Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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Hi I'm Sarah,I am 15 and I live in Texas.So my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and a half now when my best friend tells me that she never stopped liking him from last year.What should I do? (link)
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So basically, you're saying that she likes him as in has a crush on him?
Well first of all you should definatly talk to her about it. Make room for a nice long conversation, and try your hardest not to make her feel bad for her feelings. It is hard when you get close to someone who is already attached (especailly when they are attached to your best friend) and then you start to like him. Make sure to tell her you arent upset with her, and see what you can do to get her to really open up. If she knows that you arent mad at her she will be more willing to talk about her feelings.
I always tell my friends when we go through guy problems, that friends are your back bone, and if you have boys in your life, thats great but, friends are forever, no matter how much you love him.
So as long as she knows you feel that way (even if you disagree with what I just stated about the girls are forever, portray the fact that you love her and wont get upset) she wont feel as horrible as she probably does.
Once you know how she feels completely you can figure out what to do from there, but if you need more help, don't hesitate to ask.
Thanks for asking me your question, and I hope I gave you some good advice.
Lots of love from your friend,
Angie91
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Okay, my problem is I'm not really close to anyone. So how do I choose who to get presents for? I know like 3 people who I deffinatly want to get presents for, but other than that I can't decide... (link)
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Well instead of going out and buying gifts for a bunch of people who will feel really bad whne they don't have anything in return (or vice versa, not buying gifts) you should go out and buy a huge stack of christmas cards with cute pictures on the front, and write little things on the inside, you could look for some poems on the internet that you can make personal and that way everybody will get the same gift, and not feel that bad if they don't get one back.
Thats just one example of something that you can do. Or you can try and set up a secret santa game with your friends. That way nobody has to buy a bunch of gifts for people they don't really know.
Those are a couple of ideas, or you could just buy a few small gifts, or candies.
My friend,is buying a gigantic box of chocolates and letting her new friends pig out on the day before christmas vaca, so she doesnt have to buy a bunch of insignificant gifts for everyone. So you could buy a bunch of boxes of candy canes and give them out or something like that.
Those are just a few ideas if you think of something and you arent sure if its a good idea, or you have another question, feel free to ask. Have a happy holiday season! Lot's of love,
Angie91
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okay, last night we went to pick up two new kittens! yeah it was great at first, but now my cat that i've had for two years is growlin' and hissin' and i'm not sure how to help him? What should i do? (link)
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Well the older cat is first of all, territorial, and second of all, he probably wonders why these new little kittens are getting all the attention that he used to get all to himself. I don't know a lot about cats, but if you go on google, and search about cats I'm sure you could find something about how to deal with cats. I would suggest someone playing with the kittens while you play with the cat for a couple of hours. But the internet probably has a billion other things you can do. Alsoif the internet doesnt give you enough advice, you can always drop by the library and pick out a book.
I hope you enjoy your new kittens, and your older cat too. Lots of love,
Angie91
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I became friends with this guy, Michael, some time last year in October or November. We were just friends, but by March we were best friends. Somewhere betweem then, I guess I began to like him. All of my friends told me that Michael and I should go out, but I always said, "NO. He DOESN'T like me any more than a friend!" Even his friends/best friends would tell me that he liked me. Michael would always flirt with me and we would talk on the phone, constantly be talking at school, and we would pass notes every now and then. One time a guy said something to me at school that resulted in me bursting into tears and Michael came over to me and said, "It's okay. You didn't do anything wrong." Then at lunch he found the guy and yelled at him for what he said to me. He was the sweetest, most caring guy I had ever met. At the beginning of the year, I found out he was going to be homeschooled and he had not said anything to me about it. I've lost my best friend and the first guy that I have ever really liked in my life. I've never missed anyone or anything this much in my life. I've been thinking about him a lot lately for some reason and it's making me miss him even more and even more upset. Is there a way that I can just get him out of my head or SOMETHING?! (link)
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Well, truely, getting him out of your head is the wrong thing to do. Think about it this way, think of how much you miss him. Now think about all of Micheal's friends at school, Now think of all of your friends at school. You are just losing Micheal, think of all the people he's missing. Think of all of the people he may never see again. Think of all the people he hung out with causually who think, oh I'll definatly stay in touch, and then never even learn his phone number.
