Wife, mother, loyal friend to the end, model, classic car collector. almost 30 years old, and seen alot in my few years here on earth. People usually come to me for advice, and i give in return grounded, realistic answers.
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I've answered about 20 questions. Gotten 3 ratings and one thank you. I started doing this cause I like giving advice and helping. The problem is that we don't even know if the person who asked the question even saw your answer. The only way to know is if your answer is rated or you get a thank you. I feel like I spend a lot of time on here and I'm just giving advice to nobody. It kinda takes away the whole "helping people" if you don't even know they read your answer. Sure, its good practice to answer some questions, figure things out about myself. Just not sure if its worth the time to keep answering questions that may never find their target. Maybe I'll look for a site that tells you the person read it, at least. Feeling a little discouraged. (link)
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Most like they come back and see you answer and just never respond because their itching to get back out there and apply the advice!
Even if they didnt come back and let you know how it worked out or rated you or anything it still helps that people who lurk and read what you said get to see it and apply it to their own lives if they ever come up on a similar situation can use.
your adivice still gives not only the person who asked but readers here the TOOLS to be able to go forth knowing what to do should they encounter something like what they read abotu on here that someone ELSE posted. ; )
helping people is what its all about. not racking up points my friend.
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My fiance and I have been living together for 2 years, with 2 cars.
I have a 2011 Hybrid that I'm financing for $316/m and he has a 2000 GMC Jimmy that was passed down to him.
Two weeks ago his truck broke down. Since then we've poured $300 into it to figure out what's wrong with it and turns out he needs a new engine. The truck isn't even worth enough to put a new engine in and we do not have the money to buy him a new truck.
We're 20 & 23, I work part time and go to college full time and I need all the extra money I have to pay off my school loans and car. He works full time but he only makes $13/hr - minus taxes so more like $10/hr.
On top of my part-time job I occasionally do freelance web design work but this often requires me to travel to other cities (aka take my car). The money for that is good and I really need it but my fiance is now getting in the way of that.
He's adopted this mentality that he can take my car whenever he wants and leave me stranded at home. He works an hour away (so an hour there and an hour back) and goes in early and comes home late. He thinks anytime I'm not working at my part time job or in school that he can just take my car without asking. He's already ruined my chance of a freelance job that would have been 4k (MORE THAN I'VE EVER MADE) because he took my car without asking me before I woke up two days in a row that he knew I needed it to travel to the job site!
On days I work, I take him to his job first AN HOUR DRIVE and drive back home ANOTHER HOUR DRIVE and then later on I have to do the same thing all over again! So I'm putting lots of miles on my car and I'm ruining my tires which I already needed to have replaced. He doesn't care and he drives my car like a joke. He does stupid stuff like "LOOK I CAN DRIVE WITH NO HANDS!" and TEXTS while driving! I didn't care when it was his car but now we're talking about my car which I'm still paying off. If he gets in a crash I might just kill him.
I'm furious about it and I'm just about to tell him that he needs to figure out his own transportation because he's ruining my life!
I know he's my fiance but I don't ever see us getting married so obviously you can tell our relationship was already rocky and this is making me just want to leave him ASAP. I can't deal with all the stress.
What should I do? I'm so angry right now! (link)
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Hell no, your both adults and its his responsibilty to create his own way to get around and if your making more then he is then he is obigated to step aside and allow you to be the bread winner for the two of you and NOT take your only mode of transportation.
It seems to me that hes not thinking responcibly and not really thinking about your future together if he knows your the one making more money then him and is still willing to prevent you from making it there so that you can pay the bills for you both. How can you put a new engine in his car if he goes and takes your car out knowing you needed to be somewhere for work?? see? hes not thinking at all and he does not have full access to your car.
What you should have done was tell him that because you bought the car brand new, that they made you buy full coverage insurance and that no one else is allowed to drive it but you.
