Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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I want to kiss or makout with my boyfrined but j have a cold sore what can I do please help (link)
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Coldsores are contagious, so you need to get rid of it before kissing your boyfriend or you could spread it to him.
Go to your drug store and pick up some cream for it. Abreva works the best in my opinion. It's under 20$ but it's still pretty expensive for a little tube.
You can conceal it with make up in the mean time (use green concealer over it to tone down the red, blend really well, and then place your normal colored concealer over it along with some foundation if need be. Set it with a powder.)
If you use the medication it should go away in around a week. If two weeks pass you should visit a doctor. Remember, don't pick at it! It could scar.
Good luck,
-Abby
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What size curling iron would I need to get waves like these? (Ex. 1 inch, 1.5 inch, etc)
http://i258.photobucket.com/albums/hh262/creynolds_album/analeigh1.jpg
Keep in mind that I have long but thin hair.
Thanks! :)
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It does look like that's her natural hair there, so it could be hard to re-create. First I would try showering and putting a mousse or scrunching type product in your hair, and scrunching it to the desired amount of wave you want.
If that doesn't work get the biggest barrel size you can find on a curling iron and wrap your hair around it and hold. Since she has waves you might need to shake out your hair and loosen up the curls you get. You could also use a curling iron and wrap it around not using the clamp to give a wavey look.
There are also waver irons that are for waves specifically.
http://www.google.com/products?hl=en&q=waver&um=1&ie=UTF-8&ei=fByUS_qwFsqttgesi93UCg&sa=X&oi=product_result_group&ct=title&resnum=3&ved=0CB8QrQQwAg
You might need to play around with different products and techniques to get it just right.
Good luck,
-Abby
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i have been working at my job for about a year and a half and it used to be fun, but over the past couple of months it's just started to become more and more negative in my life. i have enough stress with school and other things, i don't want to dread going to work. i thought by maybe taking another position within my work might change my views on everything, but i've barely been training back there and it already seems like it's going to be horrible. i went to the mall the other day and noticed alot of places are hiring. i grabbed a couple applications and are going to be turning them in within the next couple of days.
i mean, i know how to quit my job, i am just going to write a brief note apologizing, but thanking them for everything but i can no longer work there and such. but it's the new position that i'm bothered by (i'm still working on my old position until i'm ready to take on the new one, i've hardly trained back there ). i'm not sure if just for now, until i actually get a new job, should just explain to them that i am not comfortable working back in the new place and would just like to remain in my old one ( for now ). i just feel bad because they need people in that work area and so i offered and i feel like i'm just like,"ok i'll do it, oh you know what on second thought, nevermind!" but i feel like it'd be better to stop NOW while i'm not technically depended on back there cause i'm still training so they can continue looking for other people cause i think they're hiring others as well. i just don't like disappointing people and i feel like i'll make them angry and i'm just not sure how to go about it.
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If you dislike your job, then a change may be good for you.
Secure a new job before quitting your current one. Then it is customary to give a resignation letter and two weeks notice. You can ask your new employer if you can have those two weeks or you might have to double up hours. You could give your old boss a list of people who would be interested in taking your job, but in this economy, finding willing applicants shouldnt be hard.
I know you may feel bad about it but business is business and your boss should understand.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Hi, I'm an 18 yr old female, just had a question, What if you found out the guy/girl you like, has been constantly viewing your profile on facebook with profile checker, they were in your top 10, what would you think of this? (link)
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I guess I would think that they liked me or were interested in me in some way.
Maybe you could coyly ask him about it or say something like "if you like looking at my profile so much, maybe you should see me in person?