Whether he's your best friend or just some guy you knew for a couple of months, it is up to you to try and keep the friendship going. I think you should try calling him, and finding times to hang out. That will get him out of your head in the bad way it is now, and keep him in the head the way that is good, the way where you're spending a boreing math class wondering what movie to see with him rather than racking your brain to find something else to think about.
You didn't mention how far away he lives, but if he lives a long ways away, you could email, or even snail mail him, and send him cards on special days.
If all of that is just not an option, then you should try and find something else to concentrate on. Join a club and meet a guy that you want to think about, or make a new friend. if you find another person to build a relationship with and have fun with them.
Whatever it is you need to find something to fill the whole that he left in your life.
I hope I helped you find a way to get him out of your head. Lots of love,
Angie91
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ok i've been trying to cut back for the past 2 weeks. i wouldn't really say it was an actual DIET per say, but i guess it is. for breakfast i've been having a bowl of special k & for lunch i've been having a mix of things. usually gram crackers carrots dole peaches apple/apple sauce & yoplay yogurt. i mix those things up each day. i have a bottle of water with it also. for dinner, i try cutting back. i eat whatever my parents make, because i don't want to waste food. so lets say they make steak & potatos. i'll have a small piece of steak and 1 sweet potato. stuff like that. even if they have bbq and fries. ill take the bbq without the roll and a few fries. i've cut out my snacks & have not aten past 7 pm. also, i'm on an ankle injury so i can't play sports. i've been running/walking/jogging about 30 minutes 5 days a week. will this do it!? or will i have to work harder. also, how do i avoid talking about it at lunch. we sit at 1 big table & they always make comments like "oh yeah shes dieting again". it really bothers me because i don't want anyone to talk about it. also-i am a female [obviously] im 5'9 & i weigh around 140. am i being ridiculous?? i just want to lose stomach weight. any help is appreciated.
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You didnt mention how old you are, but I'm guessing a teenager, which means most likely part of you is still growing. You are not going to be the perfect weight at a teen age. You need to accept how you look and live with it. However that doesnt mean you shouldnt act healthy.
If you have an ankle injury, unless your doctor suggests that you work it out, I doubt that you should be out jogging 5 days a week, once or twice maybe, but You should probably rest it untill it is well enough to actually play sports and stuff. So I would suggest asing your doctor about that specifically.
As far as eating, Breakfast, is not good enough. The special K diet SUCKS! don't go on it. bowls of rice replacing actual food is not healthy. A healthy breakfast is fruit, maybe a bowl of cereal and juice (real juice, the kind that actually says juice on the lable not "beverage") and maybe a glass of milk. If you take out the sugars in your meals (which you aer doing at breakfast) you will lower your blood sugar, and if you push yourself particularly hard one day(say once your ankle heals and you are in sports and you are trying to hard and you havent had any sugar) you could faint, or if it were serious enough, go into a coma. So make sure you are getting atleast alittle good sugar in your diet (good sugar is the sugars in juice and fruit)
Now the reason your friends think you are on a diet is that you eat stupid warning sign foods. My friend, tried to hide that she was on a diet, but all she brough for lunch was carrot sticks and grapes. Like seriously thats like wearing a sign above your head that says: "I'm on a diet" however, I am proud that you have looked at healthy things at lunch and you are eating not, pretending to eat which a lot of girls do, by just picking at food, which is also a warning sign. A healthy example of a lunch, without warning signs, is a sandwich, if you get whole wheat bread, or anothe rtype of healthy bread, with some healthy deli meat and put a slice of lettuce and alittle mustard or something its really delicious and you dont have to worry about too many calories or whatever. a juice box, or carton of milk, a fruit (like an apple or an orange, not nibble food) something like that. Then for dinner, talk to your parents about trying to eat healthy, but you are right, it is hard when your parents make your meals. But suggest to them about making salads and stuff as a side rather than peas and corn or something. But make sure you are eating dinner, because thats inportant.
