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i'm 16/f and looking for a cute vest kind of like this

http://www.kohls.com/kohlsStore/juniors/blazersjackets/PRD~344143/Candies+Tweed+Vest.jsp

but not tweed.
i want it to look cute though- not too fancy
does anyone know where i can get one? thanks

http://www2.jcpenney.com/jcp/Products.aspx?ItemID=1401959&ItemTyp=C&GrpTyp=PRD&ShowMenu=T&ShopBy=0&SearchString=vest&RefPage=SearchDepartment.aspx&CmCatId=SearchResults&Search1Prod=True

:] simple, yet sophisticated

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I've recently been trying to lose weight but I drink a lot of water. Like I'll drink a lot of water and I feel fat and stuff. Does water make you gain weight for a period of time or something because of the weight of all the water? I don't know I feel full and stuff when I drink a lot of water.

That's the point. The water fills you up without adding any calories, since water has 0 calories in it. You just feel heavy because water weight moe than most food would in your stomach :] It does help you lose weight though. Goodluck!

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how to see whos view my myspace

You can't. You can see how many views your profile gets per day and where they live, but it won't tell you who they are:

http://www.maploco.com/

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is this true:

(on comps)

The best way to check for airbrushed photos (if you're curious) is to tilt your lcd screen from the bottom up to see if the skin plane is uneven (i.e: abnormally smooth in some areas, totally rough onthe others

Oh yeah. It works great. You'll be able to see the sudden change in color :]

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so my best friend aubry and i have been best friends since 6th grade (were freshman now) and 6th grade was great, we had tons of fun! like we learned about eachother so much. 7th grade was really rocky we fought so much, i would finally forgive her, we'd catch up, and a little while later i'd do something to screw it up and she'd get mad at me. but we still had fun, lots of it. 8th grade we didnt see to much of eachother (we were on different teams for school, no classes together,and eventually our lunch room got so bad they made us sit by teams so she was far from me,) we would still talk, we are good at reading body language and each others lips so thats how we communicated in lunch. this year we have 6th period together, gym and health and we had study last semester but this year she sort of shows off, not bragging (shes never like that) shes just loud and needs to joke around, we dont get to talk much, actually (she plays hardcore sotball and practices every day after school) then her boyfriend takes up whatever time she does have (like phone at night which used to be our thing since 7th grade) then when we do talk in class, i try to figure stuff out, like what were doing that friday and she needs to make a scene (which she kinda yells at me for doing) (i also like to cuddle and talk for hours, when we have a night just to ourselves i would just like to lay on the couch fooling around talking. she doesnt, she used to but not anymore)

i just miss the good times, and if i try to talk to her, she doesnt see to much wrong (i think its cause she has an awesome social life, always talking to someone, never home on a friday but me, i have her and thats really its a few other people.) i just want to me as important in her life (and feel it) as i did back then when people KNEW i was her best friend. what can i do?

I'm actually having that problem now. However, you have to remember, people aren't the same in highschool as they are in middle school. In fact, they change alot. It's just part of growing, and it sounds to me like she's just trying to find out who she is. Don't worry about it to much, but talk to her. Let her know what's going on. If you to still aren't working out, just move on. It's ok to make new friends too :] i'm sure you could find a new best friend that shares your same interests :] goodluck!

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i think i know who it is becauze i sorta recognize the voice but i could very well be wrong.

Next time they call, ask them who it is. If they do not answer, contact your phone company and ask them to make sure the number is blocked :] goodluck

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HI everyone.
So I'm that girl that always likes to have something different on... for the last 2 years I was into peace signs and hippie-ish things but now every single store has that! Girls that get into fights everyday wear peace signs! Now I want to find something different/unique that not many other people will be wearing. any ideas?
17/Female.

Hm.... I'm not to clear on what you mean by "something different" But i'll give it a shot :] you could go for some astrology things. You know, predicting the future, astrology signs and whatnot. You could even make up your own signs and what they mean :] Kind of like the Rune stone idea below me! Goodluck!

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i have a lot of blackheads on my nose, like little black dots. i wash my face all the time, but all it does is make it peel more.

does anyone know what to dooo??

Put your face over a bowl of boiling water so that it's in the steam and then pull them out [of they don't come out at first, you can get a clean needle and try to wedge it out, but if not, just leave it or it might scar]

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Okk, so dont judge me for this please i am having enough trouble....(not saying that you would) but there is this boy, and something kind of happened...well we flirted a lot and then he finally kissed me and it was great...but i began to freak out after he went back home..and he got my number and like a month later he began calling me and i didnt want to deal with him so i told him to stop that i didnt want to talk to him....i think i really hurt him,,,,but why did i freak you ask?? ha ha well this is what is holding me back...you see he was kind of...adopted...into my family....I know right?? and that is freaking me out because i feel like crap now and i dont know why. And i had a dream that we was getting married. But that made me freak out more. And my friend is all like.."what if you are like in love with him" and i was telling her that i refused to be because of that reason....but she thinks that i might be so now i am stressing out even more...so what is your input and what should i do??

