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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.
I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.
People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.
Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.
I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college
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Well, I'm 16/male, and my mom caught me, uh... masterbating today. She just watched as I pulled my pants up and the porn was still playing. Fuck, I feel really embarassed now. She was already a paranoid mom (without any reason to be one) and it pisses me off to no end, sometimes I just start screaming and cursing at her because she wont leave me the fuck alone and its getting old. Now she wont even let me close my fucking doors because she thinks im gonna do it again! (and shes installing a porn-blocker). I never was close with my mom, and I don't feel comfortable talking to her about ANYTHING, but it's still pretty damn embarassing. It's just masterbating and porn, but she flips out if I see one chest on TV! What should I do - aside fromt talking to her?
Your mother will always think that you are her little baby and she hopes that she is the only woman you will ever need in your life. Catching you doing that gives her the sad realization that you are growing up and you are starting to have needs and urges that have nothing to do with her anymore.
You mother fails to realize that masturbation is a normal and healthy thing for all teenagers. Whether she'll admitt it or not, she did/does that stuff too (I'm sure you didn't want to hear that but it's true).
Don't be embarassed. Maybe you should remind her that it's YOUR body. Ask if she'd rather you be out getting some girl pregnant or doing that?
You NEED to talk to your mom about privacy. Don't jump to drastic measures and insist a lock is put on your door, but maybe make a sign for your door that says "knock please" or "do not disturb." The sign doesn't just have to be for when you're masturbating, either. I'm sure there are lots of times when you just need to be by yourself and not be bothered.
You are 16 years old and you deserve some privacy. Since you feel uncomfortable talking to your mom, maybe express your concerns to your dad or an adult you trust. Then perhaps the three of you could talk together.
What would you do iuf you hurt someone's feelings (someone in your family) and you apologize but they don't want to forgive you?
The first thing I would do is let them know I understand what I did wrong and that I understand why they don't want to forgive me. I would remind them how much I love them. The important would be to put yourself in their shoes and try to see where they are coming from.
After all, all everyone wants is to be understood. When there is a bond, whether it be family or friendship, between two people, no matter what one person did to the other, the first step in repairing that broken bond is understanding.
After assuring them that, all you can do is give them their space.
I really do believe that time heals all wounds. In the mean time, remind them every now and then that you still hope they will forgive you.
Any dietery options for getting rid of pimples? I HAVE HEAPS :( - if it helps in any way - im 13/m... uhmm i already have a cream - Clearasil.. its kinda helping in ways but... yeahh.. i know i should stay low on fatty foods but is there any other things i should do???
thnx heepz
I would like to point out that the foods you eat have NO EFFECT WHATSOEVER on your skin condition. I have been told this by the three dermotoligists I have seen. Food has NOTHING to do with acne.
You should consider going to a dermatologist and getting a prescription for a strong acne cream. Clearasil, if I'm not mistaken, can be bought over the counter, correct? You'll find much much better results with a prescription acne cream from a doctor.
Drinking lots of water does help flush toxins from your body, but it will have little effects on clearing your skin.
I suggest asking your doctor about the cream "Neobenz."
You see, benzoil peroxide is the main chemical used in all acne medicines. What makes Neobenz different from other medications is that it is pure benzoil peroxide in cream form. There are three different levels of it too, so if you had really bad acne, your doctor might prescribe you the strongest one. Definately ask about that if you are serious about getting clear skin.
You also need to invest in a GOOD face wash and you must use it at least once EVERY SINGLE DAY. There are lots of face washes you can choose from, it just depends on your skin type when it comes to picking one. Neutrogena products are my personal favorite. I see very good results every time I use them.
A good idea would be to experiment with several types of face wash. Try one tube, use the whole thing up, and if there is no difference, don't use it again. Then try another type, etc. until you find one that works everytime. Your doctor can recommend what type(s) of face washes are best for YOUR skin type.
As long as your stick to your doctor's instructions for applying the cream and you wash your face at least once a day, you should see significant and lasting results.
Good luck!
