I have been friends with ever since 8th grade when she was in 6th. I said something to upset the mother and now she is taking it up on my friend and I. She moved to her dad's and now I am told that I am too pushy and because of that, I can never see or talk to her ever again. I really love her and she really loves me. We really want to hang out, but her parents' grudges against me proves to us that every time i go over, she gets grounded. I know she wants to hang out with me and I, her. What should I do? Should I sneak around and see her behind their parents' backs? Or should I just get over it and let their stupid grudge get in the way of our loving friendship? The age difference is NOT the problem!
If you know that everytime you go over, she gets grounded.. do not go over there. It will help your relationship grow stronger, for you won't be getting her in trouble knowingly. There are other ways to communicate and stay close to someone. What you should do, is text her if you both have a cell, phone her, and write her letters. No, you should not sneak behind her parents back, for that will only make them angry. You have to earn their trust. You can do that by: asking her parents personally (or by phone) if you can visit her. If they refuse your visit the first time, wait a few days and then ask them again. Once they notice that you are being polite and not demanding time with their daughter, they will probably let you go over for a short visit. After that visit, thank her parents for allowing you over. Then when you two want to get together again, do the same thing. The next time you visit, it may end up being even longer than the first. After you've been over a few times and they see you in a new light, get your girlfriend to ask them nicely if you can visit.
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