My husband bought a brand new suberu a few years back and they actually made him sign paperwork BANNING a spouse from driving the car! having anyone else BUT you on the insurance will drive up the cost and "you cant afford that" and "that was the only way you could still get the car" ; )
my husbands car is now paid off and i COULD drive it if i want but i have my own car.
when my car breaks down, I FIX IT, I MAKE THE CALLS to mechanics, get estimates and find out how long it will take me to save up if i need to do so. ((BECAUSE of the fact that i have an older car though i can also do all preventive maintaince myself)) but thats besides the point.
His car isnt worth putting a new engine in it if its older then say 10 years or more. Tell him that this is his responcibility and that although you may be engaged, he still needs to man up and take care of his own business.
My other fear here is that this could be a case of you falling in love with someones "potential" and not what he actually IS.
Try to remember that EVERYONE has "the potential" to better themselves and do this or that, but the question is ARE THEY ACTUALLY ACTIVELY WORKING TOWARDS IT?? ask yourself this and then get back to me.
Your best bet is (if your the leader in this relationship) is to say "ok look, we're not gonna be taking my car anymore ESPECIALLY if i have a job coming up, i pay most of "our bills" and i just cant take care of you the way your needing me too and i need you to meet me halfway on this whole car situation ok??" stay totally calm while your doing this and do NOT get angry, this will only fuel a person that gets defensive easily and things will not end well.
tell him, hes a man now and needs to be helping out more and showing you that he can care for not only the two of you but a family one day as well, and your not seeing the things you need to see in order to continue to justify paying for HIS bills. you can do a probationary period if you want (if you dont want to just up and leave him) ORRRR this could be your chance to get out now and make a clean break its totally up to you and how brave you are and wanting out.
If you really cant see marrying him then this is pretty much your chance to get out. this could be "the final straw" if you wanna call it that.
Let him know that you understand him wanting to use your car for his work but that your the one thats in school, stressed, working, and making more money then he is and he is putting absolutely NO priority for you and what you do for him, ahead of his own.
he sounds selfish and lazy honestly, and you deserve better. you have every right to be angry but remember that you are an adult and you need to break it off with him life one. No screaming matches, no throwing things, just calm talking, and matturity needs to be applied here.
good luck you can do it!
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My friend has a abusive illegal husband who steal from her and is teaching her kids how to act like a illegal, how can she cope (link)
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I abolsutely agree with dragonfly here, she needs to get out and get away from him but planning it will take some time, and she needs to set things up first so that she'll be covered should she leave him with the kids. Find the right timing, maybe while hes at work or gone, have a little bit of money put away, and working possibly if the child are all school age so that she can save up some funds and look for a new place to live if shes not willing to just out and out call the police and have him arrested for domestic violence and have the police REMOVE him from the home.
If shes afraid he will come after her then she needs to take the steps to have things set up so that she can make a quick getting away with the kids while hes gone somewhere first and have a place at a battered womens shelter. These shelters, house womens AND their kids, and some will even feed, and provide medical check ups for you and the kids depending on where she goes.
If she gets the police involved, they will also sometimes suggest a womens shelter thats not widely known so that he cant track her down.
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its a great website since the cheeseburger was invented in opinion the only downside of the website concept is how do you guys handle the negativity of a questioner as i can see don't comeback here it would be a sure fire to spread it to the community of how you guys handle the negativity patient is what the key of of it right
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negitivity is NOT what goes on here and each moderator is told this.
If you start negititvy, JUST LIKE IN REAL LIFE you run the risk of getting it back in return obviously.
all we offer is plain and simple answers to questions people have who may be too afraid/ashamed to turn to someone they know.
