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ok well my friend said that i should wear a bra when i go to bed to prevent me from getting saggy boobs when im older is that the right thing to do?
No to be honest, i purposely don't wear one in order for room to grow. If you have a bra on 24/7 your pretty much contained and really have no space to get bigger. And as far as saggy, it shouldn't matter, when your young it's usually not a problem and if you're wearing a bra then it's no big.
Ok, so there's this girl who I REALLY love (real love, not "is she hot"), and she knows I like her, and I want to ask her out in a special way... not just "Hey, will you go out with me?" No. No way. I want something special like they did in Bye Bye Birdie (except her name has no rhymes or puns, and I'm the worst songwriter in existence). If it helps, it's my first time asking someone out, I can't do it in person because all the classes we have together, we're on opposite sides of the room, and I'm an insanely shy person. Are there any cute & special ways to do it on the interweb? That looks like my best bet right now... please, I really need help!!!!
If your really into her, doing it online might be too impersonal. Maybe you could send flowers to her house with a card on it. A song might be too overwhelming, and too much. Get a really good song and tell her you want to dedicate it to her and lay it on big time. Or right her a really nice letter expressing your gut feelings, and you can list all the things you feel about her, or like about her. Or invite her over your house and show her a good time! Simple might be better I know I would be really overwhelmed if someone wrote a song for me in order to ask me out. You might want to wait until your going out to do that. Oh and by the way, actions speak louder than words! No need for fancy ways to ask her out, when you could very potentially show her how much she means to you by treating her royally!
ok i was going out with this kid who lives 3 houses away from me we were going out for 2 days then i deiced to break up with him because i didnt want to go a long time then break up and not talk anymore because we use to be best friends...do you think what i did was right
Only if you didn't like him more than friends. Otherwise, it was more important in that case to go with your heart's leadings!
whats your favorite song??
this question is so we can all learn new and different songs just for the fun of it.
Umm, what a broad question. here are some songs I particularly like
Don't Sleep- My American Heart (awesome emo/punk band check them out on myspace)
When I think about leaving- Kenny Chesney
Brass Bed- Josh Gracin
Fly Away- Sugarland
She's Every Woman- Garth Brooks
Sugar We're going down- Fallout Boy
Okay, when I like a guy, I'm shy to tell them on the phone and online. The only way I'm NOT shy if I tel lthem straight out in person. Is this weird? And do guys like when you do it this way??
Not wierd at all. It's actually cool. I think most people, depending who it were, would prefer this because it's so much more honest. I could see definetly how it might be more awkward online or the phone, because you feel like they know but you didn't tell them really, even though you did. Maybe I'm a bit confusing but I know what you're trying to get at.
I'm in honors classes at my school. I'm currently a sophomore and I've been with the same girls freshman year and I can't seem to make any friends. I don't go out on friday nights and I have dance coming up in february that I have to ask a guy to. I don't know anyone help!
Just be super friendly to everyone! I mean everyone. Even people that wierd you out. People know people, and if your nice in general people will see that in you. Be really friendly, talkative, and open good conversations. Do the same with guys. Just be the real you, and enjoy a guy's qualities for their full worth, not just looks. Humor and all that good stuff count as well! Good luck!
my boyfriend and i have been dating for a month r two now, and when i first started going out with him, i didnt like him that much. but now i like him a lot of course, thats why im still with him. well we never do anything, only a little kiss here or there, i know with school and all its hard to hang out a lot but we usually chill every weekend but nothing. im not upset because i like him a lot, but what is wrong? what can i do to get a little more??
