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i feel like we're slowly drifting apart.
I've been talking to this guy since April, and we've seemed to have a good chemistry. He is very sweet and funny and he's told me he likes me a lot. And even though he lives in Illinois, we have built a pretty good flirty friendship. I know I have to know him in the flesh to really know him, but I feel really astonished by such a cool person. But lately, I feel like we've been drifting apart. We barely talk anymore. He says he's always busy, since he has a long hour job and is constantly studying for exams this week. But I am very insecure and paranoid. I wonder if I can fully trust him. He claims I can but I have trust issues. I try my best to trust him, but I am getting afraid he is doing something behind my back or maybe even ignoring me. But inside I know he wouldn't do that... Even if I don't know him fully. I feel like I'm a nuisance and I don't want to feel that way.
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You're getting too attached to him..
you mentioned that you haven't met him yet. Well if you want my honest opinion... you're acting like he's your boyfriend and that you guys are in a relationship.
I think that because of the way you speak of him and how protective and clingy you are to him.. so if I noticed this.. he most likely is noticing it too. He's probably thinking "we aren't in a relationship, so why is she acting so clingy? she's acting like i'm her boyfriend but i'm not"
First of all, you haven't even met him.. Yeah you guys could be great friends but don't get too attached.. I learned that the hard way. One of my friends lives far away and I got too attached and started freaking out when she couldn't talk to me anymore and I would always get jealous when she said she was with other people.. but there's nothing I could do about it..
So if you want my advice, tone it down a little. Take a break from him. Since you guys haven't even met yet, I wouldn't get flirty with him. Its wayyy too complicated. Just be friends and if you guys do meet, then figure out if you want a relationship or not.
No matter what you do.. don't lead him on. Thats exactly what you're doing to him right now. You're acting all flirty and leading him on but he may not feel the same way (hence the distantness and ignoring you). So yeah, just tone it down between you guys and then after a while talk to him about it and see how he feels about you and figure out whats the deal between you 2. communication is key.
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Long distance relationships are tough. Guys are also not really talkers like girls are. He probably feels that, providing that he hasn't lost interest or hasn't found someone else, he just doesn't really have anything more to say without repeating himself and boring the crap out of you.
At this point I think this dalliance is running out of gas (which happens; don't beat yourself up over it) anyway and you should look more locally for a boyfriend.
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