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me and one of my guy friends have been friends for like, 4 years and everyone always says we should go out. we always laugh it off and say that we never would because were just friends but the more i think about it the more i kind of get what everyone is saying. we get along really well and our personalities to match up pretty good but i have that lame fear that if we go out that we wont be friends if it doesnt work. i dont have a thing for him, or much of one anyways but i could see myself with him. i want to try it out and date him but i dont know if hes thinking what i am and i dont know how to tell. were like best friends and everyone thinks we like each other or that were flirting or that were already going out. thanks soooo much (link)
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first of al make sure your not just being brain washed by what everyone says and actually like the guy. then talk to him about it to see if he feels the same way. its not unusual to have a really close guyfriend and it doesnt mean you have to date him
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ok, so all my friends have boyfriends agian and i am left out here with nobody, i know i dont need a b/f to be happpy but i still feel lonley... and i am still especially hurt from my friend having the guy i liked, she is with him. I know their relationship prolly won't last but how can you tell? I know i CAN'T DEPEND on that possibility, but sometimes i can't help but wonder about the "what if" he brakes up with her and goes out with me possibily? i still dont want to move on, i still like him. please help, thanks (link)
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the question is does he like you. hes made his choice nothings going to happen if its not mutual and theres nothing you can do. theres other guys and thats life. hes made his decision
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okay well my mum has all these expextations of me, she wants me to be a genius shes sent me to this top tutour and she thinks being smart is the one and only thing that matters in life now im reasonably smart but not a genius, recently ive had there exams and i got my results im quite above average in all my subjecs but my mon doesnt care she wanted me to do better shees always canstantly comparing me with family and friends childrn, she always calles me stupid, silly dumb and quite often puts me down, im only 14 and she just put all this pressure on me to be smart, ive tried talking to her about it several times but it doent make a difference i know it shouldnt but it makes me feel really crappy and low what should i do? (link)
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and exactly how do you measure true intelligence? any ways yeah it should make you feel crappy your mom shouldnt be calling you names tell her that the name calling really hurts you if that doesnt phase her then theres a problem with her. dont let anyone decide who you are not even your mom. you are who you are not who she or anyone else says you are. if she keeps putting pressure on you just brush it off and do what you can shell get the point eventually. just dont let it bring you down or tear you up.
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Hey iam 17 years old and i just got a puppy for my b-day last week and he cries every night and my mom just had to go and put his cage outside my bedroom window and her cries are so loud that it keeps me up at night and I practically fall asleep in school what should I do? (link)
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maybe hes lonely and wants attention. most animals especially puppies dont enjoy being locked in cages hes probably sad or just wants attention. puppies are excitable and energetic and dont prefered to be confined in small wired boxes
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Posted Thursday August 31 2006, 11:21 pm
15 f missouri if that helps
ok so i have been dating this guy for over 4 months now, and things have been going good, except latley he won't talk to me or anything. He says that it is just because he is tired, which is totally understandable, but he hasn't talked to me in like over a week (since school started) and always blaming it on he is tired. I am kinda confused on what to do, i like him alot, i just want to be able to talk to him and have this relationship that we had before. He plays football and that takes alot of time, but you think he would even be able to say hi in between classes or something. I dunno i think that is all the info needed, if you need more leave something in my inbox. but please help me i don't know what to do
~Ash (link)
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i think you need to tell him everything you just wrote down. thats the only way youll know for sure how hes feeling. just confront him. if hes to tired to alk about something hat really bothering you then maybe you should reconsider the relationship
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So, there's boy A and boy B. They're really good friends with eachother. Maybe best friends. So, B tells me he likes me [[you know, like like]] and I thought I liked him back, so I said I liked him too. Then I realized I didn't really like him and I told A. A told B, and now B is mad at me because I 'lied' and didn't tell him I didn't like him anymore. I feel so bad and I was going to tell him but we never saw eachother so I was waiting to tell him in person. I'm kind of mad at A for telling him, but I guess it had to come out somehow. I don't know what to tell B, he must hate me now. Help? (link)
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there best friends of course he going to tell anyways hes probably a litle hurt but if thats how you feel its better he knows hell get over it so dont worry about it hell meet another girl and youll both move past it if he continues to be mad theres really not much you can do. you could try apologizing but that doesnt always work if he holds a grudge then atleast the truth came out. its better to be honest.