Good luck,
-Abby
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22F- I have a great boyfriend who I love dearly but I met this great older man (51) last summer and we had a fantastic time. He's wealthy and enjoys traveling and doing things that I want to try. I have been avoiding him but I'm being drawn back to his lifestyle since summer is coming up. He has a boat, helicopter, huge house, motorcycles... and he will pay for most of the expenses on whatever we do. I went on a trip with him and some of his friends last fall and had a fantastic time but I had to lie to my dad about it. My mom knew who I was with from the get-go but I didn't tell my dad the whole story until I got back. I know my parents won't be very keen on me traveling with the 51m and I don't know how to tell them that I want to try new things and travel and I don't want to pass a great opportunity. But my bf and I have been together 5 months and we are in a great place. He just graduated college and I'll graduate in May. He lives and works about 2 hours from my hometown (where I want to live after I grad) and I don't think he wants to move. I've told him I want to live back in my hometown and he just doesn't jump on board with it. He has a great family and he's the last of 4 to get married. I get along with everyone in his family very well, also. We have discussed marriage (which is what I want ultimately out of life) and children (I want 1-2 and he wants 3-4) but he doesn't have the funds to propose to me or anything, which I'm not sure if I would say yes if he proposed. I guess I need advice on what to do. Should I break it off and have fun and be young with the spontaneous older man or should I suck it up and sacrifice this opportunity to stay with my boyfriend and strengthen our relationship? What should I do about my parents?
a little more:
I usually date older men
I have a tendency to cheat on my bf's when I see them going sour
I feel like I am sacrificing my youth to be serious (link)
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What you really need to choose is not the lifestyle you wish to marry into, but the person. Do you love either of them enough to imagine spending the rest of your life with them?
Who makes you feel special when you are with them? What feels right?
Marrying for money won't guarantee happiness.
As for having children, you could still have kids with the older man, if thats what he wants as well.
Don't make this choice as if these are the only two men you have a chance to start a life with. If you feel yourself bargaining, maybe neither is right for you.
This is something you need to think about and you shouldn't rush to make a decision. Maybe wait til you graduate college? Being able to be independent financially can make the decision easier.
It may be hard to talk to your parents about this, but you could probably benefit from their advice.
Take time to really understand what makes you happy in life, not just a path that looks good to you.
Good luck,
-Abby
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A year ago I felt beautiful. It was the first time in my entire life that I actually felt beautiful. I had a boyfriend that thought I was the most beautiful girl in the universe. Since we've broken up, things have changed.
About a month ago I looked at my legs, a part of me which I had grown to adore, and saw these hideous limbs staring back at me. It was like overnight they had become fat and ghastly.
That's not even the worst part though.
Two weeks ago I swore I had started to lose weight. I knew I had been eating like half of what I would normally eat a day (I've just finished school and work starts later in the evening so I don't feel hungry till later and sometimes I'll only end up eating like two meals). I put on a skirt I had bought earlier in the month and it was a bit looser around me.
Anyway, over the weekend I went to a bar/club for the first time since I had just turned 18. I went with two girlfriends of mine. When I walked in my hair had been trashed by the rain but I still felt confident and happy. About two hours into the night after my friends had been picked up a few times and I hadn't even been looked at by a guy I still felt good because they were having a good time and I still love my ex boyfriend so I'm not looking for another guy at the moment.
Anyway, this guy who was sort of DJing came over to us and started having a conversation with my two friends. He didn't even look up at me, not even to just be polite. He completely avoided me at all costs. I just stood there awkwardly for like 15 minutes sipping my drink while he chatted them up. It really crushed me. When I go out I don't expect guys to look at me or pick me up, but I have never felt so insulted by someone before. It was like he gave one look at me and because I'm not attractive he just couldn't bare to look at me again. I'm not even overreacting, he didn't even bother to ask my name or greet me in any way, he knew I was with them since he had been watching us talk all night and because I was standing right next to them.
It wasn't that he was picking them up and not me, it was that he found me so disgusting he wouldn't even acknowledge me. I haven't been in a great place since me and my boyfriend have broken up, I just feel ugly and unwanted all the time, and that was just the final blow that has broken me a part.
It sounds so petty and ridiculous but it was just so humiliating and awful. He gave me this look when he first came over and I smiled at him, it was just this "why are you even looking at me" glare before he quickly avoided my eye contact and refused to look at me again. He even followed my friends downstairs when we had found a seat and kept going with their conversation without acknowledging me. I've never met someone who has been so horrible like that, other guys that knew a few friends of mine were there and they were polite enough to even just smile and wave or say hello when they were interested in my friends just out of common courtesy.
