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I have been friends with ever since 8th grade when she was in 6th. I said something to upset the mother and now she is taking it up on my friend and I. She moved to her dad's and now I am told that I am too pushy and because of that, I can never see or talk to her ever again. I really love her and she really loves me. We really want to hang out, but her parents' grudges against me proves to us that every time i go over, she gets grounded. I know she wants to hang out with me and I, her. What should I do? Should I sneak around and see her behind their parents' backs? Or should I just get over it and let their stupid grudge get in the way of our loving friendship? The age difference is NOT the problem!
Hey there,
If you really love her and she loves you, never stop trying. There will always be obsticles in a realationship and you can find a correct way to get over them.
If you know that everytime you go over, she gets grounded.. do not go over there. It will help your relationship grow stronger, for you won't be getting her in trouble knowingly. There are other ways to communicate and stay close to someone. What you should do, is text her if you both have a cell, phone her, and write her letters. No, you should not sneak behind her parents back, for that will only make them angry. You have to earn their trust. You can do that by: asking her parents personally (or by phone) if you can visit her. If they refuse your visit the first time, wait a few days and then ask them again. Once they notice that you are being polite and not demanding time with their daughter, they will probably let you go over for a short visit. After that visit, thank her parents for allowing you over. Then when you two want to get together again, do the same thing. The next time you visit, it may end up being even longer than the first. After you've been over a few times and they see you in a new light, get your girlfriend to ask them nicely if you can visit.
Grudges do not last forever. If you respect her parents, they will respect you
My cousin pranked call my bestfriends aunt phone and my number showed up on her caller i.d. My bestfriend's mom called me and started yelling and cussing me out for no reason. I tried explaining I didn't call but she would not listen. I believe they pressed charges againstt me im not really shure. My bestfriend wanna come ova and i have to suck up and apoligize to her mom but im scared. I hate rejection so im worried she wont accept my apology what shud i do? O BY THE WAY PLEASE ANSWER IMMEDIATELY I HAVE TO CALL TODAY AND IM NERVOUS WHAT SHALL I DO TO OVERCOME MY NERVOUSNESS..?~~
Hey there,
I don't think they would press charges against you for "prank calling" their house.. I'm not sure if they can even do that. Whatever you do, do not try to call their house; they won't be likely to answer a call where they do not want to talk to the person on the other end. Try not to be nervous, breath, relax, tell yourself you can do it, and go over to her house (if they live close). You need to tell her it wasn't you that did it. If she doesn't listen the first time, write an apology letter, ding her doorbell, and hand it to her. If she doesn't take it, slip it into the side of her door/somewhere she can find it quick.
If your friend wants to come over, you could try and have her explain what happened. Her Aunt might listen to her if she explains the situation. She will accept your apology, even if it doesn't happen to be the first time, it will be the second or third. She can't hold it against you forever. She will listen eventally. Gather up your strength and try. Breath, and it will be okay
so i just graduated high school and i have been really good friends with this guy since the summer of my freshman year. i never had really looked at him as more than a friend until graduation when he gave me a hug my heart just sank. he's given me many hugs before but this one was different. like i can't describe it. and after i broke up with my ex a few weeks ago i realized what i truly want in a boyfriend and he has all those qualities. the thing is that i'm afraid he won't be interested since we've been such good friends for so long. i'll see him this weekend at a grad party and i'm definetly not telling him i have feelings for him. no balls to do that whatsoever haha. but how can i hint it here and there? i don't want to get hurt, but i want to know what he thinks. i guess like flirt a little and see how he reacts? idk any advice would help me. thankss! :)
Hey there,
How do you know he wouldn't be interested? Maybe he thinks you are a perfect girlfriend since he's known you for so long. Hint that you like him by flirting with him. Touch his arm, his leg, wink at him, play with his hair, look into his eyes when he is talking to you, and always smile. Flirting or asking him is the only way you will know how he feels about you. If you are worried about being hurt in a realationship, let him know you would like to take things slow after you two become closer. His body language is another key thing that will let you know how he is feeling about you. If he does any of the flirty things I mentioned above to you, he likes you. Or if he touches his hair, stares into your eyes, is fidgity, and has trouble talking (mumbling kind of or talks slow), then he definately likes you. Just go for it. Flirt, talk to him (say 'I like how you ______ to me' or 'We should do this again sometime'), be yourself, and believe me... you will know if he likes you ;)
I really dont get it but no guys like me. I understand that i am not the prettiest or skinniest girl but i think that atleast some people should be interested in me. Alot of people tell me i am beautiful but i dont get it because if i was guys would like me. I am a nice person and have a really good personality but guys always are just friends they never pursue me am i just destined to be alone for life?