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wow!!you seem to be a type of a lady that gets hit on back in the days have you ever done something like that were you give that other person a clue that you were interested and so then you give your number to that person then rang 4 times on my situation she gave me her number she told me to just text her well in my opinion texting is a sign of weakness and so it lowers interest so then i just instead called then it rang 4 times i think this website is great bc you need control if you don't have control my self i would be asking my co worker of what happen to her and then again sign of weakness lowers interest yeah this website is like a robot that doest really talk back to you its neutral nobody knows who you are your just here to ask some advice its like Facebook (link)
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Well in a way your right! we only know what your telling us! we dont know you personally and cant because this is over the net! and not in person.
and the things you mentioned are not signs of "weakness" its all 2015 and texting is just one of the many ways we use to communicate with each other so get over it.
if we're so bad then just go handle your own problems and dont come back here asking for help.
good luck ; )
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I am thinking of using veet to get rid of hair but the way it works makes me scared of it. Anything that just destroys hair can't be good to put anywhere on your legs right? What about using veet down THERE?
Should I be scared? Should I try it? Help! (link)
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Actually i dont believe in using veet or nair. Once i tried nair and it burned like HELL on my legs. It chemically bruns hair at its root out of the hair folical so that it gives the idea of waxing which i thought would be GREAT to avoid the pain of waxing but i was wrong.
I ended up in severe pain with irrated sensitive skin for DAYS afterward and i had never considered myself a sensitive skinned person before that time.
Thats why i wax. Buy your own wax, with a wax pot warmer and some cloth strips. Buy some baby powder so that the wax grabs the HAIR and not the skin and i PROMISE it will hurt a TON less then it would without the baby powder there first on bare skin (dont even do that)
I also went to cosmo school and LEARNED this, along with nails and hair so i know whats up in this area of expertise. infact if you have more questions about this, feel free to hit me up i will guide you through the whole process. ]
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i know you don't wanna act needy when you phone a lady I've always have a rule that you only call ones then if she doesn't answer wait a week to call back but this one it rang 4 times heard her saying something so then i said something waited a few to call back did it sounded i was desperate to call back again i mean if i knew it was her phone i would of left a message which also in my rule no messages after 60days but this one i didnt know if it was her or the phone i have never come across on something like this (link)
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well if you thought the phone glitched or something went wrong then theres nothing wrong with calling back. Why dont you just text back this time and SAY that you just called but the phone must have glitched because you heard someone pick up and then hang up on you.
((make HER feel bad for not picking up the phone like a normal person))
then after THAT let it go. if she doesnt want to talk to you and just gave you her number to be nice but isnt really interested then thats on her.
shes the one thats losing something here not you. you tried to call.
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Thank you i mention to her that i surf she seems very interested of doing it too so she ask me if i can teach her how so one day i ask her put your number on my phone so got her number and then said i well let you know of when were going on our first date so then i waited for about a week tuesday 815 pm i called 1 it rang 4 times then i heard her saying something when i heard her it sounded like as if she was in some underground or something i don't know so then i said something then it just say on my phone call ended I've been asking around they all said its the phone so then i waited i few minutes to call back same thing rang 4 times she didn't pick one time i called somebody they said they don't know who it was base on my area code so then she left a message 2 called 2 doesn't make since anyways she want me to hangout with her i work with this person she knows that i have never ever hangout with anyone or ask for a phone number i know how girls are they like too talk a lot about guys i am sure she knows i have never seen her or talk to her for almost weeks now my plan is the next time i see her at work i am just gonna get to the point then ask her out patient patient hopefully will payoff her action i think well tell me so if she isn't really interested (link)
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maybe it was an accident i mean you never know. Your right though, next time you see her you can say hi, and get straight to the point with her letting her know that you called and your not sure what happened because you HEARD her pick up cause you heard her voice and then it hung up.
