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I don't know what to do here
Recently my mom has been hospitalized because she couldn't move her legs, my dad is getting aggrivated all the time and he's starting to worry about money (we just got a new car for my mom), I've been staying at my best friend's house ecause her mom and my mom don't want me to stay alone (but I'd rather stay home and be alone),school isn't going that great, my boyfriend's been mad at me for the duration that my mom has been in the hospital because I can't talk to him as much as I would when I'm home, and I'm getting frustrated and depressed really bad lately. I just feel that I should just go away and that would make everyone happier...
Any suggestions?
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Your going away isn't going to make things any better for anyone, probably worse, actually, because they'd worry about you like crazy. Trust me, I pulled this trick once and things got worse for everyone. You need to be there and to experience this because people need you, your mom and dad in this case.
Your dad is probably worried, about money and your mom, and when people become worried and don't want to show it they often get angry about it. You should talk to him about it and let him vent. It will make him feel better and maybe give you a better grasp on why he's so frustrated.
If you'd rather be at home alone, talk to your mom about it and just let her know that you think your living arrangement isn't beneficial to you, explain that school is suffering because of your discomfort. It happens to foster kids a lot too when they aren't in their right surroundings and just because you know your best friend and her mom doesn't mean that it's particularly good for you to be there.
Tell your boyfriend that you're sorry, but other things are happening that are more important than him and that the situation isn't allowing you to give him all the attention he desires. Relationships often suffer when things like this happen and you'll just have to get it through his head that you've had to put him on the backburner while things get sorted out. If he understands, he's a keeper, and if not you'll have to wonder if that's the kind of guy that you want to spend time with anymore. Family is always more important and he should know that because he'd act the same way.
Don't stress so much. Life gets hard, but it's like constantly spinning wheel. You'll be on top again sooner or later.
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First off, running away from your problems won't do anything but make things worse.
That being said, the first thing I would do is talk to your dad. Ask him if there's anything you can do to help with your financial situation. I don't know how old you are, but maybe you can get a part time job to help pay for things around the house? Just work like 15 hours a week to help provide some sort of a second income to your family. If you can't, try to cut down spending. Buy things on sale and only when you need them. Just shop smart, and you'll start saving money in no time.
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Next, you should keep staying with your best friend. If they're nice enough to LET you stay with them, you should be thankful for it and NOT wanting to go home.
As far as school goes, just try your hardest to keep up. Study every night, and go to your teachers when you need help. Maybe you and your best friend could study together, like make flash cards and quiz one another? This would be fun AND really helpful to both of you!
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As for your boyfriend, you know what I say? Screw him. If he's MAD when YOU'RE the one going through all of this, maybe it isn't worth it to keep him around. If all he does is bring you down, maybe it's time to rethink the relationship. I don't mean to sound rude or harsh in any way, I just don't think that with everything you have going on already, he should be mad at you.
If you really don't want to end things with him, just sit him down and tell him everything you told us. That you're becoming really upset with everything that is going on and you don't need him being mad at you, as it's only making you feel worse. If he's a true FRIEND [let alone your boyfriend], he'll understand.
I know you said you're feeling really bad lately, but look at it this way: everything happens for a reason, and sometimes you're put into tough situations to make you stronger. Or, as my favorite song puts it, "On dark and stormy days, somewhere it's glowing." There's always hope, and things WILL get better. If not today, tomorrow is a new day =]
Best of luck!
-Laura (16-f)
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