Well, if he is your adopted brother, then this is fine. He's not actually related to you, so it's not ancestory [dating a relative]. Don't worry about him being adopted though. All you need to do is talk to him :] i'm sure he'll understand if you tell him the truth! You might feel guilty because you hurt him, or you're denying your true feelings about him. And the dream is a pretty good indicator that you have feelings for him. Just talk to him and apologize for freaking out and then be happy :] don't let something like this hold you back! Goodluck! :]

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so earlier this year these girls were really mean to me. they practically ruined the 1st half of the school year. i know not to trust them not because they both arent nice and they've done mean things to other people. now one of my good friends is friends with them. i dont want her to get hurt but if i tell her to be careful around them she will tell them thinking they are friends and they well tell others (school counslor and parents because they love to get me in trouble ) how can i make sure my friend isnt going to behurt by these girls?

The only thing you can do is be there for her. I'm sorry, but if she wants to be friends with them, you can't stop her. Just watch her and be there IF they do anything and be there to back her up if they get her in trouble. Not only will this strengthen you guy's friendship, but it will set a clear example to others to stay away from those girls. If you really feel you must drag her out of the hole she's falling into,invite her over for a sleepover, have fun and everything and then tell her what they did and warn her. Don't be too pushy about it, or she might get mad at you. Just tell her it's "something to think about" and that "she doesn't have to do this if she doesn't want to". Then, whatever she says, tell her not to tell anyone, because you don't want anyone mad at you. Goodluck! :]

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You see, there is this girl that I like and in language class we make eye contact for almost 3 seconds 2 times each day. I am to shy to talk to her, and she is quiet, and normally doesn't talk to boys. She normally sticks to her friends. I am in 7th grade, and I would like to know what a 7th grade girl does when she likes you, and also if those are signs. Thank you in advanced for your replies!

Well, if she's quiet, then she probably won't have the flirty casual type of signs. When I was in 7th grade, if a guy was staring at me, i'd kindof smile a bit and then pretend i'm listening to the teacher or look down. I suggest you try to talk to her :] it kindof depends how she looks at you. If she looks at you and smiles a bit, she's probably interested. If she looks at you in a weird way, she probably is curious, but too shy to talk to you. Get to know her or become friends with some of her friends. Goodluck! :]

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k, well i know fingering is not sex but i didnt know what catergory to put it under.

but anyways, i heard that the first time you get fingered you bleed. is this true? also if it is, is there anything i can do to "it" so i don't bleed the first time i get fingered, because i know i'm ready for it but i just don't want the akwardness of him having blood all over his hands or whatever.

thanks.

The first time anything goes "up there" there is a chance of it bleeding. This is because your hymen has broken. It will only break once though, so once your "cherry has popped" It won't do it again. You can try to break it yourself if you want to. Typiccally, the hymen can be broken by sports, tampons, or horseback riding. Goodluck!

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ok this is kinda a weird question, but in some of the questions on here, people talked about "plan b". what is plan b?

Plan B:

"An emergency contraceptive pill (levonorgestrel). When taken within 72 hrs. of sexual intercourse where no other contraceptive was used, or what was used didn't work, Plan B decreases the risk for pregnancy by almost 90%. It's available by prescription, except in California and New Mexico, where it's available OTC. It's different from the abortion pill, which actually causes an early rejection of the embryo, AFTER the woman is already pregnant. Plan B INTERFERES with the process of fertilization, BEFORE it happens. It doesn't protect against STD's though."


That's from Urban dictionary :]

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okay i know 4 lines of this song, and i try googling each line at a time or even the whole 4 lines, but i can't find the name of the song or the artist! it's trying me crazy! i know the tune & everything, but i can't remember more than 4 lines:

because i am lighter than air
and you are pushing the sky
you're so afraid of the ground
and i am so afraid to fly

Is this it?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8MnJw_amUtc

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what does it mean when someone puts 1 in a convo. Like "I'll talk to you later. 1"
haha I'm sorry for asking a weird question but I want to know =D

It just means "goodbye" or "see you later". It also means "one love"

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Okay I have two questions about a protest

1) What's that white cardboardy stuff people use for protests thats easily seen and firm? And where would I get it? If I can't get it, what should I use instead?

2) My Mum is SUPER PROTECTIVE of me. When I say super, I mean you seriously have no idea. If she knew I was going to a silent 'let's sit on the ground and hum' protest, she'd freak. Let alone a dangerous one I'm going to. I was going to go with friends, and just tell her I was hanging out with them, but at the last minute they decided they didn't believe in the cause and are leaving me to go by myself.

