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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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well, i really like a guy, well at least i think i do, because honestly i don't know anymore, i'm so confused. i mean, he's the most amazing, nicest guy i have ever met, and i melt every time i see him smile and naturally smile back.
he's so kind to everyone that i can't tell if he likes me or not.
ok, just to indicate a silent convo between us is, i had to go to his accounting class cause my teacher wanted to see me and he was sitting right in the front and he was having a bad day, his brother fell through a window... and he was glum and he looked up and did this beamy/glowy smiling thing at me like he was the happiest guy in the world, and i smiled back and his smile widened and he mouthed "Hi" i smiled again and mouthed "Hi" back.
this happens so often. and i'm so confused.
i'm thirteen
and he's a few years older.
and i need help. cause i can't keep talking myself into not liking him when his smile reaches his eyes.
oh and for the record, he's deleted me a few times off bbm. it sucks ass.
PS: we had a valentines ball and i was waitressing and he pushed his way through everyone and said hi to me, and we laighed, i can't remember much i was just happy. were so much more connected in person
and i'm tired of listening to love songs and of him poping in and out of my head
- Juliet -female, duh (:
Let him know how you feel. Don't be shy. Guys love girls who are head-strong, confident, and strong.
If he rejects you, just brush it off like its not a problem and move on with you're life.
You're 13, you've got a long way to go until you find the love of your life. I know I have found mine:) It took a while to find him but once you find him, you know he's the one. You're still very young, don't go boy-crazy and obsessed haha just have fun :)
Hi, I like to draw my own characters like vampires elves and demons with unique traits but lately they all seem the same. Any suggestions to make a really cool different original character? Thank you! (no I don't mean ideas to copy btw.)
draw yourself
Soo I was in gym one day. We were doing our dancing unit, and we were line dancing. There was this guy that was always in the front row that always looked back at me. And yes, I know it was me, because he did it in the hallway too. But I had no idea who it was. Then, I found out.. I knew the name right away. He's a junior, (I'm a freshman, by the way) one of the best athletes around.. you know.. one of them jocks. I immediately thought I had no chance with him. So I added him on facebook and talked to him one night. I was surprised.. he was soo nice!! haha and when I asked him if he even knew who I was he said "not really I think you're in my gym class though." I thought that was good.. wouldn't you? I mean he knew who I was.. that was a start. So we've been talking for the past couple of months since then. He's also been staring at me like crazy in school, which has been weird, but hey, I don't hate it. One time when we were talking I told him that I was good at soccer, and he said "I bet I'd beat you" and all of my friends completely freaked when I told them about it, 'cause they thought it was a good thing. I did too, until a few days ago. My friend was talking to him and she told him that one of her friends likes him. He kept begging for hints and stuff.. but she didn't wanna give it away just yet. So she told him that I really liked him and thought he was perfect. But she also told him that he probably wouldn't like me.. we're complete opposites. He still wanted to know. Then she told him that I wasn't in his grade and he replied, "oh so freshman" and he said he knew who it was. This is the rest of the conversation: her: so should I tell her about this or are you going to talk to her about it? him: probably not just don't say anything. her: that bad.. huh? him: no im just not looking for anyone. Then at the end of the conversation he said that he didn't even know who it was. The last thing he said was "dont want to know". So that made me upset. Obviously he knew exactly who it was and didn't want anything to do with me.. right? After all of that happened, I sent him a message that said "sorry.. thats all I can say." and he claimed he didn't know what I was talking about. So obviously he doesnt wanna talk about it, or talk to me. But he still looks at me in school. A while back, like a month ago, everytime I'd try talking to him on chat and he wouldn't say anything, he'd say that he was on his phone and he didn't get the message. I believed him, but it got old. Today I tried talking to him and he didn't say anything. Is he "on his phone"? Or is he just ignoring me like I always thought he would?
Hey so i'm a senior in high school.
First of all, you should know that teenage boys are SO confusing! Don't even try to interpret their brains because they send so many mixed signals and its just so confusing trying to understand them.
