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Two Boys, Two Dates, One weekend
I am 16/f a sophomore. Both the guys i am gonna talk about are 18/m seniors.
I had been "talking" to the one guy for a good two weeks, long night phone calls, a date, exchanging flirtacious banter, ect. He would even skip his class to come down and eat lunch with me. Then all of a sudden he stopped calling, and he kinda drew away. I waited for about 3 weeks, then i started talking to another guy.
This guy asked me to hang out last night, and it took almost the whole day to decide on a time. My parents had to drop me off and pick me up because he didnt want to drive. When i got to his house, we went to the basement to watch a movie. He layed all over me, and kissed me. But he kept kissin me and put his tongue in my mouth and i was very uncomfortable. but he really is nice and we have fun together. but he is also very flirtacious with everybody and never made anything official.
Well, today the 1st guy called me and asked me to go to the movies. I said yes because me and the other guy arent official and i feel like he is using me for physical stuff. I really liked the 1st guy but i didnt want to wait around my whole life, and now that we are going on a date again...i feel guilty becuase guy #2 made out with me.
any thoughts>?
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You can regret letting the second guy take advantage of you and making you uncomfortable, but you don't owe the first guy anything and you have nothing to feel guilty about. Three weeks is not "your whole life" so slow down. Talk to this guy about the three week thing, and ask him if he would like to keep dating and talk about whether or not he wants it to be exclusive or an open relationship.
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First of all, the second guy may be usuing you, but you don't know. Because he is an older guy, it is quite possible.
You shouldn't feel guilty for because guy #2 made out with you, because guy #1 doesn't own you, he never asked you to become exclusive, and he stopped calling you.
You should only go out with (either guy) him if you feel comfortable. If you think that guy #2 is just using you and you don't feel comfortable, you shouldnt go out with him. However, if you don't think that that is reason enough to break it off with him, then don't. If you see some potential in him, then don't jump the gun, because guy #1 may not come through, and end up disappearing again for awhile.
So basically what I am trying to say is, if you don't think that Guy#2 is using you, and you can't find a ligitamate reason to dump him, then go out with both guys, at least until you get to know them better. You never know, there may be a side of both of them that you havent seen. But you need to do what you feel is right. And if you decide to continue dating both guys, then you should tell them that they arent the only ones you are seeing.
This is a tough decision, but you just have to do what you think is right, and eventually your heart wil tell you the right decision.
I probably confused you even more than you were before, but that happens sometimes, and if you take some time to think about it, then you can hopefully make the right decision.
Hope I helped, lots of love,
Angie91
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what i would do is talk to guy #1 and ask him why he took a "break" from you and see how it goes from there with him... but with guy #2 if you feel uncomfortable with him then maybe you two should just be friends. if you feel uncomfortable in a relationship to begin with things will only get worst. [trust me]
hope this helps..
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