If you really want, maybe he's shy, and it's okay for you to make a first move. If he's the one liked you first, he's not going to mind it at all. Nothings wrong. You just seem to be taking it slow. Which is good. Don't rush. The build up for new things makes you grow fonder. Good Luck!
can someone help me? me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months. we still havent kissed yet. does anyone have any advice on where and when to kiss? (where as in romantic or fun place not specific.)
thanks! 13/f
Wow six monthes? That's something to be really proud of. Your boyfriend must really like you if he isn't all about getting what he can from you. There's no specific place it will happen, I'm sure he's thinking about it too. It'll happen in the right time, but in order to allow for that, just spend time together alone if you can. Watch a movie or something and just become really quiet and into the movie. It might spark things up. Good Luck, let me know.
alrighty so theres this kid at my church who i have started to like...A LOT..so he knows and hes a sweetheart online...like one day i didnt feel good and i had an away saying dont feel good leave one to make me feel better...well so he went like hey okay ill leave you one to make u feel better..heres a futural kiss and he said it didmt mwaan anything and he did the kiss thing..it was wicked sweeet...i was soo happy....but today i saw him at church and he just kept looking at him but i think he was talking about me cause he talked and laughed and htan like looked at ... i dont know someone help me outt...
ill rate high!!
hard to tell. I don't know you, and I don't know him. Some guys just like to cheer girls up. And they happen to have really good personalities. Maybe he's really into what he's going to church for. Learning about God and building his life around that. That's a good thing, so if he does go ahead and ask you out he's of good character. I think he has an interest enough to bother with you... but who knows his gut feelings. Keep going on as you are, and maybe one day you can ask if you can ask him a really random question. If he lets you, just say "Do you feel anything for me besides just being friends" ... if he says no it's not the worst. Just pick your timing right this way you don't have to go on forever not knowing.
Okay, I went out w/ a guy for a month. I really really like him! I mean he is just like me. We are skaters/punk/emo/or goth...whatever u wanna call it and we have so much in common and he seemed 2 reaaly like me. I mean...we made out a lot and he was the one who wanted to in the first place!but he's a grade higher than I am and we don't get to see eachother much. Well..sunday..he called me and said that we had a huge problem..then he said that when he thought bout it it was so easy but now that he was talking to me it was hard, Then, he said he would call me back in 10 min. When he called me back..his friend was tellin him what to say and he broke up w/me! I was so upset...I never cried that much (after we hung up that is! I ACTED COOL OVER THE PHONE!) and now..he's goin out w/a total slut! every time I see him..I wanna cry! what do I do?
Dear, dear. He doesn't seem like quite the gentleman. Find ways to distract yourself. Watch some cool action/comedy movies, and just get yourself twisted up in this way of life that can boost your self-confidence. NO romance movies. It makes things sucky. Go shopping, and just pamper yourself. Maybe a bubble bath, a good book. Ways to make yourself feel more like your living your life for you and not some guy who's going to break your heart. In the mean time, steer clear of anything more than a friendship with guys, and don't act like your having a hard time over your X and maybe he'll realize what he's missed. If not, you'll be ready to move on shortly.
okay, i am going to have a sweet sixteen at a hotel ballroom. what are some things you guys would love to see at a party? lets be creative here people...
(oh, and im not rich, so lets be creative but cheap)
Las Vegas theme... Fairytale theme (would be cute) ... Bohemian Theme.... Egyptian Theme..... Lots of bright colors.
ok so tomorrow im gettin my hair trimmed and im thinkin about gettin bangs that are to the sides not over my forehead, and i wanna cut the bottom or my hair so it like starts shorter at one end and gets longer as it goes to the other side. my hair right now is brown and goes to the middle of my back. do you think that would look good?
Sure, if your up for something new. If you have a trusted hair stylist, ask him/her their opinion. They would know, and they could give you some suggestions. That's what I would do.
heyy =] im trying to find a really cool belt - the ones that are in style now that like have those circle plate things - and i want to try to find it online, and not for a ton of money. does anyone have any idea where i can find one ? ive checked delias, urban outfitters, etc.. and please dont say ask or google =]
I'm pretty sure I know what you're talking about. I've seen them in charlotte russe and wet seal. The only problem is finding them online. You could do that, but remember buying them in person cuts out shipping costs. Here's the link with somewhat the kind of thing your looking for.
http://www.wetseal.com/shop/detail.asp?styleid=35300304&colorid=227&cat_id=13&sub_id=0
they had them really cheap in Charlotte Russe though. So check that out.
