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rock bottom
about 3 years ago i met someone. we were just kids then, but somehow i knew that i felt different about him. we had a sports class together that summer, and whenever he started to walk away, i would (gently) throw a ball at his back just so i could see him smile. we lost touch, but somehow i never stopped thinking of him. last summer we worked together at the camp where we first met, and now i've been talking to him through facebook and myspace. hes been having trouble with his girlfriend, and ive been having some problems that were really hurting me. we helped eachother through it. hes really happy with his relationship, except hes been telling me for months that theyre on the verge of splitting. he obviously sees me as the "younger sister" type, as in he tries to look out for me all the time. in the past, whenever i really liked someone, i would end up telling them within a couple of weeks, but with him, its been 3 years. i know that this is different just by that. the scariest part of it all is, i know that deep inside, hes happy with his girlfriend. im the type who will try as hard as i can to get what i want, and for some reason, im not this time, because all i want is for him to be happy. i dont want to tell him anything, i've ruined enough relationships by doing that.
i most likely have a date comming up with this really nice guy who i met through my sister. hes great, and really cute. and his dad is one of the most famous people in the world. but i cant stop thinking of him. i just cant.
someone please help me through this. i've pretty much hit rock bottom.
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So basically you're saying that you fell in love with an attached guy, and now you feel really weird trying to move on.
That sucks. You know there are probably a million quotes that talk about how people will love and not tell the truth about it. So yeah, you could ruin the relationship by telling him, but if you don't tell him, then you will keep going on with life wondering if you might still have a chance with him, and that is stressful and holds you back. You need to tell him this because otherwise you wont ever be able to go out with this guy, and know matter how great he is, you wont enjoy that, and that isn't very fair to the guy either.
It is really kind of you to think of his feelings first, but in this case I think you need to tell him how you feel.
You can tell him one day, that you don't expect him to say he'll leave his gf, or that he'll even consider dating you, but that you need to tell him so that you can get over him, and then work to get over him. Go out with the other guy, and try and have a good time, but if you can't bring yourself to have fun with the new guy, then tell him that you need alittle bit of time.
You need to have the time to grieve and stuff, but you also need to get over this boy, and that will happen quicker if you make a good attempt.
I know you feel like you've hit rock bottem, and I'm sure that it feels liek you will never be able to climb out and move on wit life, but you will. It will just take sometime. And if you ever need anymore help, just ask! I hope I helped you to realize the best way to move on, and I wish you good luck!
Lots of love,
Angie91
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