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Lately, my girlfriend and I keep fighting. I get the distinct feeling that all her comments like I don't take anything seriously (which I only seem to because she takes everything seriously, and I thought that was something about our relationship balance, I'm mellow and she's rigid).
We had a fight about names for kids (which I think shouldn't have been a fight since we haven't done to make children a factor in our lives). She thinks I never compromise anything while she has to give everything up.
Near as I can tell, I've compromised on more stuff like her. I freaking skipped out on a family member's birthday to help her find her wallet. I'm still making up for that in the eyes of my parents.
I'm a patient guy. I try to be understanding. But I need to know if all these stupid fights are a sign that she doesn't want to be with me anymore, even subconsciously.
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So... let's address this in what I find interesting order.
Ya'll fought about the names of children you do not have? Do you think that's because she wants them and doesn't know how you'd feel about the idea? I know I did that to my man when I wanted kids. Why we always think that subtle hints will work I don't know, but maybe you should look into that.
So, she's uptight, you're not, and you want to know what the fighting means? It means that she's uptight and you're not. Contrary to popular belief, two complete opposites rarely get anywhere in a relationship. It's a psychological proven fact.
Maybe she loves you, and you her, but that doesn't always mean a happily ever after... sadly.
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Alright. I have this friend. Lets say, Ed.
Ed is a nice guy. Ed's the kind of guy whom every girl always calls "A nice guy" He's also the kind of guy who can't get a date to save his life.
No advice Ive given him has worked for him, no advice anyone else has given him has worked for him. No matter what happens, by the end of the night he's alone and no one accepts his date invitations.
So now he really likes this girl. This girl is really into another friend of mine, who isnt into her. But shes chasing him and Ed's chasing her.
Ed has no idea. This girl accepted an invite to a Karaoke bar, he thinks its a date, she thinks hes a really nice friend.
My room mate asked her bluntly if she was interested in him, and she made a face that said "hell no" to us.
As friends, we arent sure if we should tell him. She has a very obvious lack of interest in him and once he notices he's going to be really hurt, and his confidence will sink that much farther.
But if we tell him, he'll call off the plans. If we don't, he's going to think he's on a date, and all that implies.
And he's probably going to be even worse off.
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You should tell him. He's not gonna like it, but it's better than him making a fool out of himself, you know?
Everyone has a friend like that, who's hopeless when it comes to dating. The thing is that no advice you give them is ever going to help. They have to figure it out on their own. It sucks, but that's the way things are, it's what growing up is about.
And it all sucks.
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f/13.
i'm in love withe my best friend.
and she's in love with me.
but the thing is, i'm moving soon.
and she has a boyfriend.
her boyfriend is cool with it, because he and i are great friends.
he wants to see me and her make out.
and we're going to.
but what should i do.
i don't wanna let her go.
but i have to.
i'll still talk to her.
but i really don't know.
what should i do.
please help.
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You're moving soon. There will be no chance for a relationship after that, trust me those never work.
Do NOT trust the BF being okay with all this, btw, because that typically backfires too... like a baby that swallowed TNT, this will get bloody if things progress too far.
My best advice, is to enjoy what time you ahve with her. From there, you'll have to make it work how it will and forget everything else. Moving is hard to deal with when you're in love, but that's why you have to make the best of what you have in meantime.
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I just graduated high school and a couple of weeks ago I met this guy from my school at a party. I had seen him around before but never talked to him. Anyways I got his number and then he called me and stuff and we had a “date”. (He called it a date, but I would just call it hanging out.) We ate, saw a movie, and walked around for a bit. So there’s nothing really wrong with him. He’s really nice, and he seems to treat everyone the same. The only thing is, he’s a baby.
He’s a junior at the school I just graduated from. He’s actually a month older than me, because I started school early. But it’s not just about the age; he’s only like 4 inches taller than me and he only weighs like 15 lbs more.
The thing is, I know that his size will probably change. He’s one of those guys that was like 60 lbs his freshman year (you’ve all seen them), so I’m thinking that he’s just a little behind on the growing thing. And he’s cute now, it’s just the size thing is kind of a turn off. And I mean like I said, he’s nice, and I talked to someone that hung out with him after our “date” and they said that he wouldn’t stop talking about me. So I know he likes me, and I know he’s genuinely a good guy too, because even though I only went on one “date” with him, I’ve already gotten the “don’t hurt him” lecture from 3 of his friends. (so like I know he’s not just putting on a show for me, and that he’s actually nice to everyone).
