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Q: okk so i broke up with my bf sunday but i am still like holding on in a way and i know im being so stupid but i dont know what to do. dont give me crap bjust tell me what to do to stop thinking about him!! keeping busy doesnt work cause even when i do something i still think about him. but ya i dont want to hear a bunch or crap about relationships and stuff EVERYONE keeps telling me that stuff-i just want ways to GET OVER HIM. please help me!

I know exactly what you are going through, I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years about 8 months ago and moving on was the most difficult thing I have ever done. Everyone told me that I broke up with him so it should be easy for me to get over him, but what they don't understand is that that person was a part of you and even if you aren't in love with them anymore, they will always be a part of you. Things will always remind you of them and getting those out of your head is not easy.

Friends were a lifesaver for me after our break-up. They kept my mind away, but when I wanted to talk about it they were there. Another thing that helped was he and I stayed friends, that let us talk to one another about what happened and it was easier to let go when he was still going to be around. I know it feels like he will never get out of your head, but I promise it will get easier, yes things will always remind you of him but it always gets easier. It may take sometime, but it comes.

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Q: okay soo i dated this guy and he broke it off like three times.lets call him "leon" and its been a while since we have last talked to eachother..but i guess he is mad at me..i'm friends with his brother(who likes me)lets call him "dan" and dan tells me all this stuff his brother said about me..for example that me and leon made out..not true..that leon called me a slut...and that he never wanted to talk to me again...i cried...then i went to a lockin at this place from like 11 to 6 in the morning.and they were there..leon kept looking at me and dan said that when i was sitting down stairs at the building that leon was going to come down and ask what was wrong...but dan said not to, to leave me alone!!!!i wanted to kill him so much!! me and leon had been off and on for about two years..we went out three times...one time last year..and two times this year...well anyways after dan came up to tell me what he said to leon we went gocart riding..and so did leon and a bunch of their friends.. but i had fun..but i was freezing...

today i almost bumped into him..i'm thinking i should have..but yeah...lol...but he looked at me and i just really want him back..now that i moved i could walk to his house and we could hang but idk i want him back...help me....please....i'm begging

Well it sounds like you kind of can't trust Dan, considering the fact that he does like you, and won't want you to be with someone else. I think you should try talking to Leon about it, let him know that you still like him and would like to try it again. Maybe you should even tell Dan that you like Leon and not him and would like to give it another chance with Leon.

If you don't want to go with the up front method, maybe try convertly talking to him about lets say the weather, or 'accidently' run into him and flirt around once you do. You have to put yourself out there and let him know you are interested in him.

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Q: does anybody know, if you have unprotected anal, can you get an infection even if you are 100% sure you and your partner are clean? we have both been tested, and i think we might soon, so i'm just looking for the facts, should he still wear a condom? or is it ok? is it ok if he cums inside me?
any information would be very helpful!
thankyou!

Yes it is possible to catch infections while engaging in anal, even if you are both STD gree. He should still wear a condom, because there is always a chance that some might leak and enter your vagina. Be very careful your first time engaging in anal, it can be very painful and if not done carefully may do damage to your body.

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Q: Not exactly advise, just a question (:
How do you know when your hymen breaks? I know it sounds silly, but I just don't know ! Is it something painful or just nothing at all?

Thanks so much all (:

I guess it depends on how it breaks. Your hymen isn't always broken during sex, it can be broken by lots of exercise such as, horseback riding, running, sports, bike riding, etc. If it is broken that way then most likely it doesn't hurt, there will be a small amount of blood on your panties and you may believe you have started your period. If it breaks during sex then it may hurt a little but I don't think it breaking is actually what hurts you. Even if you have sex after it is broken sex will still hurt a little.

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Q: First of all, I'm 18, bisexual, and in an open relationship (mainly because I'm not willing to commit to one person yet). In other words, I'm dating three people at the same time. They all know that I am seeing other people as well, and they're okay with that, so don't give me trouble about the open relationship thing. Also, I'm being safe about STDs/pregnancies, so yeah.

I used to be in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend. It was not an open relationship. Basically, once we had sex, that's what the focus of our relationship was. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE having sex with him. But I want more, like being about to hang out and have a good time without making out or taking off clothes. He's one of the guys I'm currently dating now because I really want this to work out with him (the whole not just having sex all the time thing).

My question is, how can I do this? I don't mind having sex with him at all, even if it's every day. But maybe a few hours of nonsexual activity beforehand.

Another quick question. I'm considering settling down with only one of my partners. The thing is, all three of them are only available to see me about once a week due to their busy schedules, which is not enough for me. Help?

Well it seems like you have decided who you want to be with and I think for you to show him that you want more maybe it shouldn't be an open relationship. Sit him down and let him know that you care about him, but that you want more than a physical relationship. Tell him that you would really like to try a closed relationship with conversations and fun times that are not always revolved around sex.