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I've been looking somewhere for birth control pills, I've done a lot of research and all I can find is planned parenthood, but there isn't one where I live, is there any other place where i can get birth control without my parents?
(I don't get along with either of my parents. it's a long story, but PLEASE don't judge me or call me a whore. I know what I'm doing)
thank you
All you have to do is call a doctor's office. Explain your situation; that you're interested in getting on the pill, you have a limited income, and you'd like to keep it private. The doctor's office can set up some sort of arragement to get the pill for you and will usually help you with affording it. You see, birth control can be expensive without medical insurance, but without your parent's consent, your medical insurance won't help you here. Just call your local doctor's office and they should be able to help you out.
On myspace, i see people commenting themselves on their pictures and stuff. But when i try to do it it says you must be someones friend to comment them, and so then i try to add myself it says you cannot add yourself as a friend. So how do they do it?
I just tried to leave myself a picture comment and it worked just fine. And I didn't add myself as a friend.
The only problem I can think of is myspace logged you out for some reason.
Try logging back in fresh and see if it works. If not, message Tom!
Hello,
My girlfriend and I have been discussing having sex for a while now, and just recently she has gone on the pill. There's still a chance of pregnancy with the pill, and we were wondering what days of the month (according to when she has her period) are the safest times to have sex. We thought it was before, but now it seems that the most firtile times are after she has her period. Can someone please help us understand this? We've looked up things but haven't found much.
Thanks a million!
My doctor told me that the highest possibility of getting pregnant is 7-18 days after a girl's period (even if she's on the pill).
Really, there's no way of telling exactly when she's ovulating because all girls are different. The pill is a great method of birth control, but I highly suggest you use two forms of protection if you want to have sex (i.e. the pill AND a condom).
It's better safe than sorry. If you use two forms of protection, you won't have to worry about this.
can eyelashes grow back?
Yep they do. Which reminds me of when I cut mine off by accident. I was getting ready for my sophomore homecoming and I have one of those electric eyebrow trimmers, right? I guess I wasn't being careful enough and I ending up snipping off my entire top right eyelash!
I was freaking out, but it grew back to normal in a few weeks. It's pretty funny now that I think about it!
I my names Gracie, and I just got a Mac computer... you know, an apple. I don't fully understand it yet. It doesnt use windows... it uses something else, but can I like download Windows some how and use it?
I also want Photoshop, but the trial. I searched for it... but I can't find it.
I searched these questions but I don't really know what to put in the search thing. I'm sure you might now if you have never worked with a mac.
Can you recommend me somebody to ask these questions too then?
Thanks.
I don't know too much about computers, but I am pretty certain that a Mac cannot support windows. They are totally different software made by different companies and I don't think windows would work on a mac.
I hear Dangernerd, the site owner, knows a lot about computers, so you might try asking him about getting Photoshop.
Sorry I couldn't be of more help.
okay so i just bought the book "the truth about forever" by Sarah Dessen and i was wondering..is it a good book? what were your opinions about it?
was it funny in any way? or was it boring? its seems kinda boring but i only got through the first couple of pages. any opinions would help.
thanks
Like all Sarah Dessen novels, it takes a really long time to get to the good parts. I love her novels, but I do feel like she has a lot of dead, useless information in there.
Her novels always bring out a few laughs just because most of her main characters are so sarcastic.
I think it's a pretty good book. I suggest you read it, even if it does seem a little boring at first. If it still sucks after you've read the whole thing, THEN you can officially call it boring. That's the fun of reading.
HI. I dont know why, but latly I have been a little moody. I mean REALLY MOODY! I screamed really loud at my brother and told him I hated him bec ause he wanted to borrow my GBA (Game Boy Advance). I dont normaly act this way and I am really suprised at myself. my real questions are is there anything i can do, does it go away, and is there anyhthing I can do to relive that stress? PLEASE HELP ME! IM HAVING A PARTY AND I DONT FWANT A BAD REPUTATION! THANKYOU!
Everyone gets crabby. It can be from stress, crazy hormones, and many other things. The trick is to know what situations are worth getting mad over and how to stay calm.