So she will know that she fucked up NOT you, and that you tried to hit her up. Act like your not taking it personally and that shes the one that will be missing out since she asked YOU to teach HER to surf, cause usually people have to pay to be taught to surf honestly, so you were doing her a favor. ; )
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so i called her on a tuesday 8.15pm rang 4 times i heard her saying something so then i said something then it just ended waited a few to call back same thing rang 4 times I've been asking around if they ever had a problem with there phone like that they all pretty much say that its her phone not me that she purposely hangup i am thingking she's the one thats been wanting to hangout got her not number planning to set a date i should of left a message to let her know that its me that called discipline i didn't wanna make my self look like i have no control no self control lowers interest my plan is when i see her at work i am just gonna get to the point but crap its been almost 2week now when i am working she's not there i am dying to ask her out but of course she doesn't haft to know this i have not talk or see her its been almost a 2 weeks now thats why self-control.patient.discipline.is a must but its sooo hard that old me would just be calling her and wondering constantly asking what is going on baby step baby step..hehehehhehe (link)
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well if you already tried calling then why dont you text, mention that you tried to call but something was wrong with her phone and then ask her out??
seems like its just a simple miscommunication here because of a phone glitch. either that or shes avoiding you. I cant really tell because your sentences arent really complete so i dont really know what your talking about or what your asking. just trying to take my best shot to help you.
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I have not given my older brother a gift in forever. We both have been through alot, it seems like its something all the time. I don't want give him anything cheesy I want it to be the best gift ever. I am almost 15 and he turns 16 in a few weeks. He deserves something nice. One time I felt bad because he bought me a phone with his game money. I was thinking about buying him the game and a picture frame, but I think that is a little to girly.... (link)
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you could get him a gift card to somewhere he really likes, or if you have money but your just not SURE what to get him, you could start a tradition like maybe one of those cool old fashion pocket watches?? they sell them at the mall or online and you can get them engraved for cheap.
Theres a store called "things remembered" and they sell really cool skeleton/steam punk pocket watches for guys that arent really into jewelry or anything flashy. I bought my husband one it was about 65 bucks and then they engrave for free and give you a jewelry box to put it in thats FOR a man. Thats something special that you could do that he would remember FOREVER.
maybe a pair of shoes, or some clothes? people usually appreciate things they really been NEEDING too, so if you ask him if theres anything he really needs but hasnt been able to get and then went and got it for him that would show him that you think of him and that you care or else you wouldnt have taken the time to do that.
idk just a couple of ideas.
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I am in amazing relationship, one that I've always wanted and dreamed of. Both of us are in our 30's, were were married before to other people and now both divorced, but head over heels in love with each other. There is one problem, he cannot get over my dating past. Before meeting him, I was in two long term relationships ( marriage and one for 6 yrs) and then became single and dated for two years. I met him before he even had the chance to date again, we hit it off immediately and fell in love over time. He said he loves how sexual I am, but hates my past, his resolution is to 1) swing with him and let him have sex with someone in front of me, or 2) participate in a 3 some and let him do his thing in front of me. This kills me, and I don't want to. I love him sooo much and if I saw this it will hurt so bad. My past means nothing to me, but he doesn't get it, because he didn't get to date after his marriage with his HS sweetheart. Instead he went on a date with me and we have been together for almost a year and we live together. He has given me this ultimatum to continue with our relationship. I don't know if I can do this, I wish I could move out and let him try the single life he says he missed out on, but I am afraid of losing him and I don't want something to happen, but I'm tired of being ridiculed. I want him to see me for who I am today and what I offer, not my past. Please help! Should I put my feelings aside and take the torture of seeing him have sex with someone or should I get out of his life and let him do his thing and pray he wants me back. 30 ish female. (link)
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Yeah hes clearly immature as hell if he cant get over the fact that your "more experienced" we'll call it then he is. Thats not fair, and hes clearly so jealous that he cant get past it.
I say you break it off soon before you end up getting hurt even more by him and his behavior.
If he really loved you it wouldnt MATTER how many more people youve been with then him or vise versa ok. By him suggesting something like this in order to "balance" the two of you out is just insulting, and shows that hes clearly not ready to be with someone seriously if hes going to be that petty.