My question is, should I give him a chance and try to get past the fact that he’s a baby?
Or should I just tell him I only want to be friends?
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This is simply a matter of personal preference, but let me tell you a story.
When I was a junior in high school, I had a crush on this guy I'd never seen before. Turns out he was a freshman. That was a real turn off so I let it go as much as I could. The next year, my senior year, he was even cuter. Well, I decided that since he was technically only a few months behind me in age (I started way early) that I would give him a chance. We dated for a while and it was a blast. He was totally perfect. We ended up breaking up because I graduated and I knew the playing field for him would be great, plus I thought I would have hot college guys to go after. Two years later I'm single and we still see each other a lot. He never found someone good, and neither did I.
The point is that he was one of the best relationships I've had, and we'll probably date again just because. He got bigger and hotter every year and now he's one hot man.
This guy will probably get hotter, and you'll regret not giving him a chance.
But, like I said, it's a matter of preference.
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Ive been in a realtionship for three years and i cant let go because im so inlove and i dont remember how to let go anymore. I have been so emotionally abused. I have been throguh so much with this guy. Im so hurt by him i cant descibe the pain and he doesint understand me at all. He just wants things his way or no way he cant ever listen to me all he says is that ma words are just excuses and that i make him do mean things to me he says his unfaithfullness is because of me and all the above. I just cant take it anymore im so lost and confused i dont know what to tell him anymore when i try to explain how i feel he just pushes it to the side and cuts me off.. I need help to how i can let go because its so hard ive been through so much with him. When he cheated on me i felt like i was worthless and that i wasint good enough like it just hurt so bad because all i would think about is how he did it with the other girl did they do it the same way we made love it just hurt me so bad he cheated on me multiple times and i stayed with him because i love him and i couldint imagine myself with anyone one els. Also i thought he would apprcitiate me taken him back and understand that he has a good girl and wouldint hurt me like that again. But all he did was blame me for his cheating and didnt appreciate me taking him back. Why didnt he appricate me doing that? Gosh i just need hepl to let go. I need a answer...
thank you for taking time to help me... (link)
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A cheater is a cheater because they do not love you, or if they do love you and they cheat, it is because they know they can walk all over you and you will not leave. I've had more than my share of boyfriends that have cheated on me. I've also had ones that hit me, made me believe I was worthless, and even forced me do to cocaine. None of them are really any worse than the rest.
It is not your fault that this guy decided to cheat on you. It is not your fault in slightest way. He is an asshole, and that is really all that comes through when you talk about him. That, and how hopeless you feel. He did not appreciate you staying with him because he knows you will and when something is certain it is worthless, to men like this. I have seen more than my fair share of them in my lifetime.
The easiest way to handle this, is to just leave. Pick up your things and just leave when he isn't around. Do not answer his calls, do not leave a note, just leave and never look back. If he does manage to get you on the phone or face to face don't say anything, just leave. He isn't worth the effort of an explanation and it will just make things harder if you try.
Be strong, girl. I know it's hard and that it hurts, I just know that inside you is the will to move on and leave this guy in the dust, though. You're a strong woman. Use it.
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Lets start with I'm in love with this guy named "s" and well lately we've gotten closer usually when his best 2 friends that happen to be a girls are not around. I know he doesn't like any of them because he acts idiotic and silly with them. But well when their not around he asked me to sit beside him in class we hold hands pass notes talk about silly things but he tries to act tough. I thought he's trying to impress me. but when his 2 friends are around he tries to keep it on the down low like we'll pass by say hiiee and junk and just in klass he'll stare at me from a far. i'll relise smile back and look somewhere else. Heres the deal before he started to hold hands with me he told me had liked a girl named "AA" like 2 months ago. i herd him and his friends talking about her and i was gonna colapse in shock becuz i thought we had something..she doesn't talk to him they realii dunt noe eachother much. but i'v fallen so deeply for him. We try to play hard to get alot and we stare at eachother constantly but i know he likes her.. he doesn't talk about her to me. He tries to hold my hand and he glares constantly at me that has mean something. right ? and it hurts me deeply that he would hug me and stuff while he likes a diffrent gurl. i don't know if he likes me i'm too afraid to ask but i know i want to be with him could you please help me? i need tips on how make him ask me out. & how to find out if he likes me !!!!. how do i ask him if he still likes "AA" ?.. what is he doing to me playing games? (link)
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To start, it all sounds very complicated, and I don't envy you at all. Now, first thing's first, you CANNOT make him ask you out. Life doesn't work that way unless you are awesome at manipulation, which you don't sound like you are, yet.