Hey there,
No, no one is destined to be alone forever. I really thought that I would be alone for most of my life, but I just hadn't met the right person yet. I find that in order to get a guy, you have to find one you can see yourself with, then flirt with him, see how he responds, then make yourself comfortable with him. To meet the right guy for you, you have to get out there, go places you wouldn't normally go, do the things you enjoy, have fun with life, and be happy with who you are. The reason why the guys you know never pursue you, could be because you come off as only a close friend to them. Without you doing something to show your interest, such as flirting, the guys will only see you as a pretty, nice, girl.
Ultimately, it all comes down to expanding your friend horizons, seeing new places, and never holding back on what you really want to say/hear or do. When you are being at your best self, a guy will notice you. When you are letting all your interests and love for something show, a guy will notice you. When you are not thinking about the next guy that will notice you, guess what!? A guy WILL notice you. You are perfect the way you are.
You just have to let these feelings of being alone pass your mind and have an open heart. Be open to anything. If your guy friends say 'hey, I think I'm going to that game on Friday', say "Can I come along?'. It will show that you are up for anything and you aren't picky. Guys love a girl that does not hold back her inner self. You will find a guy that is right for you. Just get out there girl and find him! He is waiting...
Okay so it all started about a year and a half ago! I had just gotten suspended from school for the rest of the year because of fighting. My friend Mariah had ran from her group home and I joined her. After our first night on the run, we were introduced to a couple people, one of them being the boy I would fall in love with, Jason! I can replay the first moment I seen him with perfection, as if it just happened. Here came this loud, adorable boy in his dickies! It was an instant attraction! That night me and mariah stayed at his house and me and him stayed up all night.(justkissing) Did I mention we were EXTREMELY drunk?! Well the next day when I woke up laying next to him, I pretended like that night never happened, even though I had major hickies. He tried so many times to talk to me and until I was again drunk that night I blew him off! Then once I was drunk we were more 2gether, it was crazy! THEN this guy we call "blackboy" came and I found him extremely attractive, and considering how drunk I was I was completely open about that feeling! That night I had sex with him in jasons room! Long story short:: next day Jason was pissed at me but then we talked ALOT and made up and I had sex with him that night, and the next day I left and didnt see him again for a while!!!!! ......About A Month Later..... So i was no longer on the run and my birthday was coming up. And without saying I wanted to see him I was determined to make sure I spent my birthday with him, and I did. That night is the best mmemory of my life, and the night I fell in love!(July10th2009♥). We did not have sex that night but we went on a super long walk together, and spent an AMAZING night 2gether>>WITHOUT SEX!! ..The next day i went home!! .....2WeeksLater.... So I was going to hang out with my friend mario and his homeboys and we were gonna drink! well I got drunk and had sex with 2boys that night! they were cousins, and Jasons good friends, and he showed up the next day. He freaked out on me then left, and about an hour later came back and wanted 2 "talk" and spend the day with me.We had sex that night. If i went on in detail about it would take me a century to write about it BUT our relationship mainly consisted of me sleeping with his friend, him cheating on girlfriends with me, fighting, sex, alot of great memories, and in the end him hating me!!
Now here's my dilema! I put myself in rehab for three months FOR HIM! I cant deal with him hating me. We havent talked in almost 4months. Ive been working so hard to turn my life around for him. AND today I find out he's going to be doing 6 to 8 years jail time for being a look out for a shooting. I LOVE HIM!! My anxiety litterally is hurting me! Please dont give me advice on how, "I dont know what love is" or "What we had wasnt love" or "how to get over him" I NEED advice on how I can work things out with him if i write him or I need to know hotline numbers to talk to someone about this kind of thing.