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well im 13/f and i haven't gotten my period yet. i guess i have big boobs i'm almost a B. ALL my friends have got theres but i dont know when i'm going to get mine, i hope soon. help me... (link)
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youll get it eventually you just hit puberty
a b cup really is about average size. and you said almost a b so im guessing your stil an a so your really not considered big breasted anyways your still growing so give your period and boobs time.
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how can you make yourself happy? because I can't seem to do it. I'm completely miserable, and I dont think its healthy for me toi be so negative. (link)
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before i can fully answer this i must no why your unhapp or if you even know then we can talk
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im going to a new school and none of my friends are in my classes. how do you make friends without sounding awkward?
oh and i dont know the rules to any sports so what do i do in gym class? like i want to be able to participate without having guys and girls laugh and shout competitive stuff. (link)
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first off screw what everyone else thinks be your self and be friendly and people wwill come dont go begging for a friend. as far as gym goes some people take it more seriously then it really is so just explain to someone that you dont know how to play and ask for pointers or just make a joke out of it you dont have to be good at sports. if you are you are if not then your not. its not a big deal life goes on.
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Okay, i'm going to a "semi-formal" sweet sixteen tonight. I already know what i'm wearing "my homecoming dress", but i have no idea on how to do my hair. The best i can do, is put it up in a ponytail, and i have problems with that.
Does anyone have any good ideas, on how to wear my hair, that isn't too noticable, if nobody else has really fancy hair?
Please help, i dont want to look like a loser tonight... (link)
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you should want to be noticed its a good thing any ways you could wear it down and curly or just down dont just keep it a pony tail if you do put it in a pony tail curl it. you could also crimp you hair or put it in twisties with clips. or just add a couple clips or hair jewels even spray on glitter to a regular hair do. you could even use those artificial flower clips and ribbon that cordinate with your dress.
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I'm thinking of going natural. No makeup or lots of hairspray.
-Would that make my skin texture better? [My pores look huge around my nose, not on my nose.]
-Would it make my acne go away? [My old acne]
For some reason I'm not getting new acne, it's just these red bumps on my face that have been there..for weeks. Anything I can do to get them to go away? [No proactive, please.]
I also want healthier hair. It's damaged I'm sure. It was bleached. I use "Pantene Pro-V Restoratives." Does it really work? Any products or any tips for anything will be helpful.
I won't rate low because you didn't answer all my little questions in here.
I just want healthier looking skin and hair. :]
Thankssss. (link)
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first ill tell you what ive heard ive heard drinking water is really good for your skin. ill tell you what i use i use clean and clear astringent and their oxy foam wash for my face and neutrogena for my body. both seem to bee good products. i dont believe in the shampoos that say they restore this and that. i use that revlon color kit with hight lights and wash my hair with herbal essence and it stays shiny andd nice. maybe it the way you color your hair to some cheap hair color brands just arent up to snuff in looks. my suggestion for you if youve tryed the above for your skin is to see a dermatologist.(skin doctor)
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I don't know what to do and I really need advice.
My twin sister hates me. At least, I think she does. She acts like she does.
I moved out nearly a year ago into a flat with my boyfriend and since then, my relationship with everyone has improved....except with my sister. I've tried everything. I've got her round for an evening to watch movies, I even cooked a meal for her the day before yesterday. I invite her places and generally try to reach out and be sisterly.....but all she does is bitch at me.
For example, when I was there on Sunday, any time I said anything about the house (including innocently asking why there was a heap of bedclothes in the middle of my parent's bed), I got told that it was none of my business, because I don't live there any more. Then, when I try speaking to her about anything neutral, such as how work is with her and so on, she clams up. She won't talk to me and on the occasions she does, she does nothing but snap and be rude, ill mannered and.....I just don't know if I can cope with it.
It's getting to the stage where it is just easier to shut her out all together because I can't handle the way she rejects me all the time. Everyone has seen it, so I know it isn't me being paranoid.
I need some advice on how to handle it. I've tried fighting back, I've tried not saying anything..all I can do is get angry and cry.
Please help. Any advice will be gratefull received. (link)
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well what do you expect if your not willing to confront her.
you need to just flat out confront her and ask her what her problem is break through the wall with a sludge hammer. if she still is nasty to you keep her at a distance i hate to say this but some siblings just arent close. it doesnt feel good but thats the way it goes. your her sister not her dog.