And for snacks, if you are home, carrot sticks, and grapes are great, its fine to eat fruits and veggies when youre hungry, and the greener the vegetable the healthier it is, just as a rule of thumb.
Also, 5'9 140lbs is not that bad. But if you don't eat correctly now as a teenager, the rest of your life may be screwd up, so Its good that you are checking up on it now. Good luck, I hope I helped you out abit! Love,
Angie91
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where thers this boy and we dated 4 times and i keep breaking up with him. I dnt know why but i do. Its just i want to like him. Hes good boyfreind. But i dont no if i dnt wnt a boy freind and thats y dnt want to date him again or i just dont likme him. Oh yea hes in love with me and i dnt know if i am in love with him...
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Hmm, well there are many possible reasons for this. So we have to figure out why you are doing it so that we can figure out whether its a good thing or a bad thing.
You may find him safe. Like that safty net that you can always go back to. Like the back up boyfriend. Which isnt good. Because that means you are using him unfairly. It's great that you trust him, but if the only reason you go out with him is that you want to have that boyfriend, then its not good for him or you. And you should move on.
If you keep breaking up with him, because you think that you don't want a boyfriend, you probably don't. In that case you should probably break up with him.
If you find him safe and that makes you feel bored, then you probably are breaking up with him for that reason, and then yeah you probably should break up with him.
If you don't have those same feelings for him now then maybe you need to stay with him though, for alittle while, and see if you begin t fel them. If you are running away from him because him having those feelings for you scares you, then you should try and commit yourself.
Basically, running away (breaking up) from your problems is not a good thing, especially when you keep running back. You have to figure out the real reason you break up. It may be one of the above reasons, or it may be soemthing totally different. If you figure it out, and you need more advice, feel free to ask. Hope I helped alittle bit. Lots of love,
Angie91
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great! you're needed! by me! =)
i handed in an assignment a week ago, and we were supposed to make it "ironic" like voltaires work. so i gave my professor one of the articles i've written before, on my hatred towards sundays, and he gave it back saying there was no irony! he said it was "funny" but funny isn't the same thing as irony.
so i've been changing a lot, bu there's one part i don't know how to mak ironic, would you help me with it?
"There’s nothing good on TV and the only inevitable part of the whole day is that sooner or later some homework is going to have to get done. Sunday is basically just a really long war against the clock. The weekend is over and the five day race to the next weekend starts. It’s a stand off between the present and the future. One part of you can sit and enjoy a quiet afternoon, but another part of you is secretly tormenting, “This is it…five more hours and it’s bed time…five more hours and it’s Monday…five more hours and it’s five more days until fun.”
any ideas?
thank you soo much if you find a way to make it sarcastic or ironic!
happy almost-christmas! :D
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Irony is basically bringing two total opposited together that make it hilarious. An example my teacher always uses is getting run over by an ambulance. But I'm sure you know what Irony is.
The talking about rest and the day of rest is good, but maybe you want to bring in how Saturdays are always busy, and we dn't have time to do homework etc, so that means that we are just procrastinating, so sundays are basically just invented to save out butts. I don't know if that makes much sense, but its kind of ironic and it ties into the fact that we basically don't rest on the day of rest.
If I were you, I would put something ironic in at the t.v. part. Because hundreds of years ago they didnt have t.v.s, so you could put in something about how the day of rest used to be_____ without relaxing beside the t.v. which never has anything good on anyways.
I like the war against the clock part, but I'm not sure how to tie that in with anything ironic. You may be able to add something about how we invented clocks to monitor how much time we spend doing a certain thing, or to keep organized, but all we can seem to do on sundays is worry about how we are going to fill up the time -or- completely oposite, how we only have a couple hours until wehave to go to sleep.
You can also talk abouthow much we love sundays as that day to get organized for the rest of the week, but we dread them because they bore us. I don't know if thats funny.
I hope I gave you a few ideas. If you keep thinking for a bit I'm sure you'll be able to re-word somethings. If you still can't think of anything, or you have another paragraph to reword, just let me know. Happy holidays! Love,
angie91
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I'm making something for a school project and something i need to know about to do it, is;
what are the names of those things kids used to make out of paper? They ask you to pick a colour or number and then they move the folded piece of paper with their finger and thumb. Then in the end, they fold over one piece which the other person picked and read out whatever they wrote there.
