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my Boyfriends Father s me. HELP!
alright.
so i spent april 7th- april 22nd at my boyfriends house for spring break.
we are in a long distance relationship.
spring break was the first time i had seen him since january.
well. me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and 2months. we are very much in love. and plan to get married within the next few years.
the only problem right now is his father.
his father for some reason s me.
neither of us know why because i have never been rude or disrespectful to him or anything bad. but his dad calls me a wench and a . and stuff like that. my boyfriends father hating me is causing tension between the two of them. and i dont want them to have a bad relationship because of me..but at the same time i refuse to let him go..ive been with him for over a year. and i couldnt picture myself with anybody but him. im so in love with him. and he loves me too. my boyfriend is actually thinking of completely disowning his father until he learns to respect me and apologizes to me for the things hes said to me and the way he has treated me. but i dont want him and his dad to stop talking just because of me. i dont know what to do. im so confused. the rest of my boyfriends family likes me..his mom. his sister. his grandparents. aunts. uncles and cousins all like me. its just his dad and his brother. his brother doesnt like me coz hes a suck up and if his dad dont like someone he doesnt either. but im so confused. what should i do!
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there is only one thing YOU can do. you have to talk to the dad. screw the bro, he's a moron. you have to sit down and talk to your bf's dad and try to sort things out between you and him. other wise, it ain't never gonna work.try to make an effort with him. talk to him. DON'T SUCK UP TO HIM, THOUGH! He'll see right through it.be opinionated, but don't smash his beliefs.let me know how thing's work out. <(^_^)>
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If they don't like you then that's their problem. They're missing out on a great person, and you can't make them like you. I would say to just be as sweet as can be to them. Don't kiss their asses or anything, but just be nice like you usually are & be the best you can. Talk to your boyfriend about it. Tell him you don't want their relationship to suffer because of you. But no matter what, it's your boyfriend's decision, and if he doesn't wanna talk to them until they decide to respect/accept you, then you can't stop him from making that decision.
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wow this is a tough decision to make. If i was you i would still stay together with him because if you let him go now you might not be able to be with him later down the road. Just because of two people you shouldnt just stop being with someone. Your going to have people with their opinions and comments but you guys need to ignore it. At least try to ignore it if you guys are truely in love then you shouldnt have to worry bout them. I think you should stay with him dont worry bout his dad at least the rest of the family likes you. I think that his dad will get over it sooner or later. Its going to take time but im sure he will come around. I dont think that its good for your bf and his dad to stop talking but if hes in love with you its worth it. After awhile his dad will talk to him again and he will start to talk to his dad about it. If your really worried bout it then i think that you should talk to his dad and see wat you did. Ask him questions like why he hates you and calls you names. Maybe that will help and if it doesnt tell him you wont back down adn stop loving his son. If you decide to not be with him anymore thats just letting his dad win and thats wat his dad wants. Its going to kill him to see that you guys are still together so dont let him win. Do wat you wnat and wat your bf wants. I wouldnt just worrying bout you adn your bf if i was you. Ok well i hope i helped and good luck with everythin! i hope everythin works out and if you need anymore help you can write me in my inbox!
-katelyn
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man this a tough situation, because honestly this isnt your problem and there isnt a whole lot you really cannn do. you can talk to him..possibly write his dad a letter how you feel if you think that talking to him in person would be too difficult. other than that, its up to his dad to put aside his differences and understand that you two are planning to get married. i hope it all works out..but listen dont feel bad. if his father is going to ruin the relationship between him and hiss son..its very sad..but definately not your fault or your bf's fault
-melissa
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