When you give me advice just consider that i am an EXTREMELY determined girl who is in love and not even slightly considering giving up!!!
YES our relationship was unhealthy BUT there was real feeling there I felt it! and i know he felt it too, because he was so good at showing it!
I love this Boy and I refuse to give up!!
so please Ive heard enough negativity about this from other people! Im looking to people on this website to help me!! I know it sounds wierd and may make know sense but all the times I messed up WERE things that happened when i was drunk and i know thats no excuse at all! but as hard as it is to believe, at the begining of each of those days my plans were based on him! hoping if I hung out with his friends he would show up and I would see him! But I am a very complicated and strive for emotianal attention, and so when all those guys went for it with me it was extremely hard for me to say no, so I just give in!! I have made alot of mistakes in my life! but losing him is the one I regret most!
Hey,
Obviously even though you've made bad decisions, you still know right from wrong. Just keep telling him and writing to him from your heart. That is the only way you will keep being with him. Just like you need support, so does he. He must be a pretty good guy if he forgave you for what you did. You shouldn't make the same mistakes again though or else he may give you up for someone else. Just be true to yourself, keep in contact, and strive for what you really need (which isn't booze or sex with his friends), but I think you know that
ok so i have this mate (male) and he doesnt treat me like other girls.
we text alot.
hugg
flirt
and instead of just hugging me like the other girls he asks "can i have a hug", trys hard to get my attention ect, and its constant.
we have dated b4, and everyone thinks we should go out again , but he says he doesnt like me anymore, even though thats defantly not how he acts.
suggestions???
Hey there,
If he doesn't treat you like any other girl and flirts with you, he must like you. If you've dated before, he obviously knows you, respects your space (since he asks before he hugged you), and probably still has feelings for you (when he tries to gain your attention alot). Also, when he says he doesn't like you, he is probably saying 'I am not ready yet for another relationship with you', 'but I do like you', and 'help me figure out what to do' in guy language. I believe this, for you basically said he sends the message he likes you, but doesn't act on it.
There is most likely a lot of questions going through his mind about what used to be between you two. He could just be nervous to ask you again. I believe you like him.. so If I were you I would: tell him how you feel (say 'I really like you still' or 'we should get together sometime' or 'can we be more than friends?'), flirt back with him (compliment him, touch his arm/leg, wink a him, smile at him, and look him in the eyes when you two talk). Let him know you like him and tell him it is alright for him to like you.
If he really doesn't like you, which could be (but isn't likely) the case, still let him know that you like him. Eventually, by hinting then telling him how you feel, he will become open about how he really feels about you and you two should become closer. It sounds as if he knows how he feels for you, he just needs a little help getting the truth out
im 14/f
i go to a co-ed school (boys and girls) and im the kind of girl who talks to everyone . im used to being surronded by girls but lately i find myself surrounded by guys with girls no were in site. I dont mind im mates with them all and its less bitchy. One of the guys in the group is my ex (who still likes me) another ex (trying to make people jealous by hugging me and holding my hands) a nerd ( who i like although i would never date him) and the loud mouther of the school (who i had a crush on)so as u can guess its akward for ME. i still kind of like them all and my mates keep saying "stop flirting with them all, your leading them all on" but im not im just being me! people r now going around the school saying im a slut and hook up with any guy that asks which is not true. how can i stop this?
Hey,
Tell them to stop saying things that aren't true about you. Tell them the facts about you and let them know you aren't dating any of them. It is your life and it doesn't matter that you have a lot of guy friends at the moment. Guys make great friends. Let those that are spreading rumours know that you are just being yourself and then prove to them that you are. It does not matter what their opinions are if they are bad ones, yours is what is important. If you do want to date one of them, then go ahead. Just continue being yourself, ignore the people spreading rumours, and eventually they will die down. No one should be able to tell you what you can and cannot do. Keep being friends with the guys, it is obvious that they are being better to you anyhow. Who needs those other people that bug you. Keep being yourself, it will help you stay true to yourself and get you where you want to be
I am 20 years old. Never missed a period since i've gotten it. There is a great possibility i could be pregnant, I haven't had my period since march 27th 2010, but last week i was bleeding very lightly, i have taken 5 pregnancy tests and they are all negative, i haven't been able to go to the doctors yet due to not having insurance .. ahhhhhh! what could it be?
