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Hi, I like this guy but he doesn't like me obviously becoz i am always busy not exactly pretty(actually i am overweight majorly) I am in the most popular group at school and I am like boss of it but he still doesnt notice me! how do i get him to like me coz i have liked him for ages!!

You sound like an awesome girl..and take it from me..i am reallly overweight too. Im not talkin like 10 lbs heavier than I am supposed to be..im talkin more lol. Andd despite my weight..i found an awesome guy who i have been going out with for over a year. Size does not matter..and if this guy thinks it does..he isnt worth it.
To answer your question...talk to him more than usual, find out his sn if you both go online and chat, have a get together (maybe a bonfire) and invite him, if you guys are in gym together team up with him or play with him like if its tennis or basketball be his partner or something. Compliment his hair or outfit,..the best advice i can give is get to know him more. The more you two talk and hang out..the more likely it is he will start to like you and notice you. Good luck!
-melissa-

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What do you do in your spare time?

In my spare time I play softball,(i love it!), I help out with T-ball. I am the assistant coach and my dad is head coach. It is so fun and the kids are adorable! I go on here a lot, I hang out with friends..go to the movies,drive around,etc. Im with my boyfriend of over a year every day too. I listen to music (xm radio is awesome!) I like to take walks, swim in waterfalls near my house, and anything else that comes my way.

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Okay, I have no idea what to do. I found out yesterday that my bff is cutting and doing drugs. She has cuts ALL OVER her arms and stuff and it's really scary. And she told me that she's been doing drugs but didn't tell me what. I talked to her and shes acts like it's no big deal. I mean, her brother recently was diagonosed (sp?) with cancer and her parents are getting divorced so that may have something to do with it. But I really don't want to find her dead one day. I need help. What should I do?

This is an outcry for help. Your friend wanttts help deep down inside. You need to tell someone so she can get counseling. She might be mad at you for a little bit, but she will thank you in the end because you care. The best thing you can do is tell a trusted adult who will get her to see the school phycologyst(excuse my spelling lol) and from there she will get better. She is going through a lot right now so she cut herself to get attention. Now that you know, please do what is best for her and get her help. I hope it all turns out well! Keep me updated!
-melissa-

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my boyfriend is a super sweetie. but, there's one problem.his grades r kinda sucky. he most the time dosn't have his book report, homework, and things like that. he's really sweet. i mean, he's super cute, nice, funny, polite, and he likes me a lot. i also like him A LOT. i mean like, "crush on him since fourth grade" a lot.i DO NOT want to dump him. i want this relationship to last a loooong time.

Hey. With my bf..i help him with any hw or studying he needs help with. I dont know what your schedule is like, but i dont really have a lot of stress on me with school this year, so i am able to concentrate more on him. Maybe all he needs is for you to help him out with studying..or give him some ideas on how to start his reports.
Try that out..and let me know how it goes!

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What are some suggetions for getting rid of a bad habit?

well it depends on the habbit. i gues you can try putting in a quarter or some type of money in a jar whenever you do this bad habbit. As you see the jar piel up with money, you will be more motivated to stop so you can get the money out of the jar. Let me know if this idea works!
-melissa

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Okay. So I'm 19 and I dated a guy for about a year, and he broke up with me in January because he thought I cheated on him (I didn't, by the way). I then went on a 2-month visit to another state. A couple days after I left, he told me that he was still in love with me and wanted me to come home. When I did come home, we got back together, and he told me that in the couple of days we were broken up, he had fingered a girl that I used to talk to (she and I weren't friends, more of just acquaintances). I didn't really think much of it -- I mean, we weren't together and he was kind of rebounding anyway.

The other day, he accidentally let it slip that he hadn't just fingered the girl, but he had started having sex with her and they had to stop because she was a virgin and it was hurting her. I'm not really upset that he did it (though, of course, it does hurt). Mostly I'm upset because he lied to me.