So now thats all clear.. you need to talk to him. face to face. Not texting or IMing.. that just shows immaturity and shyness. If you see him in school, ask to talk to him in private. Then ask him if there's something wrong. tell him you've been noticing that something was wrong and just wanted to talk and see if he was ok. If you're brave enough, let him know how you feel about him. I definitely think you should let him know how you feel because it shows that you're brave, strong, and courageous. It will be a turn on for him and it will also let him know that you're there for him and want to be friends/or more than friends.
You mentioned that you're friend talked to him?? well there ya go.. don't ever have your friend talk to a guy you like to find out more info. even if its your "best friend". It just gets way too messy and they could be leaving out major details. Plus its immature..
communication is key. Don't just let it happen by its own. Figure out whats going on and talk to him about it. You can't just expect it to be ok on its own. You gotta make the effort. Otherwise, if you dont want to make the effort, then i say screw him and find other friends or guys to flirt with.
I need some tips on how to quit smoking?
Look online for lung cancer pictures. They are sick nasty disgusting!! put them around your house (wherever you leave your ciagrettes or lighter) the images will soon haunt you and you'll be really disgusted. The pictures will be a reminder that says "hey if you keep smoking, this is what your lungs will look like :( "
Also- the key to stopping a bad habit is WANTING TO STOP. if you don't want to stop, or if you're never motivated.. then there's no point in stopping.
I have a bad habit of biting my nails and eventually I just got so sick of having nasty nails so I WANTED to stop biting. Everytime I got the urge to bite my nails, I would remember "hey.. I really WANT to stop this habit" so I would just put my hands down.
Maybe try a different approach like doing something different instead. Since smoking requires your hands, try doing something different with your hands. Keep yourself busy so you won't be tempted. For example- take up painting, drawing, building, cooking, cleaning, gardening, typing. Anything to keep you and your hands busy. Take up a sport or even just go to the gym and exercise. Swimming is so much fun too! Its great for your health!!
Lastly, find someone who is trust worthy and loyal to you. ask them to take every single cigarette and lighter you own, and throw them away or hide them. Yep. You heard it. This way- you won't see them and be tempted. If you have a usual corner in your house where you smoke or where you keep your lighters, decorate it so it wont remind you of smoking. For example, put some vases with flowers or a TV or yoga station or computer.
good luck and get motivated! smoking and second-hand smoke kills!! :( blech!
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well last year i got my first job at a camp and im met this guy he is such a big flirt, he was always touchy and had these nicknames and i liked all this attetion and i strated to like and i guess nothing happen and we havent talked this camp. so this summer im working at the same camp again and i know he'll be working thier too, so im wondering what do i do this summer do i got up to him first or do i wait for him to notice me ????
I say make the first move :)
Guys love girls who are confident and head-strong. It shows that you aren't afraid to be social and outgoing and you want to get to know him better.
If you just wait for him to make a move, he won't feel motivated to chase after you and (you have to realize, guys only do stuff if they think its exciting and fun) so if you don't make the first move, he wont think of it as fun and exciting. He wont want to do all the work to chase after you.
Make a statement. wear something different (in a good way) or change something about yourself like hair color. Something different about yourself that will catch his attention. But remember- don't change your inner personality..
She's been so scared of me. When I came into her bedroom she didn't want to look at me she hid her face into her pillow and cried. I don't think I did anything to hurt her. I tried to rub her back and talk to her but she was crying hard so I just stayed with her. How can I comfort her ? And why is she so scared of me ?
She maybe has something on her mind that you don't know about. Talk to her about it. If she doesn't want to talk about it, then let her cool off a little and make sure she knows you're there for her.
I've been talking to this guy since April, and we've seemed to have a good chemistry. He is very sweet and funny and he's told me he likes me a lot. And even though he lives in Illinois, we have built a pretty good flirty friendship. I know I have to know him in the flesh to really know him, but I feel really astonished by such a cool person. But lately, I feel like we've been drifting apart. We barely talk anymore. He says he's always busy, since he has a long hour job and is constantly studying for exams this week. But I am very insecure and paranoid. I wonder if I can fully trust him. He claims I can but I have trust issues. I try my best to trust him, but I am getting afraid he is doing something behind my back or maybe even ignoring me. But inside I know he wouldn't do that... Even if I don't know him fully. I feel like I'm a nuisance and I don't want to feel that way.