Sex is a great way to connect, but you have to make sure you aren't just in it for the sex. Any and all relationships need some good communication and connection on other levels to make them work. About the schedule thing there is really nothing you can do about it, try and get thme to set certain times aside to see you, that way you can decide who you want to be with. They have to be willing to make exceptions for you and so do you.

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Q: Me and my boyfriend had sex like a week after my period.I am 14.We used a condom and it was only for about 3 or three minutes, this past weekend we had sex for around 7-10 minutes, my cherry did pop we used a condom, and i dont think he ejaculated.and this is around the time i should be getting my period
im like 5 or six days of now and i still havent gotten it, my friends told me its normal to be late when your cherry pops because theres no blood for you to get your period. im so scared like im parnoid. ive been crying the past few days because what if im preganant?? i have cramps but no period i dont no what todo. please help me !

If you are having cramps then your period is probably on it's way. I don't know about the whole when your cherry pops your period is late, but you are young and therefore it is often common for your period to be late. Calm down and wait it out, if you still don't have your period after maybe another week then you can worry. If that happens go buy an at home pregnancy test and go from there.

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Q: hey im 16 and pregnant
im 4 months along and
me and my boyfriend came up with some possible names with middles names.

Aidan Jole
Jole Aaron
Graydan Alan
Jayden Marcus
Brighten Mason
Brayden James

those were the top 6 boys names

Madison June
Mackenzie Lynn
Brianna May
Jamie Marie
Laura Jane
Madeline Jayme

and those are our top 6 girl names
we arnt sure if we are having a boy or girl
help us decided witch boy or girl names out of those do you all like?! or if you can come up with some other names please tell.

help us :)

I like Jayden Marcus and Mackenzie Lynn the best out of those.
Some more girl and boy names you may want to think about are:

Girls:
Adrianna
Aimee
Alyisha
Ella
Audrey
Brooklyn
Trinity

Boys:
Landon
Haydon
Cole
Hunter
Lucas
Timothy
Julian

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Q: Ok maybe it's just me but i always watch these movie with people and their first kisses and stuff like and it makes me want that even more i mean i'm 14 and never exactly had a real boyfriend and obviously havent had my first kiss yet but watching these movie always makes me want it even more it might sound crazy or stupid but i am definitely into the 'find your one true love' kind of thing and i know someday it will eventually happen but the wait is killing me and maybe that sounds stupid but it's just seeing these great relationships and how much in love people can be it really is a beautiful thing and maybe i'm just babbling and sounding crazy here but like i said i really want that you know that kind of relationship where of course you have your fights but in the end their always there for you where you can see how much they like you just by the way they look at you and stuff like that i want that and of course my first kiss but i want it with someone really special and it has to be that right moment and everything and the right person and the right place and i know it will happen someday and that the longer i wait the more special it will be when it does happen but i dont know i guess i just want opinions on this like have you felt this way before how was your first kiss what happened you know those kinds of things

Everyone counts down the days until the get their frist kiss and first love, especially girls. First kisses are usually very very special experiences that one will remember for ever and having your first love is even better. But along with that comes your first heartbreak, which isn't so hot but you move on and you grow from it. I assure you everyone has these thoughts and the day of your first kiss and first love will come one day sooner than you think. Then everything will fly right by you, don't wish your life away. Enjoy every minute of it. But when you do find that special someone that you feel you want to experience your first kiss with, go for it. No regrets.

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Q: Okay so i do not keep track of these things im just not the type of person too..Ive tryed but i get preoccupied. So February i had my period. Had sex. Havent had my period since. Its now april. I havent grown or had sickness or any signs of pregnency so do you think my lateness is due to stressing bout being preganent.?

It could be a number of things. Have you had your period for a long time? Because sometimes when girls first get their period they may stop for a while. If you have had it for a while then it may be stress, you could be pregant, or just irregular. I would get a home prenancy test and after that, no matter what it says, I would see a doctor. Also remember that the mind is very powerful thing and if you are worried about being pregnant your body may have what is often known as 'false pregnancy.' This is when you stress so much about being pregnant or think you are pregnant that you may actually miss your period, gain weight, etc.

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Q: So I like this guy who's a friend and we were getting closer. Like a lot closer. We went fro barely talking to each other a couple times a week to talking, saying hi, and hugging everyday. Like everytime he saw me he'd come up and talk to me and hug me and whatever but he had a gf. I mean I knew that and I wasn't trying to be a homewrecker or anything and try to break them up but we were like that even before they started going out. But anyways out of no where he just stopped talking to me. Like it literally happened over night. We were fine one day then the next day I said hi and hugged him but he was seemed really distant. And I thought he was having a bad day or something and I just ignored it but for days it was like that. Then it was weeks.

