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I'm worried for her, why is it?
im 18 years old, a guy, bout to graduate HS.
Anyways, i know its hard to understand, but my ex is a freshman and also a cheerleader, and she recently broke it off with me.
She said she wanted to be single and "experience" AND even though she kinda broke my heart, i still care for her. Every goddamn thing reminds me of her, driving, things around my house, things around school, everything. and i cant stop thinking about her.
But the thing is, she is kinda super hot and has alot of friends, and im worried that throughout high school she might turn into a slut, like one who goes to parties and drninks and hooks up with random guys. Even though i was her first kiss, she is innocent right now. But im wondering, is there a chance she might become a total slut ? and it worries me, because i still care for her.... for some reason and i know it is weird, i know, but it bothers me so much that i literally wanna force myself to erase her from my life so that i wont have to worry about her becoming a bad person. Help me?
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I'm a senior in high school too.. I'm not sure about your school, but my school is full of freshman sluts and soph"whores".. And I live in a really good town. It was rated #1 city in my state.
I don't know what it is about this generation.. but it seems like more and more younger people are turning into pyschosexual freaks. I see little girls running around with short booty shorts and wearing tons of makeup. Its disgusting! I'm also a coach for a 12 year old team and they were singing that S & M song by Rihanna. The lyrics go "chains and whips excite me".. yeah little 12 year old were singing that song..
I don't mean to rain on your parade.. but I have a feeling she is going to turn out like the typical sex-obsessed teenager. But then again, maybe she won't. Another thing to consider is.. she's a freshman right now. I know when I was a freshman, my attitude completely changed during sophomore and junior year. People change. Thats how life is. You think you may know someone, but when life throws you a lemon.. you realize who is a true friend and who is a bad influence. My point being.. you may think she's innocent now, but you don't know for sure yet. She could change. You never know.
Now. My advice is to forget her. Dude, you're a senior in high school. So am I!! I'm just glad to be getting out of high school and starting a real life in college. I'm so glad to be done with my shitty past and just start over with new people and a brand new place. Hell, i'm going to be living half way across the world from my family! FREEDOMMM!!! haha. I have about 5 weeks left of school. So just take a deep breath and get these next few weeks over, graduate, and then just be happy to be single,free, and do whatever the hell you want. You're going to college! don't let messy high school drama tear you down. look forward to the good stuff thats about to come :)
I'm kinda in the same boat as you. I've got a lot of high school drama going on. I"m just trying to survive the next few weeks and then get out of here and live a brand new life :)
Hang in there buddy :)
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Sorry, but first of all "slut" is a very derogatory term, though I understand what you mean. Anyways, it IS possible, but it has nothing to do with her looks. Every woman has the potential to want to sleep with alot of people. However, what I think you need to realize is it's her choice. I know you care about her, but if that's what she wants to do, there's nothing that will really stop her. If you hear about it from random people at some point, maybe ask her about it? Tell her you're worried. But don't pry into her personal life because otherwise it would just seem.. odd. I know you feel like you want to erase her from your life, but let me be the first to tell you it won't happen, and you shouldn't let it even if you could. She was a part of your life, and you don't want to forget that. So, I guess long story short, only approach her if it starts spreading around, because that's when it might be a problem.. and if you do find out, just go to her and say something like "Look, I don't mean to pry or anything like that.. but I've been hearing this around and I thought you should know.. that way if it's not true, you might be able to set things straight" or something like that because then it shows that you care. Hope this helped. Goodluck and keep smiling!
~RF
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First of all. I know where your comming from with the whole,. I can't stop thinking about her and how everything reminds you of her. I've been there and the hurt is not going to go away in a few days or a few weeks. It will last a while.
And i'm sorry to say that only time wil heal that.
As far as the slut thing goes,. No one can tell what will happen as she goes through highschool.
Just because she is very hot and very popular does not mean that she won't have integraty to respect herself as a person and not an object to screw.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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