Moving on, since you two are close, asking him about AA isn't out of the question. Bring her up in passing and judge his reaction, and then from there you could even ask if he likes her or not. You'll have to be prepared for if he does, though. That could be really painful to find out, but you'll just have to let him like her. There's also a way here to find out if he likes you, because if he likes her, you could interject something like "do you like her the way you like me, or is it different?" and then you have him explain how he likes HER and you have the answer as to how he likes you.
It seems to me that he thinks AA is out of his league, but that you might be, as well. He connects with you, which I can tell through his actions, and that tells me that he probably isn't playing games on purpose.
Be sneaky, underhanded and investigative and you'll easily find out what's going on. Ask around, have friends ask around, etc. You'd be amazed what you'll get back.
I hope this helped you, even a little.
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I have dated one guys for 5 years now an he has cheated on me 17 times. I moved out from his house an now i live with someone i really get along with. Everytime i try to break up with the other guy he begs me not to do it that he will change. Please i need so advice on how to tell him i dnt want him no more (link)
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Look at him and say "You cheated on me 17 times." See what he says. If he tries to defend it, slap him in the face and walk away. Then file a restraining order. I think he'll get the picture.
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I'm 17 years old, pretty much a good kid, very slightly rebellious against my parents though. I think I have an extreme potential of becoming an alcoholic.
Although I've never been drunk before (but I have been tipsy once or twice), and I love the taste of alcohol, especially wine. When my family has family over for dinner, I get poured one or two glasses of wine during that evening. This happens about once or twice a month.
On a rare occasion (once every two-three months), when no one is around, I'll sneak a sip of some alcoholic beverage (I'm afraid to drink too much because I don't want anyone to notice that the bottle's emptier than usual. I'm not sure what's my point of doing this, I don't think I want to get drunk, but I'm not so sure I do it for the taste either because I'll have a sip of vodka even though I don't particularly like it, but I'll crave it (but mostly I just crave wine).
What scares me is that I think I will enjoy the feeling of being drunk, and I think I might have a mild form of depression. Also, I tend to be stressed out all the time. How I deal with it right now is by spending hours on the computer because I guess it sort of numbs me. I have a feeling that once I move out I will use alcohol to numb me.
I think the main reason why I've never been drunk before is because I don't know my limits and I don't want to black out or get alcohol poisoning.
I don't know. Is this serious? What should I do about this? (link)
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I've been drinking since the ripe old age of thirteen. I never really had much restraint with it, and still don't when I actually drink. Alcoholism runs on both sides of my family and I've often wondered if I am an alcoholic. I've devised I'm not simply because I can say no to a drink.
I've done my fair share of finding things to numb me, as well. Drinking, drugs, self-injury and everything else.
What I recommend, as a Psychology grad and a previous person of that nature, is simply find your limits (with friends) and be sure you can say no to a drink.
As for the numbing, I would see a shrink, in fact I do. They tend to validate you, make you know that you're sane, whether you are or not.
The main thing is to not be scared of yourself. EVER. You control you, honey, and no one and nothing else ever can unless you let them. Alcoholism is a weakness, so stay strong and you'll never have to deal with it.
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I am still contantly thinking about him.
I was for sure in love with him and he told me he loved me.
I cant stop thinking about him.
The other day was my birthday, and he sent me a text telling me happy birthday, and I replying saying thanks.
& he sent back, im sorry for the way everything happened, and I wanted to let you know that im still a friend if that is okay with you.
I wrote back that that is fine and if he ever needs someone to talk to im here.
But you see, ever since we broke up, he hasnt said a word to me. Nothing.
It kills me that he wont talk to me, and I dont want to make the first move and talk to him, since he already has a g/f. ( his gf is one of my friends)
but I dont know what to do, im about to move, and school is almost over and I want to talk to him.
I really do think I am heartbroken.
Any advice?
Sorry its so long.
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Men tend to be unsure how to handle breakups, even when they are the ones leaving you. Often, they don't want to hurt you, but don't know how to break it gently, so they get mad, or they cut you off. The fact he sent you the text is a sign that he still cares about you, even just a little bit.
If you really want to talk to him, and you have to be sure that you will be able to, then you should. Initiate the conversation. It's okay to be forward. He's your ex now, and you have a right to tell him exactly how you feel or whatever you want to say, regardless of if he wants to hear it or who his girlfriend is. If your friend is a true friend she'll understand that.