He obviously has an ego on him too from what it sounds like (possibly) and this could make things worse in other areas as well and thats not going to make things better. ever.
Your going to have to just tell him, "look i understand that you feel like this but im not ok with this and im not going to take part in it, and if you love me enough then that should be enough, not asking me to ask if you can be with other people because your feeling "shorted" options wise when it comes to how many sexual encounters youve had verses mine"
"your shorting yourself by thinking like this and your taking it out on me and thats not fair"
If he wants to leave then "theres the door" and just wish him the best of luck. be totally serious with this and stay calm, wait a while and let him really stew on what youve said and allow him to thinking over.
You need to put your foot down and let him know that your not ok with it, you dont want him doing that, you dont appreciate it, and you will not be there whenever he decides to come back either. He needs to ask himself if losing you is really worth POSSIBLY having more sexual encounters with people he doesnt even know yet.
its the kind situation where you just have to say, "i hope this is going to be worth it for you"
He will think about it and either be encreditabily selfish and youll break up with him or he will realize that what you two have is a good thing and he wont want to put it in danager just because of something so petty.
good luck sweetie
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On my right thumb, on the bottom, I have a bump on my nail. I have put on fake nails before. It's not hurting, but it does distract me. Should I go see a doctor, or wait for it to heal (link)
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ok you might have some sort of fungus thats just in that one spot.
If you do put on nails alot then know this: while your wearing fake nails, your real nails cant breathe, therefore they could react badly after a while if you have fake nails on on for usually long periods of time and then go back and get them redone all the time.
((i actually went to school for this, i went to nail school for a year and can legally work in a nail salon even though i dont currently))
You can sand down the bump on your nail and then get some collodial silver from the store and keep putting a couple drops on a band-aid while allowing your nail to fully grow out until you can just cut it off with clippers.
Also for anyone else here that has weak nails of any kind, you can get whats called "silk wraps" at a salon done. This is where they re-enforce your nail strength until your nails can fully grow out again and you can assentially start over. While you have these on you should take calcium suppliments so a few months to allow your body to focus on giving your nails the attention they need. ; )
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How do I pop my own Cherry? I really really want to pop my own cherry so I wouldn't be embarrassed of bleeding on him or just having my blood all over the place. I know I should let my partner do it, but I just want to myself. And also when I when masturbate will I pop my cherry? and/or When I masturbate will my cherry pop? and I'm a virgin by the way. Pls answer I really really want to know how should I pop my own cherry? what to use to pop it ? those good question's thank you so much for taking out the time to answer my questions :)))) (link)
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the best thing you can do is get a dildo for this. Your fingers are not ness. gonna do it, also theres many things that can "pop your cherry" like riding a bike, or just being athletic.
But yes, to simulate a male penis would probaboy be the safest way, get a friend to buy you one online or from a shop and then give her the cash to make up for the price. Shop for the kind you'd like online first then have someone that CAN enter a shop get you one so theres no proof of purchase in your history. Unless you wanna do it online at someone elses house then that would work.
also whenever you use a dildo ALWAYS use lube. It can be very painful if you dont.
good luck
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I'm twenty, female.
He's twenty two.
I liked this guy since high school, I always thought he was cute but we never talked so I always just kind of admired from afar. However, after he graduated high school, I forgot all about him. Until I got hired at the grocery store I work at now. He is my superior.
He actually is the one that trained me. Very few words were used in the training but he talked to me then. Told me his tricks to bagging things and that kind of thing.
It's been a couple of years since working there and he is now an even higher up position in a department that I do not belong in.
A few weeks ago, he was at the bar with my brother's girlfriend and she was drunk and told him how unbelievably cute I think he is to which he had replied to her "she's definitely cute" and my brother's girlfriend told him to talk to me then because I'm shy and he said he's so shy around me too.
So, a few weeks later, here we are and we still haven't spoken.
