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My family is horible. My sister and brother constantly call me fat and ugly. I'm always in the position where it comes off like i'm the mistake of the family. I'm short tempered, but I can control it but not with them. It's like I can control it at school, with my friends and everywhere, just not with them. I don't know why. I've tryed to talk it out with them, but it comes up empty. I'm just really ready to be done with them. Tonight my school is having a bonfire where the whole school goes and celebrates for homecomming and i can't go. Then i'm grounded this weekend--with the homecoming dance. I'm grounded for 7 weeks, well now 5 because I asked why I was grounded for a weekend prior to that. Make sence? Anyway, I get this attitude. I don't know what to do. I have no one to talk to. I'm not suicidal. I want to go away to bording school, anything would be better than this.
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I always wanted to go to boarding school too. I just thought it was a neat idea. ^_^
Anyway, to your question... That's really hard, when family seems to turn on you like that, but it sounds like you've simply reached a breaking point. Siblings are supposed to be mean like that. It helps you deal with people in life later (people are naturally cruel and hateful beings). My stepsister did similar to me a lot (she used to call me Samu, like Shamu the whale) but so did my dad and his excuse was always so that you know how to deal with it in the real world.
Your short fuse with your family is because you live with them. Trust me on this, nothing makes you hate people than living with them (ha ha). You need to sit down with whichever parent you feel closer to and tell them all this. How you can't stand being harassed and demeaned in your own home and how it makes you have a short temper. Also say that you don't think it's fair that you miss out on school things because you only go through high school once. I missed a lot of dances, bonfires and general fun in high school, and now I really wish I'd gone. Your parents will probably look at you funny, but if you're sincere it will hit them, and they should be a little more lenient with you.
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I'm a freshman in college and I go to a branch campus of Penn State University. I'm going here for 2 years and then I'll go to main campus for my junior and senior year. I'm wondering can you still join a sorority when you are a junior? They don't have any at the branch campuses, but i want to be in one when i go to main. Or would it be too late? Like do they only let freshmen and sophomores join? (link)
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You can join sororities any year, I believe. If you couldn't then transfer students would be out of luck, so I assume that it would still work out, but I'd contact one of the sororities to be sure as different frats and soros tend to have different admission rules.
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Which one is the scariest?????????
List them from scariest to least scariestt.
Plesae!!!? (link)
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In order for this to work, we would need to know your area, I'm afraid.
But, little bit of urban mythology for ya: The scariest haunted house in the United States is supposedly The 13th Floor. It is a house where you pay a flat fee and then gain back money (supposedly 5 dollars for every floor completed). The trick here is that the floors supposedly also get more dangerous, using real snakes and rats, even one tale tells of real mental hospital patients that attack you. No one can ever actually find this place, they always know someone who went or someone who knows someone. ^_^
Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.
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Recently my mom has been hospitalized because she couldn't move her legs, my dad is getting aggrivated all the time and he's starting to worry about money (we just got a new car for my mom), I've been staying at my best friend's house ecause her mom and my mom don't want me to stay alone (but I'd rather stay home and be alone),school isn't going that great, my boyfriend's been mad at me for the duration that my mom has been in the hospital because I can't talk to him as much as I would when I'm home, and I'm getting frustrated and depressed really bad lately. I just feel that I should just go away and that would make everyone happier...
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Your going away isn't going to make things any better for anyone, probably worse, actually, because they'd worry about you like crazy. Trust me, I pulled this trick once and things got worse for everyone. You need to be there and to experience this because people need you, your mom and dad in this case.
Your dad is probably worried, about money and your mom, and when people become worried and don't want to show it they often get angry about it. You should talk to him about it and let him vent. It will make him feel better and maybe give you a better grasp on why he's so frustrated.
If you'd rather be at home alone, talk to your mom about it and just let her know that you think your living arrangement isn't beneficial to you, explain that school is suffering because of your discomfort. It happens to foster kids a lot too when they aren't in their right surroundings and just because you know your best friend and her mom doesn't mean that it's particularly good for you to be there.
Tell your boyfriend that you're sorry, but other things are happening that are more important than him and that the situation isn't allowing you to give him all the attention he desires. Relationships often suffer when things like this happen and you'll just have to get it through his head that you've had to put him on the backburner while things get sorted out. If he understands, he's a keeper, and if not you'll have to wonder if that's the kind of guy that you want to spend time with anymore. Family is always more important and he should know that because he'd act the same way.
Don't stress so much. Life gets hard, but it's like constantly spinning wheel. You'll be on top again sooner or later.