I've had more than one time in my life when I've been completely heartbroken and I know how painful it is. I really think that you will feel better if you can talk to him, have it out and say what you need to. You must be prepared for all the consequences though. Since you'll be moving and school is almost over, you'll be able to leave behind whatever is left and allow yourself to heal.
Have confidence, know you're worth his time, and do what your heart needs you to do.
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sooo how do i get over my ex that i love and went out for 2 years but she stopped loving me and she wants to be friends but i can't do it idk ii am going crazy i miss her all the time and can't stop thinkinh about her idk i am going to flip- out and everyone wants her too (link)
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It's always hard to get over a long term relationship. You may not be ready to be her friend yet, and that's okay. There is no easy route out of this situation, but if you distance yourself, cut yourself off from her, then you won't think about her all the time. It will hurt, but the healing will start sooner than if you try to be friends right now; that would just be lasting agony. It's painful and unfair, and I know that. I'm still getting over my last boyfriend that I loved dearly. I have come to the point that we can be friends, but it has been a long, painful road. I still dream about him and wish, often, that he were still in my life, but I feel better about it now, after cutting myself off from him for a few months. I'm sure it would be easier if I'd given myself more time, but I needed his friendship to help me heal as well.
You need to move on, live your life and try to forgive, if not forget, the hurt she's causing you. I wish you the best of luck, whatever you do.
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I am dealing with a huge weigh on my shoulders. Last year I went through the hardest time of my life. I had been with my ex-boyfriend on and off for almost a year and a half. He moved away for school but we hook up when he would come home. I ended up pregnant and he made me feel like there was no way to keep the baby. I was in a horrible state with my hormones running wild and all the added stress of school. I was 2 months away from receiving degree. But I knew it was going against everything I believe in.
I feel totally depressed. Its been a year and I still have the pregnancy weight, I feel totally guilty for what I did. It kills me inside to think about what I did. I have no one to talk to because its such a sensitive issue. My friends haven't been through this and I dont want to dwell my issues on them. I lost all my confidence i feel fat and ugly because of what I did. I dont know what to do anymore. I feel totally alone :*( (link)
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Abortion's hard... It's a hard choice and hard to live with after. That being said, I'm not against the idea under right circumstance. I'm nineteen, but I know the feeling of losing unborn children; my body rejects the idea and I've had seven miscarriges. I know, at least for me, that I always wonder who these children of mine would have been. Would they have been happy? Would I have been a good mother?
It's very hard to get over the idea, and I know that it causes you a lot of pain. No one will ever understand until they go through a similar experience. I find solace in people that share these experiences and it really helps to talk to them. I go to a shrink now and I know it really helps me, but if you're not ready for that step there is a website, completely confidential, that is a forum of support groups. It is called DailyStrength.com and it has helped me through so much. I suggest you go there and share everything you feel. It's a safe environment and people there are supportive.
I know I also write to my unborn children in a journal and it helps me to know that they might "hear" me.
Just remember that you are not alone, and that you did what you thought, at least at the time, was the right thing to do. Time heals all wounds, though scars will often be left. I have confidence that you will overcome this everest. You'll always feel guilty, but the thing to do is learn to cope, not forget.
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This might be a silly question, but I just want your opinions.
When is the age that you should (well, not 'should'... you know what I mean) start dating. Like really be looking for a long-term relationships and even potentially a future husband? I've never really dated seriously before, and I would just like to know what a good age/stage in life would be to start looking for a potential husband.
I'm 17 and a half, and I would to get married at 21-22. (I'll be done with college when I'm 21, and I want to have a kid before 24... LOL I know I'm weird).
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It sounds like you have your life planned out to a T, which can be both good and bad. Long-term dating is something that you have to feel, not a statistic that someone can just spit out at you.
I know that I didn't start dating seriously until I was eighteen. I have hopes to be wed and have a child by age twenty six, but at the same time, one should seriously consider what you will be giving up to have a child and a marriage.
My best advice here is that you are still young, hell I am too, and people in our age bracket need to have all the fun we can in life, so I would simply wait for life to happen to you. When you find someone that you feel you are willing to adapt for, and stick it out with, then you can make that a long-term relationship. They are long and hard and sometimes do not pay off like you want them to. You'll just know when it's right, and when the person is right.