As soon as you wake up in the morning, before you even get out of bed, sit up straight with your legs crossed in front of you. Rest your hands on your knees and close your eyes. Then, inhale S-L-O-W-L-Y for four counts and then exhale S-L-O-W-L-Y for six counts. Repeat for at least 20 minutes.
As long as you are relaxed when you do this exercise, no one will be able to piss you off for hours!
Next time you find yourself ready to blow up, STOP AND THINK: "Is this really going to matter one year from now?" Yea, probably not. Just let it go. You'll be a lot happier and people will be relieved you're not attacking them.
So I'm 5'1" and 150 pounds. I really need to lose weight, however, I am an emotional eater and I can't give up food. I seem to always be eating even if I don't want to be...just because I'm bored or I'm depressed.
I really need help in how to stop emotional eating.
I have the perfect solution: when you're feeling upset and are craving a snack, why not reach for something healthy? There are lots of healthy snacks you can have in place of junk food.
Keep a bag of fresh baby carrots in the fridge. Keep some celery on hand too. Apples are a great snack too. There's also those 100 calorie snack packs. The Chex mix one is really good.
After having a reasonable portion of those healthy snacks, if you're still feeling hungry, get your body busy doing something so you won't be tempted to keep eating.
Listen to music and take a jog. Throw yourself into cleaning your room. Do something fun that makes you happy.
Good luck!
I recently got pregnant from having sex with some guy I met at a bar one night. I know. It was wrong of me, and I feel terrible. I am debating whether or not I should get an abortion. I know that this guy won't ever even consider being a father, and I don't know if I can handle a baby on my own. I've heard so many stories of single mothers going crazy. I don't know what to do! I'm so torn up inside!
Does anyone have any advice they are willing to give to me to help me make the right decision.
Thanks so much to you all.
Why not give the baby a chance at life and put him or her up for adoption? There are so many parents out there that are unable to have children and would be able to give your baby a loving home.
While I'm against abortion, I do understand if you want to have one. Just PLEASE make sure you are responsible next time so you won't have to be in this situation again. I'm sure you've learned your lesson.
Before ruling the father out, have you even talked to him about the fact that you're pregnant? How much do you really know about him? I really think it would be a good idea to call him up and discuss your options together. He got you into this too and he should help in making the decision.
I'm sure even if you did end up keeping the baby as a single mother, you wouldn't go crazy. Would it be easy? No. But having your own child can truly be a rewarding experience. Whether or not you are ready to handle that experience is your choice and your choice alone. If you can support the baby and have family to support you, why not consider keeping the baby?
I wish you the best and I hope it works out. Just know that you have other options besides abortion.
on average, how much would a plain white helium balloon and a single white rose cost? thanks.
Well you can get balloons really cheap at a dollar store. Some stores have deals like $5 for a dozen, so I would look there first for a cheap balloon.
As for roses, it depends. If you want a really nice looking one, you'd have to check a florist and they are usually about $5 to $10. Cheaper roses can be sold at grocery stores, you know they have those cheap little bouquets, but a single white rose is probably rare in that case. If you are lucky enough to find one, they're like $3.
are tv commercials scams? i assume that since theyre on tv someone must have checked them out. hmm. some things sound to good to be true.
Well sure TV commercials are true. If not, they could get sued big time for false advertisement.
HOWEVER
That doesn't mean commercials don't twist the truth a little, you know? At the end of most commercials, there's always that guy talking really fast explaining the rules and conditions to whatever the commercial is offering. People in advertising are good and making a product sound really good by leaving out little details.
how do you make a myspace layout?
i found a website once, but i have since forgotten it.
its not very helpful when i try google or yahoo either.
please help?
http://www.layoutgeneratormyspace.com
I love this layout generator. It allows you to customize everything right down to the borders!
ok soo say I have sex. my mom told me to tell her if I do. I would die before I ever told my mom! idon't know what to do. and pluss birth control.... yeah umm I really don't want to tell my mom and is ther anyway ican get on birth control with out anyone really knowing? cuase I can't tell my mom 1 she would flip and 2 she would never let me see my boyfriend again?
oh and If I got on birth control down the rode if I got off it could I get pregnant if I want to?
thank you sooo much!
