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my friend doesn't know...
okay so i've been like crushing on this guy for almost 4 months. i haven't really showed it and i know him really well because he is like my best friend. well now it's summer and i have been showing him by flirting that i am interested. well now a girl moved back and he likes her! it's depressing. anywho i need to know how to make him understand that i want him. and how do i get him to like me and ditch her?
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well if you really do like him and hes your best friend and if he doesnt like you back then it will make the freindship seem a little bit akward so you should ask one of your friends to ask what he thinks about you and if he seems interested then one night when you and him are alone you should just tell him how your feeling, good luck! xo
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You can't make him like you and ditch her. That whole "free-will" thing interferes. But you have the advantage of knowing him well on your side. Tell him, upfront no holds barred, that you like him and you think you're a better match for him than this girl.
A lot of the time, when guys go after other girls it's because they just don't understand that you like them. Do NOT try to be subtle here.
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Girl- my favorite phrase is: A closed mouth doesn't get fed. This means if you don't let someone know what's up, how you feel, what you want or where you are going with something, they will never know, only you will know which produces no result.By all means: please always communicate what you are feeling. Flirting is nothing, everyone flirts in some way - what does it mean? Check this out,don't give assumptions, or implications. Say it, straight up.
something like this: Hey, I am feeling you. I like you for more than a friend. I have liked you for 4 months but didn't want to come out and tell you because I didn't realize the extent of it until you started liking Jane. (I don't know her name so I am calling her Jane). I am not trying to come in between you and her, but honestly, I do want you to know how I feel about you and I am asking that you think about it and get back with me in a couple of days or so (give him some time), don't pressure him. He will come to you. If he tells you he likes you too -let him know that he must make a decision as he can't have both of you. If it's you, then go for it, if it's not you, respect it and learn from it. The lesson to be learned is what I said in the beginning of my answer.
Don't think of how can I get him to ditch her. Think of what I have to offer him, how can I make him happy, how do I tell him of my interest in him and where do we go from him. It's about you, not her. you feel me?
Good Luck
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