I'm getting sick of the silence but I just over think conversation with him too much. I can't just blabber a conversation with him now after two years of silence and after I found out that he thinks I'm cute.
So, I want to write him a note. We park next to each other in the parking lot. It's kind of cute, we usually start around the same time each morning and we would park right by each other but use the courtesy spot parking. He always gets his lunch before me and is usually back before mine even begins but I'll walk out when he comes back and I got to lunch, that he parked his car right next to mine instead of leaving the courtesy spot.
I have noticed changes in him, though. He does the parking next to me on his own and now he goes through my self checkout when I'm working it. He always used to avoid it when he saw me on it.
So, anyway, I just want the note to be short and say something along the lines of "heres my number, if you want it, that's cool and if you don't, that's cool too" with a smiley so I don't seem too intimidating, lol.
I guess my question is, is that weird? Will he be weirded out if I left a note on his car? Will he even use my number? A few of my friends told me if he's too nervous to talk to me, he may not even want to text me. So, I just want to know if it's wort it, I guess. I don't want him to be turned off by me and not think I'm cute anymore because I really want this to work out. Have him text me then maybe, gradually move to talking face to face.
Thanks for your help! (link)
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Why dont instead of you giving him your number, invite him to go out somewhere with you and a bunch of friends??
Get him used to going places with you even if its in a setting where theres other people?
That way when the times comes to go out just the two of you, it wont feel as weird.
birthday parties, or out to bars with friends, anything where you could invite him, there is a potential for the sparks to fly even MORE then they already do. Its clear that he likes you and you like him, your both just too shy to make the first move but if your used to each other and theres oppertunitys to grow closer then grab them!
try to be more positive around him, joke more, make him laugh with you if your not already and youll gain his friendship then a relationship can grow from that because theres no reason why not.
If you invite him to something with you and some friends youll have more of a reason to give him your number so that he "doesnt get lost" or if he says hes "not sure he can go" you can say "ok well let me give you my number and you can just text or call if you cant make it" see??
its perfect.
good luck ; )
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I am not 18 yet but i want a tattoo and i know someone who would do it. what would be the best spot so my mom wouldnt notice it? (link)
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first off, make sure the specific tattoo you want is something you will be able to live with for the rest of your life. Make sure that its meaningful (usually those types youll be happier with forever) and that this isnt just a spur of the moment thing.
next (even if this is only about your parents not seeing it) its still a good idea to make sure its in a place where you could cover it up if you ever had to get a straight laced job.
feet could be good because you could wear socks, your back, just make sure you remember to never wear a strappy top around them, and your stomach right up under your boobs if your a female that is, because most people dont wear a top thats short enough to see there.
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Only in 24 hrs he made me feel as if i am his fu than future wife than ignored saying you know what you did?
I to till yesterday emailed him with out any replyies.
NOW WHAT (link)
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yeah i cant really understand what your trying to say or ask for either.
what i will say though is that if your now being ignored then the person that you were talking to clearly isnt interested and you need to move on.
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theres this guy, we met at a party but we connected and had a heart to heart we had been texting all week. he started calling me babe and complimenting me. telling me i was the only girl he talked to and that he wants to hang with me again. but when i asked him if were were "talking" he told me he doesnt do relationships. and his reasoning was. (he doesnt like being hurt and he doesnt like drama) should i even try to continue to flirt or should i just consider friends? i honestly started to like him. and ive been hurt so much i know his pain (link)
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Ok, im going to give this to you as if im MOST of the single guys ive ever known that say things like this to girls.
basically, im down to have sex with you but i dont wanna be with anyone right now because i wanna leave my options open.
i think you should either just consider him a friend or move on. USUALLY all the guys ive ever heard say this kinda stuff dont want a relationship/arent ready/or want to continue to be a bachlor and dont want to be tied down should someone "better" come along.
it sounds like based on what you said HE said, that hes leaning more towards the selfish side of things and would just be down to jump into bed with you which you dont need to deal with, when you could have better.