Search for a planned parenthood agency in your area. They will give you a free birth control prescription. If you can't find one, call your doctor's office, explain the situation, and they'll will most likely be able to set up an appointment for you and find a way for you to afford birth control.
And farther down the road, you will still be able to get pregnant. You CAN still get pregnant on birth control as a matter of fact. All birth control does is alter your cycle and stop your ovaries from releasing an egg. But yes, don't worry about being able to have a baby in the future.
And another bit of advice, I would suggest talking to your mom about sex. It would be better to be honest with her now than to have her find out about it later. You'll be in even bigger trouble. You'd be surprised how moms can be cool sometimes. Hopefully things will work out.
Good luck!
mmkay, me and my boyfriend have been talking about having sex and where pretty sure we're foing to. it'll be my first time so I got a couple of questions. Like I know it hurts so like if you have to compare how much it hurts what would it hurt like? also how efffective are condoms? What are my chances of getting pregnant? what should I know before I do this? I'm sorry, I'm just really confuesed. I really think I'm ready for this and I really actually want to.
someone please help! lots of awnsers please! Thank you so much!
To be honest, the first time you have sex, it will feel like someone is pushing a size 24 shoe up your vagina. That sounds harsh, but it's the truth. Make sure to tell your partner to go slow and give yourself time to stretch and get used to it.
Condoms are effective as long as they fit correctly. And, of course, if they don't break. Trojan and Lifestyles are good brands of condoms. I've always used them and they have never broken. I HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY suggest you use two forms of birth control. The condom is a good one, but you should also consider getting on the pill. It's better safe than sorry. Pregnancy is not something to take lightly. I'm sure you think you know that, but you have no idea until it actually happens to you.
What are your chances of getting pregnant? Obviously greater since you're going to have sex. No birth control method is 100% effective on it's own. But if you use two types (such as the pill AND condoms) you'll be that much less likely to get pregnant.
Basically, don't take chances and be safe. Pregnancy scares are the worst things in the entire world. Use protection. Get on the pill.
You should also know that the first few times you have sex, it will continue to hurt. It will take quite a bit for your vagina to get used to having a penis in there. So go slow and give yourself time.
Let me know if you need anything else.
how many of you girls shave 'down there'? what age did you start and why?
thanks!
I started pretty young... maybe 12? That was around the time I started shaving my legs too, so I experimented with shaving other things too. I did it mostly because the hairs poked through my underwear and it annoyed me. I'm very picky about my hygeine(sp?), so being hairless down there makes me feel cleaner.
I'm graduating on the 25th. i have no idea what to do with my hair. I'm asian so i have super straight hair down to my back. It's highlighted and layered and i have no bangs. My face is round and i have dark brown eyes. Any ideas? Thanks!
Honestly, I wouldn't put too much effort into it because once you put on that graduation hat it will get ruined anyway. The hat usually leaves a huge kink in your hair anyway.
Since you have long hair though, I'm sure some big, soft, loose curls would look nice. Just curl with a fat curling iron and add hairspray.
I'm turning 18 and I want to have an awesome party. I plan to have it outside with about 20 people. I want to do some Tropical/Hawaiian. I can't think of what to do. Its going to be guys and girls. I want something fun but grown up. I NEED major help though!!!
Well decorate with a bunch of hawaiian stuff. You can get really cute decorations for cheap at any dollar store. Buy those cute little umbrellas for everyones drinks. Make sure everyone wears a lei. Get some goofy grass skirts. If you have a pool, make sure it's open so people can swim. If not, get some squirt guns and water balloons for fun.
Have all your favorite music playing the whole time and when it gets dark have some tiki torches lit and then have a bonfire to roast hot dogs or marshmallows.
For food, instead of going with the same old pizza thing, get some tropical food like pineapples and shrimp. Make some chicken too incase someone doesn't like seafood. Maybe you could rent one of those slushy machines for drinks. Chocolate fountains are always fun too.