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death of a friend.
When I did Cross Country, I met this kid. He helped me throught a lot. We were somewhat friends, and we somewhat talked. It was like, a hi in the hall way, sometimes talking. You know, that deal.
He committed suicide the other day.
I hardly knew him, not well anyways. I went to his wake and it was so sad. All of his best friends, whom were my close friends too, were there, and crying. I started to cry pretty bad, becausei couldn't even imagine what theyw ere going through. I don't know what tothink, what to say.
He was such a nice guy.
I don't know how to cope with it, and I feel stupid because I wasn't even close with him.
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hey dont feel stupid because you didnt know him that well..he still left an impact on you. when people commit suicide it affects everyone! lets say if i killed myself *never will..but you know its an example..) well i bet people i only talk to sometimes would still be a little sad. obviously my parents and close friends would be much more upset,but its normal for everrryone to be upset. its healthy to cry during a time of sadness. remember the good times, say prayers for him and his family, talk to your close friends..they can help you vent, write poems, maybe make a memorial for him with some friends at the school...these are all great things to do to help cope and let your feelings out. dont feel stupid that you are sad..you dont have to be close to someone to cry when someone dies. sometimes if i read the paper and i read a sad story, i get tears in my eyes and sometimes cry. its human nature to feel sadness when you care.
i hope this helps a little sweetheart
-melissa-
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first, i'm so sorry about your friend. i can definitely see where your coming from & relate. in october of '05, a friend and his dad were killed in a car accident. i knew the kid when he was younger and we played sports together. and i cried like a baby and his viewing and funeral, even though i wasn't near as close to him as i used to be.
the best thing to do would just be to let out alllllllll your feelings. holding it in or not talking about it won't do any good. talk to his friends, and tell them how you feel. i'm sure it'll help them and it'll help you too. when you go up to them [if you do], just say "hi, i'm so sorry about ____. he was so nice..." etc.
also, people will probably talk about it for a long time. you might as well get used to voicing your feelings. thats how things were here. it's the only way people move on- is to let things that happen, happen.
sorry about your friend again. hope i helped. anything else, leave it in my inbox (:
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People move on with deaths different ways.
My advice is to remember the good times, and laugh. For some people they feel guilty, and feel like they shouldn't but no matter who the person is, what they were like they would want you to laugh and remember the good times.
Hope I helped a bit...
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well its always pretty sad when someone dies rather you know them or not.
I mean think about the Virginia Tech story, and how horrible that is. Sure you may or may not know anyone but its still really terrible and pretty sad.
But how to cope...don't forget about him but just try to move on. I know its hard at frist but since you said he helped you through a lot of stuff just always remember him and try to just move on without him. Its really hard and a death is always pretty hard to get over and it just takes time. Thats pretty much the one thing.
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It doesn't matter if you were close to him or not. Whenever someone you know passes away it's very sad and hard to cope with. I can't tell you what to think, but it would be understandable if you were just as upset as they were. You can talk to your friends about him, but if you don't want to upset them just talk to a guidance counsler or someone who would listen to how you feel and help you through it. Hope i've helped!!!
**jenny13**
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