Since that night, I can't find anything pretty let alone beautiful about me. I can't imagine anyone ever thinking I'm beautiful again, and it hurts to know that. I feel like in a few short days I've gained all that weight back even though I haven't been eating more, my skirt is even tighter than it was now. Could the change in the way I see myself have changed my physical appearance?
I'm not really sure what I'm asking for with advice, I want to know how my body could have changed so much but then I want to know how guys can be so horribly cruel to women who aren't pretty? I want to know why guys have to be so repelled by me when I'm nothing but nice to them and a happy person. This was mostly because I feel so terribly upset right now and wish I could talk to someone about it.
Thank you to anyone who listened. (link)
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I understand how you feel, trust me.
I consider myself "pretty" or "attractive" in my own way but it seems that whenever I hang out with my best friend, she gets all the attention from guys. They ask her out, they flirt with her, etc. It's hard but you have to realise that different guys like different girls and it may also have to do with the message you put out there. A guy wont hit on you if he doesn't think he has a chance, and my friend can be a little 'easy' if you know what I mean, so maybe that has something to do with it. When guys are talking to girls in a club scenario like you went through, most of the time they want sex, a one time hook up. Are you into that? Because the quality guys aren't. No guy will ever take you seriously if you hook up with him the first time you meet him.
And like I was saying, we all have different types. I'm sure you find a certain hair color, build, eye color, etc to be more appealing on a guy then another. Here's a funny fact of mine: I get asked out by a lot of black guys because I have a big butt.
You can't justify your self worth on the opinion of one guy, or any guy for that matter.
There is a saying that goes Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That's not true. Attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder. Beauty is something that comes completely within you. It's your heart, your smile, what you are passionate about. Every girl has the potential to be beautiful if she can push down her walls and show it. Beauty is what will get you a life long mate, not a skanky outfit with a hot bod to fill it.
Try writing things you like about yourself on a post it note and reading it aloud in front of the mirror. Then leave it on your mirror. Do that each day until you can't even see a reflection. Then you will realize it isn't your face that tells about who you are, but those things you wrote.
Boost your confidence. This may feel horrible now but you will rebound. Try some new make up looks to make you feel pretty, it always works for me. Go for a jog or dance to music until you work up a sweat. Exercise releases endorphins to make you happy and will help you tone your body.
It seems like men are the only one's who can validate us women, but they can only be apart of your ultimate happiness. One person can't be the key to what makes you feel pretty or happy. The only way to sustain it is to find it within yourself, otherwise its just lust, just a flimsy thing. I know you can find something that makes you feel amazing that has nothing to do with your appearance.
Good luck,
-Abby
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16/F living in Ontario, Canada
Alright well in school this week we learned about doner donations and how you sign it when you get your liciense, or something like that if you want to donate your organs when you die(I'm already aware of it). But what I learned is that many students in my class (including me) will be a doner but almost 100% of us didn't tell our parents. And we have to because of noone knows, then there's be a huge argument abut it when I die.
And I told my parents but they completely disagree and said no! And they're Buddists (I'm not) but we learn about other religions in school and that religion is totally okay with it so it's just them.
I just don't see why you would not when your body could potentially save 8 lives (unless your religion has something to do with it but I'm saying if it doesn't). It's not like my parents would want my dead body int he house or anything. And most likely, they'll be dead when I die anyways. I don't want to take it to court or anything so is there anything I can do?
We got into a big argument and my parents even wentfar enough to the point where they said they'd disown me! I know that many people my age might already have moved out. I'm an excellent student, on the honour roll, etc and I have many clubs/meetings to go to so I don't have the time for a job so to manage verything on my own would just be awful! (link)
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After you are 18 it's your choice if you are a donor, so you really don't have that much longer to wait. Odds are you wont die in the next 2 years. Then if you do die before your parents they won't have to know of your decision until after you die and your organs are donated. I don't know how the law works where you live but maybe you can put your wishes in writing and keep it in your wallet incase you die before you turn 18.