Hey,
You could just have an irregular period. It happens sometimes where your period is normal for quite a while, then it may move further or closer away then the previous times. I doubt you are pregnant if you took several tests and they are all negative, but if your period continues to be irregular, I would see a doctor about it for your body may be functioning off key. Your body will tell you if something is wrong, so if you feel somethings not right.. get it checked out. Try a walk in clinic; they are usually free and could help you. Only a doctor would really know what is happening in your body
soo i used to like this guy a lot and we were really good friends. i had known him for like 9 years from kindergarten to 8th grade. i didn't realize i liked him till the end of 8th grade when we were gonna go to different high schools. we ended up talking like everyday during the summer and going to the movies and stuff. but ever since high school started we just haven't been talking as much. i miss him a lot and i still really like him. what should i do to get him to talk to me again and possibly for us to go out???
Hey,
The only way you are going to get him to talk to you, is to talk to him or text him (at least). If you were talking to eachother a lot over the summer, then you must have common grounds. Say hi to him in the hall, it is one of the basic ways to get a guy to talk to you. Then comment on his clothes. Say "Hi _____(put name there), Nice _______". It will be sure to strike a conversation. Just keep the momentum going by saying something after whatever he says. Make sure you smile so he will know you are being friendly. Once you two start talking again and are comfortable with eachother, you can flirt with him by: making conversation, winking at him, grinning, touching his arm/leg if you are sitting near him, looking into his eyes when speaking. Do one of these things every time you see him. Eventually he will get the hint and once he does, you will be sure to start some sparks. And...
Never forget to be yourself, it is the number one thing that will make a guy fall for you; being confident with who you are
I love Canons. I want a Powershot for under $400. And that's about all I know that I want. I don't know much about buying cameras. But I do want it to take excellent quality pictures have a decent battery-life span. I'm pretty clueless about what to get. So any recommendations? Or tips when buying a camera?
Hey there,
I find Canons are awesome cameras. I have an A720 right now and it works nice. There is a six times optical zoom, eight mega pixels, special effects, video camera, and much more. Here is a website about my camera, but if you want to check out any others on the search bar go ahead: http://www.digitalcamera-hq.com/products/canon-powershot-a720is
How long your camera lasts is basically all in what battery brand you buy. If you want your batteries to last a long time, you have to buy the digital camera batteries. Otherwise, the lights and screen can take up all your power within a matter of even an hour or so. If you can, buy a batttery charger and rechargable batteries. They end up saving you quite a bit of money since you can reuse them.
I found this info off of the internet: If your digital camera supports AA batteries, read the camera manual and check to see if it also supports a kind of battery called NiMH. These batteries tend to last much longer than most standard alkaline AA batteries - plus, they are rechargeable, so they can be re-used for quite a long time. Granted, the cost of four NiMH batteries plus a charger is more expensive than four alkaline batteries, but you'll more than make up the difference in costs once you recharge and use the batteries a few times.
Note that batteries with a higher mAh capacity rating will cost more, but they should last longer between recharges.
Right now I have Duracell digital camera batteries and they last quite a while. You can try turning your camera off whenever possible too.