We started talking and he basically said he had lied because he didn't want to hurt me. I know he feels really bad for the whole thing, and regrets everything he did with her. I forgave him for lying, and of course for having sex with her. But since he told me, all I can think about is her. Like when I close my eyes, I can literally picture them together, having sex. I try not to let it bother me, because it's in the past and I know that I'm the only one he wants to be with. But it does bother me.

Am I wrong to be letting this bother me? I mean, I know that he would never cheat on me or anything like that. That's not my problem. My problem is the stupid past.

If I'm being stupid by letting this get to me, can someone tell me how to let go of it?

Its normal that this bothers you. Dontt keep it inside. i know how it feels to keep feelings and troubles inside..and it can really bring down your relationship. You have to tell him you need time to get over this. It will take some time..but with his reassurance it will get better.

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A LOT of people at my school talk about how they always steal from hollister & abercrombie, all the time. they say they never get caught, i really don't think that it's a good idea, but i'm just wondering what are the chances of getting caught stealing at abercrombie or hollister, if you bring the clothes into the dressing room and rip off the tags and stuff them in your purse or whatever. thank you.

it is possible to get away with it. it depends..do they have cameras? are there private spots..like isolated kinda? are the workers walking around actively..or kinda just slouching around..are there dressing room attendents if you decide to do it in the dressing room?

well those are all the facotrs ..but listen..donttttt do it. i knew a couple people wou would alwayssssssss steal. 6 months later..they get caught. they get arrested (thankfully it was only $200 worth of stuff so they werent charged with a felony) but its nottt worth it. fines are crazy..its no good..trust mee

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okay. i am best friends with two girls. they consider me their best friend too. but i always feel left out. i am not the jealous type and i am not jealous, but they live within five min. from each other. one of my friend drives so she is always at my other friends house. the one friend who drives use to consider me the "best" friend. like we were just closer. but that was all before she got her license. now that she has it she is over there every day. like we will hang out after school and then they would bring me home, but they would go to each others house after they dropped me off. i dont get it. do they really consider me their best friend? i am so confused.

hey, dont let this little stuff get you down. they live close by each other so its natural they will see each other more. as long as they are true friends, can trust you, etc. they are good friends. you should talk to your mom and have her allow you to have sleepover or something...sleepovers always bring people closer. you can also make arrangements for your mom to drop you off/pick you up at their houses. i hope it all workss out!

-melissa-

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alright.
so i spent april 7th- april 22nd at my boyfriends house for spring break.
we are in a long distance relationship.
spring break was the first time i had seen him since january.
well. me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and 2months. we are very much in love. and plan to get married within the next few years.
the only problem right now is his father.
his father for some reason s me.
neither of us know why because i have never been rude or disrespectful to him or anything bad. but his dad calls me a wench and a . and stuff like that. my boyfriends father hating me is causing tension between the two of them. and i dont want them to have a bad relationship because of me..but at the same time i refuse to let him go..ive been with him for over a year. and i couldnt picture myself with anybody but him. im so in love with him. and he loves me too. my boyfriend is actually thinking of completely disowning his father until he learns to respect me and apologizes to me for the things hes said to me and the way he has treated me. but i dont want him and his dad to stop talking just because of me. i dont know what to do. im so confused. the rest of my boyfriends family likes me..his mom. his sister. his grandparents. aunts. uncles and cousins all like me. its just his dad and his brother. his brother doesnt like me coz hes a suck up and if his dad dont like someone he doesnt either. but im so confused. what should i do!

man this a tough situation, because honestly this isnt your problem and there isnt a whole lot you really cannn do. you can talk to him..possibly write his dad a letter how you feel if you think that talking to him in person would be too difficult. other than that, its up to his dad to put aside his differences and understand that you two are planning to get married. i hope it all works out..but listen dont feel bad. if his father is going to ruin the relationship between him and hiss son..its very sad..but definately not your fault or your bf's fault

-melissa

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When I did Cross Country, I met this kid. He helped me throught a lot. We were somewhat friends, and we somewhat talked. It was like, a hi in the hall way, sometimes talking. You know, that deal.

He committed suicide the other day.