I need to know a name asap. So thankyou to anyone who can help me!! (link)
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Hmm, Well I know what you're talking about. I searched google, and all I found was "oragami fortune tellers" but I know there was a name for it. OH! I KNOW! COOTIE CATCHERS!! My little sister just came in and I asked her. They're called cootie catchers. Apparently, back like hundreds of years ago, girls were thought of as cootie carriers, and and basically if you don't remember from the second grade, cooties are basically a made up, "invisible" disease that children accuse other children of having. What that has anything to do with fortune tellers? I have no idea, but when I went to this site, it explains that the game originated as that little fortune teller thing being a game that you would use to chase other kids around to catch their cooties. I'm not sure when it changed to a fortune teller. But thats pretty cool. Good luck with your project! Lots of love,
Angie
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okay so my boyfriend doesnt know the first thing about girls... he really doesnt open up to me and we are REALLY shy around each other and i still dont know much about him! hes like waht do you wanna know.. its supposed to flow naturally i dont know what to ask him becuase i dont know him! How can i help him without tellling him waht to do? Hes really cute and ive liked him for awhile and really want this to work, but i deserve more attention than this! Help me to help him to help me, lol thanks!! (link)
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Well you are right, you should get to know the person you're dating. But guys are often like that. Most arent really very good at carrying on conversations. They are really afraid they are going to say something to ofend you, like accidentally call you fat by saying you look awesome in that shirt or something. Girls are often naturally better at starting up conversations, but when we are shy it is even harder for us. So I would suggest that you go on a date where you are alone in a restaurant, and all you can do is talk to him. Before hand pick ten or twenty things you want to know about him, or that you want him to know about you. And then just start talking. And eventually he should begin to open up and talk about those things too. Once you get to a point where you are talking about what you did in science class, you know that you communicate enough.
And if he doesnt open up right away, thats okay, give him sometime, he'll get it at some point. Hope I gave you some insight. Good luck with your relationship! Lotsa love!
Angie91
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hey sry people probably ask this a lot but i am a freshman at octorara and i just recently got my first people right before school started. i am on my third time having it and it has been really heavy. i want to know how to use a tampon. im not really afraid to i just dont no how. that might seem wierd but i just dont no where to put it and i thot it is suposed to go in between the flaps of the vagina but the hole just looks soooo small and i dont see how im going to fit my tampon in it. sry if this is gross to you but i just really need help and also the tampons im trying to use are tampax pearl so they are plastic.. i heard that they are easier to use then cardboard... also do you think it will hurt?
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Well to be honest I haven't used a tampon yet. There are obviously advantages to using them, but I just keep putting it off.
So I am probably not the best person to ask about this question, however, when I was in junior high, my teacher gave me a pamphlet that really explains everything, and pre answers questions. So If you have questions, then you should probably either talk to an adult, or go online and google it.
I'm pretty sure that the first time you use one it will hurt alittle bit, but after awhile it will probably not bother you at all.
It is perfectly natural to be aprehensive when it comes to these situations, and it is great that you are going out and getting advice. I'm sorry that I couldn't give you more advice, but I son't think that I should give you advice if I don't know what I'm talking about. I'm glad that you asked me though. It's really flattering. And if you have any other qustions feel free to ask away. Good Luck! Lots of love
Angie91
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im secretly in love with my bestfriend [thats a guy] yeah i know this is starting off like every other question, but my situation is different. my bestfriend ellen is going out with my best guy friend, alec. and i like alec. ellen told me that she wants to break up with alec, evene though she still likes him, she thinks he likes my other friend randi, now let me tell you about randi, shes a poser, shes annoying, and thinks alec's her bestfriend, but alec absolutly HATES her, so idk why ellen thinks he likes her. even if randi trys to flirt with him 24/7. well i told ellen the pros and cons to breaking up with him. is it bad that i kinda want them to break up? even though i dont really want them to, because all i want is for ellen to be happy, but she isnt happy right now she feals the relationship is going downhill. even though if they break up, i know alec probly wont like me, he will still like ellen or his ex chelsea. what should i tell ellen about alec? is it wrong that i kinda want them to break up, even though i dont want them to? how can i get him to notice me, if they break up, and not think of me as 'the bestfriend'? alec's guy bestfriend told randi that he liked me, like 3 months ago. but he asked ellen out. idk i feal bad that i want them to break up though, even if i want my friends to all be happy, help? :]] (link)
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Wow, you seem really confused. But thats okay we all feel that way once in a while.