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So I found out that my boyfriend of 2 months lied to me about smokeing weed. he swore he would never lie again but obviously i dont belive him considering he lied the first time. Now that hes lied, I always think that hes lieing to me about EVERYTHING..I dont want to break up with him but I dont want to be with him if I think hes lieing..I know this is confusing but how can I just find out the truth when I think hes lieing? Should I just trust him until I catch him in the act? PLEASE HELP! (link)
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So, Sami Story Time.
I used to date a guy that, in two months, became homeless and a crackhead. He promised me, PROMISED, that he would never do drugs around me or see me when he was high and that he would go home to his mom if he couldn't find a place to live in two weeks. Instead, he did meth in front of me, lived on a golf course for six months and started sleeping around with every girl that could offer him somthing (bed, food, pot, meth, etc).
In the end, I had to let him go. Between the heartache and the distrust I had for him, it just was not worth my sanity.
It sounds like this guy is going to drive you mad, simply because he messed up once. I am NOT saying that you should leave him, because that would be irresponsible advice, but what I AM saying is that you need to seriously sit down and think about whether you can live with the paranoia or if it would be healthier for you to move on, as hard as that might be for you.
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I have been involved with my x-husband for 17 years now. We were married for 5 years and have been divorced for 2 years now. He has become so distant, and boring. We don't talk anymore, or do anything anymore and everytime I try to talk to him about our future he changes the subject. We used to talk about everything all the time. We were best friends. He doesn't answer any of my emails from work anymore. He doesn't call me on his lunch or breaks anymore. The only thing he wants to do when we have free time is sleep. Everytime I ask what he would like to do, he responds saying whatever you want to do, or whatever you want to eat. He asked me to remarry him 10 months ago, but I said No, I needed time. Now when I try to discuss the subject, he completly ignores me. Is this relationship over? When we aren't at work, we are always together so I don't think he is seeing anyone else. He has in the past, but I don't think he does it now. Does he not want me anymore. He shows differently than he speaks. What should I do? How should I address or approach it? (link)
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It has been said before and I shall say it again: "Actions speak louder than words." So no matter what he may say, how he acts is the main thing to pay attention to here. From a psychological standpoint his Bx (behavior) suggests that he depressed. This could be chemical or mental, or a nice meshing of the two. What his Bx also says, however is that he has grown bored with life, not just you. From what you describe he seems to have no zealous for anything.
In general, I recommend he see a therapist, one or two sessions, just enough to decipher if this Bx is from your relationship or his mental state, as this sort of Bx can be signs of serious depression or other mental problems. I would not declare the relationship over until you find out what is eating him.
***HOWEVER ***
If he refuses to go see someone about this, to see if he is depressed or what have you, then the relationship should probably end, as the only outcome would be that he would, more likely than not, drag you down with him.
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I need an honest viewpoint on this.
Lets say you're a 16 year old girl and you broke up with your 16 year old boyfriend (which is my case). You broke up with him because he's been giving you really obvious hints that he didn't wanna be together anymore. He even said so one time. After a week of breaking up, he sends you a text saying something like: "You're contagious because I cried for no reason last night"
and all of a sudden, you start seeing your ex boyfriend depressed. (he never was before...in fact, he was happy). He tries to flirt with you more... He doesn't eat at lunch...he feels really sad and crappy. He doesnt flirt with girls like he usually did to try and make you jealous. He just sits in your table at lunch and sulks.
If this was your case, do you think he's depressed over the break up?
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Do NOT let him fool you. The thing about sixteen year old boy's hearts is that they do not understand what is going on. He is totally depressed over the break up but probably not because he wants you, more like because he cannot believe that he has been rejected by you. He misses what he had simply because it is not there anymore. Guys will tend to do this their whole life with relationships until they find someone new. If you get back with him, nothing will have changed and it simply gives him the opportunity to leave you and boost his own ego.
So yes, he is depressed over the break up, but not over you.
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Does anyone know if a note from a lisenced psychologist is enough to get someone out of gym class? my reason to bring it up to mine would be that it doesn't help my depression at all to be all alone in my gym class next year since the only people i knew got accepted into alternative programs. oh, and that a study hall would help me get ahead in other things. can this type of note get me out of gym [because i actually have depression] or will they just make me take gym anyway? (link)
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I'm afraid that a shrink cannot get you out of gym unless you have a severe mental disorder, of which depression, even Major Depressive Disorder, is not one. Talk to your school counselor and dean about it, though. You would be amazed how much those people can help you make a good schedule for yourself. I, being a bipolar and a bit overweight, would throw horrendous fits and cry a lot in gym class (I couldn't help it, I was unmedicated). My counselor wasn't much help, but my dean understood where I was coming from and put me into an independent gym study that I did outside of school and let me have study hall for that period. I'm sure your dean or counselor, or even gym teacher could help accomodate you.
