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Q: so at my school if you dont live in greystone {The rich part} or wear abercrombi (which i think is pointless to pay 80 bucks for prefaded and pre riped jeans)any way if you arent privledged then ure pretty much the scum of the earth.All the punks have spiked or really long hair and wear black shirts and riped jeans. all the preps wear collerd shirts and north face jakets. any way they label the rich kids preps and the middle class to lower class punks. So punks hang out with punks and preps with preps but, this prep likes me and i like her and every one knows so we are both hated by our own soacial clases. so what should we do

Go out with her! True love must conquer all! Forbidden true love is even more special! You will be similar to Romeo and Juliet, except I hope you will not die in the end and instead get married and have a lot of awesome children!

Q: ok i like this guy and we flirt a lot! he has a gf though. i think i've caught him staring at me and he always is sweet and nice. he is not the most popular boy in the class, but he is also the most sweetest boy. when we flirt people always point out to us that we are flirting and we both say" no we arn't" he is one of my friends too. my friend told him" dont cheat on prism(his gf) when we were talking and flirting. and he said " i wont" what does this mean? i mean i like him an lot, i had a dream that we kissed.

what does this mean?does he like me??

*confused grl*

He's not serious. Don't go out with him, if he flirts behind his girlfriend's back and then he dumps her for you, he is going to flirt with girls behind your back. He is not serious at all, he is just having fun by playing with your emotions.

Prism is a cool name.

I hope that helps and you find a guy that knows how to be serious.

Q: Hey.. I am trying to think of some names for a baby boy.. I want them to be unique so he will be mostt likely the only one in his class with that name.. I've got some.. so if you could help me pick.. It'd be great
Aiden
Jayden
Kaden lol I know they rhyme but I like em
Cameron
Carsyn
Daryk
Jared
Tayler...
Out of those.. kk thanks a bunch!

I've always been partial to Johnny.

But here are a few others:
Klaus
Dameon
Endymion
Narcissus
Achilles
Denethor
Faramir
Frodo

I hope you like those! Good luck.

Aaagh wait forget that, I'm stupid and didn't realize you wanted them out of that list. Sorry.

I like Aiden the best.

Q: my boy friend is here right now I am so in the mood roght now but I have a promice that I wont lose it ( virginity) till I get married but I want to so bad what do I do help me

well, look at a picture of an ugly person and you'll get out of the mood. and if your boyfriend is there, get off the computer and go play chess with him.

Q: I think i might be Bisexual. i am a 15 year old female girl. When i look at some of my female friends, i look at their breasts. i know this is not normal. when i masturbate, i imagine other girls in ym head. usually they are people with whom i am good friends... i know that this is not normal adn very weird, but is ti wrong? right now i like 2 different guys but at the same time i want to fuck my female friends. do u have any advice for me?

It's normal. It's totally normal. Whether you are gay or bi or straight, that doesn't really matter at this time in your life. You are filled with hormones and sexual curiosity, and most everybody goes through this. Most people who say they don't are lying because they are insecure. It's totally okay to fantasize about whoever you want. In fact, it's easier to fantasize about girls (in my opinion) because you know everything about the female body. You are confused right now, all people your age are, and you could be gay or sraight, or remain bisexual. So have fun with it, you get to experience the best of both worlds!!

Q: OK I REALLY NEED HELP. i am a girl and i have questions i will rate 5s no matter wat. ok well here goes: when i masturbate i usually rub it with something like a pillow or blanket. i don't really like to finger, i don't find a lot of pleasure in that. is that weird? please be honest. second thing: i don't know if i orgasm or not. it feels really good and i know that i'm "done" but i don't know if i actually Orgasmed or not. what's the feeling? does a bunch of stuff come out? more than the wetness before? how do i tell

That's not weird. Using your fingers get very boring after a short amount of time, so it's good to try different things. The orgasm question is a little tougher. Girls don't ejaculate. I guess it doesn't matter if you orgasm or not as long as it feels good.

Q: hey im 15f, whats the best way to quit smoking? i tried cold turkey and lasted 3 days.

Brainwash yourself into thinking that everytime you touch a cig, a baby animal dies a horrible and bloody death. Everytime you try to smoke, think of the poor baby animal (and yes, humans do count!), and soon you will no longer want to smoke.