As far as the wanting them to stay together. That's good, you want whats best for your friend, but you can't tell her the pros and cons, because those are your pros and cons, not neccisarily hers. She is the only one who can make the decision.
As far as wanting them to break up, thats okay. That's natural. Theres nothing wrong with it. And I'm glad that you realize that just becaus etheres a chance that they break up, it doesnt mean that he will automatically go out with you.
As far as Alec likeing(or not liking) Randi/ Randi Likeing Alec, they are entitled to feel hoe they want about each other, you have to think, Randi may feel exactly the same way about Alec as you do. Think about that for a second.
So how do we get you to move on? Well first, you need to find out whats going on with Alec and Ellen. If they break up, then you shoudl tell her that you like him, but you arent going to go for it, you are jsut going to tell him how you feel, then, Bet you can guess, you are going to tell him how you feel. I know that sounds like horrible advice, but the best way to move on is to admit whats going on and come to terms with the situation. If you don't let him tel you how he feels then you can't move on, because you will still have that feeling in the back of your mind telling you that there is possibility, and untill that is completely gone, you will feel the same way as you do now, and we want to work to get you over that.
We all have to go through situations similar to this at some point in our lives. They arent fun, but they are a part of growing up. I hope I helped answer your qustion, but I anything else is unclear, just ask. Good luck, lots of love,
Angie91
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about 3 years ago i met someone. we were just kids then, but somehow i knew that i felt different about him. we had a sports class together that summer, and whenever he started to walk away, i would (gently) throw a ball at his back just so i could see him smile. we lost touch, but somehow i never stopped thinking of him. last summer we worked together at the camp where we first met, and now i've been talking to him through facebook and myspace. hes been having trouble with his girlfriend, and ive been having some problems that were really hurting me. we helped eachother through it. hes really happy with his relationship, except hes been telling me for months that theyre on the verge of splitting. he obviously sees me as the "younger sister" type, as in he tries to look out for me all the time. in the past, whenever i really liked someone, i would end up telling them within a couple of weeks, but with him, its been 3 years. i know that this is different just by that. the scariest part of it all is, i know that deep inside, hes happy with his girlfriend. im the type who will try as hard as i can to get what i want, and for some reason, im not this time, because all i want is for him to be happy. i dont want to tell him anything, i've ruined enough relationships by doing that.
i most likely have a date comming up with this really nice guy who i met through my sister. hes great, and really cute. and his dad is one of the most famous people in the world. but i cant stop thinking of him. i just cant.
someone please help me through this. i've pretty much hit rock bottom. (link)
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So basically you're saying that you fell in love with an attached guy, and now you feel really weird trying to move on.
That sucks. You know there are probably a million quotes that talk about how people will love and not tell the truth about it. So yeah, you could ruin the relationship by telling him, but if you don't tell him, then you will keep going on with life wondering if you might still have a chance with him, and that is stressful and holds you back. You need to tell him this because otherwise you wont ever be able to go out with this guy, and know matter how great he is, you wont enjoy that, and that isn't very fair to the guy either.
It is really kind of you to think of his feelings first, but in this case I think you need to tell him how you feel.
You can tell him one day, that you don't expect him to say he'll leave his gf, or that he'll even consider dating you, but that you need to tell him so that you can get over him, and then work to get over him. Go out with the other guy, and try and have a good time, but if you can't bring yourself to have fun with the new guy, then tell him that you need alittle bit of time.
You need to have the time to grieve and stuff, but you also need to get over this boy, and that will happen quicker if you make a good attempt.