Ok, heres the story, Hi, I'm Rachel. My first ever true love (Tony) that ONCE in my life LIKED ME, went out with a girl, then they broke up, well they are now back together and are having some serious relationship problems. BUT, this other guy, Named Austin, he is like, IN LOVE WITH ME, and he's the sweetest thing, I kinda like him. Tony is soo funny and SO my type, we always laugh and have a blast, I still love him, AUSTIN, is the sweethaert who calles me beautiful, and not just hot, like Tony has. I honestly don't know what to do, I REALLY WANT TO GO OUT WITH TONY at least ONCE in my life.....And just get it over with! And I can't be with Austin yet, we are waiting til we go to the same school to go out, so, I don't know what to do, who to like, who to stop loving. ANy Advice for me please?
Thanks for your time reading, Love, Rachel
You can't stop loving anybody. All I can say to do is to just really think of the person you could see having a long lasting relationship. Think of Tony's relationship problems. Could you see yourself with those problems with him if you guys ever went out? Whatever you do, you can't force them to break up. It sounds like Austin has better qualities... and right now maybe you should focus on him a little more. He seems a bit more sensitive, but you can't force yourself to be with someone you don't love. When you can, go out with Austin. After all-- Tony didn't stop his relationship so that he could be with you. Your allowed to go out with other people as well. But if you feel too confused, take time away and just try and think of the most important thing to do without hurting your own heart. It's your life, and whether or not you have to adjust to break someone elses heart in order to make your heart be at ease, then it's what you have to do. It's not a good thing to date someone you don't love, it's unfair to them.
alright i'm 14 and i really like this guy (lets call him joe) and he's 16..i've been hanging out with him ALOT this summer with him, his friend (he's 16 too lets call him matt), and my friend (she's 14 lets call her mary) and we've been hanging out at mary's and matt gives us rides all over and me and joe always have our arms around eachother and i guess we flirt alot and matt and mary, and mary's younger sister always try to hook us up like "are you 2 going out yet" or "you 2 look so cute" (when he's got his arm around me of something) or something like that..and neither of us say anything..and like i'm always sitting on his lap and he's the funniest guy ever and stuff..and i don't know if he likes me..but mary says she thinks he does..but i don't know cause of the ages..i mean so what if we're 2 years apart..but he's like really hot and stuff so i don't know why he wouldn't like girls his age and stuff..lol but from this..would you think he likes me?
Sounds like he likes you. Two years is no big deal, at all. Sounds like a good situation and if he's that close with you that you're always sitting on his lap and flirting and stuff it's pretty much ok to tell him how you feel if you can catch him at a serious moment. Try it, from all the stuff he's doing he sounds interested. I have the feeling it'd go smooth. I think he could very possibly like you.
Okay well first of all this is my first post and all so i really dont know how to do this so i would really like it if you could help me out.
I really really like this guy at me church and all and he told me that he likes me and all and we kind of went out and things but like he is really really touchy-feely and everything and he makes me really nervous but i really like talking to him and would easily trust him with my life.
my other problem is that i have known this guy "cody" for like, ever and he has this really mean and bitchy girlfriend (but she is nice and sweet to him) and all of his friends hate her and tell him but he wont break up with her . although he could do sooo much better. and i also kinda like him.
whats a girl to do?
i will rate high if you give me good advice.
Cody sounds like he's in his own mess. Best bet? See what can be done with church boy, do what you will, stay friend's with Cody, but in the mean time let him figure his own life out. If he had any interest he'll say something if he knows you have a relationship or a becoming relationship with some other guy. You can't do anything about the girlfriend, because if she's really that evil the truth will come out eventually.
im going to the mall tomorrow to by new clothes and i was wonderin if there are any other stores like hot topic or stores that arent really "preppy"?
thanks in advance!