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I said some things that i wish that i could take back right now but I can't and I just feel like my life isn't going to get any better right now. What do i do from here? (link)
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Well, apologize, whether you like it or not. Sometimes you should keep your internal monologue exactly that: internal. More than once I've said things I meant that had to be taken back. It's not pleasant, but things get better.
Remember, when you're on the bottom you can only go up from there.
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How do I get a guy to like me enough to ask me out. In case you're wondering, I'm not like hot or anything, my chest isnt huge or anything I'm just normal and I like this guy he likes me back but not enough to ask me out . (link)
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Ask him out. It takes balls, I know, but if he doesn't have them then you should. It's no less terrifying for a guy to ask out a girl than it is for girls to ask out guys. Break the norm and just do it. If he says no, ask out someone else. As Nike says "Just do it".
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my parents wont let me be in a house alone with my boyfriend so how am i ever going to do anything? if im never allowed to be home alone with him?
immm just under 16 by the way (link)
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Your parents are just worried that you're going to do something "stupid", and many people under sixteen ARE stupid, so they worry correctly. If you REALLY want to have some "alone" time with him though, try cars and parks. They always worked for me.
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Well I am 15 and my boyfriend is 17. We just started dating 4 days ago.We have been friends for about a year and always have liked each other. Well we were always tlaking about how we wanted to make out and everything. Now that we are together he isnt paying to much attion to me and telling me we can hang out and we never do. Then one of my other friends who have dated him said he will dump me soon and his friend even said so.But he has always had something bad to say abotu others but never me. I know he likes me but I dont know how long it will last and I dont know how to get to talk to him when he wont tlak to me (link)
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Seventeen year old boys are like that. They often don't know what they want in a relationship. Maybe he will dump you, maybe he won't, but it's not about him, it's about you and how you will respond in either situation. If he leaves you, just remember that you were warned, and be prepared for it. If he stays you need to find some way to communicate with him; it will be hard but well worth it if you can get through to him.
If you aren't happy with your current situation change it, and remember you're young enough that you can find many more people before you settle down (MANY MORE) but if you're happy with it and are willing to wait for him to figure himself out then wait and don't listen to anyone else.
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Sorry if this is the wrong category. I CANNOT take this anymore! She is driving me crazy! When I say "bad things" about her, please don't hate on me for that, just please help me and give me advice. Ok, so she says she hates her life and is gonna commit suicide sometime. She's all happy about it too! She's like "yay I'm gonna die soon, and commit suicide! awesome! :DDDDD" I don't buy any of this AT ALL. The thing is, she has said things like this PLENTY of times before. Yet, nothing happens. I'm tired of her talking about things like that when she doesn't do anything. She just puts on this lil act! I do care about it. When I tell her and try to help her, she just ignores me! I talk to her on aim a lot... so I know she probably reads it, she just ignores and doesn't care about anything i say. She's like in-denial... She just disagrees with what i have to say, like if I say "you have many positive things in your life, you're just thinking about the negative too much that you're completely ignoring everything and you don't realize anything!", she just says "My life is stupid" or something like that. I just wanna scream "YOU'RE STUPID!" (no offense.) Her parents won't do anything about it. Her parents DO know about her "suicide" thoughts. It drives me COMPLETELY insane because she knows nothing about "suicide" and stuff. She has changed so much from 6th grade. I don't know what has gotten into her. Now, she says she's going to drop out of school cause she's sick and tired of everything and almost everyone in it. She just doesn't understand things. My friends is only in 8th grade! I don't believe her. She also said she was gonna die before her 14th birthday. Which is coming up on December 1. Something else that I don't believe, since it's basically impossible, is that she said something about "I'm going to die/I've been wanting to die since I was BORN"... She wasn't at school today. Now she says she won't EVER come back. Her parents don't do ANYTHING. They let her "jip" school today! I'm just tired of her. I'm sorry. I'm in fact helping her, and giving her advice at this moment. She doesn't understand anything! Like how life can be SO SUCKY but yet you should be GRATEFUL for even having a chance at life. Because you know she's hating life right now, when many innocent people have had their life taken from them. I'm so confused by her... I can't really explain/describe everything. I wish I could cause i could get better advice. I'm sorry to this this, but everything she says, I think it's complete BS!!! and it's driving me CRAZY! I'm getting so frustrated right now. Again, I think she doesn't understand the pain that other people have gone through. Then she goes and talks about things when she doesn't even "understand them correctly." It makes me wanna say "before you go and say stupid things, would you please at least get a better understaning of things and learn them correctly?!" *sighhhh* She keeps talking about stupid things like that. Like, "where are my poisons so I can suicide right now?!" that was no typo.... but I'm SO tired of her "happy joyful" act when you mentions things like that. If she talks about dying, she acts "happy." I don't buy it at all. I can't tell if she's for real or putting on an act. I think it may be both. I don't mean to sound like a bitchy friend either. Sorry for any profanity I may use. I'm not sure what to do anymore. Telling her parents, well that won't work. Giving her advice myself and trying to help her? I'm doing the best I can. I'm doing sooo much to try and help her. Her ignorance is getting on my nerves. x| Right now she keeps saying how "everyone's lives" and everyone will be better and happier without her. I know how she feels. Sometimes, you have to deal with things right? and wait for things to get better? I don't even believe in half of the advice I give sometimes, though I believe it will be able to help others. Please help! I don't know what to do! I'm going absolutely crazy and I'm getting so infuriated! =|.... thank you for any advice! Also, I prefer more experience people to answer this. No offense, but if I get short advice, I don't think that will help much unless you have something important to say in a short amount of words!! (link)
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You can't change, fix or otherwise alter people, that's life. Let her go. She'll have to fend for herself and that could make her grow up. Also, be careful about giving advice to these types of people. While many of them are just seeking attention, some of them mean it when they say they'll kill themselves. You may want to alert someone trained in the field of psychiatry/psychology to help her work herself out.
