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friend forgiveness and troubles.
okay, i have a friend, well i dont know if shes really a friend anymore now, named amanda. well me and amanda have been bestfriends since 1st grade [at least] and amanda and me have ALWAYS done things together. then 3 weeks ago, she spreads a rumor that the people at our lunch table talk behind her back and are mean to her. and she told all the 'preps' that. and now they come up to me and my friend randi and are like "why are you mean to amanda" and we arent!? so well i guess we kinda get mad at eachother. and latley shes been ditching me for this other girl mary grace. now every time she looks at me, she rolls her eyes, and wants US to appologize, at first i was like NO WAY we didnt do anything?! then i saw she was online like 5 minutes ago and so i IMed her i said "okay well we've been friends too long to loose eachother over this, im truly sorry for whatever i did" no reply "amanda please hear me out.." no reply. so i give up. what should i do now? write her a note and give it to her? should i not appologize and wait for her to appologize? oh and another thing is today during drama we had a performance and they said "dont waste your time fighting, just be friends" and at that EXACT moment we both looked at eachother. and always during class she looks over at me, and i look at her, so she quickly looks away, does that mean anything? or what? just give me some guidelines, because im really confused and dont want to loose my bestfriend.
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Aw, another stubborn person in the world.
Hm, that's not good.
I'm sorry to say, but it seems like Amanda's made up her mind and no matter what you say, I think she's going to believe the crap that was started.
She's looking at you because she's thinking about you. What about? No idea. Maybe why you guys were friends, what happened between you two, etc.
If your friend doesn't believe you, then why the hell would you need a friend like that?
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Thats a tough one. You have to realize that the best of friends get in fights once in a while. The world would be pretty boreing if everyone agreed about everything. However, this situation is quite different. She spread a rumor about you which is really mean. I'm not going to say that wasn't wrong, but sometimes, when people want attention they say things that make other people look bad. Which leads me to believe that she did that to make the "prep" people like her. She is willing to give up your friendship to be popular.
What you need to consider is what your friendship means to you. If you want to stay her friend the rest of your life, then you need to apologize, you may have no idea what you did, but there could have been something that is driving her crazy, so as the good friend, you need to talk to her. Figure out what you did and apologize whether it was a big deal, or you thought it was the right thing to do, or whatever. Do whatever you can to make this friendship overcome this obstical. Try for as long as you can (like three or four days) apologize as often as you can. Eventually (if she is really mad at you for something) she will give in and make amens. However if she doesnt give in, there may be two reasons, 1. she is doing all of this for attention/ popularity 2. she needs sometime to cool down.
In either situation, I would leave it alone for awhile. If it's #1 you don't need her to be happy, and if it's #2 then thats life, and she needs her space, if she wants to maintain the situation, its up to her, you did all you can.
I have been through this stuff alot, and sometimes, life goes on exactly how it was before, and sometimes you have to adjust, but eventually you will end up with some really great friends, who you can really trust.
Good luck to you, and I hope your life goes back to normal soon. Lots of love,
Angie91
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Try to appologize and maybe she will accept it and then later on you could see what that was all about. Maybe she took something the wrong way and you didn't know what it was about.
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