Buy what suits you. There isn't really such a thing as an 'old' camera. It is like that saying 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'. Basically, if you know the camera does what it needs to, has the features you want, and isn't too expensive, then it is probably your camera
Why he won't kiss me when we're having sex
Hey there,
Maybe kissing isn't a turn on for him or he never thought about it. If you really want to know why, just ask him. If you are having sex you two must be able to talk about your feelings. Tell him you would love to kiss him during sex or that you would love sex even more if he kissed you. That way he will know you aren't mad that he doesn't do it and he will know you will be happier when he kisses you; which in return will make him happier
Alright, my friends like this kid and they wanted to find out who was on his shirt one day. They were to nervous to text him from their phones, so they texted him from mine. They were talking to him about God knows what and at the end they gave my back my phone and told him that they were right, that he is cute. Making it sound like it was coming from me. He replied "ha. thanks." Seems not to interested, eh? That's what I thought until school spanning over the next few days. One day this boy was late to lunch and he saw that I am late as well, we basically had eye sex (staring into each other's eyes for a really long time). Then I walked into the hall and opened the caf door, him right behind me. This happened the next day, again. It's just strange to me because usually when I walk into the caf he is already out of the lunch line with his food. Then another sign is, I walked by his locker today after lunch and as soon as I walked by he quick shut his locker and started walking the same way I was, but we didn't talk. We've never talked face to face before. The text convo was the first talking between us when it wasn't even me.. So, is he interested? If so, why? and what do I do? Text him for another random reason? I'm not one to just walk up and start talking to to a cute boy so don't say that. Thanks!
Hey there,
The first thing to do, would be to ask your friends what they texted him. Once you know, tell them how it wasn't nice of them to use your phone. Then, talk to the guy about what 'you' said in text messages (pull him to the side or have him alone). I know its hard, but it is the only way you will ever know what he is thinking about what was said or how he feels about you. It obviously seems as if he likes you, but maybe he just wants to see how you feel about it first before he makes a move. If he is interested, it could be because of what your friends texted to him or it could be because he liked you anyway and didn't want to say anything (age does not matter). If you don't want to talk to him in person, then do text him yourself. It is an easier way to talk to a guy then to try and confront what happened in person.
Maybe you don't want him to know they were the ones texting him... it may be nice knowing he likes you. Definately find out what your friends said to him, then have a convo with him about it. It will lighten up the 'problem' and you may become closer to him ;) Gather up the courage and go for it girl
I am 13 and a 7th grade girl. I have never gone out with a guy. There is this guy that I really like and I know that he likes me too because my friend asked him if he liked me and he said yes. He is always really sweet and I love to talk to him. I also like to talk to his friends. The only problem is that my friends think he is a nerd. He sort of is though but I'm ok with that because I'm pretty smart too.(straight A's) The only problem is my friends or other people will probably make fun of me for going out with someone in the "Nerd Herd". What should I do?
Hey there,
If you like the guy and you know he is a sweety, then go for it! It does not matter what your friends think about someone you want to date, it is your decision. Not everyone likes the same kind of people, so they don't see the same side of him you do. If they are your friends they should respect your desire to go for a nice guy like him :) They aren't really your friends if they don't support your interests. Your opinion is what counts and they will learn to like him eventually. You know what kind of guy is right for you, so trust your heart
how do you know when a guy wants to hug you?
Hey,
You know when a guy wants to hug you when he: moves close to you, holds out his arms, or wraps his arm around you. If he does any of these things while smiling and looking into your eyes, he could want to hug you. Any of these signs could also mean that he wants to hold you or be with/near you
So tomorrow is my last day of senior classes (high school) and all of the sudden, I'm having problems with my best friend, Holly. Holly is by no means a perfect person by I have some of the best times in the world with her. She's like a sister to me we share all of our secrets and as a friend, I just love having her. There is a sense of friendship we have. She has some faults though and sometimes she doesn't treat her friends with the respect they deserve. That's why her bf broke up with her. So here's the short version of the saga. In march, I got mad at Holly and somehow we stopped talking for about a month and a half. It was one of the most miserable times in my life. Whether or not it was for a good reason , I still felt awkward around our circle of friends and awkward around her and it killed me. We started being friends again a little while later and I was happier than I'd been in months. Everything has been fine until up until a few days ago. She's been acting like she's above me and saying rude, snide things, and just taking advantage of me. We got into a few big arguments. Is Holly wrong? probably. Is it not a healthy relationship? maybe. I just feel so horrible that everything was perfect until the last day of senior year. I'm angry at her in so many different ways that I'm not even going to get into because the point is, I feel like our friendship might be ending THE LAST TWO WEEKS OF SR. YEAR. The LAST thing I want is to be miserable at prom, grad, yr. book, etc. because I KNOW I will be if we're in a fight. Should be mad at her for her crankiness and snide remarks? Should I apologize for "causing a fight?" I am honestly so upset because this is the worst time for something like this to be happening. I want to stick it out until the very end of the year, or else I'll be truly miserable. Help please
Hey,
I know what it is like to have someone as your friend for a very long time, then suddenly you feel like that one person you were really close to is slowly drifting away. If Holly is acting rude, tell her she is acting a little off and you don't like it. If she is taking advantage of you, don't let her. It is not right for anyone to be taken advantage of and if she is your friend, she should respect you. I had a close friend that took advantage of me for quite some time, then finally I realized that I should not have to put up with it and I stopped being her friend for a few months. This helped the ashes settle and once she realized what happened, things went back to normal. Is Holly wrong? Probably, but that does not mean she hasn't said some true things too. Everybody sees a situation differently which is why fights start; no one is ever 'right'.