I know you feel like you've hit rock bottem, and I'm sure that it feels liek you will never be able to climb out and move on wit life, but you will. It will just take sometime. And if you ever need anymore help, just ask! I hope I helped you to realize the best way to move on, and I wish you good luck!
Lots of love,
Angie91
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okay, i have a friend, well i dont know if shes really a friend anymore now, named amanda. well me and amanda have been bestfriends since 1st grade [at least] and amanda and me have ALWAYS done things together. then 3 weeks ago, she spreads a rumor that the people at our lunch table talk behind her back and are mean to her. and she told all the 'preps' that. and now they come up to me and my friend randi and are like "why are you mean to amanda" and we arent!? so well i guess we kinda get mad at eachother. and latley shes been ditching me for this other girl mary grace. now every time she looks at me, she rolls her eyes, and wants US to appologize, at first i was like NO WAY we didnt do anything?! then i saw she was online like 5 minutes ago and so i IMed her i said "okay well we've been friends too long to loose eachother over this, im truly sorry for whatever i did" no reply "amanda please hear me out.." no reply. so i give up. what should i do now? write her a note and give it to her? should i not appologize and wait for her to appologize? oh and another thing is today during drama we had a performance and they said "dont waste your time fighting, just be friends" and at that EXACT moment we both looked at eachother. and always during class she looks over at me, and i look at her, so she quickly looks away, does that mean anything? or what? just give me some guidelines, because im really confused and dont want to loose my bestfriend. (link)
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Thats a tough one. You have to realize that the best of friends get in fights once in a while. The world would be pretty boreing if everyone agreed about everything. However, this situation is quite different. She spread a rumor about you which is really mean. I'm not going to say that wasn't wrong, but sometimes, when people want attention they say things that make other people look bad. Which leads me to believe that she did that to make the "prep" people like her. She is willing to give up your friendship to be popular.
What you need to consider is what your friendship means to you. If you want to stay her friend the rest of your life, then you need to apologize, you may have no idea what you did, but there could have been something that is driving her crazy, so as the good friend, you need to talk to her. Figure out what you did and apologize whether it was a big deal, or you thought it was the right thing to do, or whatever. Do whatever you can to make this friendship overcome this obstical. Try for as long as you can (like three or four days) apologize as often as you can. Eventually (if she is really mad at you for something) she will give in and make amens. However if she doesnt give in, there may be two reasons, 1. she is doing all of this for attention/ popularity 2. she needs sometime to cool down.
In either situation, I would leave it alone for awhile. If it's #1 you don't need her to be happy, and if it's #2 then thats life, and she needs her space, if she wants to maintain the situation, its up to her, you did all you can.
I have been through this stuff alot, and sometimes, life goes on exactly how it was before, and sometimes you have to adjust, but eventually you will end up with some really great friends, who you can really trust.
Good luck to you, and I hope your life goes back to normal soon. Lots of love,
Angie91
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So, I'm 16/f and I dated this boy for 5 months. I honest to god think I loved him. He didn't like that I really wanted to take things kind of slow and he wanted alot of physical interaction. The thing was, he didn't talk to me in person. He blamed it on being nervous or not knowing what to say. I tried really hard to get him to talk to me, but I always felt like I was talking to myself. He's a cute guy, but doesnt always take things as seriously as he should and I used to get mad at him for goofing off too much. Anyways, This new girl moved here and I noticed my boy flirting with her for about 3 weeks, but during those three weeks, me and him were closer than ever. This girl was my really good friend because we're alot alike (we have the same additude, think very much alike, and act alike). Anyways, she knew how I felt about my boyfriend and stuff. Well, My boyfriend broke up with me and two days later he was ALL OVER HER. I got really upset and no one really understood why I was mad at her because "she cant help who she likes". Well now they're dating and sometimes I think I'm still in love with him, but sometimes I dont.
Would it be wrong of me to be mad at her for a while? Should I be more mad at him? What do I do if I love him? Seriously, I need real good advice. (link)
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Hey,
Well, there are many possible reasons for why he dumped you for her. Like you said, he really wanted to be physical, and you didnt really, so he decided to move on, he was a jerk about it, no doubt, but some people, would have to say that he did the right thing. You know? Like he would rather be happy, and date someone else, than stay in a relationship he wasnt excited about (not that is your fault at all, you didn't do anything wrong, but it isnt really right to blame him for leaving you, but I don't think that was why you were upset.). However, the fact that he moved on so fast is quite rude.