If you want to convince your parents maybe you could print out stories, testimonies, facts, etc for them to see.
But don't worry about this right now, you most likely won't have to deal with it any time soon.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Hey, you answered my question on Scoliosis before. I'm wondering if your cousin ever experienced any pain? I really don't ever have pain in my back except the usual stuff. I do get constant headaches but I'm 99% sure it's from stress. I'm assuming if I don't have that much pain in my back, that it's not too serious. I think if it were, my doctor would have mentioned something at the time. They never recommended X-rays or anything, just said it was a minor case. Any ideas if I'd need surgery like your cousin? (link)
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My cousin never mentioned severe pain and just has the usual back pain many people suffer from. As for your headaches, chiropractors say being misaligned can cause them but it's really hard to determine. Stress is probably the biggest factor.
My cousin was examined at school (every kid was examined) and they referred her to a doctor who took her x rays and they decided she would need surgery. If you feel uneasy, I suggest seeing a specialist and requesting x rays. Then you can physically see your curvature.
A good tip off is if your scoliosis is noticeable. My cousin's posture was leaned to a certain side and you could easily tell.
I'm not a doctor so the only way you can know for sure is to see one.
Good luck,
-Abby
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A few years ago (the last time i was checked) i was diagnosed with 'minor' scoliosis because there's a slight curve in my back. the doctor checked me by looking at my back and noticing that the right shoulder blade is lower than the left. it's only minor and it never hurts unless im walking for hours or am standing and bending standing and bending for an hour while doing laundry. other than that it never hurts and it's never strained. the doctor had told me that in the future it MAY cause problems like being in pain but he said it's my choice whether or not i want to have my back fixed. id like to live my life without a metal rod in my back. has anyone gone thru anything similar and can give me advice? i mean he really didn't stress the whole surgery thing and said that i probably WON'T need it unless it causes me pain, which makes it my choice. can this lead to severe issues in the future? idk what to think at this point. im overweight too, 19f 220 lbs. would losing weight help my back at all? i plan on losing at least 40 lbs by summer. (link)
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I have scoliosis (moderate) and my cousin has severe scoliosis.
It sounds like you and I found out around the same time. I was sixteen and they told me it wont get worse because I've stopped growing. Ask your doctor if they project your curvature to get worse and make sure they monitor it over the next few years.
For me they said I'll have the same amount of back pain as anyone else (but I already experience more then the usual teenager) but I don't need surgery.
My cousin had to have a metal rod placed in her back because the curve was progressive and it would risk crushing her lungs/organs as she got older.
You can try reducing pain before thinking about surgery. I went to the chiropractor for a while and it helps some, but I feel it made it worse. I think it was my paticular chiropractor. If you can find a well recomended one then go for it. I also tried physical therapy a little bit, and it did help.
Losing weight will help ease your pain as well. Extra weight for your spine to support isn't going to help it.
Basically, try all that you can before resorting to surgery, because it's a serious thing that can have complications.
Best of luck to you,
-Abby
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how to i achieve her grundge look?
without really breaking bank (link)
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Go to the thrift store, salvation army, or a consignment store. Her clothes seem to be vintage and worn, so those places are great for clothes like that. You could dig through old clothes your mom has or take clothes you have now and tear them, throw bleach on them, etc.
She seems to wear black lace tights a lot, so you could invest in a pair of those and use them in different looks.
Other pieces she seems to wear a lot is leather jackets, black combat boots, and ray ban wayfarer style sun glasses.
She also wears oversized tops, so maybe shopping in the mens department (t-shirts) would be helpful.
If you want to emulate her make up,she wears smokey dark eye shadows and smudges her eye liner.
Usually she doesn't go too far with accesories but she'll wear either a big statement type necklace or a dainty one like strand of pearls. She wears the cloth headbands tied up on the top of her head as well.