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im a 26 yo mal, ive been friends with this lady for a year now, and over time we have become best friends, but over time my feelings have become deeper, and im falling for her in a big way, the problem is she doesnt feel the same about me, and probably never will, the thing is i really like her, more than anyone else ive ever met, i care about her a lot, and even though im happy for her when she gets a new b/f it also hurts so much, i never want to lose her, and im always the best friend i can be, but i cant handle this pain, what can i do??? (link)
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ok so you know if she truly doesnt want a relationship with you and your truy sure she doesnt have the same feelings then you need to settle for friendship. you already know that so what are you asking i cant wave a wand and make her love you.lol. you say that dating would destroy the relation ship but if she doesnt want to date you then howw can it. if youve already talked to her about it and shes said no then let it go because if you keep pushing the subject you may lose her the fact is your just going to have to settle it. if its not her will then its not her will and your not going to get anymore then friends then youll just have to move on.
if you havent told her then tell her and get it straightened out with her
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There's this guy from my clique who likes to irritate me. But anyway, he makes fun of everyone. I'm rather close to him as in like I can talk to him. Both of us belong to the same clique and I guess i can talk to him pretty well as compared to the rest in my clique.
Recently, he kept criticising bout me. Whenever he knows a guy is interested in me, he'd be like "What?! He has really bad taste". There's this other guy who was interested in me and he happens to know that guy as well. So he was telling me "Ya, anyway, he has really bad taste. His favourite girls from the FHM magazine are all not nice."
And he likes to put me down, saying for eg "everyone in our class is quite pretty.. except for ___(my name)"
And when i just randomly told him that someone said i look like one of the girls from a pop group,(the girl is a tomboy) he'd say "ya , people say that you look like the ugly lesbian part of her right?"
And I'd be like OK FINE! just what the hell is your problem. Can someone tell me just what the heck is he doing cos he's really pissing me off a lot. And it's not like he's so handsome ok! He's not handsome at all! And I'll be like yeah what right do you have to criticise people's appearance. (link)
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if hes discouraging other guys from you maybe he likes you and is going about it in the wrong way. if so i stil dont think you should pursue the relationship or even be friends with him you dont need people like that in your life. you might not see it now but there are somany people in the world that theres plenty of great people who will respect you and be worth your time. this guy isnt one of them so why even bother with him or be friends with someone who treats people including you whos supposedly his friend like that. forget him you need to break away from the negativity its only going to bring you down because it will gradually get worse even if he does like you hell probably still put you down so others wont see the beauty in you. dont stand for it. hes just a person and has no right to make you feel any less then what you are.
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my mom keeps walking into the computer room and just "looking around". its really bugging me. every time she comes in, i have to close everything except itunes because im looking up anorexic stuff and i dont want her to think im anorexic [im not]. i even had to log off for 10 minutes because she told me to do my laundry so that she would get on and see what i was doing, but i logged off. is there nething i can do? (link)
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are you just curious about anorexia,just asking? it doesnt make you look guilty when you look up things,just when you hide things. your mom probably has noticed that your x-ing out of windows right when she comes around. so thats probably sparks her curiosity she probably thinks its something worse. you say your not anorexic so you have no reason to hide the information your looking at. if your eating and not abnormally skinny your mom probably knows your not anorexic but to be on the safe side. when something like that happens again, ill use the anorexia thing as an example just say look at this mom isnt this terible that people do this to theirselves.if she questions why your looking it up just tell her you were just curious or whatever your actual reason is. if your upfront with people including your parents then they will know how to take you and you wont have to walk on egg shells around them.
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sorry if this is long but i really need advice ok i live with my dad, and i need to get bras, i need/want a cupped bra, but
1. i don't know wat size i am and i dont know how to figure it out.
2. and i dont know which 1 would be right for me
i would like to have 1 regular sports bra, 1 regular cupped bra, and 1 sports bra that is sorta cupped. how many bras do you think i should need? how do i get those bras with my dad?
as much advice as possible plz help me!! thx (link)
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you should go to the store and try the bras on then when you know which ones you want ask your dad for the money to by bras im sure hell understand. hes your dad not some stranger. i guess if you want three types of bras and thats what your comfortable with then i guess three.
