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We were on matrimonail site made me see the 7th heaven than ignored without
Only in 24 hrs he made me feel as if i am his fu than future wife than ignored saying you know what you did?
I to till yesterday emailed him with out any replyies.
NOW WHAT
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yeah i cant really understand what your trying to say or ask for either.
what i will say though is that if your now being ignored then the person that you were talking to clearly isnt interested and you need to move on.
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I am sorry but the sentence structure is so chopped up that I am not sure at all what you are asking. I can take a guess.
If my guess is right, then continue to answer. If not, consider redoing your question so its easier for us to understand.
My guess: you were trying on line couple match up site, on line dating. And a guy wrote you and after a day of his chatting with you said the kind of things that you were hoping to find in a future spouse. I am guessing he either came out and said you seem to be the kind of person he'd been looking for to marry. Or he said positve things that you believed kinda meant that but he didn't actually say it. Then a period of time went by with no contact from him until yesterday. Instead of explaining why he wasnt on line, all he had to say was some accusation but wsa not clear as to what he is accusing you of.
What of course has you wondering so you wrote him but he hasn't written you back.
Did I get that right? If so, from someone who did the internet dating scene for 3 yrs until I found my 2nd husband on site, I would like to say that guys of all kinds can be found on there. I literally have had hundreds of men contact me over that period of time. From my experience, even tho i had criteria like allergic to cigarette smoke so no relationship with a smoker, guys tend to sweet talk first, then they seem to get pretty cocky and sure of themselves for the fact that you have even answered or talked to them, they interpret as they have you hooked. All people like to show their best self when meeting something and will hide their faults or lies. In person, people will eventually get comfortable and start to show their real self after a few dates, a couple weeks or couple months but not a day or two later. i guess he got comfortable knowing you couldn't know who he really was, relaxied and let his real self come through on the computer keys. All you have to do is decide if this kind of behavior is something that you are looking for in a guy, or want to avoid.
Internet dates and prospects are nothing more than an illusion until you meet face to face. I had many sweet talkers who said everything I wanted to hear on line so I met with them at a coffee house. The one guy didn't smoke while with me and I didn't smell t across the table on his clothes. Next date was short, a walk on beach andgo sit in his car to watch the sunset. The car smelled like cigarette smoke. I asked about it and he said his son uses it alot and son smokes. Third date, he got comfortable, I didn't suspect him at all yet, but out of habit he went to pull out a ciggie and put it away just as quick but I saw it. Told him right then I wasn't interested in a relationship with him and left right then. By time I got home, he'd left a phone message calling me all sort of horrid names, ranting like crazy. I know I made the right decision, he not only lied to me to my face but he was vindictive, had a temper and was verbally abusive. Where you find one mouse, you're likely to find more is how the saying goes. Its the same in personalities.
When a crack in their polished front occurs and one little bad trait gets through, it's an indication that there is a whole lot more where that came from deep inside, who he is at core. He doesn't sound like a good prospect to me, but I don't look if thats what you want in a guy. Most women don't but are afraid, second guessing themselves or what they heard or saw or think they are over reacting. And so they settle for less, thinking they will never find someone better.
Think again, I stuck with an abusive husband 30 yrs before I left and when I did, ended up finding a sweet man the total opposite of him. And I didn't have to settle for less. He met all the criteria that was important to me.
So, when you ask now what...I assume you want to know what to say to him. Say nothing. Don't respond. Ignore any contacts from him and he will eventually give up...
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