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Q: does anybody know a site where you can get cheap uggs? dont say ebay thanks

um....walmart?

Q: im fed up!! my best friend nicole, her other best friend is always hogging her and i never get ot hang out with her, they are either having a sleepover or wont let me talk to them. I have also known nicole for waay longer. what should i do?

i had the same problem and i still do but i think you should tell nicole how you feel...not in a mean way but a just friendly way. I hope this helps.

Q: My friend lou's haloween party was a blast and i made out with this boy i never though i would get the chance to talk to and that i thought was cute during spin the bottle. everyone of course at school found out and for the past 2 days my friend jasmina and mensur make fun of me about it in art where him and his other friend are! its REALLY funny but embarassing. they asked him questions like did you like it? was she good? would you go out with her? do you like her! and he answeres yes/yeah!/mhhmm to all of them! we even exchanged Numbers and he has my s/n (i THINK)but i barely talk to him and i dont really kno him but hes SOO cute but he doesn't do ANYTHING about it. WHAT IS HIS PROBLEM why doesnt he put in the effort to talk to me some more! should i talk to him on AIM? HELP should i go for it myself and if so waht do i do? or ditch this kid who won't make a move?

thanks majorly!

well if he dosent talk to you, then i think he might be a player but i'm not totally for sure...sometimes the guys dont have to make the move and the girls can (hint hint). Well i hope this helps.

Q: okay so im 16/f and im a junior.
and i like this kid whos a freshman i know how awful is that? but i mean hes supposed to be a sophmore. so its not that bad. but yeah. and my friend said i should invite him to junior prom. and i know thats a long way away. but would it be kinda dorkish to bring a freshman to junior prom??

thanks in advance.
=)

No! it would not be dorky to do that. pick whom ever you want to pick...dont worry about what everyone else thinks. Take whoever you want to take. You dont get a second chance to Re- go to the prom. Well i hope i helped...thanks and BYE

Q: 14-F

last night around 2am. i was sleeping on the couch because my room gets very cold. well right next to my house is 4 large peak windows. well two kids smashed them with baseball bats. it was the scariest thing. i was covered in glass. i didn't get hurt but i was so shocken up that i threw up and i could not stop shaking. now im terrified to go back to sleep. it took me 3½ hours to try to get back to sleep. the reason they smashed them was because my brother 18, got into an arguement with this kid and the kid wanted to fight with my brother but my brother wouldn't fight him. so they took it out on my windows. i just kind of stare. i've been quite depressed for a little bit of time now and after that i feel worse. i just don't want to move or do anything. i dont know what to do. i'm still shaking and can't stop crying. what can i do. please help.

I would also be shaken from this horrible incident. I am very sorry this happen to you but they wont do it again because they already did it so there's no reason to be scared anymore. Your home is safe i am sure and tonight if you are still scared then sleep in your own room with a lot of blankets. Everything will be fine. i hope this helps.

Q: what do i do if my best friend is going out with my exboyfriend?

if you really liked ur ex boyfriend and it hurts your feelings then tell her that it does. Dont hide your feelings because that is how i am and nothing gets better. Just write her a note or tell her face to face and everything will get on the right track again if she is a good friend. If she isnt then let her do her own thing! I hope i helped and let me know if you have anymore questions.

Q: My ex and I have been broken up for a month or so. It was a serious relationship, but we seem to be on a 'friend' level now where we talk/joke around. I love him and would like to get back together to see if things might workout, but everyone is telling me to play hard to get. The advice I get from my friends & family is to act like I don't care and he'll come to me. It has started to work, but I need to know if it will backfire? Does the playing hard to get for a guy or even an ex really work? (18/f)

Yes...playing hard to get definatly works but make sure that he likes you first because if he just likes you as a friend then, all the playing hard to get thing wont work. Good Luck!

Q: hey again. you answered my question about being a bad friend before. but here is something else, my friend never tells me when she is mad at me. usually she will just hide it if she is and then get over it. so i don't really know if she is angry or upset. should i talk to her about it anyway or leave it alone like she does?

I think you should just let her tell you when she is ready and if she gives you the cold shoulder or dosent speak to you, then bring it up but for now just let her do what she wants. If you think that it would be comforting to her for you to talk to her, then tell her why you did it. and dont forget to tell her SORRY. Even if you want to give her time..just tell her that you are sorry (write a note or just tell her fac to face) so she knows that you care for her feelings. If you have any other quetions about this topic or ANY other topic...just let me knw and i will help out. Thanks and hope this helps. GOOD LUCK!!