You're getting too attached to him..
you mentioned that you haven't met him yet. Well if you want my honest opinion... you're acting like he's your boyfriend and that you guys are in a relationship.
I think that because of the way you speak of him and how protective and clingy you are to him.. so if I noticed this.. he most likely is noticing it too. He's probably thinking "we aren't in a relationship, so why is she acting so clingy? she's acting like i'm her boyfriend but i'm not"
First of all, you haven't even met him.. Yeah you guys could be great friends but don't get too attached.. I learned that the hard way. One of my friends lives far away and I got too attached and started freaking out when she couldn't talk to me anymore and I would always get jealous when she said she was with other people.. but there's nothing I could do about it..
So if you want my advice, tone it down a little. Take a break from him. Since you guys haven't even met yet, I wouldn't get flirty with him. Its wayyy too complicated. Just be friends and if you guys do meet, then figure out if you want a relationship or not.
No matter what you do.. don't lead him on. Thats exactly what you're doing to him right now. You're acting all flirty and leading him on but he may not feel the same way (hence the distantness and ignoring you). So yeah, just tone it down between you guys and then after a while talk to him about it and see how he feels about you and figure out whats the deal between you 2. communication is key.
Please do not answer with "go see a doctor" because I am planning on going as soon as I can make an appt, I just want to see if anyone has had these same symptoms or if someone knows what I could have. Today all of a sudden I was suffering from severe upper left abdominal pain, like a little bit under the ribs and on the side. It was probably the worst abdomen pain I have ever had, and it was extremely hard to get up or walk around. They took me to the school health clinic where the doctor, who I feel did not examine me very well beforehand, injected me with Sertal Forte complex (thats what its called in spanish, I dont know if there is a different brand in english) And that seemed to help a little bit, my left side is still pretty sore but it took the edge off. I have also been dizzy and faint, very pale and I have had a bad headache all day. The doctor said it was probably colitis, but from what I have heard colitis is most common with diarrea and I havent had any of that. Is there a possibility that it could be something else more severe? I am not sure if I should miss another day of school to go to the doctor, but during these weeks of exams I am worried I will have another attack where the pain is so severe that I can't even walk. Does anyone have an idea of what this could be? Thanks in advance.
I can only think of 2 things.
Mononucleosis.. which is the inflammation of the spleen (on the left side). If you move around too much, your spleen could rupture and it could be fatal. I had mono (also known as kissing disease) it's not THAT serious but should be extra careful. One of the few symptoms of mono is fatigue, tired, sleeping a lot, irritable, swollen lymph nodes.
The other thing (this is only for girls though.. i don't know if you're a girl or not) it could be an ovarian cyst. I had one on my right side and i immediately got scared because I thought it was appendicitis (since they are both on the right side) but I went to the emergency room and they did a MRI on it and said it was an ovarian cyst which is common in women and should go away by itself since my ruptured (when it hurts really badly, it ruptured).
Hello.
I am 13 years old & i have lomg blonde hair & blue eyes. I need an emo-ish nickname for the sitemodel group Im apllying for on facebook. I can think of anything!! My name is Taylor Elizabeth. & I would really like a name including "kitty". but its fine without it. Any suggestions? Please && thank you!
Dark Kitty
Kitty Doom
Black Kitty
Kitty Black
thats all i can really think of haha.. kitty isn't really an emo name. it reminds me of a little girl's name
is it good for a thirteen year old to have a job?
it depends..
It teaches you a good life lesson, like hard work pays off. It teaches you to do something with your life. It teaches you that you have to work for money, and can't just expect to get paid by being alive. It keeps you busy and out of trouble like gangs or drugs. It teaches you social skills like talking to new people and figuring out problem solving skills.
but at the same time it has its bad effects like it could be too time consuming and you might start failing school. You might get bored a lot and miss having free time to spend with friends. You might miss experiences like school dances or going out with friends.