As far as whether or not you should be mad at her, you can't control your emotions like that, as much as you wish you could, its not possible. If you're upset with someone you're upset with them. If you want to know whether or not you have cause to be upset, thats a hard question, its not her fault that he flirted with her, or that he asked her out, but if she was a true friend(or if he was a sensitive ex) she wouldnt have said yes (and he wouldnt have asked her) but some people don't live up to expectation.
So basically, to answer your questions, its not wrong to be mad at someone, so yeah, be upset with her, she isn't being a very nice friend.
Should you be more mad at him? You can't force yourself to be angry with someone, either you are mad or you arent, or you're somewhere in between, and only time will change that.
What do you do if you love him? well what is there to do? You can love someone with out them knowing, it just sucks. If I were you, I would try and move on, which will be hard, but he has moved on, so it is probably best that you do as well. If you need some tips on moving on, just ask. I'd be happy to help you with that but this answer is getting quite long. I hope that I gave you some helpful advice, and if you have anymore questions I'm here to help! Lots of Love!
Angie91
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I have a project due tomorrow and we have to display our essays really creatively. Is there any project I can do other than just a poster or triboard? cuz everyones doing a poster. thanks
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There are lots of things that you can do. You could make something like a diarama (basically a cardboard box filled with items that mean something) or you could do a paster, but make it alittle different. By adding things like pop outs, and things that cover up information (like those books you use to read when you were alittle kid, where you would open up a flap and see "spot" a dog or something) or you could add things like 3-d pictures, and add actual things that stick out, like those little miniature dolls because your essay is on citizenship, or something like that.
Or if you had more time, you could have created a game or something and got the class involved, but that would be quite hard to do in a couple of hours.
There are lots of ways to either make a creative project, or jazz up your poster, depending on what your project is. You are the one writting it, so I don't know all of the facts about it, I would help you more if I could have. I hope I gave you a few ideas though. Good luck!
Love,
Angie91
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I am 16/f a sophomore. Both the guys i am gonna talk about are 18/m seniors.
I had been "talking" to the one guy for a good two weeks, long night phone calls, a date, exchanging flirtacious banter, ect. He would even skip his class to come down and eat lunch with me. Then all of a sudden he stopped calling, and he kinda drew away. I waited for about 3 weeks, then i started talking to another guy.
This guy asked me to hang out last night, and it took almost the whole day to decide on a time. My parents had to drop me off and pick me up because he didnt want to drive. When i got to his house, we went to the basement to watch a movie. He layed all over me, and kissed me. But he kept kissin me and put his tongue in my mouth and i was very uncomfortable. but he really is nice and we have fun together. but he is also very flirtacious with everybody and never made anything official.
Well, today the 1st guy called me and asked me to go to the movies. I said yes because me and the other guy arent official and i feel like he is using me for physical stuff. I really liked the 1st guy but i didnt want to wait around my whole life, and now that we are going on a date again...i feel guilty becuase guy #2 made out with me.
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First of all, the second guy may be usuing you, but you don't know. Because he is an older guy, it is quite possible.
You shouldn't feel guilty for because guy #2 made out with you, because guy #1 doesn't own you, he never asked you to become exclusive, and he stopped calling you.
You should only go out with (either guy) him if you feel comfortable. If you think that guy #2 is just using you and you don't feel comfortable, you shouldnt go out with him. However, if you don't think that that is reason enough to break it off with him, then don't. If you see some potential in him, then don't jump the gun, because guy #1 may not come through, and end up disappearing again for awhile.
So basically what I am trying to say is, if you don't think that Guy#2 is using you, and you can't find a ligitamate reason to dump him, then go out with both guys, at least until you get to know them better. You never know, there may be a side of both of them that you havent seen. But you need to do what you feel is right. And if you decide to continue dating both guys, then you should tell them that they arent the only ones you are seeing.
This is a tough decision, but you just have to do what you think is right, and eventually your heart wil tell you the right decision.