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Everyone here has been saying "if that's how your partner (boyfriend/fiance/whatever) is then that's who you chose and you can't and shouldn't change them" ... what I'm saying is doesn't that go the same for us women? ... for example: when we started dating he knew i didn't like this or that yet he still dated me. So instead of me trying to change him or him trying to change me.. shouldn't we compromise and make changes ourselves without being asked? When you love someone, wouldn't you climb mountains to make things work? (link)
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Whoever's said that you shouldn't change people is a crock. I've changed many a man in my life and I've never had a single one complain about it. It's a matter of HOW you change them. People change, it's a fact. Compromise is what happens when people inadvertently change each other. It's sort of a neat thing, really. The main thing here is to change each other, or yourselves is you choose, for the better and because it's better for the person changing, not necessarily for the changer. ^_^
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I've liked this kid since i was in 8th grade im in 11th grade now. Well back in 9th grade i started to talk to him ( hes 4 years older) i was so nervous i made up a name and everything cause i didnt think hed like me. well he found out who i actually was and was nice about it but then we stopped talking. but just recently he messaged me and weve been talking hes asked me out a couple times but i havent been able to hang out. well my parents are now out of town and i told him he should come over sometime and was like ok but didnt say anything else its been 4 days and i havent heard anything from him i imed him last night leaving a flirty message but he never answered me back should i give up on him or keep trying this guy means more to me then anyone i met before i gave up a trip to florida and a tom petty concert hoping hed come over this week but hasnt =( (link)
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Fact of life, guys aren't as intuitive as you'd like them to be. My best advice here, to be short and sweet about it, is to openly ask him to come over one night. He said ok when you suggested it, so he obviously wants to, but, much like my ex, he probably doesn't want to invite himself over. Just ask. The worst you can get is no, and then you can move on from there.
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well I wont take the meds they give me for being depressed because I thought it was more than that just because of the way I am I mean I lose it a lot and just cant control myself. Do you think I should try the meds for depression first to see if maybe it is that or do you think it is bipolar? I want to thank you for answering my questions also. (link)
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My recommendation is to take take the depression medication, assuming it's not prozac (prozac is very hard on the system and very bad for your mental state [[effexor is a good anti-dep]]). Give the meds about two months to set in, and then ask your friends and family how your personality has changed. If you become more violent you may bipolar. Hypomania can often be treated with depression medication, and more often than not that is what people suffer from as opposed to bipolar disorder.
I hope I've helped you out a bit.
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Could you tell me some signs of being bi polar I mean I've looked it up on the net but just wanted to know if there is anything more. I'm always going from mood to mood like I'm happy and ok one min and the next I'm just as mean and hateful as can be sometimes I feel like i cant even handle my own kids and yelling all the time and just very bad and I want to get help but the doctors keep telling me Im depressed but I really dont think that is it. (link)
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Depression is characterized by intense, long lasting malaize, sadness and loss of interest in things you once enjoyed; it is sometimes accompanied by aches and pains as well.
Manic Depressive Disorder (Bipolar) is characterized by mania (intense highs) and depression (crash and burning). The mania is a euphoric feeling, like you're on top of the world and nothing can hurt you. Sometimes mania is characterized by beligerent or deviant behavior. This more anger-like mania is often increased when a bipolar is misdiagnosed as a depression victim. The depression is usually very intense, at times, bordering on suicidal actions and thoughts. Neither side of the spectrum usually lasts longer than three days.
There is another, similar disorder, called hpyomania, which is usually characterized by less severe bipolar symptoms, however instead of super-happy-giddy excitement, it tends to be disinterest and lack of emotion which will turn to the crash. You never reach mania.
If you're currently on depression medication, and you are noticing that you're more tempermental than usual, I would talk to your doctor about the chances that you are bipolar.
If they want to put you on medication, I severely discourage letting them perscribe you lithium because of it's sedating effects. It tends to keep you too far to middle and not really let you be happy or sad as well. I have had great results with Lamictal. It gives you a boost of energy and lets you still feel regular emotions. ^_^
Hope I've helped you.
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