I could still use that story, but it feels so wrong lying to her. I was thinking of dropping hints how disgusted I am with this thing I'm protesting about, then in casual conversation slip in about thinking of going to the protest with a friend. However if she says no, then I can't lie about not going to the protest. Should I tell the truth, and if so how? Or just go.

Well, you already got the 2nd question answered, so i'll answer the first. It's called Posterboard. You can get it at walmart or hobby lobby :]

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okay, so this one night me and my friends were driving around and we were talking about how supposedly the end of the world is coming in teh next 10 yesrs. well i am very caring and a scared persona nd when i get so scared about something i freak out! how can i forget about this 'end of the world' stuff forgot so i wont ever remember it and i can live my life like i use dto all free caring having fun but enjoying life?

ha ha i've heard that story. Look, I SERIOUSLY doubt the world is gonna end in 2012. I mean, that's all based on the Mayan's predictions, which happened hundreds of years ago, so how would they know? Honostly, don't worry about it. Besides, if it was the end of the world, we'd all be dead anyway, so why would it matter? We wouldn't be alive long enough to know what was going on. Ha ha just forget it. Science is developing, so maybe they'll find out by then :] don't worry

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nobody cares anymore. it's been 3 months since the break up and i had two people who cared about how heartbroken i was [still am]. about a month ago, one of those people stopped acting like they cared. she said she did, but i just knew she didnt. it was clear. now, my only support system left is doing the same thing. she confronted me about how i was talking about myself too much, and i feel like i cant tell her anymore about him. i wouldnt. i would feel to guilty every time i did. i feel like a horrible person. everyone in my life who made life worth living is giving me a reason to be unhappy. first he broke up with me, then my friends started falling apart, my support is slowly fading. i lost myself when we broke up and i cant find myself i have nobody to spill my guts to. i cant be happy. i really cant. i miss him. i just cant deal with this anymore. how to i maintain composure. help? any? please dont say "go out and have fun with friends" cause i dont like them. dont say "distract yourself" cause hes the only thing on my mind no matter what i do.




thanks;
xxhopeless

Look, what i'm about to say is going to sound really harsh, but i'm gonna have to say it;

suck it up. move on with your life! There will be other guys in your life, I really doubt he was "the one". Obviously, he didn't want to be with you, so you can't change it. If it's been 3 months, of course your friends are getting sick of you crying about this guy! They want you to move on, so you can be happy. Seriously, there are worse things that can happen then a breakup. Just move on with your life. If he lost you, he probably wasn't good enough for you anyway. He probably is just annoyed that you're still going on about it, boys tend to get annoyed by that stuf easily. Listen, my brother just broke up with his girlfriend of 6 months. He was happy and content and ready to be friends with his ex girlfriend, until she started acting all desperate and saying he was the "one she loved" and still chasing after him. Now, he hates her. Honostly, there will be other guys, you'll find Mr. right someday, but don't rush it. Give your friends a break, and put yourself in there shoes. If you really don't like them, then make some new ones! Just a simple "hi" can spark a friendship.

I'm sorry if this sounded harsh, and I know i'm risking a 3-star rating, but i've been through this kinda stuff before, and this is exactly what my friend told me to snap me out o it. Just enjoy your life, and don't let this dude hold you back from having fun! Goodluck! :]

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(f/16)im straight. i like guys, but penis grosses me out. and theres this girl, i dont kno how i feel about her. am i idolising her, obsesing or just in love? shes bi. has a long distance bf she doesnt care about. and me and her are really good friends. we cuddle. but i still beilive im stright. also my sis is a les so maybe im just thinking this way cuz iv been around her way of living. i dont like vaginas or boobs are any bodyparts. i dont care whats down the persons pants. what should i think?? -Sighned Loveless

I think you're just curious :] all teenagars go through tis, when they wonder if they're NOT straight. Don't worry about it, just let yourself find out. If it turns out you do dig chicks, don't worry about it. it's not a bad thing. Goodluck!

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I have medium length hair. And lately it has been giving me trouble. I had it razored about 2 months ago. I bought some clay and some hair glue but nothing seems to work. i want it to be spiky/ messy at the top and I of course want the left or right eye covered. I was wondering i have striaght hair do i need a striaghtner to achieve a better look. And how should i go about styling it what steps should i take?? My hair justs looks kinda flat. Sry i can't give u a pic.

I'm very mad at myself. I just wrote a brilliant answer and accidently erased it D: Oh well, when you get it cut, ask for a side fringe and get supor short layers at the top around the crown. Here's the video that I posted before. It's the best emo hair guide EVER:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t7zAL9Oa8Is

and this is an older one she made:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dNFI9bN-cNc&feature=related

And, if you want to do the makeup :]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1BbhCwOCLM&feature=related

Goodluck! There are plenty other videos on youtube that show you different ways of doing it :]

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