Q: im in love with this kid who ive lost my virginity to and i just started going out with him like 3 days ago and we got into a fight because my friend wanted them to leave her house so he went outside to sit so i followed him and he was really being mean and told me to leave and that he wasnt gonna come see me anymore (he lives in another town) so i went upstaries and started crying and my mom picked me up to take them home and i just got out of the car cuz i couldnt take it anymore. i love him so much and hes being so mean to me and i dont wanna call him and he hasnt called me, i dont know what to do. im so confused. i love him

i rate 5s

He's a jerk. Don't love him. He's using you, get over him.

Q: Please, I'm in love with someone who lives across the country from me. I'm so in love with him and I can't be with him until I'm older. What do I do? ..He loves me back but what if a girl moves in? I mean if another girl does move in I'll have to move aside..I just really do love him. He knows I do but theres now way to explain how much. I've never been in love before and it scares me because I know this wont work out..I just want to be with him.

It's not going to work out, find someone in your own area.

Q: i like this boy for a while but he never knew. today i walked into my class and he strait out tells me he found something out..so i asked what and hes like "you like me.." and i kinda got all nervous and wwent to the bathroom and when i come back hes like teasing me..like saying "oh. why wont you turn around..?" and cutsy stuff like that.. by him being so forword does that mean he might like me? or am i just crazy and having wishful thinking?

Well obviously he's not mad at you for liking him, so why not just tell him the truth? If you are nervous about it, write it on a peice of paper, or your flesh if you prefer.

Q: alrigty then im hearing all these stories at school {not that i belive them} about how every one is having sex i personally dont belive it. god says not to have premarital relations plus you should want to wait until u are married to have sex. anyway every one talks about how all the popular kids are doing it im almost 15 i personallyam appaled and am wonering where all the desensy went in the world some one tell me.

Many people feel upset about the state of the world. Truth is, there was never any decency to begin with. People have been raping and killing each other since the beginning of time, and probably will continue it forever. And you should believe that people are having sex, because it is true (that's where all the babies are coming from). You might believe in God and want to save yourself for marriage, but other people have different priorties and beliefs. Life is tough for everyone, and all people have different ways of dealing with it. Point is, life can be the most wonderful thing but it can also be Hell on Earth so you should get used to it and do your best to survive.

Q: I am having trouble, I'm babysitting for my neighbor. This one baby is very weird! She like poops every 5 mins. I do not want to change her diaper(that white thing that goes on her butt so she doesnt poop or pee in her pants). I am in the middle of watching a movie and she keeps crying. She has a brother too and he does the same thing(they are twins). It is crazy madness I tell you! So please help me and answer me ASAP! Tell me what I should do !!!! thank you!

Why don't you first tell the parents about it, I think they should know. And you should not be a babysitter. How would you like it if you were pooping uncontrollably and nobody would help you out? Guess what, that's gonna be you in about 50 years in the nursing home. She's just a helpless baby, and you shouldn't be so obsessed with your movie that you can't take care of her, especially since that's what her parents are PAYING you to do.

Q: I have this problem because I have hair on my upper lip just a little bit kind of and what should I do about it?? I tried bleaching it should I try waxing it but I am afraid it would hert please help me (age 13 1/2) thanks!

It's actually normal to have hair there. But it's also normal to be embarassed by it. Just shave it, it doesn't hurt at all and it doesn't make the hair grow back faster or thicker.

Q: im an 8th grade guy and i wanted to know if there is a good way to get 8th grade girls to like me

Be nice to them. And treat them respectfully. And buy them CDs and gummy worms.

Q: ok well i am 13 female and there is this boy named alex and he is really really hot and popular and he said that he needs a girlfriend becuz he is lonely and my friend adriana put all these girls names on a piece of paper and gave it to alex so he can rate them and my name was on there and he rated me a 1!!! I am not the prettiest girl alive and i am kinda overweight so what can i do for him 2 rate me like a 7 or sumthing???? and any advice about excrise so i can lose weigt???????

-confused

Wait...is 1 a BAD rating? I thought it was good.

Anyway, that boy is a shallow jerk. Who cares how he rates you? If someone doesn't like you they are not worth your time, no matter how popular or hot they are.

Q: thank you once again, (im the chic with a child having an affair with a maaried man - wants to control me)
but like at work, i got access to the telephone and am very tempeted to pick up the dial and call him this is because i dont really have much work on hand so i spend time thinkin and all i dont how if il be able to handle this to let go of him ve said to him on many occassions i dont think its working but we end up together again before the week goes by..

I hope I'm not offending you, but it sounds like you are codependent.

I don't really know much about this, but there are many books on the subject.

"Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our Lives" by Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller, Keith Miller is just one, try searching on amazon.com

Also, there is "The Single Mother's Survival Guide" by Patrice Karst

"Independent Women: Creating Our Lives, Living Our Visions" by Debra Sands Miller might be good.