I probably confused you even more than you were before, but that happens sometimes, and if you take some time to think about it, then you can hopefully make the right decision.
Hope I helped, lots of love,
Angie91
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im new on this website and i want more people 2 answer me and ask questions wat should i do? (link)
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I am also fairly new on this website. The first thing that I would do is answer questions. The more questions you answer the more people we start to recongize your name. And as the begin to recongize your name they will begin to ask you questions.
Just remember to be honest and give the advice that you would want to hear, and that they may not think of. And even if you arent 100% sure that you know the right answer, it doesnt matter, because you are trying to be kind and help them through something similar to what you've gone through before.
If you are honest, and you give a good opinion to the other people on the site, then I'm sure you will get the response you are looking for.
I'm really flattered that you came to me with your question, and if you have another question feel free to ask!
Good luck with your column!
Love, Angie91
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Last summer, I broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months. I thought it was the right thing to do, and during the summer, we stopped talking to each other because we both went off to camp and vacation. When we went back to school we sort of stopped talking. I don't want to get back together with him, I just want to be friends. We haven't really talked in a while and I feel like we've both changed, but not enough to make us opposites.
What should I do or say? I don't want to make it seem like I want to get back together with him, but I don't want to say the wrong thing that will make him dislike me. (link)
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You should call him and tell him how you feel. exactly how you feel, becasue that way he will know that you dont want to get back together but that you want to still be friends. You can talk to him, if you were able to talk when you were dating, I'm sure it wont be that hard to tellhim this now.
If you really think thats a bad idea, then maybe you should just try talking to him whenever you see him. Like go out of your way to say hi. But don't act like you are nervous because he will think that you like him again.
The reason he isnt making his way over to talk to you, is he may be afraid that if he spends too much time with you, he may fall for you again.
Well good luck, I hope you two can still be friends.
Love,
Angie91
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Ok so let's get to the point. I leave home at 7:30am and then i go to the grocery or a canteen and buy breakfast. Then at lunch time I buy something in the school cafe...but that menu consists of 3 sandwiches and 2 non- sandwiches. It's pretty boring. I have time to make something if i want to...and i can make it in the night but what do i make?
When my mum pacs food for me I end up not eating it and sometimes 'forget' to carry it. It's gettin quite lame right now because I am a growing child and the food is needed to absorb the information being taught for test! (link)
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You should pack your own lunches, because you know what you liek to eat better than other people(such as your mom) and you should eat breakfast at home. Each of your meals should hav all four food groups, or at least three. The food groups (if you don't know) are fruits and veggies, meats, carbohydrats (breads) and dairy (cheese).
An example of a good breakfast is: Cereal (with milk) toast, juice, fruit and possibly a meat product (I know what youre thinking, how do I do that?) If you try and find all those things you will notice, you wont be as hungry, you wont be as tired, you will feel better and get sick less often. An example Lunch is A sandwich with some kind of deli meat (balogna, tuna, chicken, roast beef etc) carrots or another vegetable, crackers, a juice box, and a fruit such as an apple. It seems like alot of work, but you wil definatly notice a difference. I hope I helped you think of what you need to find to fufill that rumbling in your stomach.
Love,
Angie91
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i pause when i talk. i dont know how to get the words out of my mouth. i say like and ugh way too much.i feel akward in conversations with people who im not as close with. how do i speak more fluently and about things that are more interesting?!??!? (link)
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Theres this game I play in my acting class, where you have to tell someone a story, and just make it up on the spot without saying ahh uhmm or like. It's really hard, but if you practice infront of a mirror, it will get easier.
As far as finding moreinteresting things to say, you should read the newspaper, magasines and watch the news more often, then when something similar comes up in conversations, you can bring that up. Don't worry about being interesting too much though, because it depends who you are talking too.
Awkward conversations pop up a lot, so if you know that you are going to talk to someone, who you don't know too well, then you should think of ten conversation pieces that might go over well.
Those a just a few things that you can do, also, if its a confidence problem, taking drama or other acting classes, may help you to open up. I know it helped me. Well good luck, hope i helped.
Love,
Angie91
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