Good luck,
-Abby
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i love models hair when there not working- that greesy i just woke up look is so sexy for some reason. they balance greese and cleanliness so well, like its not oily enough to be considered dirty but its not clean eough to be considered clean.
http://www.x17online.com/images/photo-sets/conv/olsenshotel100809_X17/olsenshotel100809_02-full.jpg
http://fashionista.com/images/natalia%20vodianova%20for%20lutz%20and%20patmos.jpg
http://bittenandbound.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/01/mary-kate-olsen-546.jpg
http://www.stylehop.com/fashion-blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/mary-kate_olsen.jpg
http://marykateolsen.blogg.se/images/mary_kate_olsen_1151612609.jpg
u get it by now-
how do i get this look?
i have natural really straight and amazing hair, i dont need any prodcut - it dries straight.
how do i get this looookkkkkkkkkkkk
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I don't think they style it to be that way, I think they just leave their hair unwashed for a few days. You could try putting baby oil on your fingers and running them through your hair, concentrating on the roots.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I am 15 years old and i live in sa. okey im dating this boy. He is my age but im 2 months older than him. im not the only girl he asked out... im the only 1 tht said yes... or so ive heard. he ofcoarse denied it but said something about he has changed. we have been dating for a week now and he was my first kiss two days ago... the dancing was nice but the little bit i cared for him went away when he kissed me. i hate him coz he ruind my first kiss! so i dont care about him at all. he is way too childish and doesnt wana talk to me. ive been ignoring his messages for the last two days. i also talked to my ex yesterday and he thought i was cheating on him. he didnt even confront me he only sent an sms. i want to dump him but i dont know what to say or how to do it. all i know is i want out!! help me i need the words that wont hurt him as much??? thanx (link)
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Relationships at your age are hard when the people involved aren't quite mature yet, and it sounds like neither of you are ready for a relationship. I suggest going to him in person to break up with him. It shows that you are serious, mature, and care about his feelings.
Explain to him that you aren't ready to be with him or ready for a boyfriend right now. You could do the "it's not you it's me" thing if you don't want to hurt his feelings but it's best to be honest.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Hi!!! I have no butt. I want a beautiful butt but I need some help! What food goes straight to your butt when you eat them? Please help me get a rounder butt! (link)
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It doesn't work like that, your body doesn't store fat depending on what food it is. It really depends on your genes and body type where the most fat is stored. You can do squats and lunges to get a more toned butt.
-Abby
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15/f
I'm going to Italy for spring break with my art class next year and I was wondering about the a ge restrictions are for tattoos and such over there.
Do you have to have parent permission to get a tattoo if you're under 18? (I'll be 16 then) and where is a good place that you can hide it easily?
(I want a very small and simple Ankh. It's kind of like a cross. Look it up on google)
also, does it go the same way for nose piercing?
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I did a little bit of research and didn't get a clear answer about Italy, but I would assume you need to be 18. I wouldn't reccommend getting it at any place in Italy, you want a place you can trust and have researched before and preferably you are refered to.
You could get it on the inside of your foot, on your pelvic area or right above or below where a bikini bottom would cover, on your hip, behind your ear or on your lower back. You could consider a white ink tattoo, they are very subtle and not very noticeable.
The law is probably 18 with a piercing but you can usually bring someone older with you that doesn't have to be your parent or even related. So if you have someone over 21 on your trip you should be fine.
Remember, if the place looks dirty and their needles aren't sterilized in front of you or opened from new packages, don't get anything done. It isn't safe.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I'm planning on getting a new phone and I'm having trouble deciding between the Droid Eris and the Motorola Droid. Droid Eris has a pretty sweet price but I'm also tempted by the Motorola Droid's keyboard. But in terms of usage, which you think is better? I'm talking on the lines of its responseness, touch accuracy and stuff like that. (link)
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I have the Eris and I've played around with the Motorola with a little bit, and they are pretty similiar. They are both new phones though, and I find that mine sometimes has glitches. The touch screen on the motorola isnt as good or use-able as the one on the Eris, but the key board is a nice feature. I used to be super fast at texting and now its slow for me. I would wait until they come out with the Droid 2 like they did with the blackberry storm, because the first one was loaded with bugs but then it really improved in the second version.