What you have to do is, ignore the fact that you two are having conflict with eachother and just keep living life. You make yourself miserable, no one else does it for you. I know you and Holly were close, but sometimes people just need a little break from eachother. You can have a good prom, grad, year book, etc, as long as you keep your head high, talk to other people, and smile. You can stick it out until the end of the year; you have inner strength.
You shouldn't be mad at her, but you should forgive her. Say "I am sorry we don't agree about everything and I hope you will still be my friend". Make sure you have her phone number/email address and tell her in person "you can message me anytime" and smile while saying it. That way, she will know you don't hate her and she will know you will always be there for her. Everynow and then, text/call her and say "I'm sorry about before, I hope we stay friends". Eventually she will know how much you value your friendship with her. It may not be right away, but she will know
I get really annoyed and irritated when my sister or anyone just touches my stuff and even TAKING without asking me. For instance, my sister always takes my stuff, like clothes, booze from my closet without asking me and by the time I find out, she just says "Sorry" or "I thought you didn't know" but keeps doing it and it's really frustrating. She thinks I'm selfish but isn't it a common curtesy to not touch other people's belongings and ask if they want to take them and people are just different? I'm all for it to share if someone asks me. What can I do the next time she does that?
Hey,
Yes, it is not right to just take someone elses belongings without asking first. Tell her exactly how you feel. Say, I don't appreciate it when you take my things and do not ask or replace them. Tell her it is annoying, but she can use your stuff as long as she asks first. If she does it again without asking, tell her you warned her and now she cannot have anything unless she apologizes. Keep your items in a safe place where she will never find them. Lock your stuff up if you have to. It doesn't cost very much to get a door knob with a lock or a lock for a case or something. It will keep her out and then she will have to ask for permission. Be firm, but nice about it. This will keep you on her good side, yet she will know you need your personal space too
We've been flirting back and forth now for awhile and we text almost every day. He usually texts me first but sometimes I want to text him first. I don't really have much to talk about...like I said, we talk almost every day. But I worry that when he doesn't text me, he's losing interest. But on the same token, I worry that if I text him, he'll get annoyed and think I'm bothering him. But I like talking to him. I like getting texts from him. Even if we don't talk about anything. I just like talking to him. But I don't want him to think I'm desperate and don't have a life or something. What should I do?
Hey,
No, there isn't really a 'rule'. It doesn't matter if you don't have much to say, just that you said something. When he doesn't text you it could mean that he is busy, letting you have a break from him (guys feel the same about texting as girls, don't overdo it), or he might have nothing new to say that day. He knows you have a life and you just want to share it with others, so no worries. If he doesn't text you, don't take it personally; if he likes you, he will pretty much always be friends with you unless you do something real bad, such as cheat or lie (if you are dating). Also, a guy will usually tell you if they are busy and cannot chat at the moment, but most the time they don't mind if you text them every other day or so. I text my guy friend or he texts me everyday and he doesn't mind at all for he knows I like talking to him. Plus, he likes talking to me.