I hardly knew him, not well anyways. I went to his wake and it was so sad. All of his best friends, whom were my close friends too, were there, and crying. I started to cry pretty bad, becausei couldn't even imagine what theyw ere going through. I don't know what tothink, what to say.

He was such a nice guy.
I don't know how to cope with it, and I feel stupid because I wasn't even close with him.

hey dont feel stupid because you didnt know him that well..he still left an impact on you. when people commit suicide it affects everyone! lets say if i killed myself *never will..but you know its an example..) well i bet people i only talk to sometimes would still be a little sad. obviously my parents and close friends would be much more upset,but its normal for everrryone to be upset. its healthy to cry during a time of sadness. remember the good times, say prayers for him and his family, talk to your close friends..they can help you vent, write poems, maybe make a memorial for him with some friends at the school...these are all great things to do to help cope and let your feelings out. dont feel stupid that you are sad..you dont have to be close to someone to cry when someone dies. sometimes if i read the paper and i read a sad story, i get tears in my eyes and sometimes cry. its human nature to feel sadness when you care.
i hope this helps a little sweetheart
-melissa-

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Ok, well im 14 years old, and my phone bill just came in yesterday , and my Dad pays for it, and hes supper mad at me because its so high.is there any way that i could make a deal with him and try to get out of a little troble with it ?Is so that would be great , cuz im scared because once he tells my Mom im going to be in alot of troble.

I know it sucks, but i think you should tell your dad that you think he should shut your phone off for a couple months as punishment and start off fresh for the summer. He will respect you for taking responsibility and wanting to make things right. Also agree to do extra chores or maybe get a little side job like babysitting and agree to give him half of your pay for awhile. I think he will be very proud of you for taking responsibility for going over on your phone. I hope it works out! :)
-meliss

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Okay, so I've been wondering about something & I wanted to hear you guys opinions.

My boyfriend & I have been together for five years & we are both twenty one. I love him, I'm in love with him & there is no one else I'd rather be with. We're still young so we don't really talk about marriage but here & there we do say things like "when we get married..." & stuff like that. The other day when we were together we were talking about weddings & how my culture's weddings differ from his & he said he'd want to get married at a court house because it doesn't cost a lot. Then he said or he'd want to get married on an island & only our close relatives would be invited, like his mom & my mom. I know I want to marry him in the future & I've never straight up asked him "do you wanna marry me" but I think, well, if he's been in a relationship this long with me doesn't that obviously mean something? Like apparently he wants a future with me if he's been by my side for five years now? But then again I think, just because we've been together for so long doesn't mean marriage is definite, you know?

So my question is, do you guys think that when a couple has been together for so long that it means marriage is in the future? Are people in long relationships because they want to get married eventually? Ugh, in my head I know what I'm trying to ask but I can't seem to get it out the way I want it to but I guess these questions will do. Haha. Thanks for reading this & all opinions are appreciated!

Heyy thats a really long time..and yes i think there is a good chance marriage with him is in your future. some People date for a verrry long time before getting married. my parents dated for seven years, i have an aunt who has been with the same guy for maybe 5 years, i have a friend whos parents just got married after 13 years of being together..so it varies on the future plans, if you both truly feel you are right for each other,
this guy is sticking around for a longg time..and its not like he doesnt want a commitment,..because you two have been together for so long..so dont worry..hes been around for a verry long time..i dotn see him going anywhere anytime soon. and after being together 5 years, i would say marriage is very possible.

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my birthday is coming up, and all i want for my birthday from my boyfriend, is a single red rose it will also be our 4 month anniversary. it's just something subtle yet romantic. do you think he'll get it for me? shouild i tell him what i want? what should i do?!?

he might ask what you want..and you can hint about the rose..but what i would do is not say anything and see what he gets you..see what he picks from the heart on his own. who knows, what he gets or makes you might make you happier than the rose
-melisa-

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hey..

the situation i was in.. i was saying that all affection and calling has slowed down, like not as much.. and you said give each other more space.. and then i said, i only see him twice a week anyways!
so should all that be slowing up? like calling texting etc..

hmm if i only get to see my bf twice a week...i would be wanting and expecting more affection. Its normal for you guys to not be making out and stuff all the time..but i would still want cute moments like cuddling, hugs, kisses, etc. If that is totally dead..then i would try talking to him about how you feel if it doesnt work when you try to show more affection. As far as the calling and texting..if i only got to see my bf twice a week..i would def want to hear from him once a day at least like before bed is always good to talk for at least 15 minutes or so. You guys should communicate every day about how your day was and stuff at least.