Good luck,
-Abby
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19 female.
will doing exercise that emphasizes the butt area make them look smother eventually? for some reason i have some cellulite and my butt/legs are are not smooth at all and i'm actually quite skinny... i'm 5'6 and weigh 118 pounds and i've always been skinny. i dont know what i can do to make it look better, so i was thinking exercises but didn't know if it would work?? (link)
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Like the person below me said, some women have cellulite no matter what. It doesn't mean your fat, it can simply be genes (like I'm 5'3 and 130 pounds and don't have cellulite)
Try strength exercises for your legs and fat burning cardio, like running uphill. There are creams that do lessen the appearance of cellulite that do actually work that you could try (buy at drugstores, or if your willing to invest more money into it department stores or beauty stores)
Good luck,
-Abby
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I'm a Christian but I love translating my dreams. Do you think translating dreams would be against God's word or that he wouldn't like that?
Thanks :) (link)
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I am sure God wouldn't be angry with you for thinking about the meaning of your dreams. Didn't God come to people in their dreams, at least in the bible? Just don't take your dreams literally, because they are usually symbolic and sometimes completely random!
Good luck,
-Abby
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K so i want to know if what im doing is good enough to lose weight and if not then what i should do to lose weight so heres what i did this week and am planning on doing for the next couple of months
Banana & water before running up and down stairs as my exercise for 20mins and 5 mins of simple exercises
Breakfast: 2 egg omelet
2 slices whole wheat bread
green tea
2 bottles of water
Lunch: whole wheat cheerios
milk
grapes
1-2 bottles of water
Dinner: Weight control oatmeal
milk
carrots and dip
1-2 bottles of water
k so thats my plan and ive done that for a week and lost like 1-2 pounds in a week but i want to know if this is good enough to lose 40-50 pounds by june. Please make suggestions (link)
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Your eating okay but I reccomend getting more fruits and vegetables in there, and also making sure you get enough protein.
You need at least 30 minutes of cardio a day and some strength training. That means lifting weights, resistance exercises, etc.
If you increase your exercise routine then I suggest adding a little snack (100 cal or below) in there to give you energy like a granola bar.
Get some healthy recipes online so you don't get bored with your diet.
You are on the right track, so keep up the good work!
Good luck,
-Abby
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my friend said something the other day about her thighs not touching, and she seemed kind of annoyed by it, i guess? anyways, ever since she told me this, i can't help but notice that all of the girls i go to school with, all of my friends, my family members, etc, all of their thighs touch. in case you don't know what i mean, when you stand up and put your feet together, your thighs touch at some point below your crotch. mine don't. i'm pretty skinny, and that might have something to do with it, but i've seen people skinnier than me and their thighs touch. and i just can't help but feel that i must have chicken legs or something and i feel incredibly self concious. are there any exercises i could do to make my thighs more...muscle-y, i guess? just more shapely so i don't feel so weird when i put on jeans and look down and there's a huge space between my two legs.
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I wish my thighs didnt touch! I'm not heavy but they still rub together when I walk, and it gets uncomfortable.
It doesn't make any difference if your thighs touch or not, and no one is going to judge you on it. It could be because your thin or because of the way your legs connect to your pelvis, just the way your made.
You can do squats, lunges, use machines at the gym called thigh abductors, hip abductors, etc. or use a thigh master (google it haha it's a little thing you put between your thighs and squeeze) to try to gain more muscle, but it seems not neccesary. If you have bulky thighs and thin everything else, you may seem unproportionate. Try to love your body the way it is, I'm sure it's beautiful.
-Abby
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Why do vampires need to have their hair down?
(Like in teh baseball scene of the first movie they try to disguise bella by telling her to put her hair down)
THanks! (link)
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Bella was human then, and they told her to put her hair down to some how reduce her scent to the vampires so they wouldn't know she was human. In the book I think they told her to put it up into her cap, because as you saw in the movie when a gust of wind blew her hair it sent her scent to James.
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