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mother and money
sorry if this is long, but i really need help. every summer, my parents encourage my sister and I to do math to get a head start on the school year ahead of us. my mom used to assign me pages of problems to do, and when i finished she would give me 100 dollars. (keep in mind, i'd been doing this all summer). at the end of last school year i asked her if i could do a french tutor instead of the math and still get the money and she said yes. well she didn't get around to signing up with a tutor until a month into summer (it wasn't like she was busy, she was just sort of putting it off). and then when she finally made arrangements the tutor asked her for a days that i was free and my mom didn't get back to him in time, so by then it was a month and a half into summer and i wasn't going to have a tutor. then i started working on math by myself, really hard!! i finished 3 units which is 119 pages of my text book. today i asked her if i could still get the full money if i did a little more math and she said no!!! i feel that this is her fault, and i shouldn't get punished for working my butt off doing math, just because i couldn't get started because she was too lazy to schedule a tutor for me. is there any way that i can reason with her without being rude, because i've been counting on that money to be able to spend on something i've been saving for for 3 months, and without it i'll never get it. help!!
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Stop complaining girl! Mother's are like that, and their a reasons. Yes, reasons that seem so stupid, so unfair, you just wanna hurt someone! Don't end anything in violence.
Here are some ideas to nogociate with your unfair mother.
Approach her when she's sitting on the couch or a table or in bed while doing something quiet (if she does) "Mom, I've been REALLY looking foward to that 100$ bet you've promised me and my sister that if we do our math, we'll get the money. You told me earlier in this year that I could do french and you'll do the same, but you didn't do the schedule and you weren't busy, not to complain." Approach her sweetly and make her calm that she won't yell at you that you are so spoiled.
Hope you figure out soon!
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thats not fair. how old are you are you old enough to work. do you guys have tight finances.
if she did that to you i dont know how much youll be able to reason with her. try asking her what her reason is for it politely. ask why you get blamed for it when you had no control over it in the first place. why does she want to drill math in to your head thats not right. if your expected to do it all summer then atleast let it be something you enjoy. does she think your having trouble with it or something. if your not old enough to work at a real job maybe you can babysit for money if your mom doesnt reason with you. if she blows you off or says because i said so then shame on her. dont argue to much because she might say you dont get any money. if you approach her and she looks like she sgoing to get angry then back off. and mark it off as a sad case on your mothers part your not going to like how this sounds but in order to do what you want you might have to risk not getting paid. but your mother agreed to paying you that time so im on your side she should uphold her end
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ok well u know to tell her what you just told us even if she wont listen right her a note comunication is the key
tell me how it goes
~nikki~
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