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I have a boyfriend now that I've been dating for about a year and I've known him for even longer. My problem is that we fight alot..and when i say alot, i mean it.It can get pretty bad too.we fight over the most stupid things.i think alot of it is because of jealousy? maybe im not sure. anyways when we do fight i want to break up with him but then right when im about to, i get second thoughts and i dont know what it is stopping me. all my friends say i should get rid of him and i keep telling myself i will but i just never do. any suggestions?? (link)
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When you say fight, it makes me wonder what the level of fighting you do.I know my boyfriend and myself "bicker" a lot. We've actually broken up about four times in the past two years.
What you need to consider is, if you two broke up, would it actually be permanent? That old saying "If you love something set it free" is actually very true, and if you think about leaving him so much, you may HAVE to let him go. In the end you two will either be better apart and you'll move on, or you'll get back together if it's right and you'll then be able to judge what is okay to fight about and what isn't.
Also, trust your friends. What you tend to see in the men you'll date and what they see are often two different things. They aren't always right, but they'll see a different, unfiltered-by-love side of him that you may not know of.
Weigh your options and decide accordingly.
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okay so i've been like crushing on this guy for almost 4 months. i haven't really showed it and i know him really well because he is like my best friend. well now it's summer and i have been showing him by flirting that i am interested. well now a girl moved back and he likes her! it's depressing. anywho i need to know how to make him understand that i want him. and how do i get him to like me and ditch her? (link)
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You can't make him like you and ditch her. That whole "free-will" thing interferes. But you have the advantage of knowing him well on your side. Tell him, upfront no holds barred, that you like him and you think you're a better match for him than this girl.
A lot of the time, when guys go after other girls it's because they just don't understand that you like them. Do NOT try to be subtle here.
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i need to write a poem for my english class asap. it was due a long time ago but my teacher is letting me do it and give it to her to raise my grade. it needs to be about what its like to be an inatimate object. i kinda wanted to do it about the sun but i am open to anything. the only major thing is it would be good for it to rhyme and not be too cliche. an example my teacher gave us is "i am a rock" by paul simon: http://www.risa.co.uk/sla/song.php?songid=15438
i need suggestions and poetic things i could say about the sun. please help!!
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"Feel my warmth upon your skin,
You haven't a choice but to let my rays in.
I am the thing that allows you to live;
I am the entity that allows the earth to give.
I am eternal, though my end is your end.
Still in my end I can begin again."
Something like that would probably be good for you. I don't like your teacher's assignment though. ^_^
I used to rock the English class when I was in school.
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What is a handjob? and what is fingering? and how can i be agressive while having sex? what should i do? and also what should i say when im having sex? (link)
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Go out and have sex and it all comes naturally to you... Trust me, by the book never works. ^_^
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what do you do when you broke up with someone you really loved, and really loved you, and you miss them like crazy and would do anything to have them back and for things to be the same again, but you finally just had enough of the BS after chance after chance after chance, and you know it's for the best to not be with them, because the relationship has changed so much and all you do is fight about the same things over and over, but you [both] just want those good times back soo bad, you can't stand it. how do you deal ? (link)
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The long answer is a conglomeration of acceptance and finding peace within yourself, take time to learn to love yourself again... all that self-help jazz that sells so well in Barnes & Noble.
The short version, the version that has worked for me time and time again, is to just stop talking to each other. As long as you see each other the bond will stay strong and the pain will ache in your chest forever. The cut off is a more abrupt pain that eases itself with time.