XXI, also known as Forever 21 has a wide variety of clothing... there may be preppy stuff there but there is sooo much there you're sure to find something you like. I come from a group of very diverse friends and I don't know anyone who isn't able to shop there. Charlotte Russe really isn't that preppy. PacSun is cool too. Other than that, I think Hot Topic might be your best bet.
Okay me and my boyfriends one year anniversary is coming up. See IDK what to get him. I have gotten him two watches you know X-mas and B-day and so far for our anniversary I got him a chair massager cause he dont leave his computer that he just built. It seems super corny considering it was $20 at walmart and each watch was atleast $60. He's getting me a promise ring I know for sure and hes already gotten me this bracelet and a christmas ring that's 10K gold. I feel like I'm being too cheap. So I dont know what to get him . And no I can't get him anything for his computer cause he's too picky. I'm 16 and I know that we will last a long time because he doesnt push me into doing things and hes soo sweet. so what should I buy him? I have a $150 limit.
Another thing he has this job but only gets paid $45 a week cause he works one day because of an overload of employees. But like every week we go to dinner and a movie and he spends atleast $30. I want to pay some times but I'm flat broke and my city is so small that teenagers are managers of over populated stores like burger king winn-dixe subway papa johns, sad thing is that thats half our stores. How can I get fast money cause I need the money by October 21!!
Well, as far as money goes, maybe you could offer your parents a whole day of cleaning and perhaps get some money? I know if I offer my mom to empty dishes, set tables, fold/clean laundry she is instantly willing to pay me money. Other than that, maybe doing some babysitting, if you know of anyone let them know you're interested in a job. You could walk dogs, mow lawns. I don't know if that's your kind of thing though. I would just say try applying for a job somewhere that has a sign in a window saying "Now Hiring" you can find one if you look around. And as far as a gift, I'm not sure of your boyfriend's style, but I'll try and help. If he wears or would wear preppy clothes, get him a nice Ralph Lauren polo. You could just get him a plain chain. Maybe cologne. You could get him a bunch of c.d.'s that have a lot of meaning for you two. Or, make a scrapbook with really good memories of the two of you. If he likes any sports teams, perhaps a jersey or a baseball hat. You could get him movies. It may sound lame... but it'll give you guys something to do when your at his house or yours. Get him a really nice denim jacket. You could get him a scarf if you live in an area that gets cold. And as bad as you feel about him always paying for dinner, the honest truth is that even if you had the money he may not have made you pay for all the expenses because most guys will try and be sweet and since it's just one of those unwritten rules that guys should pay, he probably wouldn't let you. If he would, it doesn't make him a bad person, but in the mean time tell him your trying to fork up enough money to start to pay. You could also apologize that you haven't yet been able to pay. Remember, all the gifts I mentioned can be combined in any way you like depending on their prices. By the way, I don't think the gifts you got him were corny. Try an online search too, just too jog your mind, if you want, let me know what you decide. You can IM me:
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what do girls like in a guy im 13 m and id like to know what girls like anfd stuff like what are their faveiot features not just on looks but like other things like persanality to
Everyone's different... some people will literally go out with a big jerk. But that's not by popular demand.... being yourself is one thing. Don't fake anything...be real. Don't be whiney or complainy... and hopefully she won't be either. Be funny, kind, don't insult other girls especially their friends, dress nicely, be understanding, listen to what she has to say, be fun.
What do consider love? Just pour your heart out and ill try to respond
Love is patient, kind, understanding, it does not boast e.t.c. I honestly don't think many teenagers could fall "in love". But hey it could happen. My mom met my dad when she was 16 and they're still happily married so I guess... idk just depends on your circumstance. Im pretty sure you'll know if you are in love!!