And still to this day he barely talks to me. He'd pass right by me and not even look at me and walk around me when before he used to go out of his way to come and talk to me. I've started thinking that maybe his gf got jealous or something and didn't want him hugging other girls all the time or something but I see him with other girls all the time. It seems that its just me he's been distant with.. And last week I found out that his gf broke up with him because it turned out he'd been distant from her too..

He still says hi to me every once in a while but its not the same and its really awkward. And sometimes I'll catch him looking at me but then he'll look away all of a sudden and sometimes I try to catch his eye and he busies himself in watching his feet or something.

I just want to know what it means and like some guys' point of views would really help. I mean I don't know if I did something wrong or what but I really miss him as a friend. I've tried talking to him about it but he won't really give me the time of day. So any insight/advice or anything would really help. Thanks in advance.

It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong, because he was distant from his girlfriend too. There may just be something going on in his life right now that is stressing him or upsetting him in some way. Talk to him and let him know that you are worried about him and that you are there for him no matter what. He may open up once you let him know that, or he may not. It really depends on the situation and whats going on as to how he will react.

It sounds like he still likes you and stuff but that something is going on with him. Again talk to him about it and tell him that you would really like to be friends with him and help with whatever it is that is going on.

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Q: 16/f
Does veet really work for shaving "Down there"?

It can, but be sure that it says its safe for that area on your body. Also be sure that you aren't allergic to it, try a small part on your leg or something to make sure.

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Q: okay, um..
my ex said he loves me,
while im going out with someone i truely care about.
the thing is, i still kinda like my ex.
but nowhere near how much i love my current.
also, im having, flash backs, of how me and a long time a go g/f. [[yeah, im bi]] used to do.
i miss her, more than anything, i always will miss her.
i cry at night, just because, i write poetry. most of it's about her.

but im never gonna see her again, so im not gonna keeep talking about her.
my ex, him and i are chill.
we still talk,
but the thing is. idont think my current cares about me as much as i care about him,
but see, i don't talk to him much, but i see him all the time.
what i mean by i don't talk to him much, is over the phone.
and he talked to his ex [[the other day, one of my BEST friends.]] for 4 hours, but it was about me,
so idont really know what to think,

i really caree.
but the thing is, idont think he cares.
he shows it ALL THE TIME. on the school bus.
and when we hang out, he has this look, that shows me he cares.
when i just cuddle, and hug him.
but i haven't kissed him, he wants to kiss me,
really bad.
but he's being patient. so it's okay.
and the thing is.
i cheat on alot of guys. but i don't WANT to cheat on him.
so it's really amazing to me.
=]
but im also depressed alot.
i used to cut, it's a habbit im stopping.
and don't tell me that because i cut, i don't need to have a relationship. because my relationship is helping me more than you could ever know.
but it's also confusing me,
i don't know what to do,
but. help.
i really don't necessarily have a question.
but im asking so many it's scary.
i can't ask them though.
because i don't know how to,
but helpppp,
please.

--destiny.
if you wanna talk it would help.
aim: randomconfusionx

um,
but im grounded, and not supossed to be on the computer.
so idont know how much imma be on,

but please answer.
please.

Wow you are in a very very difficult situation it seems like and it seems as though you have been through alot. It also seems like you really really care about your current and that he is helping you find yourself maybe. Relationships often help people who have issues with self mutilation, it is great to have that support system. Having someone who cares about you and is always there for you and tries to understand is the best medicine theres.

Having doubts and questions is very common, but be sure you don't jump before you have thought everything through. If you really love this boy as much as you seem to then stay with him. It is also common to have flashbacks on older relationships especially when your ex tells you they miss you, trust me it happened to me. The best thing you can do is go with what feels best, yeah I know it get confusing, but just remember that your ex is your ex and you broke up for a reason. Same as your current is your current, you chose him for a reason. He has helped you and is understanding and you don't want to cheat on him, then don't stay with him, give it a chance. If it doesn't work then maybe it wasn't your time with him and it's time for you ex to return in your life.

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Q: okay, so i like this guy...and he likes me...trust me i know. okay so anyway, lately, ive been kind of boerd with life, you know like tierd of doing the same thing over and over and over and over again. but supposivly this guy is going to ask me out. i like him and all but i don't really want to go out with him. like i don't know why. but anyway, i just don't think that we would last long...or that hes my ticket to excitement. i have a lot of personal problems i think that i should deal with first. what do you think? am i making a mistake? he isn't that hot. if that helps...

please help!!
thanks in adcanceee!

This is rather simple really, if you don't want to go out with him then don't. Try hanging out as friends first and if things go well there and you want to move on to the next level then let him know. Don't say yes unless you really want to go out with him and give him a chance. Remember looks aren't everything, looks without personality is like peanut butter without jelly.