The romantic answer is that you two really seem to love each other and that love can overcome anything. That's true, love can overcome anything, including death, but the problem with that is how much pain are you willing to go through to prove that point? If you are, wonderful, but the rest of us have to learn to deal.
Right now I'm playing the romantic solution out... and it's killing me on the inside. How much pain will I go through to get those old times back? To make life work perfectly again, jsut like it used to? I don't know. How much am I willing to sacrifice and try? As much as it takes.
You have to pick which option you want... ease it off, rip it off, or never let go....
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i hate my family they are always so mean to me and i dont know what to do. i watch my neice three times a week for like and hour not adding the time in the day when my bitch sister is here and i get paid 5 dollars every time but when i get in a fight with my sister my mom always gets mad at me and i gte in trouble and its soooo not fair. i feel like running away but i know i would nt be able to survive im sooooo sick of my life. i dont know what im supposed to do. what do u think i should do!!!!! (link)
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There is no way to fix this except to wait. It's god-awful advice that you don't like hearing but the truth of the matter is that you're just going to have to wait it out. Things get easier in time, as you learn to play your parents and siblings like a violin.
Running away would be a very umwise decision. You aren't old enough to support yourself, I'm assuming. I'm going to fold this into the typical "fight with your parents because you're a teen" category. If I'm wrong, so be it, but from age 11-18 and having this problem, more than likely it's simply a puberty thing that is going to happen.
The best, though not the most eloquent advice, assuming you are in the age bracket, is to sit down, shut up and wait for it to pass. That's what I had to do, along with most of my friends. The others ended up getting thrown out, emancipated, or just plain arrested. I don't reccommend doing that.
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Wut does Foreplay mean? (link)
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Foreplay is anything that is a prequel to sex... from making out to giving head.
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Ok im 17/f .. Im about to be 18 in august and im like really wanting to have a baby..like REALLLY REALLLLY BAD..and im on birth control would it be wrong if I stopped taking my birth control without my boyfriend knowing just to get pregnant?..we want a baby just not now maybe in 5 years he said. But I want one now... (link)
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That would not only be wrong, but it would be VERY VERY wrong and if he found out that you had intentionally done this, he would more than likely hate you, leave you, and try to take your child. I've seen this happen before, which is the only reason I tell you all that detail. Men are viscious when you betray them.
What I don't understand is why you want a kid now. You're seventeen, still very young, and probably not ready for the mental and physical responsibilites. It sounds like your boyfriend KNOWS he's not ready for that. Well... at anyrate, it's a very bad idea toget off your pills without his knowing.
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well my best friend lets say girl has a lil brother named lets say guy. well me and guy only have a 1month age difference and weve been txting for a whilenow and we have a ton incommon like we both love sports.we both know that we kinda like each other alil. and girl is all for it.like whenever im with her she'll start singing the wedding march and be like u and guy are going2 get married and ijust say w.e.how do i get her stop thinking that?and idontknow what 2do with guy.4more info. message me if needed (link)
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Just tell Girl to shut up and that she'll never get married if she keeps up annoying crap like that. As for Guy, if you two like each other, why not try it? If nothing else it's fun. ^_^
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ok so apparently im a flirt, which i dont always try to be, but you know. now that it's summer, my best friend [who is also a major flirt] and i have been partyin and just hangin out with lots of different groups of people, especially guys. i dont mind flirtin with them if theyre cool and even keepin in touch via text and myspace and stuff. the problem is if they start to flirt/show interest back, i start thinking ooh he likes me and get attached, and i dont want that! i just wanna be able to flirt around and have fun, no attachments. it's my senior year i dont want anything serious =] how can i achieve that ? (link)
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Thing about this is that if you're a flirt, they're gonna flirt back. What you have to do is remember that they aren't attached, they're just flirting, like you. Keep in the back of your mind that 98% of the male high schooler population is just looking to get in your pants, and I bet there will be enough disgust for you to not get attached. (JK) But seriously, you just have to remember that if you're not serious when you flirt, then they probably aren't either, so there's no good reason to attach yourself to them.
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i'm 14 years old, not a slut at all,
i have a little belly,
and i want to get my belly button peirced, because it makes people look skinnyer, but my mom won't let me till i'm 16.
anyone have any ideas, or ways i can pursuade my mom into letting me get it peirced? (link)
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Actually, piercings like that can make you look fatter than you are...
You're mom won't be pursuaded... It's a thing parents do. The more you want it, the funner it is to say no... Like my lil sis wanting her labre pierced. She can't just because it's her face, but she has everything else pierced... really it's just because my parents like to watch her agonize about it. I bet if you suggest a worse thing, like a clit piercing, instead (since it's not visible etc), she might ease up. That's how my lil sis got her tongue pierced. Lol.
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