Q: Ok so here is the story. Last night i went to a party and my friend's crush was there. I knew that she likes him. she likes two other guys too. well i was kind of all over this guy last night we didnt hook up or anything just alot of hugging and stuff and flirting and i know that she saw. but she like never tried to even talk to the guy. i don't know if i like him or anything. anyways, was i being a bad freind? should i talk to her about it? what should i do?

well...if you were trying to make her jealous or mad then i think you were being a little selfish but i think that you should just explain to her why you did it if she is mad. If it is a good enough reason then i think you werent being a bad friend but if u just did it to do it or to make her mad or jealous then i think you were being a bit bad.

Q: so i tryed out for cheerleading at my school and they have like two days before actual tryouts where they teach you the dance the school song the cheer and stunting. i'm not gonna lie i did really good on all of it. and when tryouts came i made sure i looked cute while dancing and everything and when she posted the results afterwards my name wasn't on the list but my best friends was. some of the worst people trying out made it...i don't get it. one of the girls i know tryed out with her friend and they made it because her older sister is captain and her other older sister is coach. girls who were on the team for football season didn't even make it because of attitude". actually the coaches just had their younger sister (the captain) choose almost RANDOMLY without looking at abilities...they also choose favorites.this is so unfair they kicked some of the best girls off just because they don't like them...now i missed cheerleading basketball season and i'm scared to tryout for football season next year. one of my friends moms is going to the athletic director and talking about how the coaches just choose favorites...idk what tooo doo!!! i'm so depressed about not making it!!

well..if they just chose favorites then you probably did good. Dont stress over...you said that ur friends mom is gonna straighten it out so i'm sure everything will be okay.

Q: I am having to make a decision about whether or not I stay in my relationship with my boyfriend of just over a year. To clear my head I wrote down the good points and the bad points. Could anyone take a look at this list and tell me what they think - does the good outweigh the bad or vice versa? Are any of the 'goods' enough to keep me with him, or are any of the 'bads' indications that I have to end it? What do you think?

Thanks

GOOD

It is comfortable.
I understand him absolutely.
He understands me absolutely.
I need him in my life.
He loves me and finds me sexy.
He never looks at other girls.
I can tell him anything.
He is my best friend.
I don’t think I will ever find the connection I have with him with anyone else.
He is willing to work for our relationship.

BAD

The sex is not satisfying.
He irritates me.
I have little respect for him.
I often dislike him.
He doesn’t know how to touch me.
I am jealous of him.
I think he is arrogant.
I don’t find him sexy.
His self-importance frustrates me.
I want him to be more subtle and mature.
He thinks he is wonderful.

Well you have more bad points than good i would break it off...only if you want to though

Q: Hi. I went into this chat room ages ago and strated talking to this italian boy. I then gave him my email address and we started chatting for ages and had heaps in common. we are still chatting but not long ago we were talking for a couple of hours and then he said that he was falling inlove with me and then said he loved me. that i wasn't like any of the girls where he lives. I feel really special to actually be loved by someone else. And he's everything that I want in a boyfriend but im over two thousand kilometres away from him. Hes 17m and im 14f. Hes not a virgin and i am but he said he wanted a relationship that was more than sex. TRUE LOVE. I told him that I don't like him in the nicest way but am lately feeling like I do. How can I stop my feelings or express them? Im just scared that if we start a relationship that our friendship will be ruined. And thats the last thing that I want to happen.

If you are really far away and dont know him you dont want to date him!! Also, if he is 17 and you are only 14 i think that you should date someone your own age.

Q: Once I was told by a guy that when he looked at me he saw stars in my eyes. What the hell is that supposed to mean?! Anyone have any ideas? I dunno why it occured to me today but now I can't stop wondering what it meant...he was my boyfriend at the time by the way so I doubt it was anything mean...maybe sarcastic, i don't know.
Thanks!

that was a compliment..he wasnt being mean

Q: my best friend is crazy about my boyfriend. he was her boyfriend first but they only went out for 2 1/2 weeks. he was her first boyfriend. she says hes the only guy shes ever loved. i think shes a little over dramatic. ive been going out with him for more than 2 months now. i love him alot and this is the most serious relationship ive been in, and ive been in a lot of relationships. i love him so much. but now ive been reading on my friends and my boyfriends myspaces. they both admitted to still having feelings for eachother. my best friend came to school and told me the only reason he hasnt broke up with me is because he doesnt know how and he really loves her. she also told him that i wouldnt break up with him because i dont want them going back out. thats not true. i love him. my friend is really mad at me now and i didnt do anything. she gave me her blessing to go out with him. i dont know what to do. they like eachother and my friend is telling me all this crap. my boyfriend says he loves me more than hell ever love her or like her, but how do i know? my friend was with him first. what do i do? please help me. thanks.