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its just that I thought that you ment it in an offensive way so im sorry for misjudging it (link)
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well why would you think that when i clearly stated before my aswer that it was nothing offensive. next time read before trying to jump down someones throat.
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I think that the answer that you gave that girl about God was very offensive!
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i think its offensive to use god in an answer in a public area. i said nothing offensive i didnt personally put down her or god. but i think its wrong to use god as an ultimate answer a panic button if you will to try to prove a point. everyone doesnt have the same beliefs and religion should be set aside here unless a person asks a religious question. i didnt say anything offensive just my advice. dont hide behind god just because you cant find an answer on your own. i have nothing against god or her. i dont know either. so i dont know what your expecting if its apology you wont get it. i dont know what your initial point is or why you bothered to e-mail me. i think its wrong to jump down someones throat beccause you dont like the advice. if you can come up with any thing better then i think what you wrote was very offensive then feel free to e-mail me because i dont offend easily and am open enough to debate and disagree with out falling into to a petty internet game of catfighting and nail jabbing.
ps. i believe i even wrote that it wasnt offensive and theres nothing wrong with having christian beliefs there was nothing offensive in that response its not like i said god blows or called her a moron. not that i think shes a moron or think god blows. i dont. im just being truthful and i think whenever someone asks for advice they set theirselves up for diffrent forms of advice she asked what i thought and i told her. you should listen to all sides not just sides that agree with you. i am in no way sorry for what i wrote it wasnt badmouthing just what i thought which she asked for by the way.
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so theres this one kid that i liked alot
and i belive he lead me on
and its so hard to get over him now
ive cried my self to sleep 2 nights in a row
thats how much i care for this kid
and now he treats me like it was nothing
i spent all my 500 texts on him!
he used to tell me how much wants to hold me and he would kiss me and that he wants to see a movie with me and nothing will ever change between me and him and that he loves me so much
i fell for it all!
well my best firned is friends with him and suppoubly he liked her his whole life
and all this happened with me and him while my friend was on vacation
and now he doesnt even say he loves me or anything
and i seriously dont know what to do!
but she doesnt like him because she likes this other kid
but i feel like shes saying i love you behind my back to him
and just trying to get me jelous
i hate boys! but girls are just as bad
its so hard to get over someone that i really care about
help?!
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ok this guy issnt worth it just move on as for your friend if she purposely hurts you if is the key word maybe you should reconsider her as well theres a big world with tons of people to meet so dont sweat it girl. just keep thinking that its not a big deal and pretty soon it wont be. dont surround yourself with people who hurt you
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sorry if this is long, but i really need help. every summer, my parents encourage my sister and I to do math to get a head start on the school year ahead of us. my mom used to assign me pages of problems to do, and when i finished she would give me 100 dollars. (keep in mind, i'd been doing this all summer). at the end of last school year i asked her if i could do a french tutor instead of the math and still get the money and she said yes. well she didn't get around to signing up with a tutor until a month into summer (it wasn't like she was busy, she was just sort of putting it off). and then when she finally made arrangements the tutor asked her for a days that i was free and my mom didn't get back to him in time, so by then it was a month and a half into summer and i wasn't going to have a tutor. then i started working on math by myself, really hard!! i finished 3 units which is 119 pages of my text book. today i asked her if i could still get the full money if i did a little more math and she said no!!! i feel that this is her fault, and i shouldn't get punished for working my butt off doing math, just because i couldn't get started because she was too lazy to schedule a tutor for me. is there any way that i can reason with her without being rude, because i've been counting on that money to be able to spend on something i've been saving for for 3 months, and without it i'll never get it. help!! (link)
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thats not fair. how old are you are you old enough to work. do you guys have tight finances.
if she did that to you i dont know how much youll be able to reason with her. try asking her what her reason is for it politely. ask why you get blamed for it when you had no control over it in the first place. why does she want to drill math in to your head thats not right. if your expected to do it all summer then atleast let it be something you enjoy. does she think your having trouble with it or something. if your not old enough to work at a real job maybe you can babysit for money if your mom doesnt reason with you. if she blows you off or says because i said so then shame on her. dont argue to much because she might say you dont get any money. if you approach her and she looks like she sgoing to get angry then back off. and mark it off as a sad case on your mothers part your not going to like how this sounds but in order to do what you want you might have to risk not getting paid. but your mother agreed to paying you that time so im on your side she should uphold her end
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