So its kinda in the middle. It depends on how you feel. I personally think its a good idea as long as the kid doesn't start slipping in school and still gets involved with friends.
I have money for 1 months rent and none for food the next month. I'm too depressed to get a job, and I've dropped out of all but two of my classes. I cant get food stamps unless im going to school less than half time. Should I drop one of the last 2 classes so I can get food stamps? Or just fail them? I've quit going to one all together and have bad grades in the other. I'm afraid to do it though because I'm going to school with financial aid, and am too depressed/anxious to take the bus to the main campus to figure out if it will put me in debt or not to drop the class. I don't have a phone anymore either and hate talking on the phone anyway.
if you want to be looked at like a complete failure.. then go ahead..
seriously... what are you going to learn from this if you just give up now???
don't you want to work hard for something.. stop being such a lazy ass and DO SOMETHING. I've had a bad past, and if there's anything I learned from my experiences, it's that LIFE IS NOT EASY. You can't just get things your way. You can't just expect things to go your way. You need to work hard for the things you want. Blood sweat or tears. Hard work pays off. I learned that the hard way. And you know what? yeah i got frustrated and mad and wanted to quit, but i didn't. And now that I look back at it, I'm so glad I didn't quit. It taught me a good lesson that if you quit, you don't learn anything. But if you keep striving to work for your goals, hard work will pay off and you'll look at your past and say "i told you so i could do this".
Baby steps is the key.. You can't just expect to achieve your goals overnight. It takes a lot of hard work and time. Take baby steps. Start by going to a doctor for your depression. They might be able to perscribe you medicine to help. If not, they will definitally do whatever it takes to help. Try living a healthier lifestyle. EXERCISE!!! it really makes you feel energized. The first few times you exercize you'll feel lazy and tired, but if you don't do it now, it'll bite you in the ass later in life. Eat healthy. You don't have to be a health freak but at least drink lots of water and stop eating junk food so much. Go outside!! Its true that nature gives you an energy boost. Get enough sleep. 9-10 hours is perfect. Have a good sleeping pattern. Go to bed at like 10 or 11 pm and wake up around 8 or 9 am.
Then go out and find a job. Yeah i know what you're thinking. youre too lazy to get up and do something with your life. But think about it.. what the hell are you going to do 1 year from now..? you're going to be rotten stuck with no money and nothing to do but sit on your ass all day long and do absolutely nothing... get up and do something with your life!! hard work pays off
then start talking to your teachers. ask them for help. i don't care if you're too shy to talk to them or don't feel comfortable with it.. you're gonna have to do a lot of difficult things in life, this is easy compared to what will happen in the future. you might as well get used to it now.
look in the mirror and WAKE UP. stop waiting for something to happen. get off your ass and do something with your life.
oh and to answer your question.. NO you shouldn't drop out of college. what the hell are you going to do instead? Play video games?? good lucking getting a future out of that..
I moved into a new state, how do i make friends quick before the end of the year? (Im in 8 th grade and want freinds before high school)
I'm a senior in high school so i have some good experience with making friends.
you gotta just be yourself. I promise you that if you be yourself, you'll have friends who like you for YOU.. it will save you a TON of high school drama!
One time I found a group of friends I liked and acted just like them in order for them to like me. After a few months of being with them, I started to loosen up and act more like myself. Next thing I know, all hell breaks loose and there's tons of drama.
My point is, If you act yourself and let friends come to you, it will save you a ton of drama and you'll find friends who are loyal and worth keeping :) trust me i know what i'm talking about.
just be friendly, smile, be yourself, be social, don't be shy they wont bite. oh and don't make too big of an effort. It should be easy and natural. Don't try so hard :)
I only have chalk and a ball but is flat , i also dont have the pump , so what could i do?
trace the ball and make shapes out of the circles :)
im 18 years old, a guy, bout to graduate HS.
Anyways, i know its hard to understand, but my ex is a freshman and also a cheerleader, and she recently broke it off with me.
She said she wanted to be single and "experience" AND even though she kinda broke my heart, i still care for her. Every goddamn thing reminds me of her, driving, things around my house, things around school, everything. and i cant stop thinking about her.