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Q: okay so theres this reallyyyyy hot kid whos ive been obsessed about for like ever and now im finally friends with him. one problem, i have a boyfriend and we've been going out for almost 6 months. btw im in 10th and theyre in 11th. umm and i really llike my bf but idk now im kinda feeling like restrained and i cant do anything if you know what i mean, cause this really hot kid thats im now friends with i think likes me. would you rather be with the one you love or the one who loves you? so idk what to dooooo! someone please help me

You really have to go with your heart. If you aren't happy where you are then get out, it will be better for your boyfriend if you don't really like him to let him go. It will be less painful in the long run for him and probably less of a hassle, but if you think that you may want to keep trying with him then do. It all comes down to what you want to do really, though I think I would rather be with someone that I love, and hopefully they would love me too.

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Q: So, my really good friend, Anna has liked this guy named Jake for 2 years, and me and him started talking last year, and I'm in 8th grade now, and so is he and her, but she kind of didn't really have a chance with him, they're COMPLETELY different. And she can be bossy and stuff. But anyway, he likes me a lot, and I like him a lot too. And Anna found out so now she's really really mad at me, and doesn't talk to me at school or practice! Its driving me crazy. And I'm SO SO SO SO SO sorry! Like, extremely, but he is perfect for me. What should I do?

Boys are often a sensitive area for girls around your age and you have to be careful what you do with whom. Try talking to her about it and let her know that you really like him alot, but that you understand why she is upset with you. If you really care about her then maybe you should let this guy go and pick your friend over him. Often times your friends will be there long after those boys you fought over.

My best friend and I fought over a boy for 2 years, then we got over it and now neither of us is with the guy and we are best friends.

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Q: My girlfriend and i are moving into a apartment together in Augest and i'm overly worried about having enough money. Whats a good amount to have saved up to move out on ones own?

Thanks

You can never save to much money just remember that. A good amount starting out could be maybe a few thousand dollars, but keep putting away just to make sure that you always have enough.

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Q: Whenever a guy is experienced it's always a turn-off to me. Like if he's done alot of stuff with girls or even just a little. Is this normal does anyone else feel this way?

That is often a turn off for girls, because then they feel as though the guy is comparing them and that can make things really umcomfortable. I had trouble with that at first, but you just have to try and not think about it. You also may feel as though he is a player if he has had a lot of sexual escapades with alot of different girls, you may think that he is just using you for it. That is very hard to get over.

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Q: My boyfriend is very experienced with sex. I'm ready to do it with him, but I don't want to seem unexperienced to him because I'm a virgin. I want to give him the sense that I know what I'm doing too. Can anyone give me a few pointers, or tips?

The best tip or pointed I can give you is to be confident in yourself. Most things come naturally in this area so just go with your gut on it. Also if he is experienced he will help guide you along the way. Don't be nervous if you are then it will show during sex. Make sure you at least pretend you know what you are doing whether you do or not haha. That works better in the end than anything.

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Q: ok so theres this guy everyone thought he liked me and i liked him. well when some of my friends asked him he said he only liked me as a friend and nothing more. but when people look at use they say he likes me and everyone knows i like him.
so what could be going on?
does he like me?

Lesson one in life: Boys are very very confusing. This boy may like you and not want anyone to know, but who really knows what he is thinking. He may be embarrassed, boys often do about their feelings. First of all, you can't always listen to what other people say, though they may very well be right it may not help the situation. I think you should try talking to the boy alone, he is more likely to tell you that he likes you than your friends or his friends that run up and ask him. Make sure that he knows you like him, flirt haha but don't over do.

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Q: Okay so this may be kind of long. So ill just start I was dating a guy we'll call him "T" So We dated around 8 months almost 9 months and it just recently end well actually i broke up with him the week before valentines day. (We broke up one other time before that to where he came back to me) This time It turned out that he had cheated on me wayy at the beginning of our relationship. When i found out and askd him he got defensive and i loked 'into' it and he had lied so i broke up with him. It wasnt like we had a great relationship either we always argued n he was insecure and accused me of cheating because i guess its what he did. He didnt always treat me good and i know i deserve better. but that has made me super insecure no matter wat i tell myself. So we've been broken up for two months but i cant to seem to get over it, I miss him and think about him alot. i Cant seem to get him out of my mind. I wasnt in love with him but its like i want him to want me again or be with me like the first time we broke up. im just confused and want some advice on what i should do.

That often happens with young love, no matter if they were horrible to you or not. In relationships when one of the partners is abusive to the other, especially when it is the girl, they often get really really caught up and hooked. And wanting someone to want you is common.

I think that you should try your best to get over him, it isn't healthy for you to be in a relationship like that. Though it is really hard to get over relationships, try your best. Keep yourself busy, get hobbies, and spend alot of time with your friends. Talking to people can also be a big help, keeping your feelings in will only make matters worse. I really hope that you can get over him and find someone that deserves you.

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