If you actually saw that he wrote he still had feelings for your friend, he is lying to you! If you friend is mad at you for no offcial reason, write her a note saying all the stuff you told us. If she is a good friend she will be ur friend but if she picks the guy over you, forget her, they arent true friends....talk to your boyfriend to...dont tolerate lying. Hope this helps!!

Q: Hey
I'm 14 years old and a freshman in highschool. There is this one boy, we'll call
him John, that i have really liked for probably a month or so. He didn't use to
talk to me so much, but in the past weeks we've been walking to the classes we
have together with eachother, He seems to kind of hang back sometimes so we can
walk next to eachother, and he'll spark up conversation more than usual. I've
even caught him looking at me a few times, and he's caught me too. But he says
funny things when he's talking to me and he seems to like spending time with
me...I have his screen name, but he's not much of an online talker
unfortunately. I'm too shy to give him my number, and he's rather shy too,
that's why i noticed his sllightly picked up interest. Do you think he likes me,
or am i just blowing things out of proportion?"

Hey! yes..it definitly sounds like he is flirting with you. It sonds like he is talking to you and making you attached to him and then making you jealous of him because he wants you to like him. Has he ever mentioned anything about a girl and him to you? If he has he is really trying to get your attention. If he dosent it still sounds like he likes you and is flirting. hope this helps...if you have any other questions let me know and i will give you advice! Thanks

Q: I'm 14 and I've been with my boyfriend since I was in 5th grade. They used to think that our relationship was cute, but now they're both annoyed and scared. They're annoyed because they didn't think I would end up really liking him and that I'm too young to have a boyfriend. They're scared because they think that I'm going to do something with him that I'll regret, but I know what's right and what's wrong. And they always tell me how responsable I am and that I've got a good head on my shoulders, but they don't seem to want to get to know him or talk to him. Am I in the wrong or should my parents try to get to know him?

You should talk to your parents about him and why you like him and maybe they will understand you more. You should convince them that you know whats right from wrong and trust you and promise them you wont have any regrets. If you think you will have regrets maybe you should reconsider the relationship. Hope this helps!

Q: My ex-ryan, well i broke up with him about 2 and a half months ago i think, well i think im still in love with him. i dont know if he would take me back or not, but i REALLY want him back, i miss him so bad. his sister LOVES me and his parents like me but probably DONT want us to date again. i cant get my mind of him and everything reminds me of him. i WANT to be over him but i cant seem to stop thinking about him. its really getting me down. should i try getting with him again or just try to forget about him?

the same thing happened to me!! if you still talk to him as a friend and he is single then ask him out again if you want to. If you two still have a good relationship as friends you may want to consider that.

Q: I'm a 15 year old girl who has a little problem with acne and oil. I wear foundation but it doesn't seem to help too much. I don't want something that looks cakey, but something that will cover the redness and acne and still look natural.
Can someone help me in any way? (whether it's a good face cleanser/toner, a good foundation, or tips on makeup... anything will help.)

Makeup is the worst thing for acne. If you have it real bad then you might want to consider seeing a dermatologist but if it is just semi then get a cleanser for your face and were as little makeup when you can at all times. When you do have to wear it, put concealer on your pimples then, put a small coat of powder foundation on your face! hope this helps

Q: ok its a week before halloween,, and i have no idea what to be!! anyone have any ideas?? im 13/f.

You could be a nerd, a mixmatcher (a person who wears mixmatch clothes), a witch, tinkerbell, a ham....lol..dont ask. anyways, i hope this helps...

Q: hello is it possible for you to have a pimple in your ear? Because this morning i woke up and there was kind of a bump in my ear it hurts reall bad when i touch. I can touch a part of my ear where the bump is kind of my and it will kind of hurt. Is it a pimple? Please tell me soon this thing is really bugging the hell out of me and it hurts like a bitch. thanks please help!! :(

You can get pimples in your ear and yes it will hurt, make sure you keep cleaning it with some kind of soap but make sure it is for your skin type. If you have sensitive skin use a soap that isnt going to make your ear sore. vise versa. Hope this helps!!

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