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hey..

thanks for yor reply it does make sense, but this is the thing.. he works everyday from 6am to 6pm, so i only see him on weekends, say once or twice a week, any more space than that there wouldnt be a relationship.. so should the affection and stuff be slowing up?

Im sorry..which question was this again? please write back and refresh my memory about your situation and i would be happy to answer your question. i just want to make sure i know which situation im looking at before i give you my advice. thanks ..and please write back

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im in the 8th grade and there is this really sexy beyond sexy guy i like but hes in the 6th grade. im pretty short and hes taller then me so thats good. what i want to know is it okay to date someone that young?i know people say age doesnt matter but give your honest opinion!

i think it is absolutely ok. you might get people making remarks...but ignore them! i have a friend who just turned 18 and her bf wont be 16 until june..so thats about a 2 1/2 yr difference. they make a cute couple too!

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my sister just came out to my parents that she was gay. my dad and mom dont even talk to her any more and my dad said he wanted nothing to do with her. i dont care. i love her no matter what. but my sister wants to run away or move out. she wants to live with my principal whos are really close friend but i dont want her to move. shes turning 16 monday and she said that its legal then to move out. i told her i didnt want her to but she keeps saying that she cant live at home anymore. not with parents who dont even talk to her anymore just because shes gay. i dont want to loose my sister! any advice would help! tanxs(im 14 if it helps)

i know you dont want your sister to move out..but maybe this will be good for her. She cna finally be herself and not worry about her parents. You can still visit her. Im sure her principle will arrange for you to go out with then places or come over to visit often. You can still remain close to her even though she moved out. I would want my sister to be happy.. and i think if she moves out she will be happier. Hopefully in the future her parents will accept her and things will get better...but for now this sounds like the best way

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Me and my boyfriend have just kissed, nothing else. We've been going out for a while, and I'm ready to try something more. How do I let him know that I'm ready, without really telling him straight out?

Like the others said..next time you guys are alone and kissing..getr into it more..rub his leg..or take his hand and put it on your leg or somewhere else..we arent supposed to instruct you on sexual activities on this site so i am tryingg to keep this ppg lol. but if you want to talk more about ggraphic things you can IM on AIM MY SN = icey0990
:)

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ok me and my bf have been goin out for like 3 weeks now and he wants to hav sex but i dont know if i should do it or not esp. this early. I need help on if i should have sex with him or not? Do you really think he likes me because he asked me pretty early in teh relationship? Please help me out
thanks~!

Just because he asked you to have sex..it doesnt mean he really likes yoyu just because he asked uo so early. It either means his hormones are a little crazy..orr it means that he just wants you for sex. Definately wait..its way tooo soon..and wen you are ready you will just knoowwww..you wont have to wonder or ask others. Trust me I know
:) You are worth waiting for!
-melissa

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okay... so theres a guy... hes just like totally hot! i've been crushing since primary school nd i've been thinking about telling him that i like him but i dont know if i should. bcoz if i do, he'll probably think im a freak/werdo! lol. i was actually thinking of writing him an anonymous letter or something. but that could lead to complications. :(. i dont know wht to do.
thnx.

Hey, if you write the letter..he might really like it..but he wont know who wrote it! Meaning..you wont have a chance with him. If you start conversation with him..get to talking more and more..maybe even online or on the phone..make plans to hang out and who knows you might end up together! You dont have to go right up to him and tell him hes hot or that you like him..because it might freak him out. Gradual talking and getting to know each other is much better
I Hope I Helpeddd :)

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