But the thing is, she is kinda super hot and has alot of friends, and im worried that throughout high school she might turn into a slut, like one who goes to parties and drninks and hooks up with random guys. Even though i was her first kiss, she is innocent right now. But im wondering, is there a chance she might become a total slut ? and it worries me, because i still care for her.... for some reason and i know it is weird, i know, but it bothers me so much that i literally wanna force myself to erase her from my life so that i wont have to worry about her becoming a bad person. Help me?
I'm a senior in high school too.. I'm not sure about your school, but my school is full of freshman sluts and soph"whores".. And I live in a really good town. It was rated #1 city in my state.
I don't know what it is about this generation.. but it seems like more and more younger people are turning into pyschosexual freaks. I see little girls running around with short booty shorts and wearing tons of makeup. Its disgusting! I'm also a coach for a 12 year old team and they were singing that S & M song by Rihanna. The lyrics go "chains and whips excite me".. yeah little 12 year old were singing that song..
I don't mean to rain on your parade.. but I have a feeling she is going to turn out like the typical sex-obsessed teenager. But then again, maybe she won't. Another thing to consider is.. she's a freshman right now. I know when I was a freshman, my attitude completely changed during sophomore and junior year. People change. Thats how life is. You think you may know someone, but when life throws you a lemon.. you realize who is a true friend and who is a bad influence. My point being.. you may think she's innocent now, but you don't know for sure yet. She could change. You never know.
Now. My advice is to forget her. Dude, you're a senior in high school. So am I!! I'm just glad to be getting out of high school and starting a real life in college. I'm so glad to be done with my shitty past and just start over with new people and a brand new place. Hell, i'm going to be living half way across the world from my family! FREEDOMMM!!! haha. I have about 5 weeks left of school. So just take a deep breath and get these next few weeks over, graduate, and then just be happy to be single,free, and do whatever the hell you want. You're going to college! don't let messy high school drama tear you down. look forward to the good stuff thats about to come :)
I'm kinda in the same boat as you. I've got a lot of high school drama going on. I"m just trying to survive the next few weeks and then get out of here and live a brand new life :)
Hang in there buddy :)
I love my bf,but i got to mad in front of him.what can i do?SOS!! =(
say you're sorry and you'll control your temper next time. Tell him you love him so much and just speak from your heart.
I got a sunburn on my face not to bad but now there are some spots where its darker and really dry..I've been putting on Aloe Vera Gel but it's not really doing anything. Is lotion okay to put on it and what else can I do to make it go away??(I've had it for about a week)
Antibiotic cream helps.
Or go to your beauty store, they will most likely have products for it. Ask someone who works there
Whats The Best Store For Graduation Dresses For A Girl With Big Boobs And A Big Butt .?
Ok i know this may seem risky but it worked for me. Go to this website
www.cocktaildress100.com
They have a ton of super cute dresses. They are all hand made from china, not that expensive. I got my prom dress from there for 145 dollars :) They ship it to you in about 3 weeks. And you can put in your own measurements so they make it to fit your body. Just make sure that you get your measurements done professionally. I did my own measurements and was slightly off 1 inch and the dress is a little too small. good luck!
She came all the way from louisville,KY and don't know how to present her my gift!! :( SOS!!!!
If she goes out one day, clean up the house and bake some amazing cookies :) then put the CD in and play it for her when she gets back :)
my mom wont let me get my belly botton peircered so i did it my self now i can't find a belly ring any where and i dont have any money
mother knows best...
next time- think before you act.
serves you right. one thing you can say though is "I learned my lesson". maybe next time you shouldn't go behind her back..
i hope you get an infection.. I wouldn't be surprised if you did.
Oh and the fact that you did it behind her back, by yourself, without any supervision or professional... basically says you're not mature enough to get a piercing.
what should I get my mom for mom's day when she is allergic to practically everything that has perfume scent in it?
I'm not sure if there's this store around where you live.. but where I live theres a store called Things Remembered. They have a lot of cute things like picture frames, jewlery, etc. You can even engrave words or phrases in the items, for example "Happy mothers day. I love you" Its not that expensive either.