good luck
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Okay, so I'm nearly 16. I know you're going to say that it's too early for me to worry about this, but I GENUINELY believe that I'm going to be alone forever. I'm a guy, and I'm pretty much asexual unless it's Lana Del Rey or Beyoncé or someone like that. I'm fat so I can't have someone like that. I see my friends taking their girlfriends on dates that they complain aren't expensive enough. I am seriously going to be alone until I become a dentist and have a ton of money and have someone marry me for money. I'm going to be miserable. I would really love to do something with houses, or design, because that's what I'm genuinely good at and enjoy doing. But I can't do that because I want to be rich and they make peanuts. It's unrealistic. I'm just so sad right now. (link)
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Your NOT going to be alone forever ok, trust me there really is someone out there for everybody.
and if you dont like your weight change it. Start slow and replace a meal one day with something healthier instead, then do it twice a week, then three times and so on. Pretty soon youll be in the habit of WANTING to eat healthier things and everytime you look at something unhealthy your body will NOT want it.
Also start going for walks. try just a short walk once a week anywhere you want, whenever you want. youll sleep better, and your body will start to boost your energy level slowly. ; )
good luck and really try the short walks after dinner and replacing a meal with something healthier once a week and move up from there and youll notice a difference.
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My dad and brother are always calling me fat. I got used to them calling me fat tho. But now at school most friends call me fat and always say I'm really heavy. When they call me fat I laugh it off and smile like it doesn't hurt but it really does. I'm 14 and weigh 118 lbs. I never saw my self as fat. My mom is saying I'm getting fatter. My jeans are getting tighter and tighter. And I feel like the more people call me fat the more I eat. I spend more than half an hour staring at myself everyday. And I feel like I'm getting bigger and bigger. I try to lose weight but I can't and that makes me feel worse. I don't know if I should let their opinions influence me. (link)
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You should not let them, have total influence over you. It is of course natural to consider other people in your decision making in life and thats OK, whats NOT ok is your family members doing it.
Also how tall are you? at 14 i was about 130, but i was also 5'9 at the time (and still am lol)
Also you CAN lose weight. you have to really want it though and you have to start slow by maybe making the conscious decision to one day maybe choose something healthier to eat one day for a meal during the course of a week, then slowly move up choosing to eat something more healthy twice a week, then three times a week. Youll get yourself into a habit of eating healthier things, and before you know it youll have cravings for those things too. Pick things that TASTE GOOD but are still good for you. If you need me to elaberate on this you can hit me up in my inbox, i actually got my husband and i on diets and we now BOTH just lean towards healthier things now rather then junk and we LIKE IT that way. ; )
Hearing people out is one thing, but you need to try not to take it all very personally. They may see you as a stronger person and think that maybe you can handle what their saying when you cant all the time. Just tell them "look your not helping ok"
you can also try taking a short walk once a week, just anytime during the week you want to do it, doesnt matter when or where. but it DOES help. it slowly get your body to build up energy, youll sleep better at night as well.
good luck ; )
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so this girl at work she's been asking me to hangout with her she says since you go surfing let me go with you teach me how the sign that i can think of attraction is there so finally i got the nerve to ask her number waited about a week to call tuesday around 8.15pm called it ring at about 4times then i heard her talking then it just ended what is that all about waited a few minutes called again she didn't pick up what is that all about (link)
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see what happens the next time you see her at work. if she acts friendly, bring up that youll be going out surfing again and see what her reaction is. maybe she didnt pick up or picked up and accidently hung up on you (ive done that plenty of times before because phones are all touch screen now) and if she didnt recognize the number she may not want to call it back thinking its a telemarketer or something like that.
if she mentions wanting to go again you can say "well i tried to call but it sounded like someone picked up and then hung up and then i called again and no one answered so idk lol" youll be giving her the chance to explain herself and this also nicely lets you know that you didnt appreciate that.
; )
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