when they get around certin people they start acting like the other people but I stay the same and now we don't talk as much. But sometimes when my friend octavia is around me she starts to talk about my other friend ashely and when ashely comes around shes acts like she didn't say nothing her and when they get togather they leave me out what should I do?

ok, well they obviously got sum issues to work out. Anyway, u shudnt get between them. If they wanna talk behind eachothers back, wateva. However, if they keep leavin u out, it cud mean that they're moving on. I know they say *friends are forever*, but sumtimes people change. Its not yur fault. U jus have to find out wats goin on. If they keep leavin u out, maybe its a sign u shud move on too.

Q: there's this guy who i've met at school and we're getting really close. we like eachother but we didnt start dating... yet.

well his parents and grandparents died and he really doesn't have a permenant home, he just goes wherever and is constantly out on his own. he doesn't really have anyone to support him and buy him clothes and stuff

but im afraid if i date him, my parents will not approve because we've always been brought up from good homes and families. it doesnt bother ME at all but my parents always look down upon "poor" people. also, what should i do/say to him? he doesnt know that i know. i feel bad. should i offer anything? help! thanks

Yur parents should like him for who he is, not how much money he has. Tell them that u really luv this guy, and if they really want u to be happy, then they shud let u go wit it. Tell them that he's goin through a hard time rite now, and he really needs support. U wanna be there for him, even as a friend. Tell yur parents, and hopefully they'll learn to appreciate him more and let u be happy :)

Q: My so called friend came up to me and told me she ALMOST had sex with this guy who I like and likes me to and were kind of going out. So I find out from one of his friends that they didnt then after school I see him and he completly ignores me wont hold my hand, doesnt kiss me goodbye, and doesnt even say bye It pissed me off but what IM wondering is what does that mean?

I know u dont wanna hear this, but it probably that this guy likes yur friend. He's probably afraid to tell u cuz he doesnt wanna hurt yur feelings, so he keeps avoiding u, hoping he cud get away frum it. Talk to him about it. Ask him wats goin on. Tell him to tell u the truth becuz u'll appreciate it more if he doesnt lie to u. Hope i helped

Q: ok i have 2 questions

1. my ex-boyfriends when we broke up he said 4 me to promise to call him everyday still (we dont go to the same school) what does this mean??

2.we or he still says "i love you" and is always askin me out but then after he says sumthin he'll tell about this girl at his school how he walks her to class and holds her hand and it makes me sooo SAD that im not that girl....is he trying to make me jealous???...cz its workin!!

3. how can i tell him that i still care 4 him and why he keeps makin me jealous and that its hurtin me ...bad...too!??

#1- it could mean that although u guys broke up, he still wants to be friends and be as close as u guys used to be.
#2- he's probably jus tryin to get u to notice him. By tellin u that stuff, he's showing u that u could be that girl if u go out wit him.
#3- just tell him that u hate it wen he talks about other girls around u becuz u still have feelings for him
#4- ask him why doesnt he ever call u back and always makes up excuses. Tell him if he wasnt gonna call, he shud've sed sumthin. Hope i helped ya.

Q: I like someone older and n one aproves that I like him should I still like Him?

of course u shud still like him. Its not about wat they think, its about how u feel. But if they're yur friends, they cud jus be tryin to protect u, so u mite wanna listen to them.

Q: Hi my name is Jess i have this really really close guy friend who has been my friend since 1st grade now he has a g/f and i dont like him but for some reason i feel jealous. Could anyone tell me y im jealous?

yur probably jealous becuz u miss all the attention he wuz giving u. Although u dont like him, u still miss him and yur not used to him paying more attention to any other girl

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Hello everyone. I'm a college student who loves giving advice and helping people work out their problems. I'll always give an honest answer. I have had many life experiences both good and bad, and they will give me insight into how to answer your question. Feel free to contact me anytime and I will do my best to lift your spirits!