Guys love when you show interest in them. So, tell him you like talking to him and then he will always know that you just want to hear his messages/voice
i got a new computer so my itunes is gone. i have everything on my ipod though and was wondering if anyone knows how to transfer the music on my ipod to my new computer? i don't want to buy anything so if theres anything that will let me do it for free that'd be awesome. i also want to add new songs to my itunes library too. thanks
Hey,
Download itunes again, then I believe the only way is to have your old computer with all your music, back up your music to a disk, then put the disk in your new computer and upload all the music back to itunes. I had the same problem and cannot get any music directly from my ipod to transfer. I believe it is one thing ipod hasn't been able to figure out themselves. The only other thing is to contact the ipod people and see if they would give you all your songs again (they usually do I heard). As for adding new songs, once you have itunes downloaded you should be able to buy more songs as you would of before. Hope this helps you
So theres this guy i really like and i told him i liked him we kinda had a thing and then we went to the movies he and his friend were really hot and he knew i liked him i think he kinda liked me to but i was only talking to his friend cause i was shy to talk to him and it was akward, so i was talking to the other guy the whole time and didnt talk to him i came back on msn and he wasnt acting the same it was like he was mad at me or something. Does he hate me? Should i talk to him? Should i say sorry? What Should i do?
Hey there,
Him acting different could of been because you kind of ignored him the whole night, how would you feel if someone you liked ignored you the whole time? No, I wouldn't say he hates you. He is most likely just feels a little like you let him go (after you already established you like eachother). Yes, you should talk to him. You sound like you know what you should do, just not how to do it. Talk to him, tell him you are sorry that you didn't talk to him very much the other day... then tell him what really happened. Get him alone, explain yourself, look him in the eyes, and then say 'you make me kind of nervous' and smile while saying it.
By doing this, he will know what you were thinking at the time, he will have more respect for you for telling him why you were being the way you were (guys love when a girls honest), and you are likely to become even closer
So, I'll be buying my first car when I turn eighteen, which is in half a year, but I already pretty much have the money I need.
The only problem is, I have no idea what things should be checked when buying a second hand car.
I'll just mention that I live in Belgium, thus my absolute maximum is about €2500 that I'm willing to pay.
I've found a couple of nice cars for €1500-€2000, which I'm happy with, but I'm not sure what else I should be looking for in the details.
In terms of how much the car has driven, I have no idea what numbers I should be looking for. By the way, in kilometres, please.
This is not so important, but...
For instance, should this car be considered?:
http://www.autozone.be/peugeot_206_19-xt/auto/detail.jsp?zoekId=3681920&locale=nl_BE
I realize the website is in Dutch, and I apologize, but if you scroll down, you see the details, so you should be able to see what each thing is.
And of course, the page can be translated into English using Google website translator.
Thank you to anyone who can help, at least with the first part.
Hey there,
If you are not sure of what should be checked in a vehicle, find someone that does. It is no good if a dealership owner makes a deal with you and the vehicle isn't in good condition. Such as, the outside might look completely fine, but the inside might need a little fixing. Find a mechanic that you trust;one that maybe your parents have been to before or one that you know people say is very good at what he does. When I bought my second hand vehicle it had around 10,000 km on it and it was in very good condition. Just because a car has high or low milage it doesn't mean that it is any better or worse. The quality of the car and whats inside is what is important.
Only you would know what kind of car would be best for your situation, but keep in mind vehicles don't come in good quality for too cheap. Im saying, find a good quality vehicle that is affordable, in good condition, and always have someone with who knows about the vehicle you are about to purchase, who is not the dealer. Don't be afraid to ask for a lower price on the vehicle, for most dealers will bring it down for you and also you usually can pay by-weekly or by-monthly so you do not have to pay in one big lump of money.
I found this site for you to check out and it can help you more since I have told you about all I know about purchasing. Please read the section (if you scroll down) that says "choosing the right car" and "what mileage is okay for a used car". It should help you a ton and feel free to read anything else on this page as well: http://www.samarins.com/buying/index.html
The vehicle you chose seems like a good choice, but if you find a better priced one or one with better gas mileage, then check it out. There are many good choices out there. I hope you find the vehicle that suits you!