Those might be good, but these ones, I think, will be awesome.

"Be Honest--You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You Deserve"
by Ian Kerner

"He Loved Me, He Loves Me Not: A Guide to Fudge, Fury, Free Time, and Life Beyond the Breakup"
by Lynn Harris, Chris Kalb

"He's Not All That! : How to Attract the Good Guys"
by Dr. Gilda Carle

I'm sorry, but all I can do is reccommend books. I might not be the best person to help you with this, so I do my best by telling you about people who can. This will take a lot of time and a lot of strength. I wish you the best of luck and hope it works out for you and your child.

-Kigeto

Q: thanks for the advice had that on mind to but i am so bust over this guy that id do anything to see him like now havnt seen him for 3wks he was out of the country now he back and well he never told he was coming back so soon i bumped into him by mistake i didnt talk to him made like i never cen him then he caaleed to ask if i was shocked said no i knew you would lie and ever since 3days ago i havnt pickedup the phone to call him i am very tempeted to do so want to see him but the other side of me is saying no leave him to look for me, its getting tougher by the minute how do i handle this or how can i let go of him,,,,

I know it's tough, but you have to be independent. I'm not really sure who you are since I gave advice to a few people with guy problems, but here is a list of some things you can do that don't require being with a guy.

Yoga
Video games (I like Harvest Moon, myself. Also those Dance Dance Revolution games are supposedly hot)
Interior design
Shopping (nothing like new clothes to make you feel better!)
Buddhism

I highly suggest Buddhism, because it teaches you inner peace and self respect and all sorts of other cool things.

But avoiding him might not be the best thing for you. Have a talk with him and say that you do not think the relationship is working out. However, if he is a violent man, you should go to the police.

If you aren't sure if he is "violent", you will be able to tell if he says something like, "No, you're my girl. Who else would take you, you're stupid and fat." Or if he hits you. If he does abuse you like that, check out http://www.bwss.org/ , the Battered Women Support Services.

Best of luck,
Nuri Kigeto

Q: OKAY, someone made a s/n almost exactly like mine and is telling me that im gonna get my ass kicked ass school but they wont tell me who they are and is putting up stupid away messages such as: "having sex for money"

and tellling me that my boyfriend is cheating on me and stuff. and she says that i've been mean to her in school. but i have no idea who it could be because im not really a mean person.. what to do?! lol

That's happened to me before, someone made a screen name that was very close to mine, everyone at school thought it was me.

First of all, you now know for the future not to give out your screen name!

And what I did was I told my parents (I was like twelve, but even if you are older than that you should tell your parents), and my dad went online and talked to them. He said that he was tracking their IP address (he wasn't though), and that he was my father, not me. They got scared and signed off. We also notified the police for harrassment. After a few days, they stopped and everybody has forgotten it now.

Q: 17 female fl

On the side of being a waitress at the country club, I needed to make some extra dough. I decided to apply at a tanning salon near the place. But, I've never been to a tanning salon in my life! I can tan easily enough during my job. But if they interview me, I don't want to look like a complete idiot, so I'm going to go a few times in the mean time. What shall I do when I first walk in? What do I do once I'm inside the room? Do I strip off all my clothes, and so on? Can someone give me a detailed description of what to do at a tanning salon? I don't want to be embarrassed!

0.o

Why would you strip off your clothes?

Just go in like any other interview, dress nice and speak clearly. If they ask you what you know about tanning salons and you say you don't know anything, they'll just say "Well, you'll learn." That's what they said when I worked at the library, I know they're different but they are still both jobs.

For heaven's sake, do not strip for them! Have some self respect!

Hope it works out for you!

Q: im a 21yr old single parent, amd am in love with a married man with two kids, we have been together for 4yrs this would be the 5th now, he tells me he loves me we always argue about our relationship for weeks but eventually amke up and all he teells me he is having major problems with he wife and wants to divorce her i dnt know how true this is or whether he just says so to get what he wants and it has worked for all these years, he doesn t not agree for me to see anyone else but he is married, i love him but im not sure whether it is worth waiting for he says he also wants to have a baby wiht me but what ifheruns away denies it my parents dont know about this relationship but my mum has emphasied never to go out with a married man what do i do, he also expects me to do all the contacting callin smsin and if i dont its a big story does he really love me is heworth the while????

You need to get out of this relationship. That man is trying to control you. If he would cheat on his wife, then he would cheat on you. He's not worth ANYTHING, leave him and find someone who respects you!

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